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My 5 Favorite Marriage Books and How They Changed Our Lives

If you’ve been around here for a minute you know that reading is so important to me. A book can teach you something new about yourself, others and God. A book can give you ideas and inspire you to make positive changes in your life.

I actually set aside a time for reading into my daily rhythm. That’s how valuable I believe it is.

Back in October, I did an episode of The Purpose Show and I shared with you a list of books that shaped me as a person – whether in my personal life or my business. You can check out that episode here.

Now, I want to share with you a list of books that have helped shape my marriage. Like I said, I believe that a book can teach you something new about yourself and others and I think that’s especially true with marriage books.

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I want to give a full disclaimer before we dive in. Every book I read, I take action on. I read a book and I go and do what I learned. That’s key.

You might read these books and nothing happen. These aren’t little magic pills. There’s no promise that if you consume them, they’ll change everything for you.

I believe you can read an amazing book and feel so inspired and then finish it, close it, and not do anything else about it. And, obviously, that’s not going to do anything for you. If you want a book to help you change your life and your marriage, you’ve got to take action. Nothing works if you don’t.

So, with that being said, let’s dive into the 5 marriage books that have helped shape Brian’s and my marriage.

5. You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero

This is obviously not a marriage book, but I believe you can’t have a good marriage if you don’t believe some core truths about yourself as a woman and carry yourself a certain way.

You Are A Badass was a turning point for me in my life. It taught me how to go after what I wanted with confidence, knowing that God has plans for good for me.

4. Tender Warrior By Stu Weber

This is a book written for men, and it’s been one that Brian has referenced so many times. It’s a big part of why he is who he is as a husband and he’s always recommending it and ordering it for friends.

3. The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

I first read this book as a new bride, and it set a strong foundation for how I handle issues, conflict, and anger in my marriage. One of the first lines is “God, give my husband a new wife, and let her be me.”

It’s powerful to pray for your husband and your relationship with him. It transforms YOU, rather than you focusing on praying for him to be the one to change.

2a & 2b. For Women Only & For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhaun

These books are so helpful! They’re founded on research of how men and women interpret things differently, and how we can better communicate with and understand each other. Shaunti covers everything from pornography and sex to conversation and household roles.

1. The Enneagram in Love & Work by Helen Palmer

Helen is a pioneer of the Enneagram personality studies, and so gifted. This sort of knowledge about yourself and your spouse is among the most powerful you can arm yourself with! To deeply understand how you and your partner mentally process and function is an incredible gift that not enough people are taking hold of.

Side note: this book has also helped me be a better business owner and leader for my team!

I hope you’ll check these books out! They have truly helped me understand myself and my husband better and in turn have strengthened our marriage.

And I believe that you will only benefit from reading them. But girl, remember not to just read them.

Take action! You can have a better marriage. But you’ve got to get up and put in the work!

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