coffee

Ep 075: Coffee+ Questions with Allie (Book Month Edition)

Facebook_EP_075.png

Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting.

This month’s Coffee & Questions is a bit different than previous months because we are diving into one of my favorite things all month long … books! A book can teach you something new. It can inspire you to make positive changes in your life and can take you to a different level in your life. Reading is so important to me which is why I am excited for Allie Reads October here on the podcast! All month I am interviewing some amazing authors. We will talk about their books, life, and living a life of purpose and intention.

Use the hashtag #AllieReadsOctober to share with me this month. What are you reading? Did you get any of the books from the authors I’m talking to you about? Are you reading a different book? How are you taking this challenge to read more and putting it into action? I cannot wait to see what you share!

 
 

In This Episode Allie Discusses:

  • The books that have shaped her life.

  • Why she never read a book on minimalism and how that has impacted her journey to simple living.

  • How important it is to take action from what you are learning in the books you read.

Mentioned in this Episode:


Since I am featuring incredible books and authors on the podcast for the month of October, I am hosting giveaways on The Purpose Show Facebook Community! Head over to the page to join in the fun! I cannot want to connect with you this month on all things book related. #AllieReadsOctober

Facebook_Allie_Reads_2.png

who doesn't love a GIVEAWAY?

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


Don't have time to listen_.jpg

Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to. I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days. I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it. Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and I know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.

_______________________________________________________________

Hey, sweet friends! I'm so happy that October is finally here! For months I have been planning and dreaming this up for you and I'm so happy to finally unveil what it is I've been working on!

This month, October, is all about reading. We're calling it “Allie Reads October,” and the purpose behind this is for me to inspire and encourage you to read more often. Reading is such a gift. We take it for granted way too often, myself included, but reading is powerful. You literally have a whole new life in your hands when you read a book.

A book can teach you something new. It can inspire you to make positive changes in your life and can take you to a different level in your life. Reading is so important. I read all the time and I wish that I would have started sooner and so I'm taking that passion of mine and turning it into Allie Reads October. Every October here on The Purpose Show, we are turning it into author central.

I'm interviewing some amazing authors this month and we're talking about their books and I want to see you use this Hashtag. I'm going to be checking it every single day on Facebook and Instagram and I want you to use it. #alliereadsoctober.

Share with me. What are you reading? Did you get any of the books from the authors I’m talking to you about? Are you reading a different book? How are you taking this challenge to read more and putting it into action?

Let's celebrate this month October! Allie Reads October. We're going to talk about authors and books and encourage each other to read more books.

I encourage you to get other people involved in this. Get your kids involved. Encourage them, read with them, next to them or to them, or have them read in their own quiet time. Share this with your friends. Let's encourage each other to get better equipped to live an intentional life by reading more.

_______________________________________________________________

Okay guys, I'm excited to jump into this edition of Coffee & Questions. Truth be told, I have already lied to you once. I am not drinking coffee this time. Usually I really do like to have a cup of coffee and make it kind of like a ritual, sit down, cozy up, have a cup and talk with you guys and answer questions.

I think the whole idea of podcasting can be kind of weird sometimes, really impersonal and I never want that to get picked up in my tone. If I'm sitting at my desk and I've got this high-tech microphone in front of me and these notes to remember what points to hit in an episode, I think it could easily become stiff and non-conversational and that's just my worst nightmare.

I mean I'm sure every once in a while there'll be a really important episode that I need to hit all of the certain points or whatever, but typically, especially for the Q & A episodes every month, I want it to just feel really relaxed, friendly and friendship-y. So, I really do sit down with a cup of coffee and try to pretend that I'm just sitting with a few of you chatting and answering things.

But today I have a sore throat and I've got a Lacroix sparkling water. I actually have the apple cranberry flavor, which I've never tried before and it's super good. I normally don't like cranberry things, but this is amazing. It does not taste like cranberry. So anyway, it's Lacroix & Questions with Allie today.

I am going to share with you a few of the books that have shaped me for this episode of Coffee & Questions, or Water & Questions in this case, and I'm really excited because I think it's going to be really helpful. I always love getting book recommendations from other people and I think this is really cool and specific and these books are the ones that jumped out at me when I thought about what are the books that have shaped me and made me who I am as a person. So, I think this is going to be really great and really helpful and that's my hope with this.

The first question that I want to answer, I'm really excited about and I've never talked about before and that is what are a few of the books that you would say have shaped you as a person? And I'm really excited to answer this question because first of all it was a challenge, so I had to kind of sit and think.

Again, truth be told, I didn't spend a lot of time thinking about this. I didn't spend days and go through my house and look at all my bookshelves and skim the shelves for books that I thought shaped me. I didn't do that because I know that when I do that a bunch of books are going to jump out to me and I'll be like, oh yeah, that book shaped me too. And I feel like if a book really shaped me, if it really made an impact on me, it would come to the front of my brain.

So, I'm sure I'm leaving several great books out that did in some way shape me in this list, but these are the books that came to my head right away. And I think that's important.

I also wanted to say that I think a lot of people expect me to list at least one book on something to do with minimalism, but I've actually never read a book on that topic for pleasure because of how my story went. I started this journey to “less” and just being really intentional about my things, figuring out that it was taking up my time and that it mattered, and it was something that I should be looking at constantly, about six years ago at this point.

And I didn't know that minimalism was a thing. It wasn't trendy. I hadn't really ever heard of it. I had no idea. It was just an epiphany that I had in this moment with God on my bathroom floor after like a serious breakdown and a terrible season of being a mom. And so, I didn't know. I didn't read this anywhere. I didn't figure that out. So that just isn't my story.

I think it's great that the message is so out there now for other moms, that's fantastic. But I didn't have that, so I never read a book on that and then it changed my life. That's just not how my story went.

Also, now I've really hammered out my own philosophy of minimalism that’s specific to mothers that's really realistic and doable. And some of the things that I have seen or read now just don't really feel that way. It feels a little bit stiff and legalistic and hard to follow when you're a busy mom with multiple kids and you're not really thinking about being that perfectionistic about this whole minimalist thing.

My philosophy is really shaped around just being realistic and doable and helpful. It's a side note to back you up as a mom. It's not a lifestyle that rules everything you do and you know, takes over. So, I figured this out myself and then created my course and created all my stuff, around that.

The only time I have read a book on the topic of minimalism has been for research for work, specifically my book proposal. You have to discuss other books that are similar to the one that you want to write and how yours will be different. So, I've had to skim and read a couple of big name ones in research for that. But other than that, I've never really read a book about it. So, none of these books have to do with minimalism.

I have a list of about six books that I feel like they kind of popped up in my head and I'm going to share them with you now.

The first book that shaped me is actually somewhat of a recent read. Full disclosure, I'm kind of all-in/embedded in this topic in my life right now. If you were to peel back the curtain of my life and look into what's Allie learning right now, what's Allie going through right now, it would be this. I'm all-in. I'm actually rereading the book I'm about to tell you about for the third time as I record this.

I've dove all the way in. I'm studying it. I'm really taking it and putting it into action in my life. It's just something that I'm really deep into right now and that book is Switch On Your Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf.

This book was such a sign for me to read. It kept popping up. No matter where I looked, no matter where I turned, I would see this book. It's kind of hard to miss because it's got a weird cover. It's bright teal and it's got a big purple sparkly brain on the cover. It's not super cute. It's just kinda like, it is what it is. And so, I noticed it every time I would see it. It's not a new book. The idea is not new. Dr Caroline Leaf is not new. She's been a practicing scientist for decades, but it just popped up a lot.

It struck me as a boring read, so I didn't dive in. I finally ordered it after I saw it a bunch of times and I finally read it after it popped up three or four more times after I had it sitting on my shelf to read later. I finally dove in on a trip that I took and then I read it again on a recent trip, and now I'm reading it again now because it's just that crazy.

Switch On Your Brain is all about the God-given power of our brains, what we think, how thoughts actually take up physical matter in your brain, and how you basically are what you think. This has always been fascinating to me in my adult life, but this book really put it in perspective. This book taught me a lot about why I was so drawn toward meditation, getting quiet and really being intentional with what I'm doing with my brain.

I'm not a Buddhist; I'm a Christian and I'm not really into the “new age” sort of thing. Not that there's anything wrong with those things, but that's just not what I believe. And so, I always was kind of drawn to that though. Meditating is so great for me, but it's hard to learn about meditation without getting that side of things, that side of research.

Switch On Your Brain explains why it's so important to get still, to meditate and to control your thoughts. And it's all backed by Scripture. This book changed my entire life. I'm absolutely still learning and really focusing on this area of my life right now, like I said, but I was a different version of myself after this book came into my life. I can 1,000% say that. This book absolutely changed my life. Switch On Your Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf. I will link to that in show notes.

The next book that shaped me was a funny, funny, funny, little book. The topic is not funny, but the cover is funny. It's a weird little book called Hung By The Tongue by Francis Martin.

It's a very tiny, pamphlet-size book. It's got a picture of this Indian guy on it and he's being hung and his little tongue is sticking out. It's really random and weird. My mom gave it to me in high school…actually she didn't. It was just on her shelf and I picked it up and decided to read it in high school. I always have loved reading even as a child, but that's how I really started to learn that books can change your life and really be passionate about reading all the time, was in high school from my mom's bookshelf. So, thank you mom for having great books on your shelf all the time.

I picked this little book up and I want to say that I had started to date Brian. I think that was around the time. It was the end of high school. I seemed to be a really passionate person who had a very hard time controlling my words. I would say these true, but cutting and hurtful things to my boyfriend at the time, Brian, and it seemed to really hurt his feelings.

I was just so confused by that. Like, why? What's the problem? Why are you so upset if something I'm saying is true? I was just so young and dumb and I just didn't know what I was doing. I hadn't really come to grips with, and I’ve shared this with you guys before, that I am such a fiery, passionate person. My thoughts and my words, they just will flow out of me without any filter if I'm not careful. I feel what I'm feeling 1,000% all the time.

Hung By The tongue caught my attention because of the title, the cover, it was weird, and a small read. And I remember sitting in my little Civic and reading that book in the parking lot of Del Taco, reading it in one sitting, and being so shocked. I never read it again, but it stuck with me.

It's basically just the idea that what you say matters, and you get what you say. It was Scripture-based, really short and to the point, really powerful and really hard hitting. It was like a punch to the gut. That weird little book shaped me for sure.

That was when I really started to think about what I said and notice a pattern of when I say things, it changes my relationships. It changes what's physically happening in my life and it taught me that you are what you say. You get what you say, get what you speak.

And that was huge for me. I went on branching off of that new belief and new realization from there.

I've talked a lot about what I've learned about that topic in terms of being a parent and raising my kids and talking to them. There's a whole episode that we have that we'll link to in the show notes too, about the power of words and your children. It’s about how I learned about raising my toddler son, Leland, when he was so difficult, the words that I spoke over him and how that totally changed the path he was on and the behavior he was exhibiting. This is huge and this was kind of the start of that for me. So, Hung By The Tongue by Francis Martin.

_______________________________________________________________

Most people know I'm a blogger and a podcaster, but that's really just where the inspiration happens. I can only scrape the surface of equipping you to bring positive change to your life here. That's why I create online courses on my Private Students-Only Platform.

I don't spend months creating courses for no reason. This is where the action is. My courses are for the serious doers out there. If you want to see focused, real change happen in your life - change that lasts - this is what my courses are for.

This is where I dive all the way into actually implementing minimalism in your home and simplification to the cluttered parts of your life as a mom. We get legit detailed in these courses. My students have incredible success rates that they share in our Private Students’ Community and you can see some of their testimonials on my website.

I work really hard to keep my courses priced as low as I can, but you guys know I totally get being on a crazy tight budget, which is why I also have payment plans available

My courses are different from each other. They each serve different purposes and will take you to different places in your life. Don't overthink which one to start with. Just go to the website and pick one that's resonating with you and enroll.

For Purpose Show listeners only, you can take 10% off any course you choose with the code PURPOSESHOW.  Visit alliecasazza.com/nextlevel for the breakdown of all the different courses I have to offer, how they're different from each other and which one might be best for you.

I cannot wait to cheer you on and take you onward and upward. Motherhood is much too sweet a time to be spent in survival mode.

_______________________________________________________________

The next book that shaped me was You’re A Badass by Jen Sincero. So, this book is not a Christian book. You will have to take the idea of it and back it up with what you believe if you are a Christian. But Jen is amazing. I'm a huge fan of hers. I would love to meet her one day. She's awesome.

Her book is really in line with these two books I've already named. It’s really about, “Stop kidding yourself. Get your stuff together and start to create the life you want. You don't have to be broke. You don't have to be stuck. You can change whatever you want. You have the power to change your life. Let's do this.”

And it came at a time when we were living in northwest Arkansas. I was trying to start the business, but it was in the very early stages and it was slow going and difficult. We were super broke and we were just at this point where we didn't care anymore. We just wanted things to change. And I read You Are A Badass. I actually listened to the audio version of it. I remember having to make a new email account so that I could make a new Audible account and get the free credits for the book so that I could read the book because we were so broke.

I remember lying on my living room floor, listening to that book, soaking up those words and realizing I can change everything. I can do this. I know what my purpose is. I know that my message will change mothers all over the globe and will help them. And I know that this is what I was put on earth to do and I'm going to really do this.

This is when I learned about speaking affirmations specifically about where I wanted to go, about really using my brain to take me to a new place to change my life. So, I credit this book with what happened in our life. Obviously, I credit my hard work, the power of God and the purpose He had for me, but in terms of books, this is the book that turned everything around for us and taught me what I needed to know.

Now I have to give a quick disclaimer before I give the rest of the books. You'll notice that all of these books, like they're great. You can read them though and nothing will happen. Every single book I read, I take action on it.

Brian always jokes with me that it's really important that I'm careful with the books that I read because every time I read a book, I go and I do what I learned. I actually do it and I'll change my whole life after what I just read. And so, that's the key. Nothing gets done without action. You can read an amazing book and feel really inspired and not do anything about it. You've got to take action.

So, I took action with Switch On Your Brain and I started being more intentional about my morning meditation, my morning quiet time, my thought process and taking my thoughts captive.

I read Hung By The Tongue and started watching my words to my boyfriend at the time, to my parents, to my friends.

I read You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero and I started speaking affirmations, journaling through my thoughts, dealing with my money blocks, taking control of my life.

You've got to take action.

The fourth book that shaped me is Essentialism by Greg McKeown. He is actually one of our authors and his episode is coming quickly this month. He is just incredible. That book is absolutely incredible. I read it for business, but it applies to all of life.

Essentialism is the book that helped me begin to delegate, to realize I needed to hire other people and only work on what I need to be working on. It was huge.

Essentialism is about doing less of all the things and more of the things that matter. So instead of looking at my big to-do list and just going through it and knocking things off to feel accomplished, it's looking at my big to-do list and asking myself, “What are the things that are actually essential to be done? What has to be done? What, if it's not done the business won't go on? My family won't go on? What has to be done?” Focusing on doing those things first and prioritizing. He says in the book, “if you don't prioritize your life, someone else will.” It's very empowering in terms of managing your life.

I really, really loved it. We'll talk more about it in his episode, but Essentialism by Greg McKeown.

Another book that shaped me is The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. I've talked about this book before. This book is about how we tend to self-sabotage and stop ourselves from moving onward and upward, whether it's in business or love or just having a great abundant life. This is a very important read. I would highly encourage all of you guys to read all these books, but this one is just really, really good for stopping the self-sabotage in your life and realizing that you can have a good abundant life. You can really heal yourself from illness, heal yourself from marriage problems by choosing to control your brain, what you think and be intentional about that.

I’m feeling like there's a pattern in the books that shaped me and maybe why I tend to try to be positive all the time, control my thoughts and my words, because all of these books have that theme really.

So The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. It’s a game changer.

The next book is Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller. I read this book years ago and I've read it again since. This book is basically non-Christian thoughts on the Christian faith. I think that's what he calls it. He's really funny, really real and he just helped me understand God.

I grew up in a really awesome household. My parents are awesome. They're super relaxed and laid back. We went to small churches growing up and we just had a really cool, relaxed Christian faith in my childhood. But the school that I went to was a really elite private school. It was a Christian private school where you memorize Scripture and you're graded on how well you did. You go to Chapel every week, sometimes twice a week. It was very religious-based.

Obviously, I spent a lot of time there and so I kind of went into adulthood with beliefs about God that aren't actually truly who He is. So Blue Like Jazz, I credit that book with really opening my eyes to who God really is, that He cares and He wants a relationship with us. It just opened up my faith. And that was the start of all of that.

Now, the super rigid religious, works-based type of Christianity, just has such a bad taste in my mouth and it really puts me off. It bothers me when people see that I'm a Christian and they assume that I'm that sort of Christian and they put that label on me. They talk to me in that way, or use Christianese to talk to me. I believe in God and I love Jesus and I talk to him every day. He is a part of my life and I have a relationship with the living God that created our world. In that sense, I’m a Christian. So, I’ll just leave it at that.

Blue Like Jazz just really helped me see who God is, see what He is in, how He works, what His personality is. That really helped me at a pivotal time in my early adult life.

So, there you have it. Those are a few of the books that came to the front of my brain right away that I believe have shaped who I am as a person. That was really fun and I hope that helps you out a ton.


_______________________________________________________________

This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

Hey mama! Just a quick note, this post may contain affiliate links.

Ep 059: Coffee + Questions with Allie

Facebook_EP_059.png

Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Ways you can overcome social anxiety and get out of your comfort zone.

  • How she food preps for her family.

  • Her book collection and how she decides what to keep or get rid of, as well as what she prefers in digital versus hard copy.

  • Tips for shopping and maintaining a minimal lifestyle (especially at Target!).

Mentioned in this Episode:

Unburdened_FB_3.png

Motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.


who doesn't love a GIVEAWAY?

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


Don't have time to listen_.png

Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 _______________________________________________________________

Question #1:  Allie, I would love for you to address social anxiety and getting out of your comfort zone to visit with other moms. I come from a background of moms who have lots of kids, 4+, and so far I only have one, so I feel like I don't have as much in common or as much to offer to the conversations with the other moms in my area. It's something that I'm working on, just getting myself to open up, but talking is one thing that does not come naturally to me. #introvertmama. Any recommendations?

Okay. Super love this question, mainly because I totally get it and oh my gosh, I wish that I had some way that I could show you all how I used to be. It's not really that there was anything wrong with it or with me, it's just that I was so different and friendships were more difficult for me. Social gatherings were really hard for me. I'm very much an introvert.

I've talked about that a lot before. I'm so introvert, but a lot of the time when I share that about myself, people are really surprised. I think it's just because I've come on such a journey with myself in that regard and not let being an introvert hold me back from having connections, relationships and being social. Also, what I do for a living is pretty anti-introvert. It's a lot of extravert-ing. A lot of sharing myself, being vulnerable and talking.

And whenever I come across a podcast listener or a blog reader or somebody in my audience in person, I never want to seem weird or standoffish, you know? I'm just introverting, but I don't want to seem like I don't care or I don't know, I don't want to give off the wrong vibe.

So, it's been really important to me to learn how to be an introvert and take care of myself, but also step outside of my comfort zone, be friendly and have those connections.

When we moved away, we moved out of state a few years ago and we didn't know anybody. That was really hard for me because it forced me totally out of my comfort zone in so many ways, especially socially. I had to speak up and talk and share. Even though I used to be more of a listener.

So, what I would say to you, whoever asked this question and anyone else who was so glad that she asked it because this is you too, is get out there. I know it's probably not what you want to hear and it's not rocket science or anything new, but get out there and go. Then once you get there, join a mom’s group, join anything, something. Once you join, when you're there you don't have to come up with the conversations, but join in.

So, what I mean by that is when we moved to Arkansas and I had joined the new mom’s group at a church that we thought we were going to end up joining. We weren't really sure. We had gone one week. They had a mom’s group. It seemed great. I just wanted to throw myself in and find connections because I was really struggling with loneliness and getting a little depressive. It just was not a good time. I didn't have anybody.

I went to the mom's group. I forced myself to go. I got the kids all dressed. I showed up and being super awkward and introverted, but I'm there. I'm doing it. And when the conversation started I just jumped in as soon as I could. So, when I got there I was really friendly. I think there's something about pulling it out of yourself and stepping outside of yourself. I was just really friendly.

I said “Hi.” I introduced myself, my kids and really stepped outside of my normal personality. So, it wasn't like I was quiet and awkward and then I sit down and somebody says something and starts a conversation, and I'm like, “Yeah, me too!” and all of a sudden I'm talking because that's even more awkward. I really pulled it out of myself and I thought a lot about the fact that I wanted to make connections, that I wanted people to know my heart. My heart is very people based; it's just that I'm not much of a talker (which it’s just hilarious as I speak into my podcast microphone.) But in social situations like that, I used to really not be much of a talker, but I pulled it out of myself.

And then when the kids were with the childcare sitter and we were sitting at the mom's group together, just us moms, and somebody would share something that I had something that I could say, I would openly share. I would rush right past that nervous feeling of, “Oh my gosh, I'm about to talk. What if I talk over somebody? What if it's awkward?” And I would just jump in and say “Yes, me too! I totally understand that. Last week this happened to me and I handled it this way” or whatever it is, but I put in my two cents.

I had a rule with myself where every other thing that somebody brought up I would share about. So, it's not like I was taking over the conversation and putting in my two cents on every single thing that anybody said. But every other, every two things that were brought up as a topic of conversation. I wouldn't sit them all out and I wouldn't join in them all. Does that make sense?

If you've ever been in a formal mom's group or Bible study setting, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Usually whoever's leading has some discussion points that they're going through or Bible study guided questions that they're asking, and I wouldn't let myself sit out every single question. I wouldn't let myself go more than one without chiming in. That helped me to have a rule of thumb.

But I also think it's important to remember that introvert is not synonymous with shy. Introverts just get their energy, they get restored by being on their own. Extroverts get their energy by being around other people. Studies show that both extroverts and introverts benefit highly from having a lot of friends, from being social, from having a week full of social things. It's really good for us to be around other people. We are created to be social beings. So, let's not confuse introvert and shyness. I hope that helps whoever asked that question.

Question #2: I would love more info on how and what you do for food prep. We keep it pretty simple, but I feel like I'm probably missing out on the easy foods to prep and then reheat.

Okay. So, first of all, I have a free pdf that I've created. It's all about simplifying your grocery shopping, planning your meals and prepping your meals. It's something that people really, really like. It's one of my most popular downloads. I will link that for you in the show notes, which you can find at alliecasazza.com/shownotes/59. It's totally free and it's really helpful. I broke this down within that pdf.

So, I'm like you, whoever asked this question. It is mostly pretty simple. It's mostly meats, produce and cheese, but also a couple of “side” things. One of my favorite things to have prepped is grilled-up potatoes, like those baby red potatoes. I really like those and they're good for you. And it's a good filler, especially because we eat really clean. Sometimes only vegetables, or only vegetables and a little bit of meat is not quite filling for me. Sometimes it is.

This might be TMI, but I don’t know if you guys are like this, but I have one week every month right before my cycle starts where I am starving to death, I'm insatiable. I just need a lot more nutrients. I need more food on my plate and I'm just starving. And so, I'll definitely have potatoes with every dinner that week because I'm so hungry. (I'm sorry Daniel, my male podcast editor, that I talked about my cycle.)

So, I love to have baby red potatoes. I slice them up and quarter them and then just saute those up with some olive oil or maybe some grass-fed butter and some herbs. Then, I put them in Tupperware and I store them away and they can just be reheated. You could do the microwave if you want to, but I try not to use my microwave. I usually heat them up in a pan. Sometimes I won't, I'll be honest, because I don't want the extra dish, but it does still save me time because potatoes take a long time to cook. And I'm not re-cooking them; I'm just heating them up real quick on a pan, if that makes sense.

So, I like to have things like that. Definitely sliced cheeses is great. I don't really do this anymore but I used to make my own yogurt and I would have that made and stored in the fridge. Definitely chicken. I like to buy a flank steak at the natural market by my house and have Brian grill that up and season it really lightly and then slice it up. Steak is one of the few things that I'll actually eat cold. I think it's really good cold. Other than that I'm really weird about my food being hot and fresh. So, just like basic meats, potatoes.

If you guys follow me on Instagram, you've probably seen how I always am sharing when I get home from grocery shopping, I don't just put the groceries in the fridge, I will wash and slice the berries, prep everything to where it's ready to grab and go. It's less about being super creative and having all these foods that you're preparing, and more about you're going to have to do these two or three steps to eat the food, why not just do it right after you buy it from the grocery store versus getting it from the grocery store, putting it away and then having to prep the food before you eat it?

I get into that “batching mode” of, “I'm prepping my food, I bought it and I'm prepping it to eat” and now throughout the week I can just grab it and go. The berries are already washed and sliced. It's easy for the kids to grab. Things like that.

I've shared this before too, but I also am kind of weird with my food feeling like it's all “reheats.” I definitely like to cook dinner and eat it right away, but there are some foods that I'm not weird about that I'll totally eat reheated.

It’s just a preference of mine. You guys might want to get into the food prep zone and do way more than I'm doing. I'm just finicky about it. I'm a little high maintenance with my food.

So, that's what I usually prep. Chicken, flank steak, potatoes, fruits and vegetables. And then I'll have some cheeses and stuff for the kids. Kind of a grab and go status. So that's what we do. It's really simple. I wish it was fancier and more like, “Wow, Allie’s amazing and super smart,” but that's what I do.


_______________________________________________________________

Do you feel like you are barely getting through your days friend? Does motherhood feel more like a hurricane of chaos that you are just surviving rather than the awesome, joy-filled season that you want it to be?

Well, motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.

Unburdened is the overwhelmed beginner’s guide to a simpler motherhood.

In Unburdened, I will walk you through how to stop over-complicating, procrastinating, and just start making positive changes now. How to declutter, just a little bit – not super deep into it, because you can’t handle that when you are this overwhelmed – but a surface declutter that will get you real results in your house so you can clean up less.

How to declutter toxic relationships in your life and set some good boundaries. How to simplify cleaning, get healthy and feel better – finally!

How to simplify your calendar. How to start owning your time and not just managing it as life happens to you.

How to stop just setting goals and letting them sit there. Start actually defining where you want to go and getting there through reverse engineering and goal-setting.

How to create a cleaning routine that works for you and your life.

This course is a mini-course. It is small. It is straightforward. But it is everything for the mom who feels like she needs a total overhaul, but is too overwhelmed to start.

It will help you simplify the things that have you stuck and leave survival mode behind for good.

Is this resonating with you? Sound like you? Does this sound like something that would really help you right now? Go to bit.ly/getunburdened.

I really poured my heart into this little course. I created it for the mom who is really wanting to simplify, declutter, and pursue a life of less, but she is so burdened and overwhelmed with the mess of life. It’s not just her house. She wants to simplify at the surface of all the different things in her life so she can focus on her family more. So then she can focus more specifically on really, truly purging her entire house.

If this sounds like you, I encourage you to check it out. You are probably the person I created it for. I want you in there. I want it to help you.

Check it out.  bit.ly/getunburdened.

_______________________________________________________________

Question #3: How do you decide which books to keep? Do you store them somewhere? Do you use digital books or do you have paper books? For you and your kids?

Okay, so my thing with books is that I love them. I'm a major bookworm. Some books just need to be read on paper.

Very, very few books, actually, I can look it up right now. Very few of my books are on audible. Okay. I've got 12 books in my audible APP right now and I've had my audible account for quite some time. I read about two to three books a month. So, that just shows you the ratio of how many books I have on paper. There are a lot of books in my house.

So, the thing is I really love the look of a nice full bookshelf in a room, especially with my decor. I really like clean straight lines, very modern, very white decor and it can kind of look un-cozy sometimes. So, I have little tricks that I do to make my house look really lived in. You can sit on the couch and curl up your feet, but it's still beautiful and modern and my style. Extra throw pillows and throw blankets thrown on the side of the couch and layered rugs and things like that.

And a bookshelf full of books in multiple rooms of my house. There's a shelf full of books in my room, a shelf full of books in the homeschool room, shelf full of books in the hallway coming into my living room. I love the look of lots of books. In my office I've got a bunch of books.

I keep most of the books that I read unless I loan them out and don't get them back, which happens a lot. And that's one reason that I do like getting paper books because I like when my friends use me like a library but don't give me my books back. It makes me happy that they're reading more, that I'm encouraging them to read, and I can give them suggestions on what to read.

But I do get rid of books that are either damaged or that I really didn't like. I've shared this before that I kind of bop between topics of reading and I'll read on one topic a whole bunch and then I'll go to something else. So recently, I was in a faith category of books and I was reading all these different faith-based books, The Case for Christ and Jesus Feminist and all these different faith-based books.

I ordered one that looked really good, and it was about women in the Bible and God's view of women and being a strong woman in modern day, yet still being a Christian. And I was really excited to read it. I got it and it was written by a man. I just was put off by that and like, “Well this isn't what I wanted.” I skipped, flipped through it but I didn't want to read it. I didn’t want to waste my time on it. I ended up just donating it right away.

I go to the donation center pretty often at our house, less often than I did when I was purging, but still pretty often. And books go in there when I know I'm not going to want it around.

So, that's how I do it with the kid’s books, they rip more because they're little. But if it's not damaged and something that we're going to read again, I just love having shelves of books in my house.

So, I think it's up to you. For me, it's worth it. It's part of my decor. It is something that I like. It's a quirk about me that I love having books everywhere. Of course they're organized and they're clean and minimal in the way they look. There's not one shelf full of all my books. It's scattered throughout my house to cozy up different rooms.

But that's me and that's a really specific quality of mind. It's not like I'm telling everyone to do that or you'll even want to do that, but that is what I do.

Question #4 (and our last question of the day): I see on your Instagram that you guys are at Target a lot. Me Too. How do you handle practicing minimalism and not going crazy at some place like Target? Any tips or strategies for enjoying shopping while also avoiding just accumulating more junk?

This is an incredible question. I think it needs to be a full episode, (so, thank you, whoever asked this) but I'm going to answer it here too quickly.

So, we live literally around the corner from Target. I could walk there in a few minutes. When I drive it takes me less than two minutes to get to Target. So, because of that I don't really make lists for stuff that we're running out of. We will run to Target multiple times a week and just grab what we need. I think being a minimalist for over six years now I have the practice and discipline to not go crazy at a place like Target. I've learned to see something and appreciate that it's adorable and not have to have it unless there's a place that I want to put it, or it will help me in some way, or I need it or love it in some way and I know where I'm going to put it.

I don't really struggle as much with that, “Oh my gosh, this is so cute, I'm going to buy it” thing. And I think that just comes from a few years under my belt of practicing living a lifestyle of “intentional lessness” for lack of a better term.

I really enjoy packing the kids up and just driving over to Target. Our Target has a Starbucks inside of it and I’ll get an ice coffee or a tea. The kids will bring a little toy with them and they'll walk by the cart and play little games with their toys together while me and Brian take a breath and get out of the house for a second.

You guys have to realize that I run the business from home. We homeschool the kids. We are home a lot, so it's kinda like just going through our normal life and then we'll realize “Uh-oh, I'm out of Q-tips. Oh, okay. Everyone get dressed, we're going to Target.” And the kids are like, “Yeah!” and we'll pack everybody up. We really want to get out of the house because we're always here, so we use the Target around the corner for that for us and it's really great.

But you'll notice we leave with the Q-tips and that's pretty much it. The kids don't expect toys when we go there. We've never done that with them so they don't irritate us by wanting to go and get a toy or anything. It's just really easy. So that's how we do it.

But I think it really just comes from practice. Don't go to that cheap dollar area. It's just like total clutter zone. I'll stay away from the clothing section a lot of the time unless I'm looking for something because, first of all, it's usually cheap and not super high quality and won't last long. And also, because I do have a little bit of a harder time in that section. I just really love clothes and fashion and styling myself. But if I have everything that I need in my closet and I'm not looking for anything, I won't go over there.

The other day I went over there for the first time in a while because I had needed to get a new pair of workout pants and I didn't want to get them at Lululemon. I wanted to get a cheap pair of running pants that I could destroy. I went over there and it was nice. I browsed. I looked at the T-shirts. They had so many cute things. I looked at the shorts. I grabbed my running pants and I just left. I was able to appreciate how cute everything was, but know that I didn't really need anything and just leave happily.

So, I think it's just about the practice of minimalism.


_______________________________________________________________

This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

Hey mama! Just a quick note, this post may contain affiliate links.

 

Ep 052: Coffee + Questions with Allie

Facebook_EP_052(1).png

Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • How to store your kids toys without dedicating a whole space to a toy room.

  • Ways to help minimize overwhelming your sink (and yourself) with piles of dishes.

  • Practical tips for simplifying outdoor toys.

Mentioned in this Episode:

SuperMom Vault 2.png

The Supermom Vault is a library of inspiration I created for you. It holds replays of my very best online workshops that aren’t available anywhere else, tons of really actionable pdf’s that are downloadable with just one click, more than 20 audio and video trainings from me, and professionally designed printables for your home to keep you focused and inspired. If you want more than just the podcast and are looking for more actionable ways to help you get started when it comes to minimalism and simplifying your motherhood, then the Supermom Vault is for you!


who doesn't love a GIVEAWAY?

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


I_ve_got_you_2.png

Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 _______________________________________________________________

Question #1: How can I store my kids toys without a toy room? Okay, so this is a good question. I actually don't like the idea of having a room just for toys because I think it just begs for excess. You've dedicated an entire room in your house for something that can actually inhibit your kids’ creative play and it doesn't really leave a lot of room for being intentional in purging things that are not really loved, really being used, and really serving your kids' childhood. So, I prefer to not have a toy room. I know it's really common, especially here in America, to have a toy room or a dedicated space as a play area. I would suggest if your kids have a shared room, put a toy chest in there.

My three boys share a room. The two older boys are in a bunk bed and then on the other wall Emmett is in his own little twin bed. They have one toy chest in their room at the foot of Emmett's bed. It's just a regular, medium-sized toy box from Ikea and all their toys go in there. That’s where the toys are kept. They can get the toys out, bring their swords out and play Ninjas in the living room or whatever. When we're cleaning up, that's where they go.

You could also do a smaller bin in each of their individual rooms. We have a lot of common toys where they don't really belong to one particular person and they're just “our toys” and everyone plays with whatever. And so, the one toy chest works really well for us. But if your kids all have their own room then you could do a smaller bin for each of them and they can put their toys in there.

You could also do a toy chest in a common area like behind the couch in the living room. And that's where all the toys go. You could do a basket by your stairs if you have a two-story house and that’s where the toys go. You have a few different options but definitely don't feel like, “it's a lack of space and it kind of sucks that you don't have a toy room” because I actually really, really love the idea of not having an entire room in my house dedicated to toys. Like I said, it just begs for lots of excess because there's room for it.

Question #2: Can you help with dishes overwhelm with kids? There are just so many dishes. Yes. Another great question. First of all, I want to give you guys permission to use paper plates in seasons of insane overwhelm. If you're moving, if you're starting a business, if there's sickness that’s been plaguing your house for weeks. If you have a new baby, if you're pregnant and exhausted. If your husband started a new job and he's traveling a lot more than you're used to and you have to adjust to that. Use paper plates in seasons of crazy overwhelm. I use paper plates when we are launching a new course in the business or if we are going through an intentional time of chaos.

There was a point really recently where the kids had baseball three nights a week. Bella had horse lessons two days a week. We were in the thick of finishing up our homeschool year. I was launching a new course. It was insane and you can bet your bottom that I went to Costco and got the giant pack of paper plates and temporary plasticware - forks and spoons and stuff - and used all of that and gave myself permission to make my life a little bit easier.

But in the long run, this is where you've got to have less dishes. You think about it, why do you need more than one type of dish per person? Why? Because friends come over? Well, that's fine. Then have spare dishes, but keep them in a different place because what's going to happen is if you have tons of dishes in your regular cupboards, your family is going to pull a fresh, clean dish out way before they ever rinse a dish that's ready to be cleaned and reused. You don't need more than one dish per person living in your house.

Since this question is about kids’ dishes, get whatever set of plastic plates and bowls that you want for your kids and just have one plate and one bowl per kid. That's it. If they want something else for the next meal, the dishes need to be rinsed off and then it's ready to be reused.

If you have less dishes, you have less to wash. It makes your life so much easier and it makes it impossible to get that giant pile of dishes at the end of the day waiting for you to wash them.

_______________________________________________________________

Hey friend! It’s Allie! Have you heard of the Supermom Vault yet?

The Supermom Vault is a library of inspiration I created for you. It holds replays of my very best online workshops that aren’t available anywhere else, tons of really actionable pdf’s that are downloadable with just one click, more than 20 audio and video trainings from me, and professionally designed printables for your home to keep you focused and inspired.

The Supermom Vault is only $39.00 and is available at alliecasazza.com/allcourses.

Check it out! It’s a really good simple start.

Want more inspiration than just the podcast? Do you wish there were more episodes?  Want more details? Do you want videos? Do you want pdf’s? Do you want to download things and get your hands on something to really get you started when it comes to minimalism and simplifying your motherhood?

This is definitely the place to go!

Check it out!  Alliecasazza.com/allcourses.

_______________________________________________________________

Question #3: How can I simplify outdoor toys? I love that my kids want to spend time playing outside, but the stuff gets out of control and messy and then my yard looks terrible. Okay. I totally understand this. I've talked before about how we have less toys and we encourage our kids to play creatively and be outside. One of the biggest reasons that we moved back to southern California after our time in the midwest is because we really realized the value of living in a climate where the kids can play outside all the time.

So, in terms of the outdoor toys, first of all have only what they use and love. Go through those outdoor toys with your kids. Is there a random baseball and a broken bat? Get rid of all that. Another example, is there random baseballs and nothing to play with them, like you don't have baseball gloves or a baseball bat? Why do you have baseballs, then? Get rid of the baseballs.

Take into account what do you have? Why do you have those things? What are they using? What do they love? Notice for a couple days, what do they play with all the time? Get rid of everything else. Have only what they really use and really love.

Next, get a large outdoor storage bin to keep everything in. They have these at Lowe's, Home Depot, Costco, Sam's Club. I think I've seen a couple at Target, but I noticed the industrial-type stores and big box stores that have big items have the really large ones.

We have a black outdoor bin that I got at Lowe's. It's weatherproof and it's got the little extra locks on each side, so bad weather or no rodents or anything can get in there. We keep things like the baseball bats, gloves and balls in there. The kids have a soccer ball that they kick around. There is a bubble machine they like to turn on so they can play with that when they're in the backyard. Just outdoor toys go in there. Not bikes and scooters and stuff, but outdoor toys can go in there.

That way there's a location that you can fit everything in when it’s clean up time. Don't let your kids just play and leave everything out. Set up a rule in your house where it's like, “Okay guys, we're done playing. You've got to pick up and put the things in the bin.

You have somewhere for things to belong and that's the key. You have to decide how much space things are going to take up by getting something that you're going to keep it in. So that's where the bin comes in.

By getting an outdoor bin for toys to go in, you're deciding this is how much space our outdoor toys are going to take up. Then when your stuff exceeds that amount of space, instead of buying more storage, get rid of stuff so that new outdoor bin becomes the deciding factor of how much stuff you allow your kids to have for playing outside.

We have a pretty big one - the largest outdoor bin you can get - and there's just lots of fun toys in there. It's all stuff that my kids use all the time, every week. But if our stuff exceeds that bin and it becomes not a big enough space to host our outdoor stuff, then I'm not going to go and buy another bin or buy a bigger bin. I'm going to get rid of stuff.

A lot of the time it helps to have the amount of space you're willing to give to something be the deciding factor in how much of that thing you have. It's really helpful to look at it that way.

Also, a quick side note about bikes, scooters and things like that. There are giant hooks that you can also get at Lowe's or Home Depot. You can hang them in the garage and stack multiple bikes and scooters onto those hooks, especially if they're little kid bikes and scooters. They fit better.

We used to have our bikes and scooters on the side of the house and that was fine. But it wasn't covered in our new house, so when it would rain, which is rare here, the bikes would get rusted.

I didn't really want them in the garage because you guys might already know our garage is a really functional space. It's not a normal garage. It's Brian's gym and then he's got his drum set. He plays worship at our church so he has his drum set here, like a music studio. Then behind that the garage is pushed back and there's a faux brick wall we've built, and this is my office. So our garage is a really functional space.

We got these big hooks at Lowe's and we put them on the wall, so now the bikes and scooters hang on a wall in the garage and they're out of the way. They're up off the floor. They are protected from the weather. The kids can get them down because they're not super high up. The helmets hang off of the bike handles.

It's super functional, really easy, and really out of the way. I can link to the hooks that I'm talking about in the show notes.


_______________________________________________________________

This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

Hey mama! Just a quick note, this post may contain affiliate links.

 

Ep 026: Coffee + Questions with Allie

Facebook_Podcast_Template_(10).png

It’s time for another Q+A! In this episode I am answering two questions I get asked a lot. “How I plan my week (with homeschool, work, house stuff, date night, etc.)?” And “How I teach my kids to develop a routine?” I love opening up the floor for you guys to ask questions! You always have such great questions + I want to be able to answer them for you. I hope you enjoy this months Q+A!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • What batch-style planning is and how it has helped her build a weekly rhythm for her business, family, and home.

  • How she has taught her kids to develop a routine.

  • The importance of consistency in creating a routine for your kids.

Mentioned in this Episode:

The_Mini_Course_FB_1.png

Well, motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!


who doesn't love a GIVEAWAY?

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


I_ve_got_you_2.png

Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

_______________________________________________________________

Hey guys! Welcome to The Purpose Show! This is our new monthly segment of Coffee & Questions.

I pick two or three frequently asked questions that I have either always gotten and want to clarify once and for all, or that I have recently been getting a lot. Sometimes I will post on Instagram and open the floor for new questions, which I did for this episode.

I want to know what you guys are needing help with, what you are hearing me talk about, or seeing me do in my own life. What is inspiring you but you are not really sure how to take action in your own life? I like to open up the floor to what you guys are needing. I think it’s really good. I don’t want to get in my own head and come up with content for the podcast just from my own self. I want to hear what you guys want to know.

This week, I have some great questions that I am excited to dive into. So, let’s just jump right in.

Question #1: The first question I received a bunch of times was centered around how I plan my week. A lot of people were asking, “How to do you plan your week with homeschooling, work, family time, home maintenance and errands, spending time with your kids? How does your week look?” That’s a really good question.

I have a lot going on. I don’t just work. I am CEO of our Incorporation, The Purpose Group. I have 9-10 different people working under us and for us. There is a lot of things to manage with that.

We are homeschooling older kids. Bella is in 3rd grade and that’s when it gets a bit more time consuming. The days are a bit longer because there is more ground to cover with her. There is definitely a lot going on.

But I do feel like we have finally struck a really good balance, and I am happy to share.

I don’t know if this is out there, or a lot of people talk about it, so forgive me if it is. But I have created this on my own for myself. There is this idea called “batching.” It is basically a productivity hack. When you are working on a type of task, for example, writing. If you are writing, you are in the “writing zone,” so you want to get all of your writing tasks done in a batch of time that is set aside for writing.

If I write ten pages of something, then I stop to check my email, have lunch, record a podcast, and then I try to come back to writing, my mind has exited “writing zone.” It has bopped around to different things. Studies show that you work much slower, and you are less productive. This idea of “batching” is tackling similar tasks in batches.

That worked really well for me when I was starting my business and doing everything. I was creating my own graphics, writing blog posts, recording audio lessons, creating courses, making videos. All of these different tasks.

Now I am the “face” and “creative brain” behind everything. I decide what we are going to do, what we are going to talk about, and where we are going to take the business. Then I physically do the things that have to be me – live streams, videos, course lessons.

On the backend, all of that stuff is now delegated to employees, which is awesome and frees me up so much. Batching helped me so much when I was in start-up mode. I have taken that idea and carried it into my week. I have this batch-style schedule for my week.

One of the reasons I hate talking about this is because it always sounds so perfect. “This is how I do my week and it is always like that.” And that is just not the case. I am a really mellow person. Our life is very flexible. It changes all of the time.

But, I do have this same “ideal day” or “ideal week” that I go off of. There are little tweaks and changes here and there as needed. I am going to share you what my “batch style” week looks like.

I have shared before on Instagram that there are different days set aside for different priorities. What I mean by that is I know that Monday is a heavier workday than other days of the week. Monday is a day where I am usually recording a podcast, if it is recording week.

I even have “batched” weeks. Every week of the month is set aside for a type of work. The first week of every month, I record the podcast and into the second week if necessary. The third week of every month is usually going over the next quarter or the next month. Looking ahead and planning. The last week of the month is always extra meetings, if they are needed. I even batch in terms of the month.

For the week, I know that Monday is a heavier workday so there are different priorities. Work, homeschooling, and home and life maintenance is how I categorize it. On Monday, work is the heavier priority. I know that I normally spend one to three (at the most) hours in my office in the morning. I definitely do block out three hours for work in the morning.

After breakfast and everyone is settled, I will go into the office and work. I check things out. I check my email only once a week. I catch up on things and take care of any tasks that are waiting for me. Asana is the platform that I use to manage work tasks.

On Monday, the heavier priority is work. That doesn’t mean that I don’t homeschool my kids on Mondays. That doesn’t mean that I don’t maintain my house and do my normal stuff on Mondays. It just means that work gets a little bit of a bigger time block on Mondays. It is my heavier priority on Mondays.

Tuesday is a heavier errands day. That’s the day I usually go to Costco. Or go get “filler” groceries, whatever we need for the week. I will usually go to Target and get house things that we need. Anything that I need to do. If I need to run to Sephora or something like that. I will probably plan that on Tuesday. It is very fluid, but typically Tuesday is a heavier errands day.

Friday is a really heavy meetings day. I always schedule all of my team and professional work meetings. When I need to have a meeting with our CFO. When I need to have a meeting with my Chief of Staff. When I need to have a meeting about press and upcoming speaking events with my PR girl. Those are always on Fridays. I plan for that. I gear up for that. It gets me in a frame of mind for each thing.

Wednesday and Thursday are definitely heavier homeschool days.

You can see how every day I am doing all of these things. Every day I homeschool. Every day I do a little work, at least think about my business and write an idea on my phone or something. I definitely don’t actually come into my office and work every day, but I am still a business owner and thinking about things all of the time. I still homeschool. I still take care of my house. I still run errands.

I do things every day, but there are certain days set aside and my week is very “batch style.”  Monday is very much a heavier work day and it’s “blocked out.”

Brian is home now. When he worked, it wasn’t able to be so simple. It was a “take it as it comes” lifestyle for me. Balancing the kids. Starting up my business. I didn’t have any employees yet, so I was doing everything.

Honestly, if you are in that season, my advice is to put your head down, focus, and take it as it comes. If there is a fire that needs to be put out with your kids, put work aside and focus on your kids. If it is a fire that needs to be put out with your business, have a higher tech day for the kids and focus on getting that business fire put out. That’s how it worked out at first.

Now that Brian and I are here together, he has some work tasks with his role in the business and I have mine. We both swap things out and share the load of schooling and home maintenance as needed. His heavier work day is different than my heavier work day.

We would never purposely plan our heavier work days to be the same day because then that is going to lead to arguing and stress. Who is watching the kids? Who is schooling them? We are both exhausted in the morning from working, now we both have to do homeschooling. We have it on opposite schedules so we are high-fiving and tag-teaming throughout the day. It works really well for us.

There are some weekly rhythms that I have in place to nurture my family, make sure I am feeling good, everyone is happy, we are close, and we don’t get “lost in the chaos.”  We have a weekly date night. We have a weekly family night where we will either watch something on Netflix together and order pizza or have popcorn. We have game night. Sometimes we do board games or sometimes we do video games. Sometimes we want to get out of the house.  We might take a nighttime walk, or a hike. Get out and go see a movie at the theatre.

I have things for each of my individual kids. I will usually grab one of them and take them on an errand with me, just to get that one-on-one time with each kid. If my daughter has been seeming extra emotional or in a bad mood, I will say, “Hey jump in the car. Let’s go get coffee and hot cocoa, walk around Target and get some things we need for the house.” And we can have a talk and I pour into her and give her extra attention.

If any of the kids needed that, I will pick one as I feel it’s needed and take them along with me.  Let them be with mom one-on-one. Brian does the same thing. They are getting some one-on-one time with us as we go through the week and as we live our lives, which is awesome.

_______________________________________________________________

Do you feel like you are barely getting through your days friend? Does motherhood feel more like a hurricane of chaos that you are just surviving rather than the awesome, joy-filled season that you want it to be?

Well, motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.

Unburdened is the overwhelmed beginner’s guide to a simpler motherhood.

In Unburdened, I will walk you through how to stop over-complicating, procrastinating, and just start making positive changes now. How to declutter, just a little bit – not super deep into it, because you can’t handle that when you are this overwhelmed – but a surface declutter that will get you real results in your house so you can clean up less.

How to declutter toxic relationships in your life and set some good boundaries. How to simplify cleaning, get healthy and feel better – finally!

How to simplify your calendar. How to start owning your time and not just managing it as life happens to you.

How to stop just setting goals and letting them sit there. Start actually defining where you want to go and getting there through reverse engineering and goal-setting.

How to create a cleaning routine that works for you and your life.

This course is a mini-course. It is small. It is straightforward. But it is everything for the mom who feels like she needs a total overhaul, but is too overwhelmed to start.

It will help you simplify the things that have you stuck and leave survival mode behind for good.

Is this resonating with you? Sound like you? Does this sound like something that would really help you right now? Go to bit.ly/getunburdened.

I really poured my heart into this little course. I created it for the mom who is really wanting to simplify, declutter, and pursue a life of less, but she is so burdened and overwhelmed with the mess of life. It’s not just her house. She wants to simplify at the surface of all the different things in her life so she can focus on her family more. So then she can focus more on really, truly purging her entire house.

If this sounds like you, I encourage you to check it out. You are probably the person I created it for. I want you in there. I want it to help you.

Check it out.  bit.ly/getunburdened

 

_______________________________________________________________

I do meal planning. I was doing that on Sunday night, but now it is more on Monday night and then Tuesday I go get the groceries. I am a once-a-week meal planner. We get some things in bulk at Costco to have some snacks and stuff, but I plan at least some general meals throughout the week. It is very fluid.

Some weeks it is totally different. If we are launching a new course that will add a bit of extra stress to our schedule. It’s “hunker down” time, where things are very abnormal. Brian will probably take on more work and more household maintenance tasks during launch week because I am overseeing and stressed. I am watching and making things are going well.

But to balance out, we always plan at least a 2-day get away as a family after I launch something new. Sometimes you have to hunker down, work extra and let other things fall away a little bit. But then you celebrate, take a break, and refresh yourself.

Sometimes work falls by the wayside and I let some tasks go. I actually just did that the last two weeks. I was supposed to be recording the podcast, catching up on tasks, writing for all these press article opportunities, and I just wasn’t feeling it. I felt like I wanted to be closer to my family. I just needed a break. I left everything. I let all of the deadlines come and go and didn’t do anything. The world didn’t end. Everything kept going because I have an awesome team behind me.

Now this week, I am super refreshed. My family is doing great. I am working a little bit more. I worked about two hours every day this week, when I normally only work 3-4 hours a week total. I feel good. I love being back here. I am more refreshed.

I have that batch-style schedule throughout the week, but it is very fluid. It changes as I need it to.

Question #2:  The next question I got quite a bit of was “How do you teach your kids to develop a routine?”

I am guessing this question was asked so much because this week I had shared on my Stories so much about the different rhythms that the kids are involved in.

Just to encourage you guys, this can totally happen for you. It’s not like I have some magic pill, or magical Unicorn kids who are special and listen really well and do whatever I want them to. I am not a crazy mean mom either, where they are scared to not obey the rules. It’s simply consistency.

I say this a lot but I am also really big on explaining to your kids what the deal is and why you want them to do something instead of just commanding they obey. I explain to them, “Things are a lot simpler when we do this. I really want you guys to wake up in the morning and make your beds. It makes our day way easier. You get to pick out what you wear. We can just jump right into breakfast.”

Knowing that helps motivate them and makes them understand, especially as they get older. Bella and Leland are 9 and 7, so they understand that logic. They want to know why we do things. If I don’t tell them, they will ask. I encourage that.  

I don’t want anyone to think that I have all these crazy rules and I am a Nazi Mom. “Do not come out of your room until 7 a.m. or you will be in trouble!” It’s not like that at all. It is understanding that this is the way our house works and it runs really smoothly. Everyone enjoys it when it runs smoothly. We are all a team working together to make that happen.

I definitely have to remind my kids and prod them for other routines. During the day, they get caught up in playing, get distracted, and they will forget to do their chores. They forget to pick up after they have played with something. I definitely have to remind them to come back and put their things away. Just normal mom stuff.

But especially with the morning routine, I don’t have to remind them very much.

This came about from being really consistent. The rule right now is 7 a.m. Bella has her own room and her own alarm clock. The boys share a room and have their own alarm clock. At 7 a.m. both of their alarm clocks will beep to let them know it’s time to get up and start the day. Usually they are already awake for a half hour or so.

They know to make their bed as best they can. Hudson’s always comes out like “did you even make it?” He is only 5 and he does his best. Leo helps make his. Bella makes hers really nice because she is 9, and a girl.

They get themselves dressed and come down for breakfast. Then they do their chores. They unload the dishwasher. They just get into their rhythm. I don’t really have to remind them or prod them for that, because it is the first thing of the day.

It really helped me to fit in the most important things that they do in the morning routine. It is the first thing they do. They are not distracted yet. They are not exhausted from the day. It is morning. They are excited to come out. They know if they hurry up, pick up their room, make their bed, get dressed and come down, then they can have breakfast and start the day. Then after breakfast, we rinse the dishes, unload the dishwasher from the night before.

It is a really great morning routine.

Put what you want your kids to help you with in their morning routine. Then just teach it to them really happily. Don’t make it a drag. Don’t make it a chore list. Don’t make it “you better do it, or else.”

It is a part of our routine. It is a part of our family and they are valued members of our family. We are a team and we all need to work together. Otherwise, things are just not going to work out.

It was consistency. Going along with them in the beginning. Showing them what to do. How to do it. Where the dishes go. How to be careful with the dishes. They know it is OK if they break something; I’m not going to freak out. They are not nervous, afraid, or dreading doing the dishes.

They know how to make their beds. They know that I can tell when they are being super lazy and not making their beds well. Then I will nicely tell them “please come back and take care of your bed. Let’s keep our things nice.”

I also know which ones are too little and can’t make the bed very well. And that’s OK. The older ones will help the younger ones make their bed, pick up, pick their outfit for the day. They know the whole routine and it’s awesome!

It was a little bit of consistency. You may need to wait for your kids to get a little older before this works really well for them.

I would say for the rest of the day, teach them routines. Then just remind them to do their routines. Instead of having to remind them to do every single individual thing in their routine.

For example, I will say, “Hey guys! Let’s do our after lunch pick up.” We have lunch and rinse the dishes (or throw them away if it’s paper plates). They know to go through the house and pick up any toys that are out. Pick up anything that needs to be put away. They pick up the back yard. Wherever they were playing, they check it out and make sure it is picked up. That’s pretty much it.

Emmett knows he needs to go and find (he calls it) his Guggle. He is saying “snuggle”, but it’s what he calls his blanket. He goes to my bed and is allowed to turn on Netflix, which he watches for two seconds before he takes his afternoon nap.

Then the other kids know it is time to play quietly. It is not a tech time; they know that. Bella will usually go by herself (she is an introvert) and have her alone time in her room to color, draw or read. The boys will usually go play Legos together. They just know that is our afternoon routine.

Yes, I am reminding them of something. But instead of reminding them “Hey, pick up the living room. Pick up the backyard. Pick up downstairs. Go pick up your room again. Go play quietly, it’s quiet time” I just say, “Hey guys, it’s time for afternoon stuff, or afternoon pick-up” and they just know what to do.

The same for after dinner and all of that. I remind them it is time for a routine instead of having to remind them to do each individual task.

I promise you, it comes with age and consistency from you. And they will get it!

_______________________________________________________________

This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Ep 016: Coffee + Questions with Allie

Facebook_Podcast_Template_(2).png

Have you ever wondered why we chose to have our kids so close in age or how we create boundaries with technology? If you said yes, then this is an episode you don’t want to miss! And even if you said no, I believe you will still enjoy this episode, as I sit down + answer some of the top questions I get asked all the time. So grab a cup of coffee + enjoy!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • The pros + cons to having kids close in age.

  • How she views technology + what boundaries she sets for her kids.

  • Tips for creating a morning routine that will work for you.

Mentioned in this Episode:

YUH Pinterest Promo.png

DO YOU FEEL LIKE...

  • you're stuck in survival mode?

  • the mundane parts of motherhood have taken over?

  • every time you get something clean someone is making a mess behind you?

  • you’ve tried to get organized a thousand times, but it always comes undone within a few days?

If you are screaming "YES!", then Your Uncluttered Home is for you!

When you simplify your mess, you set yourself free to be a present, intentional mom who leads a purposeful life. 


Help_A_Girl_Out!.png

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com and let us know you left an iTunes review. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's mini courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


I_ve_got_you_2.png

Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

_______________________________________________________________

Hey ladies!  Welcome to an episode of The Purpose Show!

This episode is super fun and relaxed which I very much like.  I have been wanting to do Q & A for a while, just because I do get a lot of questions, emails, and Instagram messages.  Questions about my life and how I do things.  All the things that I teach on and inspire you to make changes with.  Sometimes you just have questions.

As my business has grown, I have had to become more and more removed from interacting with each individual comment and message. Sometimes when I get messages, by the masses, a lot of the same question again and again, it tells me that this is something that needs to be answered.

I try to take notice of that.  Every month I plan to have these episodes to just dive into 1, 2 or 3 questions that I get all of the time and just give answers.  I think even if you aren’t a person who asks these questions, you might find these answers helpful.  Kind of a free-for-all of inspiration.  That’s my goal for these episodes.

So let’s dive in!  Q & A with me…

QUESTION #1:  I am in the having-babies, family planning season of my motherhood and would love to know… what do you like and dislike about having your kids so close in age?

This is a super great question.

For those of you who don’t know, I have four kids.  My oldest, at the time of this recording, is 8.  She will turn 9 soon. Then I have a 7-year-old, 5-year-old, and a 3-year-old.  My oldest two kids are just under 2 years apart.  My two older boys are about 15 months apart.  Then Hudson is 5 and Emmett is three, so another 2 ½ years with them.  We had a miscarriage in between Hudson and Emmett, the last two.

Our kids are very close.  Brian and I definitely wanted our kids to be this close together.  We had multiple reasons that went into that.  But the main thing is we just really wanted to have a close-knit family. I think you can have that even if you have large age gaps between your kids.  I don’t think that necessarily means you will or won’t. We wanted our family to be close age-wise, and relationally close.

What I like about it is that it is very easy to remain closely knit.  The kids are all into the same things at the same time.  We don’t have to deal with our oldest rolling her eyes and being really irritated that we are at the park for her brother, who’s nine years younger than she is.  They have all kind of stayed into the same thing.

What this means is the youngest one will not linger in the baby phase very long.  That’s probably what I dislike about having them so close in age.  Well, it’s not that I dislike it.  I guess it’s just a bit sad, a con I guess.  There’s pros and cons to everything.

But Emmett didn’t really get into baby toys and baby stuff.  As soon as he could realize, “oh I want to go and do this with my siblings,”  he would want to go and play with what they were playing with.  He is into Ninjas, Legos, and all those kind of things way younger than the older kids were into those things, because they didn’t have someone pulling them forward.

It’s kind of a pro and a con.  I think it is mostly a pro.  I think it is awesome that my kids are very close in age. They are all into the same things at the same time and can play together really, really well.  I just really like my kids’ age gaps.

I think my favorite age gap is probably Leland and Hudson, who are 15 months apart.  It is basically like having twins.  They are very, very close. It has been a real positive for me. I have had no issues or complaints.  The pregnancy was hard because Leland was so little.  I also had Bella who was 2, when I was pregnant with Hudson.  That was hard, but once they were all here and their relationships started to form, and Hudson was a year old, it was very much worth the difficult pregnancy season.

I think it just depends on you as a mom.

QUESTION #2. How can I begin to limit my kid’s tech use.  I have no idea how to get started here.

I won’t go into the benefits of limiting your kids’ tech time.  I think it is easily findable online. There are lots of studies that are being done or have been done recently. I have talked about it a lot on my website and in webinars.

I think first, do a bit of research.  How it affects your kid’s brains.  Their attitudes.  Notice in your home how it affects your kids.  Get a ballpark idea of what amount of time you are okay with per day.

I used to be pretty rigid with 30 minutes per day and that was it.  Now it’s a little bit more fluid because we love technology and it is a big part of our lives.  It is my entire business.

For the kids, we have the Nintendo Switch.  We have a Vintage Super Nintendo the kids love to play with us.  We have Netflix.  We do all of that.  We have a normal home in terms of technology.

It is just such a normalcy for us to limit it. I don’t really feel the need to be super, super rigid and have a timer like I used to.  Because the kids will just naturally shut it down after that time.

Not always.  There are some days where it is raining, freezing, maybe someone is sick, and they will play all day if we let them.   Or they will switch between playing games and watching Netflix.   That’s fine. It’s a sick day, a bad weather day.  There are certain days throughout the year that are like that.  I don’t think that’s a big deal. It’s a rarity. It’s not the norm. I think that is the key.

Typically, it’s 30-45 minutes a day. There are definitely days where there is no technology at all. The kids don’t even think to ask about it.  It’s just not a part of our day.

I am really happy with the balance our family has struck with technology.

I think the first step in getting there yourself is researching, finding your ballpark timeframe during the day. Do you think it’s OK for your kids to spend two hours? 20 minutes?  It depends on you as a mother and what your gut tells you feels right.

I think that it is a great idea to take a break from technology altogether for 1-4 weeks or so if you want to.  It is sort of like a cleanse.

It will be awful at first. I am not going to lie to you.  Your kids will totally go through withdrawals.  They will be super whiny and bored. It will be really difficult.

But it is so amazing to see how their imaginations wake up from a deep slumber. They will start to use them again. Start to play again. Their relationships will get better with each other.  They will be playacting and having conversations. Coloring and playing outside. Making up games.  It might take a week or so, but they will get there.

I think it is really sad that technology has robbed our children of play in a lot of ways. I am very thankful for technology. Like I said it is a big part of our life. It’s in our home.  We use it all the time. It is part of most of our days, but I do think that it can take over and rob us of a lot of good, sweet memories.  Playing, that organic play that kids are made to be good at.  It makes them unable to do it, like they don’t even know how.  That’s not how I want my kids to grow up.

I would start there, by coming up with a timeframe.  Maybe consider doing a technology cleanse.

Some of you may have followed me way back in the day, but about two years ago we did a cleanse from technology.  We had found it was creeping back in and taking over again.  We were going to do 30 days of no TV. No Netflix. No Nintendo. Nothing.  We actually just removed the TV from the home to eliminate distractions.

Brian and I have had a TV in our room for a while, because watching Netflix together at the end of the day is one of our favorite things to do together.  So we left the TV in our room for us.  We didn’t really take a break.  It was mostly for the kids.

We felt like we were relying on it a lot as parents, so we did a 30-day no-TV thing.  We loved it so much.  We were so thrilled with the results of our kids’ relationships from that cleanse that it ended up lasting for over 6 months.

The only reason it returned is because football season came around and we love to host our friends and family for football games, so we brought it back.  After that, I feel like that was when we really hit our stride with technology being very balanced and not the main event in our house. It was a really cool time. We remember that season really fondly. We talk about it a lot. It was a neat time and started us off on a good foot with technology.

_______________________________________________________________

When you buy something, you buy it with your time. With minutes from your life. Not just with your money.  Studies show us that less clutter equals less stress and more time.  It is really as simple as that.

This was the founding reason that I created Your Uncluttered Home.  It has become my most popular, globally-praised, decluttering course that I designed for moms who want to live their lives more than they want to clean up after it.

It is truly the A-Z of minimalism.  Every room. Every area. Every nook and cranny of your house totally uncluttered.  This super extensive, extremely detailed course is literally everything you need to become a minimalist momma who is able to be a lot more present for what matters most.

To learn more about the course, go to alliecasazza.com/allcourses.  

This really is the short-cut version. The exact journey that I took as a mom, 5-6 years ago, that got me to this point of an uncluttered, minimalistic motherhood where I am spending the least amount of time on my house every day.

Motherhood is just way too sweet a time to be spent struggling so hard and living in survival mode day in and day out.  Our stuff is really the cause of that.

If you want to start this lifestyle, if you want to simplify your life… I believe that it all starts at home.

Simplify your life.  alliecasazza.com/allcourses.

_______________________________________________________________

Having said that, I think that you need to know in yourself what you want. Remember that you are the parent. Anything that you do for your kids in this area is meant for their well-being. You’re not being mean. You’re not being cruel or making things harder for them.  You’re trying to make a good decision. Raise them well.  Raise kids who know how to play, enjoy life, have conversations.  Kids that know how to interact with people. Kids that have the right priorities.  I think that is all a really good foundation.  I think that is the most important thing.

Consider a cleanse. Find your time limit.  Once you do, start setting those limits.

We have a timer in the kitchen.  We use Alexa. We will just say, “Alexa set a timer for 40 minutes.”  If someone is in the middle of a turn when the timer goes off, they are allowed to finish their turn, save it and then shut it down.  There is no complaining.  They know that’s the rule. There’s no freaking out, sighing, whining.  They know to stop and turn it off.  The way it got that way was just by us setting the timer ourselves, and saying, “Ok guys, let’s finish up this turn. It’s time to turn it off.”  And not giving any attention to their meltdowns or complaints.

There was a period of time where if they complained or threw a fit about the timer going off and it was time to shut it down, we would just calmly say, “Ok this shows me that technology messes up your attitude and you need a break, so we will take it away for three days.  Then you can have it back and we will try again.”  They learned that if they freak out and have a meltdown after the timer goes off, then they lose it for a few days.

You can find your parenting foundation in that.  What kind of a parent are you?  How strict are you normally?  Find a way to make this fit in with our parenting philosophy. What we do may not work for you. Or it may not sit well with you.  You might not want to do it that way.

I don’t like to get into parenting stuff because everyone is so different. It’s such a personal preference. Everyone comes from different backgrounds.  But those are some of the things that we have done that have really worked well for us. I feel really happy with and really proud of the place that technology has landed in our home.

That’s the journey we have been through.  The different things we have tried. The rules we have implemented.  At this point, it is just a house rule.  My kids know they are not entitled to tech time.  It is just not that way in our house.  I feel really peaceful about that. I really love where we are with that.  I hope that helps you guys.

Ok, we have time for one more question.

QUESTION #3:  I would love to develop a good morning routine, but I don’t know where to start.  How should I go about creating one that will work well for me?  How do I know what to do during my morning routine?  How do I know how early I need to wake up, etc.?  Thanks for any help.

Morning routine really comes down to you and your life, and what you need to accomplish.  I will use myself as an example, because there have been different seasons of morning routine for me.

A while back, a couple of years ago, I was in a place of starting my business.  Brian, at the time, worked for a big company.  He worked really crazy, long hours.  He was gone all day. We homeschooled the kids. I didn’t want to be working all day with headphones in while the kids were watching TV. I really wanted to do the bulk of my work early in the morning and be done, so I could be present with the kids and focus on homeschooling during the day. Then I could focus on the business during nap times, quiet times and after bedtime.

That meant that I had to get up super early.

This was huge.  God had really put this on our hearts. We couldn’t afford to quit Brian’s job yet.  I knew this was really going to go somewhere and I was very, very dedicated.

At this point, I knew that I had four hours of work to get done, before Brian left in the morning, for me to really grow my business and get it off the ground in the very tight timeline that I wanted.  I was getting up at four in the morning, dragging myself downstairs, pouring a cup of coffee, and getting to work on my laptop, almost every single morning except for Sundays.

That was incredibly difficult but also incredibly empowering and rewarded.  My business took off fairly quickly and what I wanted to happen, happened.  That was a season of my life where I knew what I needed to get done. I knew what time I needed to wake up to do that. That’s what I did.

There are other seasons where I woke up at 5:30 or 6:00 in the morning.  I would get a few things done, have some quiet time, exercise, enjoyed my coffee, and then started my day with the kids.

Now my season of life is very calm and mellow. I am not in a super crazy hustle season of my business. I have a large team that does a lot of the backend work for me (pretty much all of the backend work for me).  I am really focused on enjoying my life, my family, and my role in my business which is to lead you guys, put this show on, come up with new creative ideas, new topics and things like that.

Now my morning routine is very loose, simplified and enjoyable. I usually get up about 6:30 in the morning (a lot less early than I used to).  I read. I pray. I have some time of meditation and worship. I will read my Bible. Have my prayer time first. Then pour a cup of coffee, read a chapter of a current book.  I am always reading a book. Reading is very important to me.  Usually I do some Yoga or take a walk.  Then the kids come down for breakfast and we start our day.

My morning routine is a lot more relaxed.  I don’t need it to be rushed. My husband is home with me and running the business with me.  We are homeschooling our kids.  It doesn’t need to be so rigid and crazy.

Hopefully, that gives you a bit of an example that it can ebb and flow, shift as your life does.  Your morning routine should reflect where you are at in your life.

Having said that, where do you start?  Look at your life. Look at your schedule. What would help you to get done in the morning before your day really starts?  By that I mean, when your kids come out of the room and it’s time for breakfast, to get them ready for school, whatever your normal daily schedule is, what would be so helpful for you to have done?

Is it quiet alone time?  Is it reading and self-care?  Is it exercise?  Is it just waking up, taking a shower, getting dressed for the day? Having a cup of coffee in peace before the day really starts?  Is it getting up really early and knocking out a bunch of work tasks?

My biggest thing has always been, “what is the most important, key thing that I need to do today?”  I want to start the day out by getting that done first.  There is a saying that I read in a book once (I can never remember who said it), “If it has to get done in the day, then it needs to be done first.”  Otherwise life happens, interruptions take place, and you probably aren’t going to get it done.

Right now, in this season, that’s self-care.  I am in a place where my job is to serve other women.  I see a lot of unkind messages on a weekly basis. I am dealing with a lot of judgement from other people. I have to be “on” all of the time and I am an introvert.  That’s draining sometimes. My kids are at home all of the time and we are homeschooling.  That’s also an energy drainer.

Right now for me to be my best self, the most important thing is to have that time with the Lord, and take care of myself first.  Work can wait and start later.  But before, that was not my season and I really needed to make things happen, to hustle, to get where I am today.

Ask yourself where you are at?  What is the most important thing that needs to get done?  Would it help you greatly if you got a meal in the crockpot?  Got a load of laundry done? Got yourself dressed for the day before your kids woke up?  Would that be, “Oh my gosh, that would feel so good!”

Or is it something else. Start there. Once you have your answer (pair it down to 1-2 small things; be realistic) ask yourself how long each task will take you and that will give you your wake up time.

If you know that you will have to get 3 hours of work done before your day starts, and you serve your kids breakfast at 7:30 in the morning, then you know you need to wake up at 4:30.  See how that works?

Also a bit of a trick… if you are finding that it’s too much. If it’s an ungodly hour and you do not want to wake up that early to get those things done, see if you can fit something into your evening routine.

If your kids go down at 8 o’clock for bed, is there something you could do to “prep” and get it partially done?  Maybe you could lay your clothes out. Set the alarm. Choose the workout video for the in the morning. Make breakfast for everyone and have it in the fridge ready to reheat in the morning.  Maybe you could wake up a bit less early. Can you get your workout in at night?  Can you get 45 minutes of laptop work done before you go to bed?

Look at your schedule and routines from an aerial view if you can. Detach yourself emotionally from the stress of planning it all.  Look at the breakdown of what you need to get done each day? What does your morning routine look like?  What does your evening routine currently look like?  How can you find the cracks and fill them?  Arrange it in a way that really works for you and increases your productivity.

_______________________________________________________________

This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!