I would bet a lot on the assumption that this blog post I'm writing will never get picked up by The Huffington or Washington Post. It probably won't even get shared very much. I may even lose some readers over this post. I don't think that's warranted at all, but the thing is I have something to say that goes against modern feminism- a big bully that nearly everybody seems afraid to stand up to- and with the way things go in this feminist culture I need to expect all those things to happen.
Maybe you guessed my stance on the subject of feminism because my blog name has the word housewife in it. Maybe you clicked on this post because you yourself are a feminist and you like being infuriated, or are in the mood for a fight. I know what to expect from this post, and I'm ready to let a lot of hurtful words slide off my back. One thing I know for a fact is that I need to say what I'm about to say. My hope is that each word will be read, not skimmed, and that no one will assume anything further without hearing me out.
The other day I was watching my kids play at a big park that was full of other children. As I sat on the bench enjoying my tea, I noticed an adorable little girl running toward me. As she took a sharp left and chased after a friend, I read the bright pink words on her shirt.
"Anything boys can do girls can do better."
The words seemed to leap off her shirt and they stuck to my mind all day. I wondered if her mother explained the phrase to her as she got her dressed that morning. I wondered if it was just a shirt that didn't have any thought put into its purchase. I wondered how that little girl was being raised, and then I felt annoyed with myself for overthinking a tee shirt.
You know why that shirt bothered me so much? Because the message printed on its front goes against what the Bible teaches, and its misguided message is being blasted from the rooftops and I am watching even some of the admired holy women of our world get swallowed by it. It bothered me because the source of that phrase, modern feminism, is setting fire to the purpose of humanity- a purpose that was laid out by God Himself.
Let me be clear about what I mean by modern feminism.
I consider myself an original feminist, a feminist of my great grandmother's era. I believe women should be able to own property, not be treated as such. I believe women should be able to have careers and choose the path they take in life. That battle has been won. I believe women should be paid the same as men in their field, and should not be discriminated against in the workplace or elsewhere.
The feminism of today is, honestly, a disgrace to my gender. Modern feminists are loud, abrupt, foolish, and stupid. They create "art" with their period blood and use their vaginas to launch paint at canvases.
Sure, those are the extreme cases, but that's out there and that's what I see getting positive attention and being applauded as "bravery" and "artistic". To these people, I say do what you want, free will, this is America, whatever.
My problem is with what the roots of modern feminism are doing to the men of our nation, and how it is affecting marriages.
Anything boys can do girls can do better isn't just a cute tee shirt on the rack at Target, it is a violent and strong and abrasive movement that has dramatically changed the way God set up His creation to work. Men used to rule all but feminism has gotten power and taken it to greed, and it has gone way too far.
Men are now constantly mocked and degraded. They are depicted as dirty, belching, smelly cavemen who can't do anything right, and oh thank goodness I have a woman around to fix all my stupid mistakes!
Manners are considered insulting. My husband once held the door open for a woman walking into Starbucks behind him. She scowled and said she could get it herself, then waited for him to move, and re-opened the door herself.
Chivalry is dead, and it was trampled by the back of a feminist's heel.
Fatherhood is taking an especially hard hit. Commercials air every day blasting the message that moms have it harder than dad because they're the only ones with brains and they have to take care of their children, plus their stupid husbands. This message is total man-hating feminism and it doesn't even hold any truth. My husband is a better cook than I am, he sleeps lighter than me and always hears our baby wake up at night when I'm still passed out, and he gets up and takes care of him without waking me! He comes up with the most awesome, inventive ways to solve problems around the house. I've seen him create a diaper out of pair of leggings in a pinch. I've seen him repair something that I was about to throw out. He actually plays with our kids. I suck at that.
My husband is incredibly smart, he is stronger than me, he can do a lot of things that I can't do, and I like it that way.
Modern feminism is a man-hating movement that no man can stand up to without being labeled as an oppressing, misogynistic pig. Modern feminism is castrating our men.
I know the world is lost, so I can sigh and look the other way when I see modern feminism out there. However, I have seen it in action in the church, and this is where I become infuriated. You cannot be a modern, man-hating feminist and love God. Maybe that sounds harsh but it is true, and it is printed in black and white if you want to see for yourself.
1 John 4:20
If anyone says "I love God", and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he whom does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.
There is a lot of injustice in this world. Women are not always treated fairly, and neither are men. Maybe it happens more often to women, and more so in certain places, and in this feminism has a place. It is the hatred that's the problem.
Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.
I will raise my daughter to be strong, to be bold and brave and her own kind of beautiful. I will raise her to know that she owes nothing to men who want to take from her, and to fight for what is good and just. I will raise her to know that a godly man is a treasure that should be respected, honored, and loved.
I will raise her to know that marriage is a team activity, and her husband should have a say and so should she. I will raise her to be a biblical, submissive (whoaaaaa dropping the S word) wife who loves her God and is a helper to the man she marries. I will make sure she knows a fool when she sees one. Lookin' at you vaginal painters...
My husband and I will raise a lady and three gentlemen. And they will change the world.