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Ep 089: Minimalism For Those Who Enjoy Shopping

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There is this awkward tension in our culture where we feel we have to choose between being minimalist and enjoying shopping. Why can’t we choose both? Just because we enjoy shopping doesn’t mean we buy everything we see on the shelves. I enjoy shopping! Strolling the aisles of a store is where I find inspiration and get refreshed. For me, it is about browsing and enjoying, without feeling the pressure to buy every single thing I find that I like. I'm not shopping to shop. I am shopping because I truly enjoy the process of being out and finding inspiration! And I know that like me, a lot of you would say the same. So I hope this episode encourages you to find freedom in being a minimalist who enjoys shopping.

 
 

In This Episode Allie Discusses:

  • The two core reasons people love to shop and their impact on minimalism.

  • How you can find freedom in enjoying shopping and being a minimalist (you don’t have to choose one or the other!)

  • Why her closet isn’t as minimal as the rest of her house.

  • Questions you can ask yourself as you shop to help you decide whether or not to buy things you find.

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Anyone else love shopping? I do! When I go shopping and see something I love, I run through a list of questions before I buy it. This way I am checking my heart and intentions before making a purchase I really don’t need to make! Download this FREE PDF and image for your phone so that you can have these questions with you when you go shopping!

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Hey, beautiful lady! Thank you for listening today! I’m really glad you're here!

This episode…I've been feeling weird about this episode - and I'm just going to say it - because in what I do, there's another type of person. And that person is very extreme. Minimalism for the sake of minimalism. It's less for the sake of less. They know how many of everything they have and they're really set on “I can't have more than this amount of stuff because then I'm not a minimalist” and I just am not that way.

I hope that is what draws you listeners to me, because it is different. It's not that there's anything really wrong with the other way; I just don't vibe with that. It's not how I am. I don't like anything that feels really legalistic and limiting – ‘now I feel like I can't be who I am because I want to be a minimalist. I'm having to change who I am and say ‘no’ to things that totally bring me joy and add to my life in a really positive way with no negative side effects because it's not minimalist’ - I just don't like that.

A lot of times people will come to me and talk to me in that tone…like I'm like that. And I always have to redirect them and say, “Well, the way you're asking that question is very minimalism for the sake of just being a minimalist and that's just not how I think. So, let me redirect you, ‘rephrase’ this for you, and help you make this decision about this area of your home under this mindset instead.” And it's something that I have to say over and over again, almost daily, because it is such a common thing in minimalist teachers.

Whenever I talk about what I'm about to talk about, I get a lot of flack and that's okay because I think if you're not getting any negative feedback you’re probably not really doing anything that's worthwhile. But I also get a lot of positive feedback.

So I'm just going to lay it out on the line. This episode has been on my heart for a while because it's for me. I'm talking to me. Minimalism For People Who Enjoy Shopping. So we're gonna just dive in.

There are one of two hearts at the core of someone who says they love to shop. One, they're filling a void and they are addicted to the ‘high’ that comes with shopping, which is totally a thing. Look it up. Or two, they're like me, and they just like being out alone – browsing, walking, looking, getting inspired and finding the occasional perfect thing they have been looking for. They also might just like clothes and like putting outfits together and like fashion, which is also me.

So that's kind of what I've learned, that there's 1 of 2 hearts at the core of somebody who says they love to shop, and that's like a thing that kind of makes them panic a little about minimalism.

So they’re either coming from total panic and anxiety like, “Oh my gosh, you’re going to take away my ‘drug’ because shopping is filling a void. I shop and I buy things incessantly all the time because I'm filling this void and I’m trying to get away from this problem and just fill a void.” Or they just really enjoy the process. So, check yo’self before you wreck yo’self, right? Where is this coming from? What's the heart? Where are you at?

But if you're like me and you just like the process of shopping, don't you dare feel guilty about that. That's ridiculous. Especially because most of us listening are mothers. Of course you like to shop. You can get away from your kids and browse and take a deep breath. My favorite thing to do in the whole world, seriously, no joke, is to get my headphones, go to Target, order a coffee, put in a podcast or a song and just walk and breathe and I don't have anything that I need. I'm just there and I'm just looking and browsing.

I have self-discipline and I am a minimalist. I don't grab incessantly needless things. I don't feel the need to do that. But that's how I get inspired. That's how I refresh and recharge. I'm alone. I'm out. I love looking at things and like, “Oh look at that. It's so beautiful. That is something that I could do with that one corner of my house I've been wanting to get decorated. That's a great idea!” It's just refreshing to me. I don't know. It just is.

When moms tell me that they want to simplify their homes and go minimalist, but shopping is their joy, it's their escape, and they don't want to hate themselves, I totally get it. I love shopping.

So, here's what I hate – “Why don't you just walk around outside instead? Why do you have to walk around at Target?” Umm…because I don't want to walk around outside. I want to go to Target because it's hot or cold or wet, and there are bugs out there, and rapists, and other kids climbing trees and stuff, and because…Target. I want to go where I want to go. Leave me alone.

That's the kind of legalist BS that I really just don't like. And secrets-behind-the-scenes’ peek - it's made other minimalists not like me either. And that's okay.

But seriously, browsing is how I get inspired and refreshed. Who cares if I leave the store with something for my bookshelf. Leave me alone. I'm not about this like, “Oh, I’m a minimalist and I don't need to go to the store. I just sit on my rug and do yoga, breathe deeply, surrounded by all white walls with nothing fun in the house. I wear a black T-shirt every day because even though I love fashion and I love putting outfits together that's not minimalist and that is just what I am.” No, you're never going to find that from me.



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I also enjoy making trips to the store for necessities and I like to make that a nice experience. Here's what I mean by that. I am home a lot, you guys. My life might be a little different than yours. So just consider my life as you take this in. My life is home all the time. I homeschool my kids. I work at home. My office is literally a part of my home. I walk out the door and I'm in my office. I even do a lot of my working out at home because we have a gym in our garage. So I'm home for pretty much everything.

When that happens, you notice that you're out of paper towels and you kind of get this like, “Oh, I'm out of paper towels! I need to go to target.” And I love that. I totally make it a thing. I tell Brian like, “Hey, are you good? Are you good with the kids? I would love to just get out for a second.” Sometimes he'll do this too. Sometimes we all do it together and we'll let the kids get a little apple or a little snack bar or something and we'll all go to Target together. Just walk around, be together and talk. Brian and I will get coffees. The kids run alongside the cart because the store is empty because we homeschool and no one else was at the store in the middle of the week in the morning. And we just be.

I love making my trips to the store for necessities a nice experience. So, I will go to Target because I need paper towels, but I'll bring my headphones, get a coffee, take a deep breath and browse. I'll be there for an hour and leave with just paper towels.

It's about browsing and enjoying and not buying every single thing. Just because I find something that seems like, “Oh my gosh! This is perfect for me. I love it. It's so cute.” doesn't mean I buy it. I have another episode that I did on this that I'll link to where I talk a little bit about this, not having to buy every single thing even if it seems perfect and, of course, you have to buy it – no, you don't.

I will definitely be browsing and go for paper towels and see, “Oh look! This book came out. I didn't realize this book was out yet! I've been wanting to read this. I'm going to get this book.” Or “Oh my gosh, the perfect pencil holder for my desk because my other one fell off the desk and cracked and broke. I'm going to get this.”

Sure, that kind of stuff happens, but I'm not shopping to shop. I'm not a minimalist for the sake of being minimalist and I'm not shopping for the sake of shopping, you know? Just buying stuff because I'm out. I can enjoy and appreciate something and not get it. It's more about being out and about and enjoying that process.

I've talked about this so much. I don't want my podcast to be super repetitive, but when it comes to clothing, I love to shop. I don't get cheap crap at Target and stuff really anymore. It's pretty rare that I will leave with a piece of clothing from Target. But you know, like the other day, it was a holiday weekend and my family went down to Carlsbad because we live in California, and we were just walking around. Brian needed some new tennis shoes. His were worn out and had holes in them and he went to go to the Nike store and there was a Madewell there. I love Madewell. So, I went in and I was looking around and I found a beautiful sweater. I loved it and I bought it because I loved it. I've worn it three times already since then.

So yes, I love to shop, but it's not shopping for the sake of shopping, buying everything that you see that you like. Where is your heart? Where are you coming from? I really hope this is resonating. I really hope this is making sense to you guys. I never want to misconstrue my message.

Why are you doing something? Are you doing it because of being, oh, you're a minimalist so you can't buy jeans? Or you don't need that, so don't get it, otherwise you're the worst. Or are you doing something because it's an area of your life that you want to simplify? What's your purpose?

What takes up your space takes up your time, right? We talk about this all the time. Of course, it is important to be minimal and to be a ruthless editor of what comes into your home, but not in everything to where your joy is totally sucked out of you.

I'm going to link in the show notes to this episode to a video that I made about this, about my story with doing this to myself. Having a capsule wardrobe and being very extreme, limiting my capsule wardrobe, limiting my clothes and how I started to really almost get a little depressive because I wasn't able to be myself, and have clothes and outfits to put together and play with that area of my life.

I love that. It's a huge part of who I am. If I wasn't doing what I am doing now, I would probably either own a flower shop because I love putting flowers and bouquets together or I would do something with fashion, clothes, styling and dressing for your shape. I love that kind of stuff.

I'll link to that video in the show notes that you can get at alliecasazza.com/shownotes/089, if you want to watch that video because it's all about that. I won't bore you with it again here.

Be an editor of your home. Get intentional with what's taking up your space because it's taking up your time too, but don't do that just for the sake of being a minimalist to where your joy has totally left you and a big piece of who you are is just not getting satisfied because you're trying to be minimal. That’s no fun. That's not what this is about.

For a personal example, a lot of the areas of my home and my life are super minimal versus my closet and my wardrobe, which is not super minimal, because that brings me so much joy and it's such a huge part of who I am. So my kitchen - my kitchen is very minimal. We do not have extra dishes and stuff. I don't love being in there and love cooking all the time. I do what I have to do and then I'm done. So, I have the storageware that we need. I have the Tupperware that we need. I have the pots and pans that we need and the spatulas that we need. I don't have anything that I don't really need for how I cook for my family because it's not an area where I feel really inspired.

I have students in Your Uncluttered Home who have told me, “I feel like a chef. I love cooking. I love getting creative. I love being inspired in the kitchen. I want to have all these extra appliances and all these extra things to try even though they're not necessities and I don't use them all the time.” That's fine. That's their area where they want to get messy and they like to have joy and they like to have a little bit of excess. They'll deal with it taking up their time. They'll deal with that taking up more space and time because it's worth it to them. Because it's joyful for them.

I'm not that way. My kitchen is very minimal. My kids' toys are very minimal and all of the stuff that most people have in their drawers and their closets – mine is super, super minimalistic - but not my wardrobe. Make sense?

To help you guys out, I'm going to leave you with this. Here are some questions that I run through in my head to make sure that I'm not needlessly buying something when I'm out shopping and browsing and just walking around. You can write them down. You can keep them in your phone or you can go to the show notes for this episode and just download them. It's a pdf you could just save to your phone to have on hand.

Question #1: Is this something that I had been planning to buy for some time? Is this a planned purchase? Not just a random, you know, I'm going to get this.

Question #2: Is it necessary?

And keep in mind, please, that these questions or not, “If the answer is ‘no’, you can't get it, because that's minimalist for the sake of being minimalist. But this is just some things I just do to remember, check yourself before you wreck yourself.

So these are just kind of gut-checking questions that you can ask yourself to kind of feel out where you're at.

Question #3: Is it replacing something I no longer have or have now, but I'm planning to get rid of?

Question #4: How does this add to my life or improve the lives of my family?

Question #5: Do I own a version of this that works just fine already?

Question #6: Will I love this in a month, or a year, or 10 years (applicable to what the item is). For example, it's not super likely that you're going to love the same wall art 20 years from now. That's a given. But if you think you'll be sick of it by the end of this current year, maybe it's not right for you. Maybe that's not a smart way to spend your money.

Question #7: Also is it decorative or functional or needed? Why are you buying this?

These are just things that you use to check yourself.

If you want to get this list of questions - I have this in my phone, literally I have it in my notes - I put it on a pdf for you. Just go to alliecasazza.com/shownotes/089and you can download that and put it on your phone. Super helpful. If you do enjoy shopping, but you feel like you've overdone it in the past and you're worried that you're going to undo your minimalist work, just have this list of gut-check questions for yourself and that can be super helpful.


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Ep 070: 6 Things I No Longer Purchase Since Becoming A Minimalist

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As you know, I am all about simplifying things and making things better and lighter, making things work better for me and the season that I'm in right now. And through that, I have been getting really intentional with the things that I'm buying. Really questioning what's coming into my home and (like Nate Berkus says) “becoming a ruthless editor” of what I allow to take up space in the space that I live in. That matters and that's something to guard!

My goal is just to encourage you and show you that there's so much out there we don't really need to be buying. To encourage you to question why am I getting this or why am I buying anything not just things on this list. I really hope this episode will inspire you and make you think a little bit!

 
 

In This Episode Allie Discusses:

  • The value in changing your perspective from filling everything in your life “for now” to waiting until it's the right time with the right item.

  • Why you should walk away from purchasing those items you want to use, but never actually end up using.

  • How to avoid buying things you like but don’t serve a purpose in her home (you know those things that suck you in at Target!).  

  • Why it is better to purchase things that cost more and are better quality instead of items that are cheaper and don’t last a long time.

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Minimalism does not have to be this stereotype thing where you basically own nothing. You count how many jeans you have. You don't get to shop.

It's not this joy-sucking horror show. It's life-giving. It's joyful. It's about having what you love, what you really need and creating space for you to live a full, abundant, intentional life focused on your family. 

The Minimalism Starter Kit will walk you through what minimalism actually is. A healthy, happy, realistic version of it for moms, written by me, for you.


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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to. I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days. I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it. Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and I know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.

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Hi beautiful!  Welcome to another episode of The Purpose Show!

This episode is kind of fun. I'm going to tell you a few things I don't buy any more since I became a minimalist.

I have been really detaching from the label minimalist lately. I just feel like people assume so much when you call yourself that or when you say that something is the minimalist way of doing things. I don't know. It just seems like so… maybe it's just me but it's been feeling really perfectionistic and bare minimum and I'm just really not about that and I never have been.

I just am more about simplifying things and making things better and lighter, making things work better for me and the season that I'm in right now.

But I don't really know what else to call this episode so I'm regretfully using the word minimalist for lack of a better one. I have just been getting really intentional with the things that I'm buying. Really questioning what's coming into my home and becoming like Nate Berkus says, “becoming a ruthless editor” of what I allow to take up space in the space that I live in. That matters and that's something to guard.

There are definitely a few things… there's a lot of things but I tried to choose things that I think a lot of other people buy that I don't anymore, just because I've been more intentional in this area.

So, this episode is just fun, kind of light. Maybe it will just inspire you and make you think a little bit. And if you are spending money on these things maybe it will help you be encouraged, “Oh, I can do without that.” Or maybe not and you'll think that that's ridiculous and you want to buy these things, and you do you. But my goal in this episode is just to encourage and kind of show that there's so much out there that we don't really need to be buying. To encourage you to question why am I getting this or why am I buying anything not just things on this list.

So, the first thing that I no longer purchase since becoming a minimalist is my kid's school and sports photos.

So, we're homeschooling right now, but my kids have been in school before, and we definitely are an athletic family. At this point, all three older kids are in sports and when you do that there's always picture day and you can buy all different sizes and amounts of those sports photos. You can get “buddy pictures” if you have siblings that play on a team or you’re friends with another kid on the team. They're really expensive too. It's pretty crazy.

I actually have my kids partake in the photo just for the team photo, so that anyone else and the coach who wants to buy the photos… my kids are on the team so they are in the photo. To me it's just like part of the whole team spirit thing, but I actually don't even fill out the form for those.

I don't purchase them ever anymore. The reason is they're not necessary. They're not my style. I don't need to have those posed, super professional images of my kids holding their bat like that. It’s not even theirs; it’s just there for a photo prop with their hat propped too high on their heads so you can see their face. It's not them. It's not them playing baseball or soccer or whatever it is. It's just not real. It's not my style and it's not worth it to me.

I take so many great photos of my kids actually playing their sport. Bella's in softball right now. And Leo (Leland, we call him Leo) and Hudson are on the same baseball team and they have played baseball for three seasons now. Actually, I think 4, so you know at this point we're kind of a baseball family.

I've got so many great photos of them sliding into home, them hitting their first ball, videos and photos of them squeezing each other with their little baseball bag slung over their shoulders, smiling super huge after a good game with their little snack bags in their hands. I've got so many great photos. If you follow me on Instagram, you've seen them. I don't need those super posed professional photos. They’re just clutter to me.

I don’t like them. I don't frame them. They never look like my style. I don't want them in my house because they're a bunch of other kids and them too, and they're just fake. Honestly, those pictures of my kids by themselves and their solo professional photos, they just feel fake to me and unauthentic. And I've got so many other great photos, so I would rather spend my time being intentional to snap a few great pics each season than get one of those fake photos because I feel like I'm missing out on something if I don't. I'm not missing out on anything except for clutter. So to me, that's one of those things that’s just really become not a priority at all.

The second thing that I no longer purchase since becoming a minimalist is things that are  cheap junk that doesn't last, like crappy shoes and clothing. That's been a really big journey of mine over the last year or so. It's pretty rare now. I used to put my outfits together and tag everything from Target. And now, occasionally, sure I'll get something from Target but it's way rarer now. It's actually pretty friggin’ rare now.

I've been shopping at places like Z Supply and Madewell instead, not just because my budget is bigger now than it used to be, but because I want things to last a little bit longer.

I've got a pair of Lucky Jeans that I've had now for five years. I have even gotten them tailored when I lost weight and they fit great. They are very flattering. I love them. My Madewell jeans are my favorite ones too. I love those.

I’ve just been getting things that are a little bit better quality. I still shop at H & M. It's one of my favorite stores. I like them because of the styles, and for super basic things that I can just get dressed for the day and do housework, run errands or go out to dinner. It can be dressed up or down and it's just really functional. That's not really my point. But just really, really, crappy shoes and clothing. Like going to Target and getting tennis shoes is not my game anymore. I will invest in a good pair of Nike's.

And kind of underneath that same topic, things that are like “for now.” I used to always say, “I’ll just get this one for now.” Like a piece of furniture that I don't really love, but I really want to fill that empty space that’s bothering me. I won't do that anymore. I'll wait until I find the right piece and I have the money in my budget to spend, get it, and bring it into my home.

I stopped filling everything in my life “for now” and I wait until the it's the right time with the right item, whether it's a piece of clothing or like I've actually been needing a really great classic coat for a long time. And I live in California where it's not really like, “Oh! I need to get a coat. It's winter.” You know I have jackets and stuff that work fine, but I've been wanting a really great camel coat to have, especially for travel.

I've been traveling a lot more lately because of my career. And sometimes I know I'm going to travel in the winter to places that actually have winter, and I'd love to have a beautiful neutral camel coat that I can wear. (If you don't know what a camel coat is, you can google it. They're amazing.) I've seen so many but it just hasn't been the right time. I want to try it on. I don't want to get it online. It's just been something that I've been thinking about and I didn't just go and get it because I thought of it and winter's coming and I need to get it. I've been waiting for two years and just not getting one because I haven't been in person and found the perfect one. That’s something that matters to me and those are expensive. Those are expensive it's going to be an investment. So just things like that. I hope that example helps you see what I mean.

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And remember, minimalism does not have to be this stereotype thing where you basically own nothing. You count how many jeans you have. You don't get to shop. It's not this joy-sucking horror show.

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The Minimalism Starter Kit will basically walk you through what minimalism actually is. A healthy, happy, realistic version of it for moms, written by me, for you.

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It will walk you through decluttering your laundry and dishes. The two biggest time suckers for moms, right? It will also give you a list of 15-minute, quick and easy decluttering projects for the busy mom who doesn't know where to start. It also includes a list of 20 things that you can get rid of right now.

This is a serious momentum builder. It's about getting started in just making decisions and just letting go of stuff right now. It empowers you and will help you keep going.

It also includes a 10-minute declutter challenge. And it will help you keep going after you're done with the Minimalism Starter Kit. It has resources and some just really punchy words in there, from me to you, that will help you keep going.

It's got resources like my top blog posts and other things that I have put together that are totally free for you to keep going, so go check it out. alliecasazza.com/starterkit.

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The third thing would be things that feel like I'm capturing a memory, but I'm really not. And one great example of that is tourist items from gift shops when you're on a trip.

I was in San Diego recently. I live about an hour outside of San Diego. And I go there often to catch up on work and get a little break. Whenever I'm in charge of where something is, like for my team or I have to fly somebody out for a meeting or something, I'll always try to get it to be in San Diego because I love it there. There's this great little place called Seaport Village right next to the hotel that I always stay at. And they've got this “swag shop” and it's really just full of sweatshirts, t-shirts, mugs, magnets, keychains, things like that that are basically just San Diego swag just to say that you were somewhere.

Why do we always feel that pull to get something like that or bring something back for somebody like that when you can get so many great photos of the trip and have the memories that way where it actually matters instead of bringing clutter into your home just to show or remind you that you went somewhere that you know that you went. So that's one little thing that I just feel like everybody always gets suckered into, that I haven’t bought.

I think the last thing I bought like that was…Brian really likes…(and this is so funny because it's very unminimalistic and he's actually stricter than I am with keeping things simplified) but he really likes those travel mugs from Starbucks. When you're in a new city and you go to the Starbucks there they'll have Oklahoma or Texas or Los Angeles mugs for wherever you are.

And he really likes getting those in all the places that we've been together, even if the mug is ugly, which is not my favorite thing about him. But I was in San Diego and I realized we actually don't have the San Diego one. San Diego has been a really special part of our story and we’ve had some really great memories there, really big business things happen there, and they came out with a new San Diego one. And so I picked that up for him. I was shocked at myself. I never get stuff like that.

So it's not like, “Oh, I never get these things now. I'm a minimalist.” I didn't even want to use the word minimalist. I don't want to seem annoying. It's just that typically those swag shops, it's just pointless clutter and you feel like you're capturing a memory by buying something from there but you're really not. Photos do it justice way better than that.

The fourth thing that I no longer buy is DVDs. I always think who buys DVDs anymore? But apparently people do because they're still all over the stores and I see some of them gone off the shelf like somebody bought this.

We use something called Vudu (not like the witchcraft). It's an app on your TV and you can create an account and then you can buy movies on there. And they have pretty much anything. We haven't found anything that we wanted to buy that they didn't have.

So if something is not on Netflix and it's a new movie that we really wanted to watch the kids, we really wanted to see it as a family, or we really loved it in the theater and we wanted to have it in our home, we'll get it on Vudu. It's really just like a digital DVD holder, which is awesome.

And then of course we love Hulu and Netflix, so we have accounts to both those things, but no DVDs. It just kind of feels pointless.

The fifth thing is things that I like at the store but have no place or purpose for. So I’ve really learned the art of being in the store (let's use Target as an example because everything at Target is amazing) and seeing something that I just think is the cutest thing I've ever seen (Oh my gosh I love it so much!) and then thinking, “What's the purpose of this? Where would I put this? Why would I get this?” And if I can't come up with anything, I don't get it. I just appreciate how cute it is. Maybe it's something that reminds me of a friend so I'll take a picture and send it to her and be like, “Oh my gosh look what I found at Target. Thinking of you. Love you,” but I won't buy it.

Maybe it's something really cute that’s meant to go in an office. If I can't think, “Oh that's perfect to fill that spot that I have on my gallery wall in my office I'm going to buy this and then my gallery will be finished.” If that doesn't happen I won't get it.

So I've really learned the art of appreciating the beauty of something that's been created and not having to buy it just because I loved it and it felt like it was made for me. Sometimes I'll see something that’s the shape of a cat or the shape of a cactus. And I love those two things so much. But just because something is like, “Oh look, this reminds me of me! I love this,” it doesn't mean I have to buy it.

And the sixth thing that I no longer purchase are things that I want to use but never actually do use. And one funny example for me is hair clips.

I used to constantly buy cute little hair clips. You know that section at Target? They have barrettes, ponytail holders, bobby pins, and then they've got a section of cuter things like headbands, clips with a flower on the back, barrettes with pretty designs so that when you clip your hair into it you see the pretty design? I used to get those kinds of things all the time and I never, ever used them. I wanted to use them. I wanted to be the type of person that would clip my hair back and put a cute barrette in it. But I just never did. I don’t know what it is, but I just never do it.

So, I went through a round of decluttering in my bathroom recently and I got rid of all those things. I have one that I kept that I actually really liked and I have only used it once in all these years.

Things like that. What I mean by that specific example is not like, “Oh, don't buy hair clips; hair clips are pointless,” but they're pointless for me because I've proven time and time again that I'm not the type of person that pins my hair back with a really cute clip. Whenever I do pin my hair back I just use a bobby pin and hide it underneath my hair so it looks like nothing is holding my hair back. I never use barrettes or pretty things like that. I appreciate them and admire them and I always think they look so cute on other people but I just never tend to grab for them. I don't know why. So I don't get those things anymore.

Another example would be like certain styles of clothing that I really love and admire, but then when I buy them I never end up actually grabbing them, wearing them and putting an outfit together with them. They just kind of sit there.

This happens a lot in boutiques. I'm a normal person. I shop at H&M, and Target and stuff, but I do really like supporting small businesses and I make a point to do that. First, whenever I'm looking for a specific item, I'll go to small shops in my area or the area that I'm staying in if I'm not by my house. I look there first. There's a couple of boutiques, especially in downtown in Oceanside and San Diego area near where I live, that I really love and I will browse whenever I'm out there.

Sometimes the things are just so unique, beautiful and I really appreciate them. It's a small shop so I feel like I'm supporting them and I'll get something that I really liked. But it ends up never, ever getting worn. I've really stopped doing that because, again, just like the hair clips, it's like I'm purchasing something that is somebody that I want to be or that I admire. Like, “Oh I like that they put a little barrette in their hair instead of just leaving it plain with a bobby pin. That's really cute.” But I never actually do that. Or, “I really like that this person dresses that style. I really like the idea of being a person who would wear that sweater.” But I never actually grab for the sweater. So it's not serving me. It's pointless and it was a waste of money.

Another example of this is homeschool stuff. Homeschool supplies and curricula - Oh my gosh, it's so easy to get sucked into the warp, the vortex and feel like you need something or you're doing your kids a disservice by not having a certain type of something and want to get it. “This is the answer for my home school organization! This is why I haven't been able to explain fractions to Hudson. I'm going to get this program!”

And sometimes those things are really helpful but I've really learned to think it through and wait and ask myself, “Am I trying to solve a problem the fast way? Is this really going to serve me? Am I really going to use this? Am I really going to wear his hair clip?

So basically things that I want to use or would like to be the type of person who uses them, but I never actually do use. Things that are quick fixes, like the homeschool supply example, things like that. I've just really learned to say “No.”

There's been maybe once or twice in the last year that I have said “no” to something at boutique or something and then left the store, gone back to my house, thought about it and wish I really had bought that. And what you can do is you can go back or get it online. Or ask yourself why do I feel like I really want that?

And then think, “Well it's because I need a black blouse, but that black blouse just felt a little bit too eccentric. I wouldn't actually wear it.” OK. Go find a plainer black blouse that you think you'll actually wear.

So just checking in with yourself. I really think it comes down to mindfulness about the things that we buy. And that's the whole point is just being intentional and being mindful about the purpose behind your purchases.


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Ep 059: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Ways you can overcome social anxiety and get out of your comfort zone.

  • How she food preps for her family.

  • Her book collection and how she decides what to keep or get rid of, as well as what she prefers in digital versus hard copy.

  • Tips for shopping and maintaining a minimal lifestyle (especially at Target!).

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Motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.


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Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

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Question #1:  Allie, I would love for you to address social anxiety and getting out of your comfort zone to visit with other moms. I come from a background of moms who have lots of kids, 4+, and so far I only have one, so I feel like I don't have as much in common or as much to offer to the conversations with the other moms in my area. It's something that I'm working on, just getting myself to open up, but talking is one thing that does not come naturally to me. #introvertmama. Any recommendations?

Okay. Super love this question, mainly because I totally get it and oh my gosh, I wish that I had some way that I could show you all how I used to be. It's not really that there was anything wrong with it or with me, it's just that I was so different and friendships were more difficult for me. Social gatherings were really hard for me. I'm very much an introvert.

I've talked about that a lot before. I'm so introvert, but a lot of the time when I share that about myself, people are really surprised. I think it's just because I've come on such a journey with myself in that regard and not let being an introvert hold me back from having connections, relationships and being social. Also, what I do for a living is pretty anti-introvert. It's a lot of extravert-ing. A lot of sharing myself, being vulnerable and talking.

And whenever I come across a podcast listener or a blog reader or somebody in my audience in person, I never want to seem weird or standoffish, you know? I'm just introverting, but I don't want to seem like I don't care or I don't know, I don't want to give off the wrong vibe.

So, it's been really important to me to learn how to be an introvert and take care of myself, but also step outside of my comfort zone, be friendly and have those connections.

When we moved away, we moved out of state a few years ago and we didn't know anybody. That was really hard for me because it forced me totally out of my comfort zone in so many ways, especially socially. I had to speak up and talk and share. Even though I used to be more of a listener.

So, what I would say to you, whoever asked this question and anyone else who was so glad that she asked it because this is you too, is get out there. I know it's probably not what you want to hear and it's not rocket science or anything new, but get out there and go. Then once you get there, join a mom’s group, join anything, something. Once you join, when you're there you don't have to come up with the conversations, but join in.

So, what I mean by that is when we moved to Arkansas and I had joined the new mom’s group at a church that we thought we were going to end up joining. We weren't really sure. We had gone one week. They had a mom’s group. It seemed great. I just wanted to throw myself in and find connections because I was really struggling with loneliness and getting a little depressive. It just was not a good time. I didn't have anybody.

I went to the mom's group. I forced myself to go. I got the kids all dressed. I showed up and being super awkward and introverted, but I'm there. I'm doing it. And when the conversation started I just jumped in as soon as I could. So, when I got there I was really friendly. I think there's something about pulling it out of yourself and stepping outside of yourself. I was just really friendly.

I said “Hi.” I introduced myself, my kids and really stepped outside of my normal personality. So, it wasn't like I was quiet and awkward and then I sit down and somebody says something and starts a conversation, and I'm like, “Yeah, me too!” and all of a sudden I'm talking because that's even more awkward. I really pulled it out of myself and I thought a lot about the fact that I wanted to make connections, that I wanted people to know my heart. My heart is very people based; it's just that I'm not much of a talker (which it’s just hilarious as I speak into my podcast microphone.) But in social situations like that, I used to really not be much of a talker, but I pulled it out of myself.

And then when the kids were with the childcare sitter and we were sitting at the mom's group together, just us moms, and somebody would share something that I had something that I could say, I would openly share. I would rush right past that nervous feeling of, “Oh my gosh, I'm about to talk. What if I talk over somebody? What if it's awkward?” And I would just jump in and say “Yes, me too! I totally understand that. Last week this happened to me and I handled it this way” or whatever it is, but I put in my two cents.

I had a rule with myself where every other thing that somebody brought up I would share about. So, it's not like I was taking over the conversation and putting in my two cents on every single thing that anybody said. But every other, every two things that were brought up as a topic of conversation. I wouldn't sit them all out and I wouldn't join in them all. Does that make sense?

If you've ever been in a formal mom's group or Bible study setting, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Usually whoever's leading has some discussion points that they're going through or Bible study guided questions that they're asking, and I wouldn't let myself sit out every single question. I wouldn't let myself go more than one without chiming in. That helped me to have a rule of thumb.

But I also think it's important to remember that introvert is not synonymous with shy. Introverts just get their energy, they get restored by being on their own. Extroverts get their energy by being around other people. Studies show that both extroverts and introverts benefit highly from having a lot of friends, from being social, from having a week full of social things. It's really good for us to be around other people. We are created to be social beings. So, let's not confuse introvert and shyness. I hope that helps whoever asked that question.

Question #2: I would love more info on how and what you do for food prep. We keep it pretty simple, but I feel like I'm probably missing out on the easy foods to prep and then reheat.

Okay. So, first of all, I have a free pdf that I've created. It's all about simplifying your grocery shopping, planning your meals and prepping your meals. It's something that people really, really like. It's one of my most popular downloads. I will link that for you in the show notes, which you can find at alliecasazza.com/shownotes/59. It's totally free and it's really helpful. I broke this down within that pdf.

So, I'm like you, whoever asked this question. It is mostly pretty simple. It's mostly meats, produce and cheese, but also a couple of “side” things. One of my favorite things to have prepped is grilled-up potatoes, like those baby red potatoes. I really like those and they're good for you. And it's a good filler, especially because we eat really clean. Sometimes only vegetables, or only vegetables and a little bit of meat is not quite filling for me. Sometimes it is.

This might be TMI, but I don’t know if you guys are like this, but I have one week every month right before my cycle starts where I am starving to death, I'm insatiable. I just need a lot more nutrients. I need more food on my plate and I'm just starving. And so, I'll definitely have potatoes with every dinner that week because I'm so hungry. (I'm sorry Daniel, my male podcast editor, that I talked about my cycle.)

So, I love to have baby red potatoes. I slice them up and quarter them and then just saute those up with some olive oil or maybe some grass-fed butter and some herbs. Then, I put them in Tupperware and I store them away and they can just be reheated. You could do the microwave if you want to, but I try not to use my microwave. I usually heat them up in a pan. Sometimes I won't, I'll be honest, because I don't want the extra dish, but it does still save me time because potatoes take a long time to cook. And I'm not re-cooking them; I'm just heating them up real quick on a pan, if that makes sense.

So, I like to have things like that. Definitely sliced cheeses is great. I don't really do this anymore but I used to make my own yogurt and I would have that made and stored in the fridge. Definitely chicken. I like to buy a flank steak at the natural market by my house and have Brian grill that up and season it really lightly and then slice it up. Steak is one of the few things that I'll actually eat cold. I think it's really good cold. Other than that I'm really weird about my food being hot and fresh. So, just like basic meats, potatoes.

If you guys follow me on Instagram, you've probably seen how I always am sharing when I get home from grocery shopping, I don't just put the groceries in the fridge, I will wash and slice the berries, prep everything to where it's ready to grab and go. It's less about being super creative and having all these foods that you're preparing, and more about you're going to have to do these two or three steps to eat the food, why not just do it right after you buy it from the grocery store versus getting it from the grocery store, putting it away and then having to prep the food before you eat it?

I get into that “batching mode” of, “I'm prepping my food, I bought it and I'm prepping it to eat” and now throughout the week I can just grab it and go. The berries are already washed and sliced. It's easy for the kids to grab. Things like that.

I've shared this before too, but I also am kind of weird with my food feeling like it's all “reheats.” I definitely like to cook dinner and eat it right away, but there are some foods that I'm not weird about that I'll totally eat reheated.

It’s just a preference of mine. You guys might want to get into the food prep zone and do way more than I'm doing. I'm just finicky about it. I'm a little high maintenance with my food.

So, that's what I usually prep. Chicken, flank steak, potatoes, fruits and vegetables. And then I'll have some cheeses and stuff for the kids. Kind of a grab and go status. So that's what we do. It's really simple. I wish it was fancier and more like, “Wow, Allie’s amazing and super smart,” but that's what I do.


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Question #3: How do you decide which books to keep? Do you store them somewhere? Do you use digital books or do you have paper books? For you and your kids?

Okay, so my thing with books is that I love them. I'm a major bookworm. Some books just need to be read on paper.

Very, very few books, actually, I can look it up right now. Very few of my books are on audible. Okay. I've got 12 books in my audible APP right now and I've had my audible account for quite some time. I read about two to three books a month. So, that just shows you the ratio of how many books I have on paper. There are a lot of books in my house.

So, the thing is I really love the look of a nice full bookshelf in a room, especially with my decor. I really like clean straight lines, very modern, very white decor and it can kind of look un-cozy sometimes. So, I have little tricks that I do to make my house look really lived in. You can sit on the couch and curl up your feet, but it's still beautiful and modern and my style. Extra throw pillows and throw blankets thrown on the side of the couch and layered rugs and things like that.

And a bookshelf full of books in multiple rooms of my house. There's a shelf full of books in my room, a shelf full of books in the homeschool room, shelf full of books in the hallway coming into my living room. I love the look of lots of books. In my office I've got a bunch of books.

I keep most of the books that I read unless I loan them out and don't get them back, which happens a lot. And that's one reason that I do like getting paper books because I like when my friends use me like a library but don't give me my books back. It makes me happy that they're reading more, that I'm encouraging them to read, and I can give them suggestions on what to read.

But I do get rid of books that are either damaged or that I really didn't like. I've shared this before that I kind of bop between topics of reading and I'll read on one topic a whole bunch and then I'll go to something else. So recently, I was in a faith category of books and I was reading all these different faith-based books, The Case for Christ and Jesus Feminist and all these different faith-based books.

I ordered one that looked really good, and it was about women in the Bible and God's view of women and being a strong woman in modern day, yet still being a Christian. And I was really excited to read it. I got it and it was written by a man. I just was put off by that and like, “Well this isn't what I wanted.” I skipped, flipped through it but I didn't want to read it. I didn’t want to waste my time on it. I ended up just donating it right away.

I go to the donation center pretty often at our house, less often than I did when I was purging, but still pretty often. And books go in there when I know I'm not going to want it around.

So, that's how I do it with the kid’s books, they rip more because they're little. But if it's not damaged and something that we're going to read again, I just love having shelves of books in my house.

So, I think it's up to you. For me, it's worth it. It's part of my decor. It is something that I like. It's a quirk about me that I love having books everywhere. Of course they're organized and they're clean and minimal in the way they look. There's not one shelf full of all my books. It's scattered throughout my house to cozy up different rooms.

But that's me and that's a really specific quality of mind. It's not like I'm telling everyone to do that or you'll even want to do that, but that is what I do.

Question #4 (and our last question of the day): I see on your Instagram that you guys are at Target a lot. Me Too. How do you handle practicing minimalism and not going crazy at some place like Target? Any tips or strategies for enjoying shopping while also avoiding just accumulating more junk?

This is an incredible question. I think it needs to be a full episode, (so, thank you, whoever asked this) but I'm going to answer it here too quickly.

So, we live literally around the corner from Target. I could walk there in a few minutes. When I drive it takes me less than two minutes to get to Target. So, because of that I don't really make lists for stuff that we're running out of. We will run to Target multiple times a week and just grab what we need. I think being a minimalist for over six years now I have the practice and discipline to not go crazy at a place like Target. I've learned to see something and appreciate that it's adorable and not have to have it unless there's a place that I want to put it, or it will help me in some way, or I need it or love it in some way and I know where I'm going to put it.

I don't really struggle as much with that, “Oh my gosh, this is so cute, I'm going to buy it” thing. And I think that just comes from a few years under my belt of practicing living a lifestyle of “intentional lessness” for lack of a better term.

I really enjoy packing the kids up and just driving over to Target. Our Target has a Starbucks inside of it and I’ll get an ice coffee or a tea. The kids will bring a little toy with them and they'll walk by the cart and play little games with their toys together while me and Brian take a breath and get out of the house for a second.

You guys have to realize that I run the business from home. We homeschool the kids. We are home a lot, so it's kinda like just going through our normal life and then we'll realize “Uh-oh, I'm out of Q-tips. Oh, okay. Everyone get dressed, we're going to Target.” And the kids are like, “Yeah!” and we'll pack everybody up. We really want to get out of the house because we're always here, so we use the Target around the corner for that for us and it's really great.

But you'll notice we leave with the Q-tips and that's pretty much it. The kids don't expect toys when we go there. We've never done that with them so they don't irritate us by wanting to go and get a toy or anything. It's just really easy. So that's how we do it.

But I think it really just comes from practice. Don't go to that cheap dollar area. It's just like total clutter zone. I'll stay away from the clothing section a lot of the time unless I'm looking for something because, first of all, it's usually cheap and not super high quality and won't last long. And also, because I do have a little bit of a harder time in that section. I just really love clothes and fashion and styling myself. But if I have everything that I need in my closet and I'm not looking for anything, I won't go over there.

The other day I went over there for the first time in a while because I had needed to get a new pair of workout pants and I didn't want to get them at Lululemon. I wanted to get a cheap pair of running pants that I could destroy. I went over there and it was nice. I browsed. I looked at the T-shirts. They had so many cute things. I looked at the shorts. I grabbed my running pants and I just left. I was able to appreciate how cute everything was, but know that I didn't really need anything and just leave happily.

So, I think it's just about the practice of minimalism.


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