Yelling AND NAGGING...
COUNTING THE MINUTES TILL BEDTIME...
Everyone told me this is just how motherhood is...
they said I’d get through it like they did.
Here's the thing - I didn't want to just "get through" - that's not what I'm called to and it's not good enough for this season of my life - so I found a better way...
do you feel like...
- you're stuck in survival mode?
- the mundane parts of motherhood have taken over?
- every time you get something clean someone is making a mess behind you?
- you’ve tried to get organized a thousand times, but it always comes undone within a few days?
If you're screaming "YES!" at an awkwardly loud decibel while staring at the screen, I totally get it girl. And I have something for you.
You're about to discover what you've been waiting your entire #momlife for...
I know you've been trying.
I know you feel stressed out, cranky, even burdened by the blessing of being a mom. It's dang hard - and you have a lot on your plate.
I know right now you might not be the mom you thought you'd be - the mom you desire so deeply to be.
And I have a secret for you.
First, how did I get here?
Let me tell you something raw and honest about myself...
I used to live every day depressed, overwhelmed and unfulfilled.
I started my motherhood out with a thud. I was blindsided by my first pregnancy after just a few months of married life at the age of twenty, and an extreme battle with PPD after our daughter was born robbed me of joy in her first year. My husband and I had always wanted our kids close in age, so we decided to ride the wave of unexpected turns and have more babies quickly.
I soon found myself in a house that was unnecessarily high maintenance with three babies under three. I was battling severe situational depression and guilting myself every day for not "seizing the moments" I knew I was blessed to have at home with my kids.
It felt like all i did was clean up. Constantly. And it didn't even matter, because the house was always a mess.
My days were spent changing diapers, making snacks, and giving all my energy to getting my kids out of the way and busy so I could take care of the housework. It was like the purpose of my motherhood was hidden under a never-ending to do list.
I tried to be a good mom by sometimes pressing pause on the tasks and spending time playing with my kids, but it always came at a price - falling so behind that the stress of that overcame my ability to be present and make good memories with my kids.
I basically had two options:
- If I ignored the house and played with my kids, the mess would take over and I'd have to spend the evening or the next day catching up.
- If I stayed on top of the cleaning and let my kids watch Dora the Explorer, I wouldn't spend time with them but at least I'd be caught up and they'd learn a second language...maybe.
I was on a hamster wheel to nowhere, and I could feel it. I hated this! Is this really what being a mom is about? Is this really what I'm meant for in this season of my life?
Finally, it all came to a head this one day...
I was dead dog tired. I was emotional, stressed out, trying to get the house ready for a birthday party I didn't really want to have, and my toddlers were both throwing tantrums.
The baby needed to eat again, there was a smell that could wake the dead coming from somewhere I couldn't find, my husband was gone for three days working hard to provide... I was about to collapse and I could feel myself giving up inside. I couldn't do this anymore!
I ended up getting the kids busy and locking myself in my bathroom. I slumped to the floor in tears.
I did all I could do - cried out to God with my Kim Kardashian cry and got really real with Him.
"Is this seriously it?! Is this what you want for me?! Is THIS what being a mom has to be?!"
Through my fit in tears, John 10:10 came to mind. You know, the one about abundant life.
"The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come that she may have life, and have it abundantly."
Okay so.... where's all the abundance? This sucks.
Right there on the bathroom floor, I felt pressed -
"Allie, what exactly do you spend your time doing most days?"
Me: uhhh..... cleaning up. How can you not know that...
"Cleaning up what, exactly?"
***huge pause cause I don't even know, and also there's snot hanging from my nose***
Me: just... stuff. It's just never ending - all I do is clean up stuff, and I'm not even sure it's stuff we need.
AND THERE IT WAS - MY LIGHTBULB MOMENT.
No matter who you are or what you believe, you are called to live abundantly and to live WELL. Motherhood is not an exception to this!
What happened next is what led me here, to you.
Everything got better.
I wiped the tears and snot, walked downstairs and finished my day with the kids strong. I knew exactly what I needed to do.
After they went to bed, I got out some trash bags and started what changed my whole life.
I let go of the stuff that didn't matter.
I started in the playroom. It was full of bins that overflowed with toys - pointless play things my kids never even used.
You know how it goes...
1. You tell the kids to "go play"
2. They wander into the playroom, fussy
3. They dump everything onto the floor
4. They wander out five minutes later, still fussy
5. They are now apparently "starving" and in desperate need of yet another snack
Let's face it - this room wasn't serving its purpose, and the clutter it held was costing me a lot of time I didn't have.
I sat down and worked through each bin and every box, making piles of what was really a great toy that my kids loved and played with often, and what was just taking up space or useless.
I had the thought that if my kids were going to have a minimal amount of toys and only play with some of them, they should be the ones that inspire them to use their imaginations, not the loud annoying toys that light up and do the playing for them.
What I ended up with was a very late night, lots of coffee, and a near-empty playroom.
I kept only the constructive play toys (trains and tracks, wooden blocks) and imaginative toys (my daughter’s baby doll and dress up clothes). It all fit in a few small bins, and everything else got bagged up and taken to the local donation center that week.
I was friggin' terrified of what my kids' reaction would be. So the next morning, I poured my coffee, made breakfast, and sent them in the playroom to play as usual. Then I held my breath.
My daughter squealed "Mommy!" and I nearly crapped myself.
But then I heard, "You cleaned up! Oh look! I've been searching for this toy..."
And then came the sound of more than TWO HOURS of happy playtime.
For those of you with toddlers (or any kid over the age of two), you know how amazing two hours of uninterrupted playtime is!
I couldn't believe it.
But then, it stuck! Things kept getting better.
- All of a sudden my kids weren’t wandering into the playroom, only to come out after five minutes whining of boredom. They were going in there and actually playing! For hours!
- I noticed I had so much more free time! I wasn’t spending the bulk of my week picking up toys, so I was able to better manage the rest of the house. At this point I still felt overwhelmed by the piles of laundry and dishes, but I definitely had more time to tackle those things because the kids were busy playing and I wasn’t having to maintain the playroom.
- I noticed my kids’ relationships with each other started getting better. They were playing together, creating imaginary scenarios in the backyard together, and getting along!
I was loving how this one simple change was transforming our kids and our home life, so I decided to keep it going!
I thought about the things that took up most of my time (dishes and laundry were first on the list) and decided to get in there and purge like I did the toys.
I got rid of all the extra dishes aside from our main set (just enough for our family and a couple guests), and donated all the clothes my kids and I owned that didn’t fit, were stained or damaged at all, or just weren’t my favorite.
All of a sudden, I didn't have to spend my weekend catching up on laundry or spend hours at the kitchen sink.
And guess what happens when you get your home back? It spills over into the other parts of your life.
Yup, these are both me. I simplified my home, which led to simplifying my whole life - calendar, eating and health, relationships... your home is the first step to the life you want, mama!
Now, I was experiencing so much free time, that I was finally able to play with my kids and enjoy them! It felt like we were finally living.
It was like decluttering my home had actually decluttered my life, making space for things like:
- Taking daily walks together
- Saturday morning hikes
- Sitting in the yard watching my kids play with a clean house behind me
- Following my dream of blogging full-time
- Playing Legos with my kids on a *gasp* clean, uncluttered living room floor
- Spending every evening with my husband, fully able to relax and catch up with him
Once the house was under control, I started figuring out that what I was doing was already a thing, and was called minimalism.
I implemented the philosophy into other areas of our family life too, like the kids’ tech time. The less TV they watched, the better they got along and the more they played outside.
I was watching their imaginations blossom, their relationships grow even closer, and I started to notice this lifestyle was causing them to grow up different than their friends around them.
It was like they were growing up with a vintage childhood instead of a modern, tech-obsessed one, and I loved that.
THIS WILL WORK FOR YOU TOO, FRIEND.
It doesn't matter if you're married or single, if you work or stay home, if you have one kid or twelve, your clutter is directly tied to your stress.
A study done by UCLA's Center for Everyday Families backs up what I experienced in my motherhood and what I'm guessing you are too -
Clutter = stress and a deep lack of fulfillment
This study found that female homeowners with more clutter had significantly higher levels of cortisol (the stress hormone).
It also found that women tend to base their general happiness with their families on how they feel when they are at home.
When you simplify your mess, you set yourself free to be a present, intentional mom who leads a purposeful life.
Want to know exactly how to make these changes in your own life?
Want me to go with you through your entire home and share the secret with you?
Girl, I'm bouncing in my seat writing this. Let's go!
You are the reason I created my globally-praised online course, Your Uncluttered Home.
It's the secret - the shortcut - for moms who are tired of cleaning up all the time.
- I want you to get the "your house is always so clean" comments and not have to struggle so dang hard to get there.
- It IS possible to live simply and efficiently and well without being Type A.
- You can totally rock this motherhood thing AND have a clean house that's easy for you to manage and makes you proud to invite people over.
Join the other 3,500+ moms from all over the world who have enrolled and changed their lives.
Your Uncluttered Home features:
- A clean, easy-to-use course platform with private login access
- To-the-point audio lessons that walk you through every room of your home
- Video lessons where it's necessary (sometimes I just need to show you)
- Clear, straightforward action steps
- Worksheets that can be fillable or printed, based on your preference
Benefits for busy mamas:
- Lessons are brief and pointed, because you don't have a lot of time
- Worksheets serve to help you actually implement the lessons in YOUR home and remember what you learned
- Lessons are audio so you can listen on-the-go (or while you declutter!)
- All lessons are safe to play around little ears (no cursing, rude comments, or anything you wouldn't want your tiny humans to repeat)
- You get lifetime access, which means you can come back to the course anytime and not feel rushed or pressured. This course was designed to fit your life.
"K, so who is this chick & why should i listen to anything she says?"
I've been featured A LOT OF cool PLACES
(BECAUSE THIS WORKS & MOMS BE NEEDIN' IT)
words from my gorgeous students
"what's the investment?"
"but What if it doesn't work for me?"
First of all, if you do the work in my course, there are no if's and's or but's - it will change your life.
To make you see how serious I am about that, I've got a guarantee for you...
100% no-questions-asked Money Back Guarantee
I'm taking the risk here, not you.
Enroll in my course, put in the work, and if you don't like it, if it doesn't change the way you do motherhood, then just email me within 14 days of purchase. Because taking action is required to see the change in your life, I ask that you work through at least 30% of the course before requesting a refund.
I’m taking a risk by doing this.
I can’t make you give me the notes you take or the videos you record of each lesson, so you could totally rip me off. But I’m going to trust that you’re not going to do that to me, and I want you to trust me too.
Let's do this!
You're at the point of decision, friend.
You can either keep going down the path you've been on, the path of struggle, chaos, and overwhelm, or you can choose the road less traveled.
The path you've been on will probably result in you getting the same outcomes you've always received.
If you want something different to happen, something beautiful, freeing, and amazing, if you want to change the direction of your motherhood, you're going to have to do something different.
Make a new choice, and pursue your new outcome with hope and confidence!
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Here's exactly what happens when you click the button to enroll :
How long will I have access to the course once I enroll?
As long as there is internet, you will have access to the course.
Not only that, but anytime I add something to the course, my students will always get access to it at no extra charge.
As a student, you get access to every upgrade, every bonus, no matter what the dollar value is.
How is your course different from others?
There are plenty of minimalists helping the world simplify. And good for them! However, most of them are not mothers of very young kids who understand the struggle, and the need for realistic guidance.
So much of the advice I see elsewhere is perfectionistic and nearly unattainable when you've got little ones running underfoot most of the time. My philosophy doesn't waste time, gets right to the point, and gets you where you want to go without needlessly wasting your time on details you don't have time to think about.
How long will it take to work through the course?
The sum of the lesson lengths for the entire course is 263 minutes and 22 seconds. This is including the 'Just for Kids' section that's not meant for Mom to sit down and spend time watching.
You may not need to listen to every single lesson, you may need to listen to a couple of them more than once - it just depends on you.
I have students who have completed the course and implemented it in two weeks, others who have busier schedules and took six months.
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