BONUS 01: All About Our Home School

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Surprise! Today is the very first episode of bonus episodes I will be sharing!  Every rare once-in-a-while, I will put out a Bonus Episode that was just too good to wait. Or it could be a message that I really had on my heart for you guys. In this episode, I am sharing all about homeschooling - how it works for us, the curriculum we are using, our typical schedule, and what I think about it. I know it is really helpful to see how other people do things, so I hope this episode helps you, encourages you, and maybe even inspires you to think outside of the box.

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Why homeschooling works for her family.

  • The homeschooling curriculum she has been using + why she loves it.

  • Her routine for homeschooling 4 children.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey friends! This is a bonus episode and it is the first bonus ever. Bonus episodes come about because I either came up with an idea for an episode, or I was asked a question a billion times and I really wanted to answer it for you. But because of our planning, editorial calendar, the backend schedule of the podcast and the business, sometimes episodes will not be able to be completed for months in advance.

We do have to plan in advance with guest episodes and the whole team working to get this podcast produced a couple of times every week. Sometimes it is just too long to wait. I don’t want to have a question that really needs to be answered. You guys might be really asking about something and I really want to help you. I might have it recorded but it isn’t scheduled to come out until June. That’s really hard for me, so every rare once-in-a-while, I will put out a Bonus Episode that was just too good to wait. Or it could be a message that I really had on my heart for you guys.

This one is one that is too good to wait. It is getting asked about constantly. I am so happy to finally be recording it. It’s all about our homeschool.

As you guys probably know, we have homeschooled off and on for forever. Last school year (fall 2017) we put our kids in public school because the business was growing so much. It was super high maintenance. Brian and I were both feeling really torn between all of these hours to get the business up and running and also homeschooling.

Homeschooling was falling by the wayside. It wasn’t what we wanted for our kids education.  We couldn’t balance work and homeschooling at the level the business was functioning. There was nothing we could do – get up early, stay up late. We could have done that, but it wasn’t sustainable. We didn’t want to live our lives like that, barely sleeping in order to do it all. That was just not what we wanted.

The plan was to put the kids in public school for one school year. Get the business up and running a little bit better.  Hire some new people. Delegate some new tasks. Get it to the point where we can both just work a few hours a week. Then get the kids back home for homeschooling.

We prayed and felt really good about it.  Made the decision. Put them in. They got into a great school and had great teachers.

After just one semester, we had hired 6 or 7 new people and we were feeling so amazing about how the business was running. Brian and I were working just a few hours a week. We had a really good rhythm.

Between all the different drop off and pickup times of the kids in school, it was feeling really stressful. It kind of backfired and ended up feeling like “Well, now this is actually less helpful.”  When winter break came, we pulled the kids out of public school and brought them back home much earlier than we had planned, which was such a huge blessing.

When people saw that was going on, I got a lot of questions about homeschooling. How was it going? What were we using? How does it look for you? I wanted to wait and dive into the new curriculum and see how I liked it. I had never tried it before. It’s new for us.

And I wanted to find our rhythm. It’s been a while since we had a house, normal life, home-base, normal schedule, running the business, and homeschooling because we did the camper-living thing. We explored the U.S. for a while. We were very mobile.

Then we lived temporarily in our apartment while we waited for a house. Now that everything is “deep breath” settled and normal, it feels so good. I am ready to open the curtain and show you guys the inner workings of our homeschool. I hope this is helpful.

Before we dive in you need to know that my daughter, Bella, is the oldest. She is in 3rd grade.  She was held back when she went into public school, just because with homeschooling you never really know what grade your kid is in unless you do a very traditional homeschooling, which we did not.

They did test her and she fell in between, so they decided to hold her back to 2nd grade.  I asked them to. Being new to school, I would rather her be way ahead than really struggling, and just having an awful year. It worked out really well and she basically was doing 2nd grade in public school.

Now at home she is doing mostly 3rd grade and just struggling a little bit in a couple of subjects, where she does 2nd grade curriculum. She is in a weird, limbo, in-between place with grades.

Leland is in 1st grade. Hudson is in kindergarten. Emmett is 3 ½ and in preschool.

We do homeschool all four of them. Emmett is very fluid. He is just busy working on his fine motor skills while I work with the other kids. It is very fluid and simple. It’s not a big deal. We don’t even have a schedule for him. We just have a preschool curriculum for him that is from the same homeschool curriculum we use for everyone else. We just work through it as we can with him.

The curriculum that we are using is called The Good and The Beautiful by Jennie Phillips.  She is amazing. The curriculum is incredible. I was very nervous ordering new curriculum.  I have tried something new every single year and I want to say that next school year will be the first year that we use the same curriculum twice in a row. I finally feel like I have found something that I absolutely love.

The Good and The Beautiful is a Christian curriculum, but I love that it is not overly religious.  It’s not really crazy or heavy-handed. The regular lesson is there. The history. The literature lesson is there. It is all educational but weaves in our faith in a seamless, unforced, beautiful way and I love that.

A bit of background for a side note. I actually grew up going to a Christian private school. While there were definitely some pros about that, there was also some huge cons. I have a hard time with overly religious-based curriculum and things like that.

The church we go to is very much not that way. It’s Jesus, the love of Jesus, and the way He was here on Earth giving an example of how to live. It’s very God-centered, and people serving. That’s what I believe.

I have a hard time when things are very rules-based, the law, overly religious. That’s what I have found with a lot of Christian curriculum. I really, really like this one because of that.

Please don’t be offended by what I am saying. This is just what works for us and how we are.  I am just trying to give the reasons I like this curriculum in case there is someone out there who would like to try it because of the way I described it. If this turns you off or you don’t like it, don’t get the curriculum.

What I also love about the curriculum is that it is laid out in a minimalist way. That’s one of the things that really turned me on to this curriculum. I have a good friend, Jessie, and I really admire the way she homeschools.  I met her when we lived in Arkansas. She recommended this curriculum to me. When I went to check out the website, there were videos that described the curriculum. It was basically saying that you go from this huge stack of curriculum, all these different topics and subjects, and huge books for each one, all the way down to this condensed little pile of books. I couldn’t believe it.

When I ordered the curriculum, I found it was so true. Language Arts includes grammar, spelling and all of those things in one book. The way they have it laid out is so streamlined. I feel like a lot of the other curricula is very pricey and they feel the need to “bulk it up” and add “fluff.” This curriculum does not subscribe to that at all. It is really the perfect fit for our schooling style and our family.

I feel like I have never had such a small amount of curriculum but felt like there is so much depth in the content. I absolutely love it.

When I was outlining this episode, I had written down to go over the pros and cons of the curriculum that we are using. I honestly sat for a solid ten minutes to think about what I did not like about this curriculum. And I came up empty. There is nothing that I don’t like. I love this curriculum. I am definitely going to use it again next school year. If I ever do try something else, it will probably be out of curiosity and not because I don’t like this curriculum. I am so impressed with it. I absolutely love it and recommend it for sure.

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Having said that, let’s get into our schedule to show what we do in terms of our day. We do a pretty typical 5-day, Monday thru Friday school schedule, but we are just really flexible. Sometimes, I will skip a day and do some school on the weekend morning instead. We just go as needed.

This week we are going to Disneyland and we are not going to do school one day. We will probably do school on Saturday morning over breakfast instead. We did that a couple of weekends ago too. Sometimes it’s just needed.

We do school usually in the afternoon. I don’t work every single day, but there are a couple of mornings that are set aside for work blocks. If it’s a work morning, I will work and the kids will either read or do their own solo school stuff. Or they will play outside or go somewhere with Brian if he is not working that morning. Mornings are usually for work, errands, relaxing, and starting the day slowly. Just hanging out together. Taking care of the house. We usually do school in the afternoons.

Sometimes if I am doing some work, Brian will start his subjects for school. Fridays are my meeting days. By the time it is afternoon and I am done with my meetings, I can do my subjects and then we are done for the day.

He does science and history. I tend to take over Language Arts. We both share the load of the other subjects too. We take turns with math, because we both prefer to not do math. It’s not like Brian or I always do the same subjects. We share the load. Typically, that is what happens.

Doing school in the afternoon was a fun shift for us. It made the mornings great. I still get up early and have my morning ritual. But it is not because I am rushing into homeschooling or starting the day.  It’s because I want to start the day out strong. Having a really slow morning with my family has been so great. Sometimes I will grab my laptop and write my email for that week. Or catch up on social media comments while I am sitting on the couch and the kids are playing Legos. We are together and it’s a quiet, slow start.

Friday is the only morning of the week that is a little crazy for me, since that is “meeting day”. I do them back-to-back to get them “batched” and out of the way. The kids’ morning is no different.  It’s just really neat giving ourselves that space to start in the afternoon. It has been really nice.

We do our morning thing each day. Then we have lunch and “veg out” for a half hour or so and rest together.  Then usually around 12:30 or 1:00 we will start school and we are done by 4:00 or 4:30. We take a lot of breaks.  It just depends on the day and how everyone is doing.

None of my kids are really napping anymore and I haven’t found that doing school in the afternoon has been affected by a lack of energy, needing to nap, or being hungry and ready for dinner.

I think if my kids were a little younger I wouldn’t be able to do school in the afternoons.  I really like doing afternoon school. It works really well for us.

There are days where we might do school in the morning if they want free time or want to do something else in the afternoon.  Again, we are very, very flexible. It is one of those things where people ask what your typical day looks like and it is hard to answer because there really is not a lot of typical days. But I would say that’s what our typical day looks like.

Sometimes there are days where nothing seems to be working. People are cranky. I’m not feeling it; no one is feeling it. It is just not working. Then we take breaks. Sometimes we stop altogether and just have a catch-up day when we are more refreshed.

But sometimes it is better to push through and just sense when everyone needs to suck it up, have a drink of water, take a 5-minute break on the trampoline, and then come back and push through and finish school. I know when it is time for that and when it is time to call it a day and not finish. Just go and be separate and have a good family day. Not yell and lose your cool and ruin school for the day. Then come back tomorrow, even if it is a Saturday or Sunday, when you are more refreshed and finish that math sheet or whatever.

If things aren’t working change how things work all together. Maybe getting up earlier to start your day off better. Ask yourself, “What isn’t working and why? Change the way you are doing school altogether. For us, it was starting school in the afternoon instead of pushing it in the morning.

I was trying to do everything in the morning. I would get up really early and get a couple of work tasks done. Dive into school in the morning and be done by lunchtime. It just wasn’t working. I gave myself that space, gave my family that breathing room, gave ourselves permission to do something a little bit out of the ordinary. Just saying, “you know what? We are going to try something different and start school in the afternoon.” It really lightened the load and freed us up and the whole family seemed to take to it better.

That’s a look into how our homeschool works, the curriculum we are using, and what I think about it. And how our typical schedule works. I know it is really helpful to see how other people do things, so I hope that helped you and encouraged you.  Maybe inspired you to think outside of the box.

Definitely look into that curriculum.  I will link it in show notes for you for sure.  Alliecasazza.com/shownotes/bonus1

I hope that was helpful for you guys. Thank you for caring for our family, our life, how things work for us, and asking questions that lead to episodes like this. I love it!

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Episode 010: How to Be An Action-Taking, Problem-Solving Mom

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Being an Action Taking Problem Solving mom is about identifying the problems and taking action on them. It is writing out the issues and finding solutions for them.  

Louise Hay says, “I do not fix my problems. I fix my thinking, then my problems fix themselves.”

When something is a problem in my life and I notice it is consistently a problem, I won’t just leave it. I won’t just wish that it would change or put it in the back of my head to figure it out later.  I will take action on it. Write it out and problem-solve.

You have so much power as a mom. You can choose to change your thinking.  Fix your thinking. Change your mindset. Get into a place of positivity. Of being an action-taking, problem-solving mom and a lot of things are going to shift.  

 
 

In This Episode, Allie discusses:

  • The importance of changing the way you talk to yourself - internally and externally.

  • Why being in a prayerful, action-taking state of mind, is so important.

  • Steps to take in order to become an action taking, problem solving mom.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey beauties! Welcome to Episode 10 of The Purpose Show!  In this episode we are talking about how you can be an action-taking, problem-solving mom.  This episode came about from Instagram which I feel a lot of the episodes (at least the ones that are planned through spring) will come from, just because that’s where I share most of my day-to-day life.  That’s where I am most active. I share how I do things.  If I am doing something and it pops into my head to jump on Instagram stories and show what’s going on, I will do it.

There was one time, a couple of months ago where I was sharing about when something is a problem in my life and I notice it is consistently a problem, I won’t just leave it. I won’t just wish that it would change or put it in the back of my head to figure it out later.  I will take action on it. Write it out and problem-solve.  

I use my Notes App on my phone to do this.  I was doing an IG Story about that and people just freaked out.  They were really responsive.  And that of course tells me that this is something that needs to be talked about. It also appeared when I was asking for input on episode ideas.

It just keeps coming up.  It is just something that I have always done.  I think that when something is routine you don’t really think too much that, “O this is spectacular! I need to share this.”  It is just something that I have always done and it just comes naturally to me. I definitely see a lot of benefit in being this way.

I am happy to share some of the behind the scenes of how I take action and solve problems, instead of victimizing myself, complaining and letting life happen to me, which is really easy to do. I definitely do that; it’s not like I never do that.  But typically that is not my mindset.

I want to start this episode out with a quote by Louise Hay that says, “I do not fix my problems. I fix my thinking, then my problems fix themselves.”  I think that really needs to be the foundation here.  I think when you are coming from a mindset of victimization - “everything sucks, life is so hard, why can’t things ever be easy for me?”- you’re going to see that.

You’re thinking that. You’re putting that out there.  It is inside of you. It is the way that your mindset is.  And that is what you’re going to see. It’s the return on investment of those thoughts, attitude and way of thinking all of the time.

I think it is really easy to victimize ourselves. But if we stop complaining and change our     mindset - that is doing something.  So when I say, “stop complaining; do something; take action” what I really mean is take action on your thinking and your mindset.  Change the way that you’re talking to yourself - internally or externally.  

Change the way that you’re speaking to other people about your circumstances and your lifestyle.  Take action where you can, physically, to change things.  Let go and pray when you can’t take action. Make sure that you’re taking action on your thinking and mindset because that’s what really, really, matters.

I feel like in any circumstance, in any problem, there is always something you can do.  The very least being - and I say the very least meaning that it doesn’t seem like that much effort - but it is actually the most effort and the most powerful thing we can do - and that is prayer and changing your mindset.

Telling yourself a different story about your circumstances.  I think having a general attitude of a “doer”.  Someone who takes action and seeks to solve problems. Someone coming from a  place of “the ready position.”

In baseball when my sons are playing, the coach always says, “Hey Hudson, get in the ready position.”  And it means being crouched over. Your knees are bent. Your glove is on.  Your hands are out and ready.  So if the ball is hit to you, you are in ready position to jump on it. To immediately act, take action, go and get that ball and make an awesome play. But if you are standing around in outfield picking the grass, your glove is not even on, or if  it’s on  but it’s just hanging there, and he gets a line-drive smacked his way - what’s gonna happen?

He wasn’t in the ready position. He is totally going to flounder. He is probably going to get hit in the face or something. At the very least he is going to be jarred because the ball went right by him and he missed it.  He will have to scramble to get his glove on, run to the ball and then the play is probably not going to be very great.  

So take prayerful action.  For me, praying without ceasing.  Thinking in an actionable way. Being mentally in a ready position in my life.  That’s been huge.  I basically take prayerful action in something all of the time. Weekly.  It is not something that I have to think to do.  Every once in a while I will get in a funk, get whiny.  Then I tell myself that I need to change the way I am thinking here- check myself before I wreck myself.  But typically, I don’t let things continue to be a problem. I am always in a prayerful, action-taking state of mind.  

Here’s a big example of this.  We just talked about this a couple of episodes ago.

For example, the problem of our lifestyle with Brian’s old job.  We felt so stuck. It felt like there was nothing that could be done. He applied for higher positions.  He took classes within the company to move up.  We followed all the rules and did the things they said to do in order to move up and get a better job. Better hours. More pay.  And nothing happened for years.  Instead of whining, being a victim, and continuing to wait and waste time, we prayerfully went another way.  

Even though it was really freaking scary and took a lot of risks, we took those risks. And we took action.  We were deeply rewarded with a new lifestyle that two years ago seemed impossible.  It didn’t seem that we were ever going to get out of that. We got married young. Started our family young. We have these four kids.  We live in another state. We can’t afford to do anything or go anywhere. We can’t afford to move. We can’t afford to take the risk  of starting a business. We can’t afford to take time off to seek another job and do interviews. We couldn’t even afford clothes for Brian to wear nice things to an interview.  We were really, really screwed.

We just had this prayerful, problem-solving mindset.  And it worked itself out.  Just like that Louise Hay quote, “I do not fix my problems; I fix my thinking and my problems fix themselves.”  For me, I have used that attitude and philosophy with faith. And coupled some really powerful prayer into that.

Here is a smaller, day-to-day example.  There was a time in my life that I had a problem. It’s a common problem and I use it as an example a lot. Everyone in my house -  just my house in general - felt very tense, cranky and just negative in the late afternoons.

Around 3:30 - 4:00 PM all the way till after dinner. It was just a really crappy time in our house.  Day after day, whether we were homeschooling or the kids went to school.  It didn’t matter what season we were in.  It was like this time of day was really crappy.

Everyone was in this bickering mindset.  Even Brian and I would snap at each other.  The kids were arguing and bickering constantly.  It was a really busy time of day.  It’s the end of the day. You gotta get ready for dinner. You’re cleaning up. If you’re homeschooling you’re wrapping up the day.  It is just a really important time of the day and it really sucked that it wasn’t  a positive time in our house. Again and again.  It felt like no matter what I did - it wasn’t changing.

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The idea of this episode’s title “How to be an Action-taking, Problem-solving Mom” is what I do for everything.  Take this example of cranky afternoons and see if this works for you.  I grabbed my phone, opened my notes app and literally just wrote out the circumstance.  What is the problem?  

Well, around 3:30 - 4:00 and all the way till after dinner, everyone  in my house is super cranky and bickering. I am breaking up fights. I am done. I am stretched really thin.  I am cranky and tired. I just want to have a glass of wine. I am not feeling good.  And everyone else seems to reflect that.  And even when I work on changing my attitude, when I have done my self-work to be in a good mood, still people around the house are just bickering, tired, and fighting.  

I would write it out. Identify the problem. Then I would start to brainstorm possible solutions.  

There was a problem section and a solution section.  Under the solution section I wrote things like:  maybe I could let everyone have some separate time away from each other for 30 minutes at the end of the day; maybe they just need a break from each other.  Maybe we don’t just jump right into homework. Maybe when they come home we could have candles lit, worship music playing, oil diffusing, alone time.  Maybe I do crockpot meals a few times a week so I am not having the burden of cooking dinner from scratch every single night.  

Maybe we have that 30 minutes of separate time. Instead of diving right into homework, we sit together and talk about our day for a bit and unwind. Maybe the kids get to have a little bit of technology time after school.  Just brainstorm out some possible solutions.  This isn’t a set-in-stone plan that I am going to do. It is just a brainstorm list.  

Some of the ideas might be totally ludicrous and stupid - that’s ok.  You’re taking action.  You’re being a problem solver.  Even if you aren’t writing down the solutions that end up happening, you are still taking action on the problem.  Writing it out, doing this braindump - is incredibly helpful.  It allows you to physically see the problems and get them out of your head and onto paper.

It is like a release saying it out loud and acknowledging the problem. Get it out of your head. Admitting that this is a problem. And then you are taking action, brainstorming possible solutions.  It is really really good.  It feels like a release. Just doing this act is helpful.  It always leads to a solution for me one way or another.  Even if it didn’t, just the very act of doing this is so helpful.  

So for this specific example of the cranky time of day in our house - it ended up working.  We fell into this rhythm where I put on worship  music, light candles, turn on the fireplace if it’s cold.  I set a timer and everyone goes to their separate quiet time.  The boys share a room so they go to separate areas of the house and just look at a book.  Bella will draw.  Leland will color. Hudson might do legos.  Emmett might watch Ninjago for a bit. When the 30 minute timer goes off, I call them down.  Everyone is a bit more decompressed.

Then we can slowly get into the end of the day routine - getting ready for baseball (if we have it), doing homework, cooking dinner.  And I take part of that 30 minute time too.  This is usually a time when Brian and I will sit and have couch time to connect and talk. Or if we aren’t feeling that, we will do separate things.  Brian might stay with the kids and I will go for a walk.  In some way, we are separate from each other.  I do crockpot meals a couple times a week.

This really solved the problem. All of those things contributed to helping. Now that time of the day isn’t such a sore subject anymore.  It doesn’t stand out as a negative time anymore.  It is not consistently a problem anymore because I solved the problem

As moms, we have a big job. We have a lot on our plates.  We have a lot of power. Don’t let the fact that your plate is really full take away from your ability to use your power as the mom.  

We are keepers of the home. We are the spine of our houses and our families. If we come at our life with an actionable mindset - seeking to fix problems, seeking to be in the ready position in our lives, taking action for the sake of our families - that’s really powerful.  

Being in that mindset instead of playing the victim.  Complaining that you guys never help me.  Everything sucks.  Why can’t you guys just remember to brush your teeth?  Coming at it from an action-taking, problem-solving mindset is so HUGE.

So be inspired.  Take this into your own hands.  Come up with solutions that work. Try out different things. Start brain dumping.

What are the problems?  You don’t have to sit and think about all the problems in your life.  Keep this episode in the back of your mind as you go throughout your days.  Look for things that seem to be chronic problems. Do you notice that a certain time of day seems to be a problem?  Do you notice that your marriage gets a little weird on date night days?  Like there is some kind of expectation built up and you and your husband start to argue the day before date night?

Look for clues for consistent problems.  Do some problem solving and brain dumping.  In a journal. In your phone.  Get it out on paper - physical or digital.  Just get it out of your head and onto paper and look at it.  Write it out.  Then start to brainstorm possible solutions. Even if you don’t come to something and start to take action physically on it, just getting it out on paper is good.  Something may come to you later.

I just want to encourage you guys.  You have so much power as a  mom. You can choose to change your thinking.  Fix your thinking. Change your mindset. Get into a place of positivity. Of being an action-taking, problem-solving mom and a lot of things are going to shift.  

I have put together something for you that I am calling The Problem-Solving Mom Brain Dump Guide.  It is a free download that will help you get into the habit of how to braindump your problems, identify them and have a solution section.  Print it out. Do it for the first couple of times.  I have a couple of examples from my own life to help you see the kind of stuff you should be looking for.  

Download The Problem-Solving Mom Guide to get started.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to Uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on the show head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes, and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you.  See you next time!

Episode 007: Creating Your Family Mission Statement

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Creating a family mission statement is a really great way to lay the foundation for what your purpose is as a family. It outlines the things you stand for and things you don’t.

A family mission statement is exactly what it sounds like, an intentional statement that you make together with your family. It encapsulates your priorities and your goals as a family.

When parenting gets tricky, and your kids start getting older, it’s a really great way to have something to go back to and compare things with. Your family is going to be raised, and your kids are going to grow and become adults, setting a solid foundation with a family mission statement, can help keep you all focused on your family goals.

 
 

In This Episode, Allie discusses:

  • "Where there is no vision, the people perish.” - Proverbs, 29:18

  • Allie shares her family mission statement that she and Brian created together.

  • How to begin the process of creating a family mission statement.

  • Why placing the mission statement where all can see it, is so important.

Mentioned in this Episode:

  • "Everyone ends up somewhere, few arrive somewhere on purpose." - Lara Casey


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Episode 004: Positive Words for Your Children

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Words can be an incredible way of bringing positivity into your life and the life of your children.

I’ve always been drawn to words. I can remember as a child and now as an adult looking back and realizing how special this was. I literally had a relationship with words. I’d make up stories. I’d take classic fairy tales and rewrite them into my own versions, I just loved being surrounded by words.

Words have always just been a really powerful passion in my life.

The other side of words are that they can slice deep, especially in marriage. Any flaw you have, is magnified 1000% in marriage. So, while words have been a crazy positive gift for me, they’ve also been a weakness.

Words have shaped some circumstances of my life, and in today’s episode I want to share a how effective words have been in changing the behavior of my children.

 
 

In this episode, Allie discusses:

  • The effect words have on you in both a positive and negative way.

  • How easy it is to complain and use negative words to describe things, and why it’s important to switch your words to the positive.

  • Why it is important to speak positive words over your children.

  • In the beginning it may be uncomfortable to speak positive words or scriptures over your children, but find a place or a way that works for you. Allie shares how she does it.

  • Changing the words that you speak to and over your children has the power to completely change their behavior.

  • Tips and suggestions on where to find positive affirmations and scriptures, and how you can store them on your phone.


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Mentioned in this Episode:

- Positive Words and Affirmations (click below to receive FREE affirmations!) 


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