I think it’s safe to say we’re all familiar with that “bleh” feeling we sometimes get about halfway through the day. I call it the “midday funk” where you just feel like you can’t even go on.
Maybe the morning was a total suckfest. Maybe your kids are riding the crazy train.
Maybe you don’t even know why you feel that way. But here you are.
I think a lot of it just has to do with the repetitiveness of doing the same thing every single day. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or you work outside the home, most of the time we’re doing the same things over and over again.
And it can start to feel heavy, and tiring and honestly, boring. So, you fall into this mental space of just feeling like “Ughhh! I can’t go on.”
It’s the kind of day you just want to quit. Like you’re done.
You don’t want to do the things you have to do. The thought of making dinner and getting the kids’ homework going makes you cringe. All you really want to do is eat candy, sit down and Netflix. Hard.
And there are definitely days when you just throw in the towel, let the house go, order everyone a pizza and call it a frickin’ night.
But most of the time, you have to suck it up and keep going. You have to make sure everything is functioning because things will fall apart if you give into those feelings. So, you’ve got to deal.
I know it may sound cliche—and it can be really irritating to hear—but you have control over how you respond to this “midday funk.” And that’s really empowering.
Don’t let it annoy you to hear that. It’s really powerful and encouraging.
Hey sweet friend, because I love you and I want to make things easier for you, I created a free checklist you can download. It’s basically a list of these tips, my go-to dance songs, my favorite Scriptures and affirmations for a bad day, and three links to funny videos if you need a laugh. The next time your day goes all $$#%@ use this checklist to get back on track!
Maybe your child is having the meltdown of the century, maybe something in your house broke, but the fact is you can’t control those things. But you can control how you respond to them.
You don’t have to let it upset you. You can talk yourself off of the ledge.
I’m saying this in total solidarity and with a heart of compassion. I have worked for years to get to my version of an abundant life and everything is a lot simpler, easier and definitely happier now, but I still get in a midday funk sometimes.
Doing the same things over and over, day after day—no matter what your situation is or the extra stressors on your plate—can just get you down. So, I totally get it.
But on the days I feel “blah,” I’ve developed some things that help me pull out of this negative mental space. And you know I’ve got yo’ back so I’m sharing them with you!
Here are 10 ways to hit the reset button on your day when you really want to call it a day:
10. Change Your Thoughts
You will take a lot of power away from your feelings if you change the way you’re thinking about them. Take a moment, step back and realize that this “funk” is just how you’re feeling. It isn’t actually happening to you.
It’s not a fact or a reality. It’s just a state of mind. And we can always change how we’re thinking, right?
This is a really good place to start. Realizing your thoughts and changing how you’re thinking about your situation is such a powerful thing to do to help snap you out of a midday funk.
9. Change Your Scenery
Get out of the house or whatever space you’re in. If you’re at home, go for a walk around your neighborhood or to the park. If you’re at an office, take a 5-10 minute break and walk around the building or just stand in the sunshine.
If you’ve got kids, pack them up in the stroller. If they’re older, let them ride their bikes or scooters or just walk in front of you. (Mom pro-tip: this is so good for getting that never-ending kid energy out).
Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’ve been spending all week doing the same things over and over, and we just need to break the routine up a bit.
So, forget the chores. Leave the dishes, or your to-do list, or your emails for a second and just change your scenery.
8. Take a Drive
Girlfriend, lemme tell you the thing I love about taking a drive...the kids are strapped into their car seats! (And all the mamas said ‘amen, amen, amen’ in the voice of Matthew McConoughey).
They’re in their seats and that’s that. You can blast some music, roll the windows down, sing.
You can just be out and not have to worry about your kids running crazy. *Bonus if you have a TV in the car. Turn that sucker on for them in the back and it’ll be like you’re all alone.
7. Find the Funny
If your day is looking like a complete and total suckfest, stop for a second and just look around. Maybe your toddler’s running through the house and he doesn’t have on pants or underwear.
Maybe your baby woke up from his nap and got into his diaper and there’s poop smeared all over the crib. And it’s a legit crap show. (How the heck does that happen?!?)
Just stand there and crack up at the reality of your life. Motherhood is so hilarious.
There are so many things that are just taken as “normal” because it’s “mom life” but if you really stop, stand back and look at it, it’s so frickin’ funny.
So laugh at whatever is happening. It’s the best medicine, right?
Go for a walk or a run. Do some yoga in your living room.
Even inside you can do high knees and jog around your house. Your kids will think your psychotic and get a kick out of it. It’s fine.
Have sex! Have a “nooner” with your man if you can. Get that endorphin rush.
Sometimes mama’s just gotta get some ;) So get it, girl. (Also yes, I just said nooner).
5. Take a Friggin’ Nap.
Sometimes you just gotta lay down. A 20-minute nap is scientifically proven to really help you in the middle of your day.
Actually, if you like coffee, drink a cup of coffee and then take a 20 minute nap. That is apparently like a powder keg of re-energizing yourself. I do it all the time and it really works!
4. Afternoon Dance Party
I know this feels like the last thing you want to do when you’re in a midday funk, but it’s so, so good for you. It’s good for your kids. It’s good for you guys as a family.
Gather everyone in the living room and say, “Guys, this day is not going well for us. Everyone’s attitude is just in the tank. So we’re going to turn on some vintage T-Swift and have a dance party!”
And just go for it. I promise you’ll feel better.
3. Take Something Off Your To-Do List
Find something that doesn’t have to get done today and just don’t do it. Yep, I just gave you permission to say “screw it” to a task.
Look at your list. What can you put off until another day? Put it off.
If there’s nothing that can be put off, figure out a way to simplify your to-do list. For example, you have to have dinner. You’ve got to feed your family.
But maybe instead of cooking you can order out. Or have a cereal night. Or go out to eat.
Find ways to simplify the ish you just have to do.
2. Watch a Funny Video
If you can’t find the funny in whatever’s going on in your own life, find the funny somewhere else. YouTube is a total mood-lifter.
There are a handful of videos that I have saved on my YouTube app and I will literally go and just open it up and watch one of those. Total mood-lift.
Watch a video that just makes you crack up every time. Everybody has videos that they think are extra, super hilarious, but nobody else really gets them. You know the ones I’m talking about.
Save the links to those videos in your Notes app on your phone for easy access. Find a way to laugh and give yourself that “happy” you need today.
1. Read Scripture or Positive Affirmations
If you’ve been around here for a minute you know I’m a big believer in the power of our words and thoughts.
You can change your whole mindset and attitude by changing the things you think and the things you say.
Read powerful Scriptures. Speak your affirmations. Speak life over yourself and your family.
Change the story you’re telling yourself about your situation. Come up with something positive like, “Look at these precious babies around me that are making me want to go crazy and lay in the street until the bus comes by. They’re beautiful people and I love them. I’m overwhelmed right now, but this life is good.”
Okay, girl. The next time your day goes to hell in a handbasket, take a look at this list and know you’re not alone. This funky midday slump is so normal.
We all feel like this sometimes. Sometimes you have to just accept that it is what it is and do what you can to respond to it better instead of wishing that you didn’t struggle with it, or beating yourself up for feeling this way when you have such a great life.
At the end of the day, everything is temporary. Every single thing about your life right now is just a season.
Things are always changing. Your kids will get older. Things will get easier in some ways, and harder in other ways.
I think we get so caught up in the little bubble of our current season that we can burn out. We forget that there is a much bigger picture, a much bigger world, a much bigger purpose happening. As much as today might suck, it’s totally temporary.
There are times when it’s not just a one-day thing, and I feel kind of down for a few days or weeks at a time. I call it being in a slump, and I recorded a podcast episode that talks about what I do when I’m feeling that way.
The next time you feel like your day is heading into a complete and total crapshow. And you are .5 seconds away from being DONE, take a breath and hit that reset button, girl. Just hit the reset button.