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Ep 068: Ask Brian + Allie Anything! Anniversary Edition

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Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! In this version, I have Brian with me because we are celebrating 11 years of marriage this month! We get asked a lot of questions about our relationship and we thought this was a fun way to answer some of them. From how Brian proposed to what we are looking forward to in the next 11 years of our marriage, if you asked a question, we may answer it in this episode! So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode Allie and Brian Discuss:

  • Their favorite features about one another (hint, Allie has a thing for Brian’s muscles!).

  • How their awkward proposal story reflects their fun relationship.

  • Ways they handle differences in their marriage, personalities, and parenting styles and how they use those differences to strengthen their family.

  • Why they cannot play board games (anyone else super competitive?).

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Motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!


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Brian's Avocado Benedict Recipe:  

Prep the hollandaise sauce. I use this recipe: http://www.pinchmeimeating.com/easy-hollandaise-sauce/

Toast a slice of sourdough, or English muffin, or sweet potato “slice” for a Paleo version. You can put a little olive oil or grass-fed butter on the toast before you toast it if you like.

Make guacamole out of half an avocado (salt, pepper, little bit of lime juice, little bit of garlic powder & diced onions)

Poach an egg or two for about 4 minutes

Sizzle up a slice or two of bacon

Put a layer of the avocado mix, a little spring mix or arugula on the toast, a slice of bacon, followed by the poached egg(s) on top of your choice of toast. You can sprinkle some salt and pepper on top if you like

Drizzle the hollandaise on top and enjoy!


Here are some of my favorite photos from our wedding day. I cannot believe this was 11 years ago!

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Ep 040: How to Stay Close with Your Spouse with Jennifer Smith (The Unveiled Wife)

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Staying close to your spouse is hard. Especially if you’re balancing work and a million kids. There is no sugar coating it! But when we know the purpose of our marriage, it becomes easier to make our marriage a priority. It is about communication, setting a vision, having those tough conversations, and creating time for intimacy. Sure, the arguments will happen! But it is how we respond in them that matters.

Jennifer Smith is a wife and mama to 3 little ones (and another on the way!). Alongside her husband, she provides tons of resources for married couples navigating hardships in their marriage. Jen and her husband are honest and open with the things they have been through and strive to provide hope for those walking in the same challenges.

 
 

In This Episode, Allie + Jennifer Discuss:

  • How knowing the purpose of your marriage makes it easier to stay close to your spouse in a full, busy life.

  • Having a vision for your marriage and the hope that it brings when you are going through hardships.

  • Thoughts on arguing with your spouse when kids are around.

  • Tips on openly communicating intimacy issues with your spouse.

  • Ways to express your feelings and communicate them in a way that won’t feel like an attack.

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Motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.


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Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey ladies! Welcome back to another episode of The Purpose Show!

I am so thrilled to do this one today. We have Jennifer Smith of The Unveiled Wife with us today.

We’re going to dive right in and try to keep this brief because we’ve got 7 ½ kids between us, so at any point somebody could interrupt or something could happen.

ALLIE: To start off, tell us a bit about your family. I wanted to give you space to share your marriage story because it’s the basis of everything that you do and it is really powerful. Can you give us a bit of background?

JEN: My husband and I have been married for 11 years and we have three children with one on the way. Elliot just turned five. Ollie is going to be 3 in about two months. Wyatt just turned one and the next one will be due in August.

We're really excited about our growing family and learning how to navigate all of that. It’s really exciting and fun.

Our marriage story is interesting and full of the ups and downs that I'm sure every single marriage faces. I know people's stories differ from situation to situation, but the hardships are hardships and it's difficult sometimes to get through. Our hardships started off right away.

If I could be really blunt, it had to do with sexual intimacy and it being really painful for me. For the first 3 ½ years of our marriage, we were just devastated. We had saved ourselves for marriage. We had all these expectations about what marriage would be like. We were really disappointed. We felt like we were suffering in that area. Because intimacy is such a requirement for marriage, it amplified a lot of other areas for us, like finances and just our attitudes on a daily basis were pretty negative.

We struggled for about 3 ½ years with that. Then God walked us through a healing process of fixing a lot of those areas in our life, including intimacy. A really unique part of our discovery is that things that were my personal care products, which I was putting on my body every day, was hindering my body from functioning the way that it should be, specifically parabens. I don't know if anyone's familiar with that, but we see it a lot in the cosmetic industry. “This is paraben-free.” I feel like there's a lot more attention coming towards that now, but back then not a lot was being said about it, so it was hard to figure out. But, we finally figured it out and once I took all of that out of my system and I'd switched all my personal care products, things changed within a week. It was pretty amazing.

Then it was this healing process of my mind and being anxious to go into sexual intimacy because I didn't want it to hurt. That was another year of retraining my mind. But, we figured it out and then we wanted to share our story.

We started blogging and sharing the things that we were learning. I was learning about how to be a wife, what God was teaching me about living a healthy lifestyle. It started gaining momentum so quickly. We have so many followers that love what we're doing and we feel so supported by them. It's been an incredible journey. We've been doing it for seven years now, which is crazy to think about. I feel like time's just flown right by.

That's the summary in a nutshell of what we've been walking through. My husband and I still blog together. We write resources for married couples and try to give them the encouragement that we felt was so necessary when we were going through our hardships. I felt like if someone could just have that little bit of hope to get past that one day, it's enough to maybe change the rest of their future together.

ALLIE: Yeah, absolutely. And I think it's so random what was causing your problem. People don’t realize. You guys have done so much in redirecting marriages, wives, and husbands to the Lord and bringing Him to the center of their relationships again. It's easy to get self-centered and try to fix problems ourselves. You guys have done so much work to “rebirth” that idea the way that it's supposed to be.

But even setting that aside, just bringing light on the Parabin thing. It's so random. People would never think to look at that. I can't even imagine how many countless women you've helped realize, “I had this problem too. I didn't really know how to talk about it, or where to go, and this was totally it.”

I think everything about what you guys have done is so amazing, and that's why it's grown so big. That’s why people love you guys so much is because you're so honest. To me, that's what you guys are known for. Being super honest. “Here’s what we're struggling with. If it’s you too, here’s some help; if not, that’s OK.

There’s a lot of questions I get asked and I can answer and that’s fine, but I really wanted to bring you on to answer them yourself because marriage is sort of “your thing” and what you talk about and they think it's important to get other “takes” on things.

One thing that I always get asked a lot is, “How do you stay close and remain in that close space with your husband in the midst of three/four kids, a really busy life? You guys are like us where you both work together. You run a business together. You’re homeschooling, right? We have a very similar situation. It's so amazing to be able to work together, and this was our goal, but if anything, it's harder to intentionally connect on a personal level because there is work, kids, and homeschooling involved in our relationship now. It's easy to go out on date night and end up talking about those things. What would you say is a way that you and Aaron have remained close throughout all the business, all the kids, and all the things going on in your life?

JEN: I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. It’s hard. I feel like there's so many high priorities, especially in this early phase of young kids. Aaron and I do run our own business. There's a lot of high-priority things that require time and attention. It does get really difficult to make sure that we're coming together and being intimate even if it's just a conversation or letting each other know where our hearts are at.

But, I think when we know the purpose of our marriage, then it becomes really easy to make that a priority. Aaron and I always try and come back to the purpose of our marriage is oneness and we know that we can't do this individually.

We can't parent individually. We can't run our businesses individually. Everything is so tied together to the oneness of our team that we have to come together. Sometimes I do forget this and I do struggle. I'm exhausted. It's the end of the day. I've been through a lot. I just want to crash; I want to go to bed. Then he's sitting next to me sometimes scrolling through social media or whatever, and I just want to go to bed.

But I know that the priority of our purpose of “being one,” of being on a team, I have to communicate to him. I have to tell him where I'm at, if I'm struggling with something, if the kids had a hard day, or whatever the thing is that's on my heart. I need to tell him and if for whatever reason I fall asleep before that happens, I have to make time for it either the next day or whenever I get that chance.

My husband and I do carve out time to do this. We try and do a date night once a week. If, for whatever reason it doesn't happen, because our babysitter canceled or whatever, we just do it as a family. We let our kids play in the living room with blocks or something and we'll just talk right in front of them.

We love to go on drives. Our kids love drives. Sometimes we'll put a movie on long drives or just encourage them to talk to each other. That gives us a time to go over maybe some of our goals or what are we working on. That's some of the ways that we try and come together.

ALLIE: I love the drive thing. We do the same thing. The kids are contained and safe. We will turn on a movie or music and, “everyone relax and be quiet.” Then we can just hash things out.

Also, one funny thing that we used that for was when we were going through a really rough time in our marriage, probably two years ago now. That’s how we would “argue.” The kids were there so you can't get out of hand. They are contained and safe. We can sit and discuss like, “OK you go and then I'll go next.” It was always civil and calm because the kids were there, but it was a way to work things out. The kids are safe and busy. We're fine. We're going to work this out and we're not stopping driving until we're fixed. It’s a funny way to do it, but whatever works when you have little kids.

I love how open you've been about your guys’ intimacy issues in the past and that you guys are totally on the other side of that now. A lot of the messages that I'm sure you receive and that I receive, were things like “I just can't open up to him because we have issues and it's hard for me.” Do you have any tips for being communicative to your husband about intimacy issues? Typically, the man doesn’t really use sex to feel close and the woman needs to feel close before sex. I feel like I get a lot of messages with that theme. How would you encourage people to be communicative to their husbands about intimacy issues?

JEN: The first thing I always say is start with the spiritual side of things. It's really hard to go into conversations like that without God really prompting your heart and making sure that your attitude and everything is under control. I always want to encourage people to go to prayer first. Pray for your husband's heart. Pray for your heart. Pray that everything that you do communicate comes out right, and that God would help you navigate that conversation.

You have to make time to be able to talk to your husband about these things, because if you avoid it, then you're talking about years of accumulation of things that aren't being said. And that doesn't help anyone.

One thing that I wish I had learned earlier is that you have to practice communication.

So those first conversations are probably going to be kind of muddy and messy and, they may not unfold the way that you'd hoped. You and your spouse are basically training each other in how you respond to one another, how you get messages across, or how you let each other know where your hearts are.

It takes practice over time. Like I said, my husband and I have been married for 11 years now. We have put in the investment of communication. We've figured out how to best communicate and we still mess up. It's a matter of doing. By doing you gain experience and you start to understand that you can work through that.

ALLIE: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I love that answer.

Kind of on the same topic, do you have any more tactical tips for actually how to express things and communicate things in a way that doesn’t seem like an attack? It's hard not to go there when we're very emotional, they are hurting our feelings or whatever. What are some tactical, practical ways to bring things up, phrase things, to not make it sound like, “You suck. Everything sucks. I'm mad at you.”

JEN:  I think that understanding that God built our bodies with emotions is really important. But, we are still called to have self-control and we're responsible for how we communicate in those emotions. So, if you're really intense, if you have those really strong emotions, I would wait. I would push pause a little bit, just so that you can reign it in.

Then, when you go to talk to your husband, start with “I.” “I” feel like this is happening or “I” have been struggling because of this. Because when you start with “I”, they're focusing on you. Whereas, if you start out the conversation with, “I really feel like you are…,” you’re pointing the finger and starting with a complaint, and it's going to start the whole thing off on a negative foot.

When you start with what you're struggling with or maybe what you've realized over the last however long you've been struggling with an issue, I think it could soften things a little bit.

A long time ago somebody encouraged me to do “the Manwich,” which is complement, critique, complement. I don’t tactically use that, but you could. But, I just started with trying to compliment my husband and saying, “Hey, I really noticed you've been strong in these areas and if I could just encourage you in this other one…”

ALLIE:  Oh yeah. I love that. I think a lot of people’s main issue is communication. As far as Brian and I, he is very sweet and I'm very blunt. I have no problem saying, “I can't believe you did that that way. That was so dumb.” I have to tone it down and he's so sweet. But also we'll hold it in, so then it volcanoes out eventually. We had that going on for the first half chunk of our marriage. We had to really work on toning that down and smoothing it out. I hadn’t heard it called “the Manwich”, but someone told me about “the compliment sandwich kind of thing” and it really helped.

I didn’t want it to feel condescending. “You're so good at this. I just really wish that we could work on this.” I don't know, it felt weird. It felt a little bit unnatural, which is good. That's why it worked because it was my not my natural fleshly way of handling things and it really, really helped. I still try to do that when I'm focusing on being a good wife. It really, really helps. He always says, “I love talking with you because I want to grow and be a better husband. And I love it when you say it in that way.” It's not like, “this is another thing that's not going well.” It softens it.  

JEN: It softens your heart too. I think when you come at the situation with a compliment for your husband, your heart can't be in a negative place or you can't be gritting your teeth while you're complimenting them.

It really does soften the whole atmosphere. It brings a gentleness to the conversation that I think they appreciate.

ALLIE: Yeah, exactly. There's always something to be grateful for. There’s always some reason that you married him in the first place that’s good about him. Bringing up something that reminds you of that, especially if it's really an issue that you are hoping can be changed, it's hard to talk about those things.

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ALLIE:  Staying on communication, I don't even know a specific question but I just wanted to talk to you about arguing. Do you have any general tips for how to argue? The kids are there and if things get really heated, what are your tips for that kind of situation?

JEN: I have changed my viewpoint on this little bit. I used to think that arguing in front of the kids was a good thing because then they get to see you also make up and show apology, forgiveness and all of that. Because I believed that, I justified my intense behavior in front of my son. I remember, specifically, the moment that changed for us. My son was about 1 ½ maybe 2 years old and my husband and I were arguing in the kitchen. To us it didn't seem that intense, but we also had a problem with bickering at the time. Things were escalating.

Our son was standing between us in the kitchen; we didn't even recognize him. He was standing there crying as loud as he could, just adding to the chaos. We stopped immediately and realized that we were creating this atmosphere of intense chaos for our child and his little heart didn't need to participate in that. He didn't need it and we didn't need it. It wasn't a healthy way of communicating for us. That really opened up our eyes to what was going on.

Now there's times that things come up and we get a little heated in our conversations in front of the kids still. We recognize it a lot sooner, a lot quicker and we're quick to cut it off. We actually do practice apologizing to our children. “Mommy shouldn't have said that to daddy like that” or whatever.

I've learned there's other ways of showing the kids how to be in unity with my husband and showing that forgiveness and apology even if they don't see the arguing.

ALLIE: Do you guys go to another room and work it out?

JEN: Yeah. If we notice that things are escalating to where things are being said that we don't want the kids to hear, we'll save it for later and make sure that we go away or wait until they're sleeping or whatever. We do whatever we need to do to protect their hearts. We want them to see us as one unit. We want them to see us as a team. We are trying to cultivate that in their hearts so they know who we are and that they can trust us and feel secure around us.

ALLIE:  Yeah, absolutely. I've had a similar heart change with arguing in front of the kids. It’s really out there. I feel like that's more the common piece of advice is to go ahead and argue in front of the kids. It’s hard when we do that.

Like I said about the “car thing.” It makes you keep it in a conversation where you're just discussing it. I love that you had that change of heart after seeing, “this isn't really working for us” and making it work for your family.

JEN: To encourage those listening if there are continual heated arguments happening and the way that you guys are responding to each other and communicating is not healthy, that needs to be addressed.  

I think you guys can work together as a team to encourage one another to change and mature in that area. Because I think that even if we're doing it behind closed doors, it's still not a good thing. It's not healthy to be arguing with that kind of intensity, especially on a regular basis.

I encourage you to maybe evaluate that part of your marriage. If heightened, if it's intense, maybe work on that. Hopefully that encourages some people that are listening.

ALLIE: Yeah, absolutely. I love everything that you said. We’ve gone through such a hard time with that and I wish that I had found you sooner because it would have helped me so much. Knowing that it is OK to feel like this, but you just need to address it. Not feeling shame or feeling like, “Your marriage shouldn’t be like this. You’re not going to make it.”

I remember one time somebody handed me a book and it was basically a scientific study on how to know if your marriage is going to make it or not. It said, “I'm a 100% accurate,  if I see this then you're eventually going to get divorced.” And it made me feel like, “there's no hope here.”

Jesus can radically change anything. That’s what draws me to your guys’ messages. It’s a hope anthem. Any marriage is if those people are willing to change or even one person is willing to change and work on things. I love that about you guys.

My last question for you is what is one way that you would like to encourage our listeners to pursue purpose, just right where they're at. If you want to relate that to marriage or something more general. What is on your heart in terms of them pursuing purpose in their lives right now, wherever they're at.

JEN: I would say that vision is really important and it's a really great way to experience that unity and oneness with your husband. My husband and I pretty much started out on our journey with goal setting and we love this. We love to take a day or drive or whatever it is and lay out on the table what are some goals that we can work on together as a team.

Now that we have kids, we even add them into the mix and ask ourselves, “OK, what can we do for Elliot? What can we do for all of them? What are some things that we want to look forward to in the future that we can work on today?

This really helps put us back on the same page too, so that he's not out chasing his dreams and I'm not out chasing mine. It really helps us keep the focus on our unity and our oneness. It reminds us about our marriage, what we're striving for.

We do this often. We do it at the beginning of every year, but also throughout the year as we're hitting goals or if new ones come up.

I want to encourage everyone out there that if you don't have vision for your marriage, you are basically living a little hopelessly because you don't have anything to look forward to. Even if you're going through hardships, if you have something to look forward to, it really gets you through that next day.

That was true for us. I think that was one thing that really carried us through those hard times that we were having. Establish a vision for your marriage, - for your family, if you guys work together or whatever it is that you want to goal set for - paint this picture of your future of what you want it to look like.

Even if it's a month from now, start. Start small and then work your way up to years or whatever. I really feel that it will get you guys communicating because you have to talk about how to accomplish those goals and what strategies you're going to make. It'll help you move forward together as a team.

ALLIE: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And I think it's Proverbs 29:18, that says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” It’s so true, as a family, as a couple, anything. I have applied it to my business, my team, our family. It's such a team building thing for you and your husband to be on the same page.

And I've found Brian’s goals will maybe be a little bit different than mine, or I just don’t have those goals right now. We can still pull it together and make it work together to where we're helping each other. I love that you said that.

Thank you so much for being here and sharing your wisdom. I am so honored to have you.

Jen has written how many books now? 8 or 10?

You’re at Unveiled Wife, pretty much everywhere on social media, right? Where are you most active?

JEN: I am most responsive on Instagram? I'd say it's just quicker for me to shoot out a response there. And then second would be Facebook.

ALLIE: OK. So, we'll link to everything there in the show notes.

I have Wife After God. It’s an amazing book. I encourage you guys to get it.  

Jen has been blogging a year longer than I have, so there is a huge archive. You can get lost in there.

It’s unveiledwife.com. Go check it out.

But thank you so much, Jen. I'm so excited to have you here.

JEN: Thanks for having me. This is so awesome.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

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Ep 022: Working with My Husband: Lessons Learned & Q+A

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Running a business with your spouse is like an amped up version of being married. You are together all the time. You are having business meetings together, eating 3 meals a day together, watching the kids together, planning new content together. You do all of it together. And when you are used to being on your own it is weird to, all of the sudden, be doing it together.

We are getting ready to celebrate 2 years since Brian quit his 9 to 5 job and have learned a few things. But my favorite part is that I get to run my passion project with my best friend. I don’t have to “fill him in” on things because he is here doing it with me. Maybe you + your husband work together. Maybe you guys are thinking about it. Or maybe you’re just curious about we do it! Whatever the reason, I hope that you find some encouragement in this episode.

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • How to transition from “you’re always gone” to “you’re in my space all the time.”

  • The importance of support when running a business together.

  • How it’s not about who is the breadwinner, but about discovering who you are and the value you bring to the business.

  • Boundaries when it comes to running a business with your husband.

  • The pros + cons of working with your husband.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey friends! Welcome to Episode 22 of The Purpose Show. In today’s episode I am going to be talking to you about working with my husband, Brian.

Most of you probably know that we run our business together. We have an S Corp and my blog, my courses, and what we do in my business are all underneath our incorporation. We run that together and there is a lot that goes into that.

Because we have a different dynamic in our relationship and lifestyle of running our business, I get a lot of questions, email, and messages about how this works. What is it like working with your husband? Do you like working with your husband? Does it cause any strain in your relationship? How do you balance the different areas of your life that you run together? Do you have boundaries?

I am just going to talk about this for a bit and answer a couple of the more common questions.  I would encourage you guys to find me on Instagram and send me questions if I don’t cover them in this episode.

Brian and I really love talking about it. We are passionate about it. We love what we do and we love our lifestyle together, although it was definitely a difficult transition. We have learned a lot along the way.

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At the time this episode airs, we will be a couple of weeks away from celebrating two years since Brian quit his 9 to 5 job, which was more like a 7 AM to midnight job. It was a lot of hours. He worked six days a week most of the time, 12-14 hour days all the time.

If you want to hear more about our story in terms of starting the business and how my blog got him away from that job, I would encourage you to listen to episode 6. It’s all about our story from complete poverty all the way to the other side through my blog and this business.  Go check that out. I will link it in the show notes.

It has been almost 2 years since Brian quit. I wrote in my notes to discuss the transition from “you’re always gone” to “you’re in my space all the time.” That’s really what it was.

That transition was really extreme. It was literally like “you’re always gone.” Brian would come home late at night, way after the kids’ bedtime, and a lot of the time after I was asleep. He would eat dinner really, really late. Then he would get up early in the morning, before the kids even woke up.

It was really, really hard. It felt like he was always gone. I did everything from dawn to dusk, bedtime and beyond, by myself. It felt like single parenthood. Making decisions. Running errands. Dealing with difficult toddlerhood issues. Raising the kids without Brian.

We went from that to the opposite. He quit. He was home. We were together all the time. For the first few months the focus was getting my business up and running in a way that would fully replace his income, and then exceed it. And it did exceed it, more than we ever could have imagined.

In the beginning he had to quit because it was necessary. It was, “either you quit or I do because I can’t keep doing it all.” I had the kids here, running our home life, cooking, taking care of the house, homeschooling, and trying to get a business to become a thriving thing all by myself.

We prayed and decided that he would quit and we would take a leap of faith. We had seen that it was a viable idea but we just hadn’t gotten to that point yet.

The first few months were fine because it was all about getting the business up and running and we did that together. Once it happened, we found ourselves in a different position. The business was doing pretty good. It was a lot but we were doing it together. It was great, but it was definitely strange for both of us in different ways.

For Brian it was like, “who am I if I don’t get up and go to work every day?” I had rhythms and routines in place, that I didn’t even realize that I had. A way of doing my day with the kids. A way of doing “house” that I didn’t realize was so important to me. I quickly realized that it was so important when Brian came into the mix and was “around” all the time. “Messing up” my house, my system and my day. When you are on your own, doing life, all of the time, it is weird to all of the sudden be together all of the time.

We had lots of different things that happened. We both worked on the business together – a lot – but Brian wasn’t leaving the house, going to a 9 to 5 job, clocking in, earning hourly wages, and then coming home. It was this never-ending thing where we were always working on the business, always talking about it. We were taking turns sharing the load of the house, the kids, meal preparation, and all of those things.

He started to plummet into this depressiveness from being “shell shocked.” He was grateful, but also kind of ungrateful because he felt like he didn’t know who he was without going to work every day. And I was struggling with just being “annoyed” all of the time because he was just kind of “there” all of the time. It was just hard for us. It was also weird. We were both so grateful and this was what we wanted. To be honest, we felt weird to be having a hard time with it.

We didn’t have any role models of people who had done this before us. My parents are entrepreneurs and they owned two businesses together since I was born, but it was just different. My mom ran more of a secretarial role in the business and my dad ran the physical “going and getting the job done” part of the business.  It wasn’t like ours. Our business is online, at home. We were making decisions and running it together.

There were really good things about it. We had awesome brainstorming sessions. We fell into this routine of doing that together every couple of days. We would get the kids in bed or lay them down for naps and then go into the office and shut the door. We had a wall full of white boards. We would have lunch together and come up with all these new content ideas.

It was so fun. It was so nice to have him there for that because I was trying to do that myself.  I am a very external processor, so it helped me greatly to fall into that routine of doing those audible, verbal brainstorming sessions with my husband, who is also my best friend. I trusted him. We had that really great dynamic together. It was really good.

It wasn’t like he left work and it was just awful. There are some really difficult parts of it that I want to be honest about. I feel like in today’s day and age, it is easy to make everything look super fluffy. While I am always really real, I can only share so much on social media. This is more of a platform where I can dive a bit deeper, and be honest. I want to share some of the things that we struggled with for some of you who may be in the same place, or may be considering getting into this lifestyle.

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I see it like this: Marriage already brings out your flaws. Everybody knows that. Anyone who has been married will tell you that. In wedding ceremonies, the pastor always makes a joke about that, or comments on that. Marriage will really bring out any flaws. Anything you think is quirky or comical about a person, will soon become an annoyance and a major flaw once you are married and settled in. That’s just what marriage does. It brings out the flaws of the other person to you. And it brings out your own flaws to them and to yourself.

But being married and running a business with your spouse, will not only bring out your flaws, but it will shine a five billion lumen floodlight on them. And bring out a thousand others that you may not have known you had. Or that the other person had.

It is very vulnerable. It is very unique. It definitely will show you everything that is wrong with you. It will show you everything you don’t like about the other person.  It will show you every difference that you have.

I found the key to navigating it is to decide that you are going to work through things. That you are going to work through the differences and problems instead of ignoring it, sweeping it under the rug. Ignoring it because you are too busy and you need to focus on the business. Or just calling it out and saying that you don’t like and demanding the person to change it.

Running a business with your spouse is like being married on crack. It is a really amped-up version of being married.

Having said that, I wanted to dive into the things that I have learned in the past two years of Brian being home with me and us running the business together. These are a few simple things that came to my mind when I was thinking about this episode.

The first thing I learned is that his support is so crucial. In our relationship, I am definitely more of the self-centered one. I am more of a “taker” and Brian is more of a “giver.” I am more of the classic entrepreneur. The “don’t stop until you make it” type. I come up with a lot of ideas. I just have an entrepreneurial spirit.

I tended to think that I could do things myself and didn’t need any help. It is why I had a hard time hiring people in the beginning of my business. I thought “nobody can do this like I can” or “I can do this myself” or I don’t need anybody else.”

It’s not like I walked around saying that to myself all of the time. It was just an inner attitude.  I very quickly learned that Brian’s support is so crucial to my success and the success of my business. I definitely could not have him be indifferent or not thrilled about what I am doing. I will fully admit that I need him.

I need him in my life. I need him in the house. I need him in my business. I need his support. I need his brainstorming sessions. I need his input. I need his calm, steady presence when I have to fire someone, or have a difficult discussion with someone. I absolutely would do this so much worse without him. He is crucial. His support of the business, my passion, my mission, and what I am doing, is so, so crucial.

The second thing I have learned is that being the breadwinner is inconsequential. It doesn’t really matter. We learned together that Brian’s value does not lie in being the breadwinner, which he was. We had always been in agreement that I would be home with the kids. I never really imagined doing anything else. It’s not like I was a stay-at-home mom who was always bored. One who couldn’t wait for her kids to get older so she could do her own thing. I had a lot of friends who had that mindset, but I never related to that. I was very, very content to be a stay-at-home mom.

When things got really difficult and super tight, I would always think about getting a part-time job or find a way to help. Brain would always say, “If that’s what you really want to do, I will support you, but I do not want you to do that for money. I love having you here and I know you love being here.” That’s the page we both landed on for forever.

It’s so funny. I can’t even tell you how surprised I am that this is where we have landed. That, not only do I have something else that I am doing, but that it is our livelihood.

We quickly learned that Brian’s value does not lie in being the breadwinner. And neither does mine. My value doesn’t lie in being the breadwinner. Brian found who he truly is during this change in our lifestyle. We have both discovered what really makes a man and what makes a man a good man through this process. It really has nothing to do with “bringing home the bacon.”

Without Brian, this business would fall apart because I would not have that support, encouragement, and brainstorm sessions that I desperately need to keep this thing going.  And to keep myself going so that I can do these things.

I am such an introvert. I love what I do. I love it. But at the end of a day of recording, interviews, speaking to a group of women, I am just so drained. And he knows exactly how to refill that well for me. How to help me refresh my spirit and find rest. He knows when I need to talk and when I need him to not talk at all. He is so supportive and encouraging. I just couldn’t do this without him.

It’s not about either of us being the breadwinner. It’s become an identity in our culture. We quickly saw that. We quickly saw how much Brian was depending on that for himself as a man. Finding his identity in what he did.

He didn’t find purpose in what he did (installing cable), but he found purpose in supporting his family, being the breadwinner and providing. Outside of that, he didn’t really know who he was. Who can blame him? With those hours it’s not like he had time to go on a soul-searching expedition or anything.

We see it as, “Could I find someone else to take photos and create videos for me?”  Of course I could. Without me the business would keep going, just without any new content straight from Allie Casazza. Neither of us is “all important.” Neither of us is the “breadwinner.” We are both replaceable.

However, we are both a reason this thing has taken off.  We are both looking up, praying, as we seek God’s guidance in managing His business. It’s His; not ours. We are both working hard to spread this message of hope and light further and further for mothers everywhere. We are both passionate about that. Brian’s passion comes from mine. We are connected. We are one. I am so passionate about this that it has made him passionate too. This is our business and our thing.    

We purposely built the business up to a point where the team is managing the backend so much that if something traumatic happens in our family and we need to fall off the face of the planet for a year, the business will keep going. Keep making money without us. It is good. It is something that give us peace. We are both totally replaceable. Neither is more important than the other.

Just because it’s alliecasazza.com, and it’s my voice in your earphone right now, has nothing to do with it. Because I wouldn’t be here, talking, if it hadn’t been for Brian. Truly. I wish there were more words in the English language for me to express how valuable and precious his support is to me.

The next thing that I learned is that boundaries are good. When you are married, you have kids, and a business – boundaries are good. But sometimes we don’t feel like we need them.

I guess what I mean by that is when do you talk about business? When do you talk about homeschooling? When do you talk about you? When do you discuss your life on date night?

I have heard the rule, “don’t talk about the kids or business on date night.” I understand why people say that. I don’t know if maybe Brian and I have something different than other couples. Everyone seems to give that advice. Business can get touchy; it’s related to money. That can be a hot button issue for sure.

But, Brian and I are really passionate about what we do, what our business is for and we like talking about it. When we go on date night, we always talk about our kids. About homeschooling. About what we want to do about business. Talk about work. Talk about our team members. Talk about what goals we are reaching. We also talk about other things, like what books we are currently reading. What we feel like we are learning in our relationship with the Lord. We also talk about us.

I guess I would say that boundaries are good and they have a place, but it’s OK to feel like you don’t really need them. You just love what you do. You love your life together. Your business is a part of that life. Your kids are a part of that life. Your work is a part of that life.

We definitely make sure that there is a balance in our talks together. I will say, “how do you feel about us and where our relationship is at right now?” Then we can steer the conversation away from the kids and business, and just talk about us.

We talk really openly with each other. We are so open with each other. We will talk about our relationship. What problems we think we have had lately. Brian might flat out say, “I feel like we need to spend a little more time alone together and not with the kids.”  “I really feel like we need to up our date nights.” A few months ago we really amped up our date nights. We go every week, religiously. And we love it.

We have that balance. What needs our attention right now? This is our life together. The kids. Money. It’s all a part of it. If it is date night and there is something that needs our attention, but we are pretty good, we will talk about it. We don’t have those hard boundaries. It would make me so stressed to not talk about something that we need to talk about.  

I am an external processor. Brian is such a good listener and he loves talking about our life together. He always wants to ask me questions and find out what I need help with. Is there anything I want to talk about? Is there anything new going on? More often than I, he will have things to talk about. We like talking about our life together when we are together.

I have found having those tight boundaries doesn’t work for us. We definitely do have some boundaries and times where we need to focus more on us, but we kind of go with what we need. What we need to talk about. What needs our attention and we both enjoy doing that together.

I wanted to talk about that famous saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” There is truth in that. We definitely felt that from our previous lifestyle of always being separated and really missing each other. When we were planning this big change in our life, I was definitely worried how that would affect us.

It has been so much better this way. If you choose to openly discuss and work through the hard parts, the awkward parts, the annoyed parts, I would say “presence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Absence makes the heart grow fonder because reality fades away. When you are together all day, every day, you are in it together. You are doing life and all the mundane parts of it, side-by-side, hand-in-hand, together. And in that, presence makes the heart grow fonder.

I do not feel like sobbing through another episode (referencing episode 6 again) but I do want to communicate that I just don’t know where we would be if we didn’t make this transition.  Things were so hard and our relationship was always strong, close, and open. I was always so proud of our relationship despite our hardships. But being together – all day, every day, sharing the load, doing life together, really truly, in day-to-day situations that you can’t have if you are not together – has grown us closer than I ever thought possible.

I don’t want anyone to be really annoyed, turn this off, find me, and slap the crap out of me in an alleyway somewhere because they were so annoyed by what I am about to say, but I have just have to say it. Sometimes I just stop and think about us and I just can’t believe this. I can’t believe how close and sweet our marriage has grown from making this change and actually doing our days together. It has really made a difference.

I want to encourage you guys that if this is something you want and you’re worried about it. Yeah, it’s going to make you work on stuff. But it is going to make you work on things that you would get out of working on if you weren’t together all day, every day.

To wrap things up, I wanted to touch on what I like about this lifestyle and what I don’t like about it. Keep it super honest.

What I like about this lifestyle is the freedom. Instead of having “work hours”, I have more of a “running task list” that I can fit in whenever it works for me. If we want to ditch everything for the day and go to Disneyland with the kids, we can – because of homeschooling, running our own business and being the CEO’s. It’s really nice. It works really well for being such a busy family. It definitely helps me remain pretty mellow because things can ebb and flow and switch around when they need to. It makes it unpressured and easy.

Another thing that I life about this lifestyle is the constant help from each other. If Brian needs help, needs a break, or really wants to make it to a Crossfit class, I can take over and just do everything.  Actually, by the time this comes out he will have returned, but in a couple of weeks Brian is going on a guys’ trip to Nevada for a full week. That’s something that he really, really needs. It is going to be so good for him. I am so happy that he gets that time.

I will be taking over. I have cleared my work schedule. I will handle all the homeschooling and the house. Go back to how things used to be for a week. I have his back. And I can make sure he has a great time. I am holding down the fort.

I can’t even tell you how many times it has been reversed. I am in a Mastermind and we did a retreat in L.A. I was gone for 3 ½ days and Brian took over and handled everything. I don’t come home to a disastrous house. I don’t come home to everything undone and the kids haven’t showered. We have each other’s back.

When I needed to visit my friend in Florida, he was here. When we lived out of state, and I wanted to come home to California and visit family to do some test runs for the creation of my course, he held down the fort for five days. We take turns. We have each other’s back. That’s neat that we have the freedom to do that.

I also think that doing day-to-day life together is pretty uncommon because of jobs. It’s really beautiful. It gives us something that others don’t have. I see that a lot. I am really grateful for it.

My favorite thing is being able to run my passion project with my best friend and not having to “fill him in” on things because he is here doing it with me.

I have a couple of things that I don’t like but I don’t want to focus too much on them.  Honestly, we have worked through them during this process (like I was talking about before).  But, of course, there are pros and cons to everything.

What I don’t like is those “blurred lines.” Are you the co-owner of the business? Are you my co-teacher with kids? Are you my husband? It definitely blurs the lines and that can be difficult sometimes.

Of course, there is a heightened chance of arguments. It was really bad at first for sure. We really struggled. We went through about six months of constant bickering because we were just not used to being together all day. We were balancing a lot of new things. It was a stressful time. It was very new. It was super, super hard.

There is more that we are doing together, which makes more to argue about. But I can tell you from the other side now that you can work through that. You can totally fix that. It is not like that at all anymore.  It is in the past. We are so far removed from that. But you need to be on guard. You need to remain kind and respectful of each other. You have more against you in terms of arguments.

I think it is important to always choose gratitude. At some point in your life, all your hopes and dreams, can happen. They can turn sour if you choose to focus on the negative or you don’t work on the hard parts. The grass is always greener on the other side. When you get there, you are going to have problems, just different ones. You have to choose to stay grateful, focus on the positive, and work on the negative. Don’t just accept it as what it is. Don’t be annoyed about it. Don’t let it make you resentful. Choose gratitude. Work on things. And your life can totally turn around from that.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Ep 015: Prioritizing Date Night No Matter the Season You're In (feat. Brian Casazza)

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Although Prioritizing Date Night seems like an episode that might be helpful before Valentine’s Day, I purposely waited until after because I believe date night is all of the time.  It shouldn’t be something that is focused on once a year. Date night is an investment. And what you choose to invest in is important. Being busy, having kids, and not being able to get away are not excuses. Choose to prioritize date night with your spouse - it is worth it!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie + Brian Discuss:

  • The value of date nights as an investment in your relationship.

  • Viewing date night as a hobby, not just something on the calendar.

  • The importance of relieving yourself from the pressure of date night.

  • Date night ideas for every couple.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey ladies!  Welcome to Episode 15 of The Purpose Show.  This episode is all about prioritizing date night, no matter what season you are in.  My hubby is here with us.

BRIAN:  Hello again!

ALLIE:  So we purposely waited to do this episode after Valentine’s Day, although it seems it is an episode that might be helpful before Valentine’s Day.  I purposely waited till after because I believe date night season is all of the time.  It shouldn’t be something that is focused on once a year.    

When you have that attitude, your expectations and pressure to make Valentine’s Day super special, crazy romantic, goes away.  Because you have that time together all of the time.  It doesn’t mean you have to go out of the house. It doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot of money.

We have walked through probably every season of date night imaginable.  We wanted to share our take on all those different seasons, what we did in each one, and give you some inspiration and ideas to hopefully have you putting a date night time block on your calendar this week.

BRIAN:  What I have learned over the years, and what we have done together is using date night as an investment.  For example, if you don’t put any money in a bank to save it, there is never going to be any money saved.  There is never going to be any money there.

So I need to put in that time into our relationship bank throughout the year. I feel like it is an investment in our relationship, in our marriage over time.  You need to see that I am showing that I care by investing in spending that time.  That’s one of your love languages, too.

To put that time in throughout the year is important.

ALLIE:  Where you invest your time, honestly money too, is important. Sometimes there are seasons where you can’t really do much, but when I see that you are free with going to nice restaurants with me and putting that financial and time investment into me, just makes me feel so loved.  And of course, those are two things that are my love languages.

Investing in another person, spending time with them. If guys were initiating, “hey when are we going to do date night this week?”, and you had the babysitter on the phone on hold, have the calendar open, we would just swoon.

It makes us feel so loved to know that your husband wants to spend time with you.  That he is concerned about missing that time with you.  I think there have also been seasons where you were not that way and I carried it.  We have been married for a while and it is a maturity of “couplehood”.

BRIAN:  There were times when there was a pressure for me to plan a date night, or bring it up, or talk about it.  Things get busy. Things happen – good things, bad things – sometimes we would forget.  You would feel so sad.  You would feel it was a “if I didn’t do it, then it wouldn’t get done” kind of thing.   

But we have come to this place where we know that we need this for each other.  We plan it together.  We both just collaborate with each other.  We know that we want to go out on a date night every week or every month.

ALLIE:  That is such a good point.  In the past my attitude, as a young wife, was very much – my love language – time and money spent. I didn’t realize it at the time.  But if Brian gets me a present or invests in me financially, or spends time with me, those are the things that fill me up the most.

I didn’t really know that at the time, but back in the day, I had this expectation of “if you don’t think to spend time with me, take me out, even if it is just at home. I am not high maintenance when it comes to what we are doing, but if you don’t initiate spending time with me and having a date night with me, then you obviously don’t love me at all.”  That was my attitude.

BRIAN: It was hard for me to understand it that way, because it wasn’t my love language.

ALLIE:  I wasn’t really even communicating it.  It was like, “read my mind.”  The classic man/woman marriage struggle.  It was really, really hard.

Over the years we realized that it was such an expectation, really unrealistic, and really unconstructive, actually destructive.  Lots of arguments about that. It was just so hard.  Now its very much, “there’s no need for you to carry all of that, even though you kinda do.”

Recently, when sickness hit us we kind of skipped a couple of weeks.  You were the one who was “hey we should go out, let’s plan a date night, when do you want to go?”  It was nice.  The pressure is gone.  You actually enjoy spending time with me and want to spend time with me.  We have formed this habit of going out together as a couple.  When it is not there, you notice and you miss it.

Because I am fun to be around when I am not having my arms crossed and standing in the hallway with my heels on and my purse like, “are we even going to go?  Do you even love me?”  That’s gone now.  It is definitely this collaborative “coupleness”.

Date night is one of our hobbies. We love doing that together. We make it so fun.  “What do you want to get to eat this time?”  “Oh, I wanted to try that new drink, lets go to this new restaurant.”  “Afterwards do you want to walk around Target, go the lake?”  We will talk about it and we get excited.  The expectations are dead.  It is a collaboration together of how we are going to cultivate love in our marriage.

BRIAN:  Date night doesn’t have to be like that Valentine’s Date Night.  Like, “we have to go to dinner. We have to go to the movie. We have to go to this crazy romantic place because it is ‘date night’.”

I feel like date night is just you being you and me being me.  Putting everything aside and spending that time with you.  We have done it every way in the world.  Being at home with a dollar in the bank account. Or with lots of money in the bank account, it doesn’t matter.

At the house, with the kids with us, we would figure out to have them do something together while we go have dinner with ourselves that night.  Or just got something super-cheap that we enjoy, maybe a snack or something special to us.  It just depends on the situation.

ALLIE:  This is just our season right now, and I think we get questioned so much.

On Instagram I always share “date night” and what we are doing.  We love it so much.  I think it looks so shiny, “wow! Date night at a restaurant every week” and some feel that if they are not doing that then they don’t have a good marriage.  It’s just not that way.

We are not that couple at all.  We are super mellow.  We just love spending time together.

This is our season of greener pastures.  Our struggles are minimal right now and we are very thankful for that. We have come through a lot of hard times.  You can hear some about that in past episodes. This is just our simpler, easier season and we are just enjoying it right now.

That was my word for the year.  Enjoy.  We are just enjoying each other and going out to dinner and not having to worry financially about that has been very nice.  But that doesn’t mean we didn’t have awesome date nights on a shoestring budget.

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ALLIE:  Let’s dive in a bit more for the next couple of minutes of our date nights over the years.  I want people to ditch the excuse that their busyness, their kids, not being able to get away, is why they don’t  have time with each other. Let’s talk about things we did before this season. At home date nights.

BRIAN:  There was a point where we didn’t have a babysitter.  When we moved to Arkansas, we didn’t have family.  We had friends and people from the church…

ALLIE:  We weren’t going to ask them to babysit.

BRIAN:  We didn’t have the help that we have now in California.  We didn’t go out on a date for months and months.

ALLIE:  The only time we did was when we came back to California to visit and we would sneak in a quick date night while the kids slept at Mimi and Poppie’s house.

BRIAN: For that situation, we would put the kids to bed.  I would get stuck late at work.  We would make dinner together. Or you would have it made.  We would just sit and try to have a nice dinner that was different than normal that we shared together.  We spent time like that. Or we rented a movie from Redbox.

ALLIE:  Yeah, just something simple….

BRIAN: We would just sit and watch a movie.  Just saying, “we are going to just sit and watch this together”, it was fun.

ALLIE:  There were times where we were just exhausted.  You would fall asleep sometimes during date night. I would fall asleep sometimes during date night.  We would just be struggling.  We were struggling so much in those seasons. There were a lot of life struggles.  Sometimes we were just not in the mood.  But that’s not the point.

Nothing can be based on emotion or mood because then nothing will ever get done unless you are happy or in a perfect mood.  That’s just not going to build a lasting marriage.

I think when you are exhausted, when it has to be late, when you want to fall asleep, it’s ok but you have to make the choice to prioritize date night, no matter what’s going on.

Date night needs to be removed from the stereotype high heels, dinner out with a babysitter, a $400 price tag every time you step out.  It’s ridiculous. It’s unrealistic.

It can be talk a bit on the couch for 15 minutes while you catch up about your day.  Kiss a little.  Love each other a little bit.  Just be in the same place in the same time alone for a second.  The seasons will ebb and flow like everything in life, but the point is to prioritize it.

If you are broke daters, rich daters, at home daters, adventure daters, sit and talk at a restaurant daters.  It doesn’t matter what kind of couples you are or what season it is.  I think the point is to say “I love you. I am in this to win it. I want to connect with you once a week or once a month.”

BRIAN: I think there are so many different ways, so many things that you can do… being at home, order something at home, going out, adventure things, things that are fun.  There are so many things nowadays that you can do together.  I think the point is that no matter what it is, it is choosing to make this a time where we spend together.  That’s the main point.  It doesn’t have to only be a certain way.

ALLIE:  Right. Or be surrounded by pressure and expectation.

BRIAN:  The point is that I am purposefully choosing to spend this time or this night with you and do something with you.

ALLIE:  Yeah.  It can be in the morning.  There were seasons where we would get up at the butt crack of dawn. (Sorry I said butt crack if you’re not listening with your headphones and your kids are right there.)  We would get up and have coffee together. We were freaking exhausted.  But we just made it happen.

BRIAN:  When I worked nights, sometimes your mom would watch the kids while we went to a breakfast date.  {laughing}

ALLIE:  So we put together a free download that is just loaded with all different kinds of date night ideas for every couple.  Date night ideas at home. Date night ideas out. All different kinds of things. Super fun.  I think it is one of the most fun, free downloads that I have ever put together.

Go to alliecasazza.com/shownotes/ep-015  or you can just go to alliecasazza.com/shownotes and find episode 15.  You can download that for free.

It is really, really great.  I am looking at the list right now. It is so long and so full.  It is just super, super fun to have on your fridge as a reminder to love on each other. Spend time with each other. Have fun together.

Be encouraged you guys!  Promise that you will take action. Get out your calendar. Put a little block of time for time with your spouse on your calendar this week. Take a screenshot and send it to me on Instagram.  I want to see!

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Ep 014: A Valentine's Day Quiz with Allie + Brian

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Have you ever played the game “Would You Rather?” In this episode, Allie + Brian play “Would You Rather” in a fun Valentine’s Day Quiz! Some answers are funny + some will make you think about your own response. Get to know Brian + Allie in this Valentine’s Day episode!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie + Brian:

  • Share their answers to a ton of questions playing the game “Would You Rather?”


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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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ALLIE:  Hey guys!  It’s Allie & Brian here!

We are doing a really fun episode for Valentine’s Day because the day this podcast comes out ended up on Valentine’s Day.  We thought it would be fun if we looked up a bunch of different marriage quizzes and pulled a bunch of random questions.  We haven’t really looked at them.  We are answering them for each other, not for ourselves.

BRIAN:  I was also thinking that if you were out on a date today, Valentine’s Day, this would be fun to take the quiz together.

ALLIE:  That’s a super smart idea.  Way to think. Conversation starters.

ALLIE:  Ok we are just going to dive in. I am going to ask the question and then say what I think.  Then you say your truth, what it really is.

QUESTION #1:   Would you rather play a board game or watch a movie with me?

ALLIE:  I am going to say watch a movie with me.

BRIAN:  Yeah, watch a movie. Board games get boring in about five minutes.

ALLIE: Wow, so you hate family game night?  Basically, that’s what you just said.

BRIAN: No, it’s fun with the kids.

ALLIE:  Ok, what’s my answer to that?

BRIAN:  Movie, obviously.

QUESTION #2:  Would you rather be a movie star or a famous musician?

ALLIE:  I know that you would pick a famous musician, because you are a drummer and a guitarist. You can do everything with music. You love music.  What do you think mine is?

BRIAN:  You love music too.

ALLIE:  Yeah, but that doesn’t necessarily….

BRIAN: I feel like you would rather be a musician.

ALLIE:  Yeah, I would never want to be a movie star because the thing I hate is everyone staring at me and that’s basically what a movie star is, with cameras and stuff.  So, no.

QUESTION # 3:  Would you rather go into the past and meet your ancestors or go into the future and meet your great, great grandchildren?

ALLIE:  Just answer this one for yourself, because I think it is interesting.

BRIAN:  I feel like I can possibly trace back and learn who my ancestors were, but I have no idea who my great, great grandchildren would be.  Obviously, that would be cool to see them.

ALLIE:  That’s a good point.  I would say ancestors, because I feel like meeting my great, great grandchildren would let me see way ahead and miss a bunch of gap things that happened, which would make me obsessively wonder what happened in my family. Then you would be obsessively wondering, “what happened to get them here?  Why are they all in Italy?”  You would not know the gaps and that would drive me crazy.  I would rather go back and know our history.

BRIAN:  I don’t think I would care to know….

ALLIE:  Ok, well, I think my answer wins.

QUESTION # 4:  Would you rather spend the next year exempt from all taxes or have one month paid vacation?

ALLIE:  I would say that we would both pick exempt from taxes because we are self-employed.

BRIAN:  Yes.

QUESTION # 5:  Would you rather always speak your mind or never speak again?

BRIAN:  You would always speak your mind.  That’s kind of what you do anyway.

{laughing}  You’re just always really honest.

ALLIE: You’re right.  I think you would rather never speak again.

BRIAN:  Probably.

ALLIE:  That’s kind of what you do now, anyway.  Just kidding!

QUESTION # 6:  Would you rather give or get bad advice?

ALLIE:  That’s a stupid question.

BRIAN:  I would hate to give bad advice. I would really hate that.

ALLIE:  I would pick get, because I can always say, “this is a load of crap. You’re an idiot.”

QUESTION # 7:  Would you rather lose your keys or your cell phone?

ALLIE: I think you would rather lose your keys, because you could just stay home, hang out, and watch a movie on your phone or TV.

BRIAN:  Yeah, but what if I had to go to work or somewhere? I can always go to AT&T and get a new cell phone.

ALLIE:  Wow!  OK.  Because there’s a money tree in the backyard that I didn’t know about.

{laughing}

ALLIE:  Ok.  I would rather lose my cellphone.

BRIAN:  What if there is an emergency?  You couldn’t call?

ALLIE:  I don’t know.  But I don’t like my cellphone very much anyway.  I have all the notifications turned off. I hate when it goes off because it feels like it's pulling my attention. So, that would be ok.

BRIAN: But everything is on your phone…

ALLIE:  There’s no time limit on this question.  Is it gone for the rest of my life, or I just lost it for an hour?

QUESTION #8:  Would you rather always be gossiped about or never talked about?

ALLIE: I feel like that is my reality.  Everyone talks mean about me.  I don’t know.  I guess gossiped about.  Because my business is people talking about me.

BRIAN:  No one talking…

ALLIE:  You would want no one to ever talk about you?  

BRIAN:  Yeah.

ALLIE:  Wow. OK.

QUESTION #9:  Would you rather be stuck on an island alone or with someone who talks incessantly?

ALLIE:  What do you think my answer would be?

BRIAN: Alone.

ALLIE:  Yeah, alone. And I think yours would be the same.

BRIAN:  Yeah.

QUESTION #10:  Would you rather have more money or more time?

BRIAN:  More time.

ALLIE:  Really?  Yeah, I think I would do the same.  Because you can create more money, but time is what it is.

QUESTION #11:  Would you rather have a cook or a maid?

ALLIE:  Cook.  Oh, we are supposed to answer for each other. Sorry.

BRIAN:  You did. Wait, no.

ALLIE:  So you would pick cook too?

BRIAN:  No, I would pick clean.

ALLIE:  I was thinking, “how can I say this nicely?”  You definitely would pick a maid, because I literally never see you pick up after yourself, unless I sigh loudly.

BRIAN:  Oh, that sucks.

ALLIE:  No, I am just kidding. You’re a great picker-upper.  I would pick cook. I hate cooking.

BRIAN:  I know. That’s why we work good together.

QUESTION #12:  Would you rather hear the good news or the bad news first?

BRIAN: Bad news, just get it out of the way.  Oh, sorry, I answered for myself again.

ALLIE:  Yeah, we are really bad at this.  I would pick the bad news first too.

QUESTION #13:  Would you rather have nosy neighbors or noisy neighbors?

BRIAN:  You would say noisy.  I would say noisy for myself.

ALLIE: Ok, you answered for yourself again.  {laughing}  We are really not good at this.  I would pick noisy for my personality.  However, I am a podcaster.  On that sense, I would pick nosy.  They can be peaking over the fence at me while I record my podcast, but if they are playing loud music and having a party, that really sucks.

QUESTION #14:  Would you rather have lots of good friends or one really best friend?

ALLIE:  I think you would rather have one best friend.

BRIAN:  Yes.

ALLIE:  What about me?

BRIAN:  You, the same.

ALLIE:  Yeah. {laughing}  Some of these are really anticlimactic.

QUESTION # 15:  Would you rather live in Antarctica or the Sahara desert?

ALLIE:   I think you would rather live in Antarctica.

BRIAN:  That’s a hard one.  When I think about it… when it gets hot, I start getting really sick, and just want it to be cold.  But at the same time, the coldest I ever felt was pretty rough.   But I haven’t ever been ‘Antarctica cold’.

ALLIE:  I would say Antarctica.  I think you can always create warmth, but you can’t always find cool.

BRIAN:  Yeah, you can never escape the heat.

ALLIE:  We might be saying Antarctica because we are from SoCal and we don’t really know what freezing is.

QUESTION #16:   Do you believe in Bigfoot?

ALLIE:  Just answer for yourself.

BRIAN:  Yes.

ALLIE:  Ok.  Brian believes in Bigfoot, you guys!  I do not believe in Bigfoot.

BRIAN:  I may have seen him.

ALLIE:  Oh. My. Gosh.

BRIAN:  Or one of them.  There’s probably more than one, especially in Arkansas.

ALLIE:  {laughing}

BRIAN:  That’s where a lot of them live.

ALLIE:  {laughing}  O.K. I feel like we should just answer for ourselves because these questions have taken a different turn.

QUESTION # 17:  What scene from a non-horror movie scared you when you were a kid?

BRIAN:  A non-scary?

ALLIE:  Yeah. Not scary, but it scared you.  I have two.

BRIAN:  You go first, then.

ALLIE:  The first one was, I was always a little bit creeped out with Shere Khan from The Jungle Book.  The tiger.  He is super mean.  I used to think that he was under my bed.  I was really scared of him.

The second one… when I was little my mom was going to turn on Raiders of the Lost Ark, Indian Jones.  She said, “there’s a scary part in this.  I don’t know if you should watch it.”  I was really irritated that she would think I would be so afraid. So, I said, “I have already seen it. I totally know.”  So, she put it on.  It was the part where they have the Ark.  They are not supposed to open it but they do.  And the little angels flow out. Then the guy is like, “oh its so beautiful!”  but then all of the sudden their faces melt off and they turn into demons.

I have never been that scared.  I tried to pretend that I wasn’t scared, but tears were coming down my cheeks.  I didn’t sleep by myself for a year.

BRIAN:  You also said you get scared of Jurassic Park.

ALLIE:  Because of the T-Rex.  Because of the T-Rex, Brian.  

BRIAN:  Wow.  OK.

ALLIE:  You do yours now.

BRIAN:  I remember my parents were watching Meet Joe Black.

ALLIE:  With Brad Pitt?

BRIAN:  I think so.  But I just remember this scene.  I will never forget it.  I never really watched the movie after that.  There is a part where the guy is walking across the street and {claps}  all of the sudden is hit by a car. It was the most dramatic, all of the sudden thing.  I have never seen something like that before.  I just had walked in on the worst moment.  I will never forget that.

ALLIE:   If it was as abrasive as the clap that just sounded in my ear, then it would have scared me too.

BRIAN:  {laughs}

QUESTION #18:  If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?

ALLIE:  Ok, I will go.  I would like to know where criminals are, so I could tell the police.  I am so noble.

BRIAN: That counts as a superpower?

ALLIE:  Ok, fine.

BRIAN: I think it’s the basic ones, like being able to fly.

ALLIE:  Ok. Sorry. I would rather be invisible.  {Brian laughs}.  I don’t want to fly. I might get shot by hunters.  Why would you ever want to fly?

BRIAN:  You can fly fast.

ALLIE:  That doesn’t matter. Bullets are fast.

BRIAN:  I still want to fly.  That just seems like the cool thing.

ALLIE:  I want to be invisible so I can creep on people without them knowing.  Not in a like a weird way.  But in a ‘I hear what they are saying about me way’, ‘a fly on the wall’ way.

QUESTION #19:  Describe the worst haircut I’ve ever had.

BRIAN:  You got that one haircut. You called it a really short bob.  Like really short.  {laughing}  I didn’t like it that much. I am sorry.

ALLIE:  Oh my gosh!  Ok.

BRIAN:  But you’re still really beautiful…

ALLIE:  And I get really bloated and puffy when I am pregnant, so that didn’t help my case too.  Ok.  I accept that. It’s fine.

Your worst haircut was when you came out of Supercuts that one time and you looked like a bad version (well, there is really no good version) of Justin Bieber.  And it was really bad.  And you wouldn’t go back in because you were embarrassed that you hated it.  Do you remember that?

BRIAN: Yeah.  I think it looked extra bad because I had long hair for a while.

ALLIE:  He had had really long, wispy hair and it was so cute in a musician-y way, and then he went and got a short haircut and she butchered him.  It was awful.  It just looked weird, wonky, and sideways.  It was bad.  But now your hair is great.  Is my hair good now?

BRIAN:  Of course!

QUESTION #20:  What is one board game that you hate?

BRIAN:  Well, first of all let’s just start with Monopoly.  Secondly, any board game that has to do with strategy, like Risk, you will absolutely refuse to even look at it.

ALLIE:  Because it doesn’t reward skill.

BRIAN:  There is more skill in that than just rolling the dice like on Sorry.

ALLIE: Sorry is the worst!

BRIAN:  Also pop-the-bubble Trouble.

ALLIE:  Also Aggravation.  Aggravation is aptly named because I hate it. It aggravates me.

BRIAN:  That’s the same thing.

ALLIE:  I don’t like to lose.  That’s my thing.  So if I lose a board game, I hate it then.

What’s yours?  You are the opposite.  You like Monopoly. You like all those games that take forever.

BRIAN: I hate the ‘chance’ ones.  It gets frustrating.  That one time we played Sorry and I could never get any of my guys out for 45 minutes.

QUESTION #21:  What would you do if you had one day left to live?

ALLIE:  What do you think I would do?  I’ll say what I think you would do first.

If you had one day left to live, I think that you would go play the drums somewhere in a warehouse by yourself for a while. Then take a flight to a beach somewhere and sit all day until you died, or the world exploded.

BRIAN:  Personally? If I had no family, no kids?

ALLIE:  Yeah. Well, obviously you would spend your time with us.  But if it was just you.  This is almost like the ultimate self-care question.

BRIAN:  Ok.  That’s pretty right on.

ALLIE:  What would I do?

BRIAN:  Oh man…  you would probably want to do Yoga or something calming.  Just feel calm… I don’t know…. That’s hard.  There are so many things.  You would probably choose going to the beach too, and walking with a hot coffee and pastry.

ALLIE:  I just have to say real fast that the last thing I would do if the world’s going to end is Yoga.  There’s no point in the world of doing Yoga when my life is going to explode.  I would literally go get the biggest cheeseburger I could find and a bunch of cats. Just sit with the cats and eat my cheeseburger.  Those are my two favorite things.  Then get a hot coffee and walk the beach.  And probably run into you, fall in love with you, and then explode with you.

{Brian laughs.}

ALLIE:  Cause the world is ending, obviously.

That’s it.  OK.  This was fun!

Happy Valentine’s Day, you guys!

 

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Episode 009: How We Keep Intimacy Alive & Well with 1,000 Kids (feat. Brian Casazza)

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In this episode, Brian joins Allie to talk about how they remain so close and keep intimacy alive, even with one thousand children.

With February, the month of love, right around the corner, the topic will largely circle around love, intimacy and marriage. However, this particular episode comes from the many questions Allie receives from her followers.

People often ask how Allie and Brian remain to be so close and connected.

The biggest thing to remember is that in order to feel close and connected to your significant other, you have to stop putting your intimacy on the back burner, putting it off until after you care for your kids. You need to keep the fire burning all day long, so that when night arrives, you’re happy to spend time together.

(We’ll be discussing grown-up things in this episode, so be sure to pop your headphones in to listen.)

 
 

In This Episode, Allie discusses:

  • Intimacy is not all about sex.

  • Allie and Brian share the 5 steps they take to maintain the intimacy in their relationship.

  • Communicating your needs is important, but you must share those needs in a productive manner versus being combative.

  • Quick tips for scheduling intimacy into the day-to-day.


If you are looking for a simple way to connect with your hubby while you guys are apart during those long work days, let me help you out! I put together a list of 20 Text Messages that you can send to your husband to get a connective conversation started. It is a FREE download that you can save to your phone for whenever you kind of feel like you need to connect a little bit through the day!

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Thanks so much for joining me! I’m so excited to experience the show’s progression with you!

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Reviews are everything for podcasters, so I truly appreciate it!

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Episode 006: How My Blog Got My Husband Out of His 9 to 5

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Today’s topic is something that I’ve been asked a lot about, but it’s something that I’ve always struggled to share.

I am opening the door for the first time on a very vulnerable, difficult and now, exciting part of me and Brian’s story. It’s something that I needed to get to a certain place in my life and heart, before I was really ready to open up and share.

I’ve been feeling, for a few months, that the time is coming.

I’d even planned on writing a big blog post last year, but I kept putting it off. I kept procrastinating. Subconsciously, I just wasn’t ready to share.

However, after I ended up starting my own podcast, I felt like it was time to talk about it. It’s much easier for me to share this with my voice rather than trying to find the right words in writing...

This is the story of the start of my business. How a little hobby blog, that I kept in the quiet, late night hours, while waiting for my husband to get home from a job that he hated, and how it was so difficult for us because we were barely getting by.

This is how this little blog turned into a global empire and saved our family and got my husband out of his 9 to 5.

 
 

In this episode, Allie discusses:

  • How she and Brian came from poverty and incredible difficulty in making ends meet as he worked insane hours six days a week.

  • Following God’s call out of their home state, away from everyone they knew and loved and moving to the midwest, where they knew no one.

  • The difficult times of Arkansas, how everything at first got even worse, and how Allie began to seriously doubt God.

  • Falling in love with not just blogging, but helping other women through her story & experiences.

  • Discovering the idea of turning a blog into a successful business.

  • Sharing her message, being more vulnerable, helping other women.

  • How Your Uncluttered Home came to be.

  • Taking a leap of faith and having Brian quit his job, before his income had been replaced.

  • The incredibly grueling months that Allie and Brian experienced before her blog and the course truly took off.

  • God had given Allie a really powerful word for my business that she still clings to.

  • Feeling like she failed her family.

  • Having a post go viral, and waking up to 15,000 new subscribers and money suddenly in her account overnight.

  • What has changed since everything happened, and what the business is like now.

  • Allie gets very emotional and shares her words of advice for anyone struggling to pursue a dream through tears and lots of passion!

 

THIS EPISODE IS A MUST-LISTEN. Grab the tissues!

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Thanks so much for joining me! I’m so excited to experience the show’s progression with you!

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If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at allie@thepurposefulhousewife.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram

 

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