I’m a doer. If I have an idea, it’s hard for me not to do something about it. It’s not natural for me to have an idea and keep going about my day.
With that comes a lot of change. I’ll decide to do something and then I’ll change my mind. Or I’ll do something for a little while and then leave it. Or I’ll just make a mistake and need to course correct.
Because I share a lot of what I do publicly, I’ll get these messages from people that make me feel like I’m not a good wife and mom or that I don’t know what I’m doing. Honestly, sometimes I don’t and that’s okay. I’m a human being.
Social media brought an obsession with perfection into our society along with this idea that if you change your mind then you’re a mess. That’s just not true!
Life is so tumultuous. Things change. Seasons change. We change. We grow and mature.
You don’t have to stay the same or do the same thing if it’s not serving you anymore.
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FROM PUBLIC SCHOOL TO HOMESCHOOLING…
One example for us is homeschooling. I’ve always said that we homeschool season by season, not year by year. I’m always at the feet of God, praying, “what do you want us to do in this season?”
We were homeschooling our kids when our business just exploded. All of a sudden, homeschooling became a source of stress.
The business was requiring full time work from both Brian and me. We were also working with the kids all the time. It just became this stressful balancing act.
We started to pray and feel that sending the kids to public school for the year was what we needed to do. And so, we did.
They started school in August and by the time December came around we were already in a completely new season. Our workload went from beyond full time to just a few hours a week due to hiring a handful of people to take work off our plates.
Doing the whole school drop-off and pick-up became super inconvenient and this thing that had helped us so much just a few months before became stressful.
We made the decision to let them finish through Christmas break, then we transferred them to a Charter school and started homeschooling again.
AND SO BEGAN THE JUDGEMENT…
I got so many messages like, “Wow! They didn’t even finish the year?” There was this judgmental undertone in a lot of these comments and it was really not cool.
I know what’s best for my family. You know what’s best for your family.
I want to empower you. It is okay to change your mind. It’s okay to start a juice cleanse, go twelve hours, decide you love food and stop. It’s okay to change your mind about what you thought was best for your kids. It’s okay to change your mind about your style.
You don’t need permission to grow and mature. To become a better version of yourself.
If that makes people uncomfortable and they feel the need to share their opinion on your decisions, that has everything to do with them and their issues and nothing to do with you.
Mamas, be brave. Be bold. You do what works for you and your family. Say “no” to what isn’t working and “yes” to more of what brings you joy.
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