Ep 059: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Ways you can overcome social anxiety and get out of your comfort zone.

  • How she food preps for her family.

  • Her book collection and how she decides what to keep or get rid of, as well as what she prefers in digital versus hard copy.

  • Tips for shopping and maintaining a minimal lifestyle (especially at Target!).

Mentioned in this Episode:

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Motherhood is hard. I am not going to lie to you about that. While it is servitude and giving to your family from yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that we are waiting to be over. Something that we are counting down the minutes till naptime, or bedtime, or waiting for the next day to start. If you are wanting to sort through the clutter in your mind, your heart, your home calendar, your health, routines, and relationships, I created Unburdened just for you!

It is a guide that will help you go from drowning in the sea of stress and overwhelm, to owning your time and living the best version of your motherhood. So you can live abundantly while intentionally focusing on those who matter most.


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Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

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Question #1:  Allie, I would love for you to address social anxiety and getting out of your comfort zone to visit with other moms. I come from a background of moms who have lots of kids, 4+, and so far I only have one, so I feel like I don't have as much in common or as much to offer to the conversations with the other moms in my area. It's something that I'm working on, just getting myself to open up, but talking is one thing that does not come naturally to me. #introvertmama. Any recommendations?

Okay. Super love this question, mainly because I totally get it and oh my gosh, I wish that I had some way that I could show you all how I used to be. It's not really that there was anything wrong with it or with me, it's just that I was so different and friendships were more difficult for me. Social gatherings were really hard for me. I'm very much an introvert.

I've talked about that a lot before. I'm so introvert, but a lot of the time when I share that about myself, people are really surprised. I think it's just because I've come on such a journey with myself in that regard and not let being an introvert hold me back from having connections, relationships and being social. Also, what I do for a living is pretty anti-introvert. It's a lot of extravert-ing. A lot of sharing myself, being vulnerable and talking.

And whenever I come across a podcast listener or a blog reader or somebody in my audience in person, I never want to seem weird or standoffish, you know? I'm just introverting, but I don't want to seem like I don't care or I don't know, I don't want to give off the wrong vibe.

So, it's been really important to me to learn how to be an introvert and take care of myself, but also step outside of my comfort zone, be friendly and have those connections.

When we moved away, we moved out of state a few years ago and we didn't know anybody. That was really hard for me because it forced me totally out of my comfort zone in so many ways, especially socially. I had to speak up and talk and share. Even though I used to be more of a listener.

So, what I would say to you, whoever asked this question and anyone else who was so glad that she asked it because this is you too, is get out there. I know it's probably not what you want to hear and it's not rocket science or anything new, but get out there and go. Then once you get there, join a mom’s group, join anything, something. Once you join, when you're there you don't have to come up with the conversations, but join in.

So, what I mean by that is when we moved to Arkansas and I had joined the new mom’s group at a church that we thought we were going to end up joining. We weren't really sure. We had gone one week. They had a mom’s group. It seemed great. I just wanted to throw myself in and find connections because I was really struggling with loneliness and getting a little depressive. It just was not a good time. I didn't have anybody.

I went to the mom's group. I forced myself to go. I got the kids all dressed. I showed up and being super awkward and introverted, but I'm there. I'm doing it. And when the conversation started I just jumped in as soon as I could. So, when I got there I was really friendly. I think there's something about pulling it out of yourself and stepping outside of yourself. I was just really friendly.

I said “Hi.” I introduced myself, my kids and really stepped outside of my normal personality. So, it wasn't like I was quiet and awkward and then I sit down and somebody says something and starts a conversation, and I'm like, “Yeah, me too!” and all of a sudden I'm talking because that's even more awkward. I really pulled it out of myself and I thought a lot about the fact that I wanted to make connections, that I wanted people to know my heart. My heart is very people based; it's just that I'm not much of a talker (which it’s just hilarious as I speak into my podcast microphone.) But in social situations like that, I used to really not be much of a talker, but I pulled it out of myself.

And then when the kids were with the childcare sitter and we were sitting at the mom's group together, just us moms, and somebody would share something that I had something that I could say, I would openly share. I would rush right past that nervous feeling of, “Oh my gosh, I'm about to talk. What if I talk over somebody? What if it's awkward?” And I would just jump in and say “Yes, me too! I totally understand that. Last week this happened to me and I handled it this way” or whatever it is, but I put in my two cents.

I had a rule with myself where every other thing that somebody brought up I would share about. So, it's not like I was taking over the conversation and putting in my two cents on every single thing that anybody said. But every other, every two things that were brought up as a topic of conversation. I wouldn't sit them all out and I wouldn't join in them all. Does that make sense?

If you've ever been in a formal mom's group or Bible study setting, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Usually whoever's leading has some discussion points that they're going through or Bible study guided questions that they're asking, and I wouldn't let myself sit out every single question. I wouldn't let myself go more than one without chiming in. That helped me to have a rule of thumb.

But I also think it's important to remember that introvert is not synonymous with shy. Introverts just get their energy, they get restored by being on their own. Extroverts get their energy by being around other people. Studies show that both extroverts and introverts benefit highly from having a lot of friends, from being social, from having a week full of social things. It's really good for us to be around other people. We are created to be social beings. So, let's not confuse introvert and shyness. I hope that helps whoever asked that question.

Question #2: I would love more info on how and what you do for food prep. We keep it pretty simple, but I feel like I'm probably missing out on the easy foods to prep and then reheat.

Okay. So, first of all, I have a free pdf that I've created. It's all about simplifying your grocery shopping, planning your meals and prepping your meals. It's something that people really, really like. It's one of my most popular downloads. I will link that for you in the show notes, which you can find at alliecasazza.com/shownotes/59. It's totally free and it's really helpful. I broke this down within that pdf.

So, I'm like you, whoever asked this question. It is mostly pretty simple. It's mostly meats, produce and cheese, but also a couple of “side” things. One of my favorite things to have prepped is grilled-up potatoes, like those baby red potatoes. I really like those and they're good for you. And it's a good filler, especially because we eat really clean. Sometimes only vegetables, or only vegetables and a little bit of meat is not quite filling for me. Sometimes it is.

This might be TMI, but I don’t know if you guys are like this, but I have one week every month right before my cycle starts where I am starving to death, I'm insatiable. I just need a lot more nutrients. I need more food on my plate and I'm just starving. And so, I'll definitely have potatoes with every dinner that week because I'm so hungry. (I'm sorry Daniel, my male podcast editor, that I talked about my cycle.)

So, I love to have baby red potatoes. I slice them up and quarter them and then just saute those up with some olive oil or maybe some grass-fed butter and some herbs. Then, I put them in Tupperware and I store them away and they can just be reheated. You could do the microwave if you want to, but I try not to use my microwave. I usually heat them up in a pan. Sometimes I won't, I'll be honest, because I don't want the extra dish, but it does still save me time because potatoes take a long time to cook. And I'm not re-cooking them; I'm just heating them up real quick on a pan, if that makes sense.

So, I like to have things like that. Definitely sliced cheeses is great. I don't really do this anymore but I used to make my own yogurt and I would have that made and stored in the fridge. Definitely chicken. I like to buy a flank steak at the natural market by my house and have Brian grill that up and season it really lightly and then slice it up. Steak is one of the few things that I'll actually eat cold. I think it's really good cold. Other than that I'm really weird about my food being hot and fresh. So, just like basic meats, potatoes.

If you guys follow me on Instagram, you've probably seen how I always am sharing when I get home from grocery shopping, I don't just put the groceries in the fridge, I will wash and slice the berries, prep everything to where it's ready to grab and go. It's less about being super creative and having all these foods that you're preparing, and more about you're going to have to do these two or three steps to eat the food, why not just do it right after you buy it from the grocery store versus getting it from the grocery store, putting it away and then having to prep the food before you eat it?

I get into that “batching mode” of, “I'm prepping my food, I bought it and I'm prepping it to eat” and now throughout the week I can just grab it and go. The berries are already washed and sliced. It's easy for the kids to grab. Things like that.

I've shared this before too, but I also am kind of weird with my food feeling like it's all “reheats.” I definitely like to cook dinner and eat it right away, but there are some foods that I'm not weird about that I'll totally eat reheated.

It’s just a preference of mine. You guys might want to get into the food prep zone and do way more than I'm doing. I'm just finicky about it. I'm a little high maintenance with my food.

So, that's what I usually prep. Chicken, flank steak, potatoes, fruits and vegetables. And then I'll have some cheeses and stuff for the kids. Kind of a grab and go status. So that's what we do. It's really simple. I wish it was fancier and more like, “Wow, Allie’s amazing and super smart,” but that's what I do.


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Question #3: How do you decide which books to keep? Do you store them somewhere? Do you use digital books or do you have paper books? For you and your kids?

Okay, so my thing with books is that I love them. I'm a major bookworm. Some books just need to be read on paper.

Very, very few books, actually, I can look it up right now. Very few of my books are on audible. Okay. I've got 12 books in my audible APP right now and I've had my audible account for quite some time. I read about two to three books a month. So, that just shows you the ratio of how many books I have on paper. There are a lot of books in my house.

So, the thing is I really love the look of a nice full bookshelf in a room, especially with my decor. I really like clean straight lines, very modern, very white decor and it can kind of look un-cozy sometimes. So, I have little tricks that I do to make my house look really lived in. You can sit on the couch and curl up your feet, but it's still beautiful and modern and my style. Extra throw pillows and throw blankets thrown on the side of the couch and layered rugs and things like that.

And a bookshelf full of books in multiple rooms of my house. There's a shelf full of books in my room, a shelf full of books in the homeschool room, shelf full of books in the hallway coming into my living room. I love the look of lots of books. In my office I've got a bunch of books.

I keep most of the books that I read unless I loan them out and don't get them back, which happens a lot. And that's one reason that I do like getting paper books because I like when my friends use me like a library but don't give me my books back. It makes me happy that they're reading more, that I'm encouraging them to read, and I can give them suggestions on what to read.

But I do get rid of books that are either damaged or that I really didn't like. I've shared this before that I kind of bop between topics of reading and I'll read on one topic a whole bunch and then I'll go to something else. So recently, I was in a faith category of books and I was reading all these different faith-based books, The Case for Christ and Jesus Feminist and all these different faith-based books.

I ordered one that looked really good, and it was about women in the Bible and God's view of women and being a strong woman in modern day, yet still being a Christian. And I was really excited to read it. I got it and it was written by a man. I just was put off by that and like, “Well this isn't what I wanted.” I skipped, flipped through it but I didn't want to read it. I didn’t want to waste my time on it. I ended up just donating it right away.

I go to the donation center pretty often at our house, less often than I did when I was purging, but still pretty often. And books go in there when I know I'm not going to want it around.

So, that's how I do it with the kid’s books, they rip more because they're little. But if it's not damaged and something that we're going to read again, I just love having shelves of books in my house.

So, I think it's up to you. For me, it's worth it. It's part of my decor. It is something that I like. It's a quirk about me that I love having books everywhere. Of course they're organized and they're clean and minimal in the way they look. There's not one shelf full of all my books. It's scattered throughout my house to cozy up different rooms.

But that's me and that's a really specific quality of mind. It's not like I'm telling everyone to do that or you'll even want to do that, but that is what I do.

Question #4 (and our last question of the day): I see on your Instagram that you guys are at Target a lot. Me Too. How do you handle practicing minimalism and not going crazy at some place like Target? Any tips or strategies for enjoying shopping while also avoiding just accumulating more junk?

This is an incredible question. I think it needs to be a full episode, (so, thank you, whoever asked this) but I'm going to answer it here too quickly.

So, we live literally around the corner from Target. I could walk there in a few minutes. When I drive it takes me less than two minutes to get to Target. So, because of that I don't really make lists for stuff that we're running out of. We will run to Target multiple times a week and just grab what we need. I think being a minimalist for over six years now I have the practice and discipline to not go crazy at a place like Target. I've learned to see something and appreciate that it's adorable and not have to have it unless there's a place that I want to put it, or it will help me in some way, or I need it or love it in some way and I know where I'm going to put it.

I don't really struggle as much with that, “Oh my gosh, this is so cute, I'm going to buy it” thing. And I think that just comes from a few years under my belt of practicing living a lifestyle of “intentional lessness” for lack of a better term.

I really enjoy packing the kids up and just driving over to Target. Our Target has a Starbucks inside of it and I’ll get an ice coffee or a tea. The kids will bring a little toy with them and they'll walk by the cart and play little games with their toys together while me and Brian take a breath and get out of the house for a second.

You guys have to realize that I run the business from home. We homeschool the kids. We are home a lot, so it's kinda like just going through our normal life and then we'll realize “Uh-oh, I'm out of Q-tips. Oh, okay. Everyone get dressed, we're going to Target.” And the kids are like, “Yeah!” and we'll pack everybody up. We really want to get out of the house because we're always here, so we use the Target around the corner for that for us and it's really great.

But you'll notice we leave with the Q-tips and that's pretty much it. The kids don't expect toys when we go there. We've never done that with them so they don't irritate us by wanting to go and get a toy or anything. It's just really easy. So that's how we do it.

But I think it really just comes from practice. Don't go to that cheap dollar area. It's just like total clutter zone. I'll stay away from the clothing section a lot of the time unless I'm looking for something because, first of all, it's usually cheap and not super high quality and won't last long. And also, because I do have a little bit of a harder time in that section. I just really love clothes and fashion and styling myself. But if I have everything that I need in my closet and I'm not looking for anything, I won't go over there.

The other day I went over there for the first time in a while because I had needed to get a new pair of workout pants and I didn't want to get them at Lululemon. I wanted to get a cheap pair of running pants that I could destroy. I went over there and it was nice. I browsed. I looked at the T-shirts. They had so many cute things. I looked at the shorts. I grabbed my running pants and I just left. I was able to appreciate how cute everything was, but know that I didn't really need anything and just leave happily.

So, I think it's just about the practice of minimalism.


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Ep 052: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • How to store your kids toys without dedicating a whole space to a toy room.

  • Ways to help minimize overwhelming your sink (and yourself) with piles of dishes.

  • Practical tips for simplifying outdoor toys.

Mentioned in this Episode:

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Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

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Question #1: How can I store my kids toys without a toy room? Okay, so this is a good question. I actually don't like the idea of having a room just for toys because I think it just begs for excess. You've dedicated an entire room in your house for something that can actually inhibit your kids’ creative play and it doesn't really leave a lot of room for being intentional in purging things that are not really loved, really being used, and really serving your kids' childhood. So, I prefer to not have a toy room. I know it's really common, especially here in America, to have a toy room or a dedicated space as a play area. I would suggest if your kids have a shared room, put a toy chest in there.

My three boys share a room. The two older boys are in a bunk bed and then on the other wall Emmett is in his own little twin bed. They have one toy chest in their room at the foot of Emmett's bed. It's just a regular, medium-sized toy box from Ikea and all their toys go in there. That’s where the toys are kept. They can get the toys out, bring their swords out and play Ninjas in the living room or whatever. When we're cleaning up, that's where they go.

You could also do a smaller bin in each of their individual rooms. We have a lot of common toys where they don't really belong to one particular person and they're just “our toys” and everyone plays with whatever. And so, the one toy chest works really well for us. But if your kids all have their own room then you could do a smaller bin for each of them and they can put their toys in there.

You could also do a toy chest in a common area like behind the couch in the living room. And that's where all the toys go. You could do a basket by your stairs if you have a two-story house and that’s where the toys go. You have a few different options but definitely don't feel like, “it's a lack of space and it kind of sucks that you don't have a toy room” because I actually really, really love the idea of not having an entire room in my house dedicated to toys. Like I said, it just begs for lots of excess because there's room for it.

Question #2: Can you help with dishes overwhelm with kids? There are just so many dishes. Yes. Another great question. First of all, I want to give you guys permission to use paper plates in seasons of insane overwhelm. If you're moving, if you're starting a business, if there's sickness that’s been plaguing your house for weeks. If you have a new baby, if you're pregnant and exhausted. If your husband started a new job and he's traveling a lot more than you're used to and you have to adjust to that. Use paper plates in seasons of crazy overwhelm. I use paper plates when we are launching a new course in the business or if we are going through an intentional time of chaos.

There was a point really recently where the kids had baseball three nights a week. Bella had horse lessons two days a week. We were in the thick of finishing up our homeschool year. I was launching a new course. It was insane and you can bet your bottom that I went to Costco and got the giant pack of paper plates and temporary plasticware - forks and spoons and stuff - and used all of that and gave myself permission to make my life a little bit easier.

But in the long run, this is where you've got to have less dishes. You think about it, why do you need more than one type of dish per person? Why? Because friends come over? Well, that's fine. Then have spare dishes, but keep them in a different place because what's going to happen is if you have tons of dishes in your regular cupboards, your family is going to pull a fresh, clean dish out way before they ever rinse a dish that's ready to be cleaned and reused. You don't need more than one dish per person living in your house.

Since this question is about kids’ dishes, get whatever set of plastic plates and bowls that you want for your kids and just have one plate and one bowl per kid. That's it. If they want something else for the next meal, the dishes need to be rinsed off and then it's ready to be reused.

If you have less dishes, you have less to wash. It makes your life so much easier and it makes it impossible to get that giant pile of dishes at the end of the day waiting for you to wash them.

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Question #3: How can I simplify outdoor toys? I love that my kids want to spend time playing outside, but the stuff gets out of control and messy and then my yard looks terrible. Okay. I totally understand this. I've talked before about how we have less toys and we encourage our kids to play creatively and be outside. One of the biggest reasons that we moved back to southern California after our time in the midwest is because we really realized the value of living in a climate where the kids can play outside all the time.

So, in terms of the outdoor toys, first of all have only what they use and love. Go through those outdoor toys with your kids. Is there a random baseball and a broken bat? Get rid of all that. Another example, is there random baseballs and nothing to play with them, like you don't have baseball gloves or a baseball bat? Why do you have baseballs, then? Get rid of the baseballs.

Take into account what do you have? Why do you have those things? What are they using? What do they love? Notice for a couple days, what do they play with all the time? Get rid of everything else. Have only what they really use and really love.

Next, get a large outdoor storage bin to keep everything in. They have these at Lowe's, Home Depot, Costco, Sam's Club. I think I've seen a couple at Target, but I noticed the industrial-type stores and big box stores that have big items have the really large ones.

We have a black outdoor bin that I got at Lowe's. It's weatherproof and it's got the little extra locks on each side, so bad weather or no rodents or anything can get in there. We keep things like the baseball bats, gloves and balls in there. The kids have a soccer ball that they kick around. There is a bubble machine they like to turn on so they can play with that when they're in the backyard. Just outdoor toys go in there. Not bikes and scooters and stuff, but outdoor toys can go in there.

That way there's a location that you can fit everything in when it’s clean up time. Don't let your kids just play and leave everything out. Set up a rule in your house where it's like, “Okay guys, we're done playing. You've got to pick up and put the things in the bin.

You have somewhere for things to belong and that's the key. You have to decide how much space things are going to take up by getting something that you're going to keep it in. So that's where the bin comes in.

By getting an outdoor bin for toys to go in, you're deciding this is how much space our outdoor toys are going to take up. Then when your stuff exceeds that amount of space, instead of buying more storage, get rid of stuff so that new outdoor bin becomes the deciding factor of how much stuff you allow your kids to have for playing outside.

We have a pretty big one - the largest outdoor bin you can get - and there's just lots of fun toys in there. It's all stuff that my kids use all the time, every week. But if our stuff exceeds that bin and it becomes not a big enough space to host our outdoor stuff, then I'm not going to go and buy another bin or buy a bigger bin. I'm going to get rid of stuff.

A lot of the time it helps to have the amount of space you're willing to give to something be the deciding factor in how much of that thing you have. It's really helpful to look at it that way.

Also, a quick side note about bikes, scooters and things like that. There are giant hooks that you can also get at Lowe's or Home Depot. You can hang them in the garage and stack multiple bikes and scooters onto those hooks, especially if they're little kid bikes and scooters. They fit better.

We used to have our bikes and scooters on the side of the house and that was fine. But it wasn't covered in our new house, so when it would rain, which is rare here, the bikes would get rusted.

I didn't really want them in the garage because you guys might already know our garage is a really functional space. It's not a normal garage. It's Brian's gym and then he's got his drum set. He plays worship at our church so he has his drum set here, like a music studio. Then behind that the garage is pushed back and there's a faux brick wall we've built, and this is my office. So our garage is a really functional space.

We got these big hooks at Lowe's and we put them on the wall, so now the bikes and scooters hang on a wall in the garage and they're out of the way. They're up off the floor. They are protected from the weather. The kids can get them down because they're not super high up. The helmets hang off of the bike handles.

It's super functional, really easy, and really out of the way. I can link to the hooks that I'm talking about in the show notes.


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This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

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Ep 044: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Simple ways to entertain guests as a minimalist.

  • How she reads so much in the busyness of life and what faith-based books she is enjoying right now.

  • What courses to start with if you are ready to dive into simplistic living.

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This super extensive, extremely detailed course is literally everything you need to become a minimalist mama who's able to be a lot more present for what matters most. This truly is the ultimate when it comes to my philosophy and implementing it into your own life.


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Hi beautiful friend! Welcome to this month’s Coffee & Questions segment here on The Purpose Show! The Coffee & Questions segment is a time when I sit down with 2-4 questions from you. You guys ask questions in many different places – email, Instagram Messages, Instagram Comments, Facebook, all of that. I have my team help me pull a few select questions and I answer them once a month. This is a time where I always physically have a cup of coffee with me because it feels super fun. It feels like I am sitting down with my friends, having coffee, and just…chatting. That’s what I want my show to feel like, especially this segment. If you asked a question, this is a time where I may answer it. So, sit down, cozy up, get a cup of coffee, and let’s chat!

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Okay, let's dive in.

Question #1: How do you entertain as a minimalist, especially when your kids want to have friends over, but you don't have an abundance of toys or space? I technically don't need 15 coffee mugs, but what if I have friends over and we all want coffee? It seems like it can get expensive to always have disposable stuff on hand.

This is a great question and I'm really excited to answer it.

In Your Uncluttered Home, especially, I teach you how to make minimalism work for you, and I talk about this a lot in all of my free stuff too. You have to make minimalism work for you, who you are as a person, and how you use your home.

For me, hosting is a huge part of who I am and how I use my home. I love being hospitable.

Those of you who have been around for a while might remember when we bought a camper and renovated it. We traveled the country for about seven or eight months. The reason we didn't go a full year, which was the original plan, was because I couldn't take not hosting anymore. I missed having a home base. I missed having a “regular home,” having friends over, being the one who hosted for holidays, decorating. Opening up my home to people who needed a friend, who needed to come and vent. Or have a cup of coffee with somebody who needed prayer. Hosting book club and Bible Studies. I missed that so much. It was the biggest, number one reason that we didn't complete our goal of a full year of full-time camper living and traveling with the kids. It's huge for me, so I totally understand this question.

I absolutely have extra cups and more coffee mugs that I need for that very reason. I am always the hostess for family events. I host something in my house multiple times a month all the time. The only reason you will see me not hosting is if we are sick or something.

Thanksgiving is at my house. Christmas is at my house. Weekend barbecues. Memorial Day. Everything is at my house. The only holiday we don't host at our house is 4th of July because we have a different tradition based on going to a park in our area with a bunch of friends at our church.

I love hosting. It's a huge part of who I am. This is also one of the biggest reasons that Brian and I prioritize our home financially. Putting money into the outdoor space with lots of seating, making it really beautiful and welcoming. Using the front room and forcing an extra living room in there even though our house wasn't really designed to have a front living room and a main living room. We made it work and made sure we had extra seating and sofas in two living spaces because we like to host. This is why we wanted to create a welcoming space and we're happy to open up to others.

It's a huge part of our family and our legacy. We love being hospitable. You'll often find us saying, “Oh, why don't you guys just come over this weekend and we can talk about it.” We love hosting.

We have two coffee machines for this reason. We have a lot of things that are circled around opening up our home. You have to make minimalism work for you. If you don't, if you like to entertain, and purging certain items will make that difficult or more expensive for you, then why would you do that? Why would you let those things go?

If you do that, and in that case then what you're doing is getting into this sort of legalistic minimalism, which is focused on following a set of unwritten rules and letting go of things because you technically don't need them, and because you think that you should let them go. Not because it isn't serving you and you know it's right for you to let it go.

You've got to know yourself. You've got to know who you are, what you like to do, what lights you up, how you use your home.

Even if you aren't super hospitable like I am and like the person who asked this question is, if you have kids, they're going to have friends over every now and then most likely when they're teenagers. We all want to be the place where the kids hang out, right? So we can keep an eye on them? If you don't have any extra things it's just not a reliable way to live.

This is why I have a whole lesson on this in Your Uncluttered Home where I talk about having extras. But if it really bothers you, if it's really creating more work for you, if your family is pulling out the extra mugs, cups, and making more dishes for you, then store those things in another place separate from your regular dishes. Pull those things out when it's time to host something.

I totally understand. And that's what I would say to that question.

Really quick note on the part about “I don't have an abundance of toys for kids to play with when they come over.” That doesn't matter.

We have a limited amount of toys. We definitely have toys. I've shared before that we have a bin of Legos in the homeschool room. We have a toy bin that we purchased at Ikea. (I think they discontinued it. I always get questions about our toy bin. I think it's gone because I can never find it to tag it for anyone.) All the toys fit in there. The kids will go into the kids’ room and pull out the toys and play swords.

I will tell you this. What normally happens when we have a playdate and we have friends over, is the kids will go upstairs and they'll kind of explore. You know how it is when you go to somebody's house and your kids want to explore? What's their house like? What toys do they have? They will go up there and they'll either pull out something, make up a game or story, and play “imaginary play” like my kids do all day, every day, or they'll end up playing outside and not really using toys.

I have found that because I have four kids and they're used to playing this simplified way of playing, that they pull their new friends into the way that they like to play. But, we do have toys and they do get played with when friends are over.

If you have like a “toyless existence,” I don't really know what to tell you because we just don't live that way. We just have less.

It's not really a problem when friends come over.

Question #2:  I noticed you seem to be reading a lot of faith-based books right now. (Yes, that’s true.) What are they? Do you mind answering?

When I read I like to bop around by topic. For a certain amount of time I might be really into reading about business and growing my knowledge in that area of my life. And then next it might be faith-based books. Maybe next would be parenting, marriage or personal growth.

I bop around by topic and I'll get really into a certain area of my life and read a bunch of stuff on that topic. Then when I feel I'm burnt out focusing on that area of my life, I'll move onto the next. That’s just me. It's just a natural way that I take in books and content. It isn’t something intentional that I set out to do.

Here are some books that I've been reading right now.

I just finished Man, Myth, Messiah. It's a book much like The Case for Christ. I don't know if you guys have ever read that. It's really famous. It's a book that dives into the historical facts that prove Jesus existed, and prove who He was. I've been really interested in diving deeper into my faith. I was raised Christian. I went to a private Christian school. After I graduated high school I was at a point where I needed to decide if this was going to be my beliefs for myself, and not because I was raised that way and I went to a Christian school. I went on this little mini journey of finding God for myself.

I did and I continued to live the way that I was raised. But lately I've been interested in learning more. I want to know the facts. I've been really interested in diving into that area of my life. So I read Man, Myth, Messiah in paperback, and it was great.

I'm currently reading God's Not Dead, which is actually the Prequel to Man, Myth, Messiah written by the same author. It's really good. You may have heard of it. They turned it into one of those super cheesy Christian movies that I have not seen. I cannot stand those movies. I think they're so cheesy. I'm glad they're making them, but wow, the acting, I just can't handle it, so I'm reading the book. It's really good.

I'm listening to an Audible book called Poverty, Riches and Wealth: Moving from a Life of Lack into True Kingdom Abundance. It's basically a biblically-based book about wealth, money, money management and all that, which is something that I am always seeking to be more wise about.

Question #3. Can you share how you read so much in the busyness of life? It seems like you have so much going on, yet I always see you taking on a new book. Please share how you do this.

Absolutely. First of all, you have to understand the season of life that I'm in. I did not read this much when I had tiny babies and when my husband was working at his job, which I always say it was a 9-5, but it was not. He would leave at 5:30/6:00 in the morning and he wouldn't come back until after 10:00/10:30 pm sometimes. The earliest he would come back was at the kids' bedtime. So, I did not read this much back then. I didn't really do audio books back then either.

Understand the season that I'm in. Brian is home with me. We run our business together. We share the homeschooling load. We share the house load. Our kids are older. Emmett is 3-years-old (at the time of this recording, he’s 3 ½ , so I'm kind of out of that psycho season).

I've always been a reader. I've always been a bookworm, but it was a lot slower than it is now. The reason that I read so much is that I let myself. I gave myself permission to let go of this weird rule I had set for myself of not reading more than one book at once. I used to only read one book at once and I wouldn't let myself start a new book until that book was finished. I realized it was weird.

I put that on myself. I think that's actually really common. I've heard a lot of people say they do that. It was really holding me back from reading because sometimes I don't want to pick up that particular book. I want to pick up a different book. I let myself have a couple of books I bounce around between and they sit on my coffee table. Whatever I'm currently reading is either in my purse, because I take my books with me wherever I go, or it's sitting on my coffee table. I'll pick up one of the two books that I've got going on. They're usually around the same topic, the same type of book. I'll read as I can.

I read for about 20 to 30 minutes every single morning as part of my morning ritual. I shared that in an earlier podcast episode, which I will link to in the show notes if you guys are interested in that. I definitely get a chunk of reading done then. If I only read then I would still read a lot and I would still plow through my books pretty quickly. That alone could be a reason why I read so much.

But like I said, I bring my books with me everywhere. If I have a second, if Emmett falls asleep in the car, I will sit for a little bit and read my book instead of getting in the house and unloading him, hurrying up and coming inside to get onto the next thing.

I think with minimalism comes a slower-paced life. Even though I'm very busy, my life is incredibly full. My days are stacked with my morning routine, then I get into the work day. I have house stuff to take care of. I homeschool my kids. When there's baseball season, we have baseball. We have horse lessons. Then making dinner and getting the kids in bed. My days are stacked.

Even with all of that, there's a slower-paced lifestyle that we have because we've simplified so much. That's the way we are as a family.

I would say one of the biggest reasons that we do homeschool our kids is because we wanted to have a slower-paced life. When our kids were in school, we were always dropping off somebody or picking up somebody at different times and it was just crazy.

It was really a lot and it just didn't allow for a very slow-paced life. We felt like we only got a couple hours with our kids each evening and those couple of hours were full of homework, cooking dinner, going to baseball practice, and going into the next thing.  

We really didn't like that.

With this slower-paced life, there's room for things. Room for, “You know what, the kids are happy. I'm going to sit in the car for a few more minutes and read a few pages.” I'll take my kids to the park and I'll bring my book and sit on the bench and read a few pages. Then I'll go play with them and we'll go home. Maybe I need a second to myself in the midst of a crazy day when I'm feeling like I'm losing my patience. I'll tell Brian, “Hey, I'm going to go upstairs for a second and just breathe.” I'll bring my book, read a page or two, catch my patience again. Then come back downstairs and finish the day with my family.

I'm kind of sneaking it into my life throughout the day, but the biggest chunks of time are my half-hour of reading in the morning as part of my morning ritual, and sometimes I will read instead of watching Netflix.

I always have an audio book going at the same time as whatever paperback book I'm reading. I listen to my audio book every morning while I'm getting ready. So, with my morning routine, I have my quiet time and I do Pilates, read a book, read my Bible, and I have my prayer time and all that. But after I make sure the kids have had breakfast, make sure they're good, I go upstairs and I get dressed for my day. I'm doing makeup and throwing my hair together. It's usually only like 20 minutes. I will open up my Audible APP and I'll hit play on whatever audio book I have.

Right now my audio book is Poverty, Riches, and Wealth. I just finished a book called Jesus Feminist on audio and I listened to that every morning while I got ready. 20/30 minutes of getting ready, sometimes it's just 10/15 minutes depending on the day, but a chunk of time every single morning listening to an audiobook, I get through it pretty quickly.

That's how I do it. I have a lot going on, but I still make time for reading. I think it's really important to read. I teach my kids that too. Reading is power. Books are our power. Knowledge is power. It's important to always be growing, always be learning about a different area of your life. It’s important to not stay stagnant, but always be learning, growing. I think reading is the way to do that.

Those are the little tricks that I do to take in so many books all the time.

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When you buy something, you buy it with your time. With minutes from your life. Not just with your money. Studies show us that less clutter equals less stress and more time. It is really as simple as that.

This was the founding reason that I created Your Uncluttered Home. It has become my most popular, globally-praised, decluttering course that I designed for moms who want to live their lives more than they want to clean up after it.

It is truly the A-Z of minimalism. Every room. Every area. Every nook and cranny of your house totally uncluttered. This super extensive, extremely detailed course is literally everything you need to become a minimalist momma who is able to be a lot more present for what matters most.

To learn more about the course, go to alliecasazza.com/allcourses.

This really is the short-cut version. The exact journey that I took as a mom, 5-6 years ago, that got me to this point of an uncluttered, minimalistic motherhood where I am spending the least amount of time on my house every day.

Motherhood is just way too sweet a time to be spent struggling so hard and living in survival mode day in and day out.  Our stuff is really the cause of that.

If you want to start this lifestyle, if you want to simplify your life… I believe that it all starts at home.

Simplify your life.  alliecasazza.com/allcourses.

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Question #4: I love your teaching and I want to go all in. Which course is best to start with and why?

This is a really great question. I think it's one of the top five most asked questions. I see this all the time in my Facebook group. It's really popular. I'm happy to finally give this an answer.

First of all, if you go to my website and you click the courses tab at the top, there is a video explaining the differences between each of my courses. I have a breakdown of a picture and the title of the courses, a little bit of a quick recap of what they are. And then if you scroll down, you'll see a video of me and I am explaining the differences between each of my courses because I want to be super clear.

I want you to know what you're purchasing, know what you're enrolling in and know exactly what you're getting.

Each course has its own separate “about” page where you can read more details about exactly what is this course, what's in it, and where is it going to take you? Who are you going to be when you come out of it? Because if you go through the entire course and you do what I'm saying, you will be a completely different person. Who are you going to be when you come out of this course?

My courses are legit. They are serious. It's a deep, deep dive into each area of your life. If you think that my free stuff is helpful, if you really like the podcast, if you really like my blog posts and the free downloads, you have no idea how much of a serious dive into all this stuff the courses are. It is a heavy, serious power punch to your life. You will be different if you go through those courses.

I want you to know what you're getting into and I explain each thing in the video and on that page.

Also, I have designed my courses so that you can start anywhere. You can start with any of them. It just depends on where you're at and what's popping out at you more. If you look at the description for Unburdened and you're like, “wow, I really feel like this is really where I'm at right now” and it's just kind of speaking to you, enroll in that to start with.

If you're reading about Your Uncluttered Home and clutter is a huge, huge, huge drain on you right now and that's just where you're at, that's where you should start.

If you just kind of want to see who I am, maybe you're new and you don't know what I'm all about. You just want a little taste of something and you don't want to spend too much money, then try the Supermom Vault. That's why I designed it.

It also depends on your budget. The courses are all priced pretty differently and the prices of my courses reflect how deep of a dive they are and how much you will get out of each one. So, if you're able, I would always start with Your Uncluttered Home because I believe it all begins at home. It did for me in simplifying my entire life six years ago. It all started at home and it's a domino effect from there, but it could start somewhere else for you.

I'm just telling you, I know for a fact that if you start with your home and you simplify your physical clutter you will be changed. Science shows us, my life has shown me and the lives of thousands of other women all across the globe who have done Your Uncluttered Home, have shown me that if you start at home, you are setting yourself up for success. You are changing yourself on the inside and that affects everything - you're eating, your relationships, your calendar, your schedule. All of those things are affected by how you simplify your home.

A few months ago, I introduced “course bundles” and that means that I take two courses that go really well together and I create a bundle price, where I put them together and I slashed the price. So instead of getting Unburdened for $69 and Your Uncluttered Home for $200, I will slash Unburdened down by like 30/35 bucks and you're getting them both for $230.

Does that make sense? It's not a buy one get one, but it's close and it's a lot less. So, if you're going to get multiple courses, you don't really know where to start and you have the budget, you can just bundle it together and get two at once and start wherever you want or do them both at the same time.

One quick side note that I do want to say. This question isn't in here, but it's directly tied to the last question and I get it a lot. The way to start with my courses is once you enroll in something, just start listening. There's always a “start here lesson” at the beginning. Start there, watch that video, listen to that audio, get that content in your brain and just start listening.

Maybe you can replace a book with my course, do what I do and listen a little bit every morning, even just five minutes. Just get through the lessons. Start taking in the content. Then what I always tell beginners who have a really full life - maybe they have a baby at home, they work a lot, they are just really busy, really overwhelmed - take one week and spend 15 minutes every morning listening to the course. Then the next week, take that 15 minutes and apply what you learned last week, every day for 15 minutes every morning. That's it.

If you can get in an hour, if you end up doing 30 minutes instead – great! But just have the goal. Set a timer for 15 minutes, listen to the course every day for 15 minutes for one week. Then the next week, take action on the course for 15 minutes every day. Just 15 minutes. Start there and keep that pattern of every other week taking in the course and the weeks in between taking action on the course and you will slowly, but surely change your life.

And really that's not that slowly. That's a lot. It's going to go quick and you're going to see a huge difference in yourself, your home and your life.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show. Did you know there is an exclusive community created solely for the purpose of continuing discussions surrounding The Purpose Show episodes? And to get you to actually take action and make positive changes on the things that you learn here? Go be a part of it. To join go to facebook.com/groups/purposefulmamas.

Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, and get step-by-step help from me, head to alliecasazza.com. There are free downloads, courses, classes, and ways to learn more about what the next step might look like for you and to focus on whatever you might need help with in whatever season you are in right now.  

I am always rooting for you, friend!

See ya next time!

Hey mama! Just a quick note, this post may contain affiliate links.

 

Ep 035: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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I love doing these monthly Q+A’s for you guys! I get a lot of questions and when I notice the same questions coming in, I really enjoy answering them. One of the most common questions I get asked is why we decided to homeschool, how it has made our lives simpler/harder, and how it helps our family mission. I also share the items that make my life easier (especially as a mama!) and my tips on decision making. Grab some coffee and enjoy this month’s Q+A!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Several items that make her life easier, especially as a mom.

  • The reason she decided to homeschool her kids and how it makes it simpler, harder or helps her family mission.

  • The benefits she sees from making the commitment to homeschool.

  • Tips on decision making.

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Tell every hour where to go before it happens, so you can rock yo #momlife.

  • Discover how much time you need, how much you have, and how you can get sh*t done with this digital download.
  • Figure out the best time for you to start your day.
  • Get an aerial view of your week so you can see more clearly where there is margin. 

who doesn't love a GIVEAWAY?

Reviews are everything on iTunes! Would you take a minute and click here to leave a review? Email hello@alliecasazza.com with a screenshot of your review on iTunes. You'll be entered to win one of Allie's amazing courses for FREE!  

If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at hello@alliecasazza.com or connect with me over on Facebook & Instagram


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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey friends! Welcome to another coffee and questions episode. In case you don't know, this is a monthly episode that I put out and it's really fun! I feel like it's a good opportunity for me to address some of the common questions that I get sent. It’s usually via Instagram messenger, or my assistant gives them to me from getting them in my email.

When we get something multiple times, I like to address it and I want to be helpful. I can't answer every single message in question that I get in real time, but I can do this. So, let's dive back into another coffee and questions episode.

I make it a tradition to actually have coffee with me when I do this because, I wish that I could have a cup of coffee and sit and have a casual chat with each and every one of you on a regular basis. It literally would be my dream. I would love that. And it's not possible.

I like to really calm down, just take a deep breath and make these episodes really casual, like Chit Chat. So, I do have a cup of Starbucks right now because I am out of coffee in my house.

I'm excited to dive in, sit and relax with you guys, and answer a few of your recent questions. Let's dive in.

QUESTION #1: What are some of the top physical items or material items that you'd say have made your life easier, in particular your mom life?

My mom life is my mom life, but I get what you're saying. This is a great question. I really thought about this and I came up with four things.

The first one would be my Samsung Robo Vac. These things have been around for years and I always was skeptical. It seems like super excess and a little unnecessary. But I got one. When we moved into our new house we had to go get a new refrigerator. They had this Black Friday week special going on where if you a big appliance over a certain amount you get the Robovac for free. We just got it because of that deal. I thought, “Well, I guess that’s cool.” It has been so amazing. It has totally changed my life. Honestly, I'm so glad that I got that little vacuum for free. Now knowing how helpful it is, I absolutely would have paid over full price for it. It's been amazing.

It's really cut down on my time. I never, never, never, seriously never, pull out the vacuum for downstairs anymore. In my house we have hardwood floors on the lower level of the house and then there's carpet upstairs and tile in the bathrooms. Downstairs the little vacuum sits tucked away behind the dining room table area against the wall. You can't really see it unless you're going to sit down on that side of the table. I can push the remote and tell him where to go and he will do his thing. He picks up all the cereal pieces and crumbs. He picks up so much.

It's a He. Of course, I call it a “he”. He picks up so much that I didn't see. We have a little broom and dustpan downstairs that we use for quick cleanups, if someone spills something or whatever. We'll go through just out of habit and sweep up.

But then if I run the Robovac later, he gets full again of stuff that I didn't see. He'll go over the rug; he'll go over everything. He doesn't stop just because there's a rug, he'll totally go over. He goes under all the furniture, underneath the TV console, underneath the sofas, underneath a table, all the chairs, everything. He's amazing.

He goes underneath the cabinetry all the way to the baseboards underneath the kitchen cabinets. He's great. It's so helpful. He really cuts down on my time. I run him once a day. It’s a habit. If I'm leaving in the evening, I turn him on while we're out of the house. It's great. This has really, really changed my life.

I think they're all just as good. I've talked to a lot of people and I specifically asked a friend of mine, who I know has a different brand than I do. I have a Samsung, I don't know exactly what it's called. I will link to it in the show notes, but it's a Samsung one. It's not even the Roomba.

I know the Roomba was great too, but it's just the Samsung brand of whatever the Roomba is. I'll link to the one that I have specifically, but it has been great. Totally worth the money. Of course, I didn't spend the money but I would have if I had known how amazing it was.

That has really cut down on my time, really simplified my life. You guys know that I am really big on delegating and honestly that is a form of delegation for sure. And I think it's worth every penny to delegate running the vacuum on your lower level or whatever.

This is a silly one, but the other thing that I would say has made my life a lot better is a great pair of tennis shoes. Again, this might sound silly, but I dress pretty simply. I really like to get dressed and I like to feel put together. Even if I'm just running errands or hanging out, I don't feel good unless I'm somewhat put together.

I have a couple pairs of tennis shoes that have really been game changers for me. Two of them are Nike, and one of them is Adidas. Super cute, trendy, sporty tennis shoes that can transition from being worn with activewear or even jeans and a tee shirt. I wear these tennis shoes all the time in rotation. They go with almost every outfit. They're just really comfortable. I can wear them to Disneyland or Legoland, now that we have Legoland passes, instead. I can wear them when I'm running errands or when I'm just cleaning up around the house.

I have gone out with them. They look cute in any setting and they're super comfortable. They are not too pricey, but definitely worth a little bit more of an investment than say going to Target and grabbing a pair of $25 shoes that are going to be uncomfortable and they're not even a good a brand and they were out super quick.

One of them is the Nike Tanjuns. They are the black ones with the white bottoms that I wear all the time and I get asked about all the time. Then I'll link to the other two.

I like to have a couple of different pairs, just kind of in rotation, that look good with different outfits and I wear those pretty much every single day. Those have made my life a lot easier.

I just feel put together. I feel cute, sporty and trendy. I can wear them with skinny jeans, workout pants or my leggings. They just work all the time and they make my life super easy. They transition well from run errands to the baseball field for practice at night, or whatever it is I'm doing.

That might seem like an insignificant one, but seriously, I think about it all the time. I recently wore out my original pair of Nike Tanjuns and I went right back and bought another pair of the exact same ones.

I like to switch things up, but if I buy something again, it's really, really good. I will link to my favorite pairs of tennies and you guys can pick whatever you want if you want to get something.

But that has been a real style staple for me and really made my life easier in that way.

I would say another one has to do with the kids and that is our trampoline. We got the kids a 12-foot trampoline for Christmas. It was their family gift and it has been so amazing. They are seriously out there on that thing all the time.

They have a bunch of games they made up that they play on the trampoline. They use it to pretend they're exploring, pretend they're in the circus. They bring it into all the stories and games they make up together. They use that thing all the time. It's awesome. It gets them outside. Often, they'll go out there to play on the trampoline and they'll end up staying out there longer and playing something else.

It's been really, really great for homeschooling, especially if the kids are getting antsy, can't seem to focus, and I'm getting frustrated because it's just been a day. I'll say, “OK guys, five-minute trampoline break.” I'll set the timer and they'll go and jump their little hearts out, get all their energy out. They'll come back in and totally be calmer and ready to keep going with school.

It has been amazing. Brian and I love having a trampoline so I'll link to the trampoline that we have as well.

Then the last thing is I would say is I got a large capacity washer and dryer when we moved into the new house. There was already a washer and dryer here, but they were terrible. The guy said, “I'm just going to leave those there. You can keep them.”

And yeah, no, they were awful. The dryer was a piece of junk and was frying the clothes. It just was awful. I decided, you know what, I've paid my dues. I've had a lot of crappy machines. I do laundry every day. I have a lot of people in my house. I've got a lot of laundry to wash, as minimal as I am. If you have a lot of people in your house, you have a lot of laundry to wash. So, I'm going to invest in a good washer and dryer.

I got mine at Best Buy and they are Samsung as well. I'll link to them. I love them. I think they have them in black and white, which is awesome. I found that they had these. I didn't even know they had these, because I've just always had secondhand stuff.

I have a large capacity washer and dryer, so the barrel on the inside is huge and can handle two or three hampers’ worth of stuff. It actually gets the whole load clean even if you fill it. It's amazing.

I went ahead and invested in the large capacity washer and dryers and it has been so great. On “linens day,” when I've got to wash all the bed sheets, the quilts. Every once in a while (this is rare) I'll do all the curtains in the house. Bella and Leland both have weird allergies where they get sniffly if there's too much dust, so I will wash all the curtains just to make sure. I'm actually really grateful for that because it keeps me like super clean. I don't know a lot of people who wash their curtains, but because they are like that, I kind of have to do it. It makes everything super clean and I'm grateful for that.

If somebody gets sick and we've got a bunch of linens to wash, or we have to do all the bed sheets, or maybe I fell out of my rhythms for the weekend and I’m behind on the laundry, I can do a giant load, that's really three loads at one time. It doesn't make the washer weird or get bumpy and crazy. It's awesome.

The dryer is also large capacity. I can do the big load in the washer and then the dryer can handle that same load. I love, love, love my washer and dryer.

I feel like one thing that I've really learned recently is if you can afford it, invest your money in the things that you use all the time.

We have an amazing refrigerator. We have an amazing washer and dryer. I've got my go-to tennies that are Nike and Adidas name brands that I invested in and that I love. Invest in the things that you really use a lot.

I have a great Curling Iron too. I can link to that for you guys too. That's not something that necessarily makes my life easier, but things that I use all the time.

I like to have as good as I can afford because it's an investment. I am using my washer and dryer every single day. It's been amazing. It really helps.

I'll link to that for those who want to know and of course, everybody has a different budget and there's different seasons of life. If you guys listened to episode six, you know that I understand not even being able to wrap your head around what I'm saying right now because you're just trying to get through to tomorrow, but you're asking me what physical items make my life easier. Those are the four that immediately came to mind.

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QUESTION 2: Why did you decide to homeschool? How does it make life simpler or harder or help your family mission? I'm wondering what your motivation was and the benefits that you see from making the commitment to homeschool your kids.

This is another great question. Honestly, I never really decided ahead of time that I would homeschool. It's sort of something that I fell into as a parent once I started being a mother. If you guys have followed me for any length of time, you'll know that we've put our kids in school. We've had them home. We've done charter school, homeschooling, public school. We homeschool right now because it works out really well for our lifestyle, practically speaking. Brian and I worked really hard together to get out of the typical nine to five job schedule.

When our kids were in school, it really sucked because the school system is on a normal schedule, so we put us back into the “OK, we can take vacations when everybody else is taking vacations again,” even though we had worked so hard to get out of that normal schedule where we're waiting for the weekend to do fun stuff, and we can't just leave on a Wednesday and go do something fun together. We had worked so hard and gotten out of that.

We put our kids in school because the business was a little too overwhelming. We needed to take a break from homeschooling and running the business at the same time. It was hard because we were back in that “normal, everybody else” schedule. One of the bigger reasons that we homeschool is not what everyone else usually homeschools for.

We don't hate the public school system. We don't want to protect our kids from everything and keep them home and sheltered with us. We're not, I guess, the “typical homeschoolers” in that way.

One of the bigger reasons that we homeschool is because it works really well for our family. It helps us to stay flexible. We’re together all the time. We can do whatever we want, whenever we want. We can take a vacation in the middle of the week, in the middle of the winter if we want to. While everyone else is still at school, we can leave for two months at a time and it's totally fine. We can work from wherever. We can do school from wherever. We can take breaks and not work and not do school whenever and it works really, really well for us. We like that freedom, we like to be more in control of our scheduling and our life, and homeschooling lines right up with that. That's probably the biggest reason.

And then, of course, there is the more “purpose driven” reason to where it's where the peace is right now. I wrote a blog post a couple years back that talked about how I don't know exactly what we're going to do in the future. I don't claim that we're always going to homeschool.

If everything went perfectly well, nothing dramatic happened, nothing that I can't even imagine took place, and everything went ideally - yeah, we would homeschool all the way through until the kids are not in school anymore.

But I don't know if that's going to happen. I may burn out or there may be something crazy that happens in our life that just causes us to press pause. I mean, that happened even last year.

We just couldn't do both (homeschooling and the business) anymore. We had to take a break so we could hire some people and delegate some of our role in the business. It was way too much.

We definitely do see a purpose in having our kids with us most of the time and being the ones to teach them, train them and pour into them during the day. I love that my kids are together a lot and that they have a lot of play time. They're not in school for seven, eight hours a day. It's just a couple of hours. It's split up however they need it to be, and it's very tailored to them. I see a lot of benefits in their education from being homeschooled versus going to public school, especially since I did experience what public school is like.

I definitely have those reasons, but they're very, very small in comparison. It works really well for our family right now. It always has, except for that small season last year with the business, which we solved that problem by hiring and getting some things off of our plate.

Hope that answers your question. Then the part about does it make it simpler or harder? It definitely simplifies it from not having to drop off and pick up, and run our lives by someone else's schedule, by the school system schedule.

It makes their life simpler in the ways that I listed, like being able to take vacations and go to Legoland when it's empty. Being able to run errands with our kids and go to doctor's appointments without having to sign somebody out, go pick them up and ask for permission. It makes my life a lot simpler in terms of paperwork because I can't believe the amount of paperwork that came home from the kid's school with them every day.

The way it makes it harder… I used to think that homeschooling made life a little bit harder in terms of you have the weight of your kid's education on you. But you know why I really don't think that anymore? Honestly, at this point, I really think that homeschooling has made my life simpler.

It is harder to do the whole drop off/pick up and then help them with homework. To only get a few hours in the evening with them while you're trying to race home to do homework and then race to baseball practice and get dinner on the table. It was just so hurried and so rushed. In my opinion and for our family, there really isn't anything that homeschooling could do to me that would make that harder than when the kids were in public school.

QUESTION 3: This might sound weird, but I would love tips on making decisions. You obviously live a very full life and you must be good at figuring out “yes or no and why or why not” pretty easily. I often find myself agonizing over decisions- sometimes big ones, sometimes small ones. I would love to hear your advice and thoughts on this.

Thank you for your question, whoever sent this. I don't have names, but yeah, that's a great question.

I think one of the biggest things for me is giving myself space to decide.

You guys might know that on Fridays I have meetings pretty much the whole first half of the day. Every Friday morning till the afternoon is full of meetings. That's when I handle any kind of meetings that I need to have. It's on Fridays so that I can batch my schedule and know “OK Fridays I'm getting in meeting mode.”

One of those meetings that I have every week is with Ashley, who handles press for me. A lot of the time she will have a list of things for me that have come in that week, like opportunities, and she'll ask me, “Hey, this person reached out. They want to do this with you. Do you want to do this? Yes or no?” A lot of the time I'll get like a gut feeling. I'll just know, “yeah, that's a no.” But also sometimes I tell her, “You know what, let's just be quiet for one second and let me think about it” and I'll literally take a minute and say, “OK, no, we're not going to do that.” I just need to think about it for a second right then and there. But also sometimes I'll say, “You know what, let me just think about that” and I'll take the rest of the day or even that weekend and get back to her the following week.

Give yourself permission to have space to make a decision. I think we often think a decision needs to be made right here, right now. Especially if somebody is asking us on a phone call or in person, or even in text. There's like an unspoken pressure to answer right then and right now. And, of course, it's not that Ashley was pressuring me or anything. We're just having a meeting and trying to knock out tasks and go through things. I think get out of that mindset of having to know right now and just give yourself permission to take a beat and take some time to decide.

Because what that does is let the idea sift around in your subconscious a little bit. You get a gut feeling, “You know what, I really do want to do that. I'm going to say yes to that,” or the opposite, “You know, I really just don't feel like that fits my life and I'm not going to do that.”

By giving yourself some space, you give yourself a chance to think about it, let it settle and really get a gut reaction to making a decision about something. I definitely think that's pretty powerful for me in terms of making big decisions.

And then, of course, for me prayer is a big part of that too. Talking it out with God and letting Him know how I feel, what I'm worried about. What I would like about this decision and what I would not like. What I'm concerned about. Then just letting him bring me peace and I just follow the peace in my life.

If I feel peaceful about saying “no” to something, I will say no. If I feel peaceful about saying “yes” to something, I will say yes.

Then also I think, just weighing it out and asking yourself, (If the decision is some kind of extracurricular activity for your kids) “Why would I say yes to this? Is it because I want to say yes to my kid. I want to make them happy? Or is it out of obligation? Is it out of fear? Where is this coming from? Is this going to serve my family? Is it going to serve our calendar? Is it going to serve me? Is it going to serve my child in a way that’s worth all this time? How much time is this going to require of us? How much free time do I feel we really have? Should I wait until baseball is over until we joined this thing? Can we handle it right now? How much money is it going to cost? Is this worth the investment?”

Weighing out your options and really looking at it. I think we often overestimate how much time we really have in a given week, month or even day. Take a step back and look at it.

Sometimes you willingly step into a busier season. For example, personally, I know that towards the end of this year we're going to be heading into a very relaxed, home-all-the-time, saying-no-to-a-lot-of-things season of our life. I know that some things are going to be happening in our family that we're going to take a beat, take a breath. Work less. Say “yes” less. Out of the house less. We're probably going to take a break from baseball, sports, horseback lessons and things like that towards the end of this year, late fall and holidays.

I know that we're in a busier season right now and I'm OK with that because they know that things are going to ebb and flow and we're not going to stay here.

Right now, both of the boys are in baseball. They're on the same team, so we've got a practice and a game every week and every once in a while they throw in two games a week. So, that’s two to three nights a week for baseball or Saturday morning, depending.

Bella's horseback riding lessons once a week.

The kids wanted to do this Minecraft- themed engineering class. That's only a four- week segment, but you know, that's once a week right now. We just actually finished the last one today.

Then Leland has guitar lessons twice a week as part of his homeschool.

There's a lot going on.

And we work, we run the business. We are doing homeschooling four days a week. We have church on Sundays. Like it's a lot. Every day, there’s something, we're leaving the house for something.

But you know, it's good. It's wholesome for us right now. It's serving us right now. The boys are doing great in baseball. They love being on the same team. We make it a family affair. We all go together. We watch them. We cheer for them. And the other two kids play near the baseball field while the boys are doing their games and practices.

Bella is loving being back with horses. That's her passion.

Leland is just doing amazing in guitar. He's learning so much and he's super passionate about music. That's great. It's a part of our homeschool day so it's not like in the evening like everything else is.

It's been really good. Yeah, we're busier and it's tiring. We hit our pillows at the end of every night exhausted but in a good way. And it's just a season.

We had a very slow winter season before this started. We willingly went into this knowing, “OK, this is going to be something just about every day, but we're good with that.” We just make sure we have one day a week. It's carved out purely for rest, getting restored. That's good. It's just a season.

I think you have to weigh out a lot of stuff.  “Is this going to be good for us right now? Is this too much?”

It's OK for you to change. You can't know, “OK, one activity per kid all the time for forever.” You have to wait and go season by season.

What if you have another baby next year? You’re probably not going to be OK doing everything that you're doing now when your youngest is five years old, or whatever your situation is. You have to kind of let life happen and go accordingly, if that makes sense.

So that was good! Good questions, guys! I hope that was helpful and encouraging for you all. I love these episodes. I can't wait for the next one!

Thanks for listening and I'll talk to you guys next time.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

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Ep 034: It's Allie's Birthday & We're About to Get to Know Her Better

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Today is my 31st birthday! And I thought it would fun to let you guys get to know me a little bit better. This is a laid back quiz-style episode where Brian asks me the best of all the random questions submitted by my amazing Instagram followers last month, and I answer them on the spot. Get to know what my favorite things are, my family origin, my hidden talent … and everything in between. You guys asked, I answered. Let’s dive into this birthday Q+A!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • Her favorite ice-cream flavor, TV shows, scent, wine and books.

  • What her Myers-Briggs personality type is.

  • How many tattoos and piercings she has and if she regrets any of them.

  • The one thing she would never share with her audience and prefers to keep private.

  • Her family origin, how she describes her childhood, and if was homeschooled.

  • Her most embarrassing moments and her biggest pet peeve.

  • … and SO much more!

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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ALLIE: Hey Friends! Welcome to The Purpose Show! This episode is a fun one! I’m sitting here with my husband, Brian, and we did a fun little questionnaire a while back. Today is actually my 31st birthday and it’s new episode day. We thought we would take this opportunity to do something fun and let you guys get to know me a little bit better. I have been getting a lot of messages and emails asking random things about me. It felt like this was wanted, but of course, if you don’t care, I don’t blame you one bit and you can skip this episode.

We let people submit their answers via Instagram on a Google Form and there was lots and lots of input. We had someone go through and pull the ones that were asked the most often.

Brian, you ask the questions and I will answer them.

BRIAN: What is your favorite ice cream brand or flavor?

ALLIE: Ben and Jerry’s. What’s the one with brownies and cookies?  It’s got the raw chunks of brownie and cookie dough, chocolate and vanilla. I have to take two Lactaids before I can eat it? That one.

BRIAN: What is your personality type? Myers-Briggs or Enneagram?

ALLIE: Myers-Briggs I believe is ISTJ and I’m an eight on the Enneagram. We just did that one together.

BRAIN: How many tattoos and piercings do you have? Do you regret any of them?

ALLIE: This question makes me sound like Kat Von D, the tattoo ink girl. I had a nose ring and Bella ripped it out when she was a baby. That was fun. I have my ears pierced, but that’s it for piercings. Hmm…tattoos. {counting} I have four tattoos and just my ears pierced.

And do you regret any of them? No, definitely not.

BRIAN: They all meant something.

ALLIE: Yeah. They are all very special and they mean something.

BRIAN: How do you take your coffee when you’re out and what do you do to your coffee at home? It always looks frothy and delicious.

ALLIE: When I’m out I will either get it black or with a splash of cream. Right now, I’m in a splash of cream phase. At home, same thing. If I do put cream in it, I get raw, unpasteurized, unhomogenized milk from a local natural shop. I put a little bit of that in it. It looks frothy and delicious because we have an espresso machine and it’s amazing. It makes espresso and coffee. I drink coffee. You’re the one that likes espresso.

BRIAN: Yeah. If you could trade places and have one of your kids be you and you be one of them, who would you choose? If you picked one of the kids and then switched?

ALLIE: I think Hudson. I am the oldest so I wouldn’t switch with Bella because I know what it’s like to be an oldest girl. I think Hudson because…I don’t know. I feel like out of everybody, he’s the one that I have a hard time understanding and he’s the “Middle Kid”. There really is no middle for us, but he has the traits and personality, the stereotypes of a middle child. I feel like I would want to have a deeper understanding of why he is the way that he is.

BRIAN: What is one aspect of your life you would never share with us or your fans?

ALLIE: My fans? What my tattoos mean. What? I won’t. It’s personal and special. It is a map of the innermost feelings of my life. I like having it be private.

BRIAN: What is your “go to” sing your heart out song?

ALLIE: I have several. It is hard to think of because I really like music. I have songs for every time of my life that have been really special to me and that I love singing to in the car and stuff. I would probably say over the last couple of years, and that has been sung to the most (especially with the kids in the car) would be Taylor Swift’s “All You Had To Do Was Stay.” I know all the words to that one in my “singing range.” Don’t be annoyed. I know you’re sick of it. All the kids love it. It’s so cute when they sing it. That’s my go-to. If I was even by myself on a drive and I needed to have a good “sing”, I would put that on. I guess that’s my answer.

BRIAN: What is your hidden talent?

ALLIE: Oh crap.

BRIAN: You’re good at a lot of things but you don’t have one weird special talent.

ALLIE: It’s not really a talent but I am fluent in sign language.

BRAIN: Yeah. No one knows that. Remember I saw you talk to someone once that needed help.

ALLIE: But then they started going super fast and signing like a psychopath when I couldn’t keep up. But I am fluent. I just don’t use it very much.

BRIAN: I would say that not too many people can do that though. Sometimes I forget that you can do that. It’s a hidden talent.

ALLIE: We’ll just go with that because I don’t know anything else.

BRIAN: Do you plan on growing your family any bigger?

ALLIE: Yes. Yes, we do. Skip it, go on to the next one!

BRIAN: What do you typically eat in a day?

ALLIE: I am not a breakfast person. I like breakfast foods but I am not a big “starving in the morning person.” I will have a health bar or something, which it’s getting harder and harder to find good ones that don’t have crap in them. Or I like a smoothie. Or an egg with coffee. You will sometimes make me breakfast if I have a busy day and I am getting ready for the day, but I don’t like to eat it very much. And lunch…salad, chicken breasts and veggies. A turkey protein plate with deli meat, a little slice of cheese, fruit. And dinner… it’s different. It depends because we eat out sometimes. We eat traditional cooking, healthy.

BRIAN: You only get one outfit for date night to wear for the rest of the year. What do you choose?

ALLIE: Black skinny jeans, high-waisted, with a flowy black top tucked in, my Lottas, and Statement earrings. That was very specific but I knew what my answer was.

BRIAN: If you were stranded on an island, what three books would you want? These are the books you are going to have for the rest of your life. What kinds of books would you have like that?

ALLIE: First of all, Streams In The Desert. I think I’ve read that book enough to last me a lifetime. On A Desert Island, that devotional book that I always read in the morning, for sure. I know it’s not a real “devotional” but that’s what I would definitely want to have with me. Jane Austen for sure. Sense and Sensibility. It would be a nice escape from my terrible life on a desert island by myself. This is awkward because all of my favorite books are self-help and that’s not really going to get me anywhere. Maybe the book on mindset. I don’t like fiction very much. Of course, I would pick Wuthering Heights.

BRIAN: What is the story of your family origin? Your parents look so young and it seems you have a lot of siblings.

ALLIE: My story? My parents look so young? That’s just because they have amazing genes and I hope that I go those ones. My parents are from Cuba. My dad legit came over here on a little boat with his parents and brother when he was 3. My parents look really young because they have great genes. They weren’t teen parents if that’s what you’re getting at. They got married after high school and had me three years later. I don’t have a lot of siblings; I am the oldest of four. My brother, Seth, is 3 ½ years younger than me. My sister, Emma is 10 years younger than me. My brother, Caleb, is 14 years younger than me. We are definitely spread apart. My parents are still married and they’re super cute together.

BRIAN: If you were on death row, what would be your last meal? I guess it could have been less awkward and asked, What was your favorite cheat meal?

ALLIE: That was an amazing question. Cheeseburger, fries, and a Coke Classic. I’m very American.

BRIAN: What are your favorite TV shows?

ALLIE: I Love Lucy. Always. I was raised on it. I watch it weekly. The Office. Parks and Recreation. Friends. I really like Superstore. That’s probably it.

BRIAN: If money, space, kids, weren’t a factor, what is something you would totally and irrationally splurge on?

ALLIE: I am not sure if this is along the lines of what people are thinking? I would have somebody come every night and take care of my skin. A facial. A person that comes in and gives me a full-on facial and does whatever they should do to my skin to make it amazing and shiny every day.

BRIAN: Wow! Which country would you most like to visit?

ALLIE: Definitely somewhere in Europe.

BRIAN: I know we have talked about places that we want to go, but what’s your most wanted to visit?

ALLIE: I am going to be annoying and give two things, even though it’s supposed to be one. I would like to visit Cuba to see where my family is from. But I also really want to go to Italy really badly. Definitely number one.

BRIAN: What is your most embarrassing moment?

ALLIE: Falling over in college. I was walking from the door to my seat and I fell over and my dress came all the way up. That was humbling.

BRIAN: Glad I wasn’t in that class. {laughing}

ALLIE: We were already married.  Second most embarrassing moment…were we even dating yet? We were in high school. We were at the beach and that wave basically knocked me unconscious and I stood up and my boob was out. That was embarrassing and you saved me. You hadn’t even seen it because we weren’t married. Also, I’m sorry I said “boob”. Hopefully, your guys’ kids aren’t around.

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BRIAN: When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?

ALLIE: When I was super little, I wanted to be a teacher. Then when I got a bit older, mid-childhood, I wanted to be a writer. That never left.

BRIAN: What book from your childhood did you love the most? Or which one had the biggest impact?

ALLIE: The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe. Also, this is kind of random, but the Disney movie, Snow White, was never my favorite, but reading the traditional story of Snow White…There was something about the way that the story was told and the aspects of storytelling in that book that made me want to be a writer. That was another one too.

BRIAN: As a kid, did you go to school or were you homeschooled?

ALLIE: I went to private school. I was homeschooled for one year, almost out of necessity.

BRIAN: Same thing with me. What’s your favorite wine?

ALLIE: Sauvignon Blanc. I am not going to say a specific brand, but that’s my favorite type of wine. Wine is my least favorite alcohol, though. I will drink it, but I’m more of a beer girl.

BRIAN: If you could have dinner with three people, dead or alive, who would they be?

ALLIE: That’s another one that’s hard to come up with off the top of my head. Lucille Ball. That’s an obvious one. Jane Austen. Yes, that would be amazing. Although I feel like she’d be a dull dud. The more I learn about her, her personality and life - she was a very good writer, but maybe there would have been a lot of awkward silences that I would be trying to fill. I would say Steve Carell, Lucille Ball. I wanted to say Chris Farley, but all three of those people are comedians. Leah Remini from King of Queens

BRIAN: You like funny shows, though. You never watch anything else. What’s your favorite movie of all time?

ALLIE: The version of Sense & Sensibility with Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet. I could watch it over and over and over again. The part at the end where Edward proposes? I love that movie.

BRIAN: How tall are you?

ALLIE: 5’ 7”.

BRIAN: If you had to pick between only wearing mascara for a year or only wearing lipstick, which would you pick?

ALLIE: Mascara. Lipstick is new for me, I didn’t used to wear it. I have small eyes. I am a master at making my eyes look bigger than they area. And mascara is part of that.

BRIAN: What are you currently reading?

ALLIE: Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday. At the time of this recording anyway. I am sure by the time this airs I’ll be reading something else.

BRIAN: What’s your favorite spot in your house? That’s a tough one.

ALLIE: No, it’s not. The front room, with the navy sofa. It’s my morning ritual time and it’s special to me because of that. It’s really pretty.

BRIAN: What is one thing you must do every day to feel accomplished?

ALLIE: Um, that’s a hard one. Probably put on a bra. I don’t know; there’s something about lifting the girls up where they belong that makes me feel “I did good today.”

BRIAN: Wait, you’re still talking about the same thing?

ALLIE: Yeah, I’m talking about the bra. If I don’t get dressed at all, even putting a bra on and I still get a bunch of stuff done, I still feel like, “who am I?” OK Fine. I’ll get another answer. Get the kids’ homeschooling done. If we did a bunch of work stuff, but we didn’t do that, it still feels like, “dang it.”

BRIAN: What’s your guilty pleasure?

ALLIE: This question feels weird and dirty. In terms of what? Peanut M&M’s. And that I am watch Grey’s Anatomy.

BRIAN: What is your favorite scent?

ALLIE: Lemon. Always lemon.

BRIAN: What is your pet peeve?

ALLIE: I have several. Let’s think of them together. When people have an air freshener in their car and they put the paper on it still hanging from their rearview mirror, halfway open, like that’s controlling the scent.

BRIAN: You know, I think it says you’re supposed to do that, but that feels so dumb.

ALLIE: Just why, though? I can’t. Why are you doing that? When people don’t chew with their mouth closed and they make noise when they chew. I’m lookin’ at you babe. Right at you. When people drag their feet when they walk. Do your legs work? Pick your feet up. Your driving, not just bad drivers, your driving is my pet peeve.

BRIAN: Who is your style inspiration?

ALLIE: Jennifer Anniston. Super simple. Low-key. Perfect.

BRIAN: Would you rather drive or fly for vacation?

ALLIE: Drive. Drive. 100%. First of all, why are you shocked? We road-tripped together. I would rather drive than fly, because flying sucks. You have to get in the plane. You’re stuck next to somebody. You can’t do what you want. I would rather drive for sure.

BRIAN: If you weren’t running your amazing business, what do you think you’d be doing if you had to have a career?

ALLIE: If I have to have a career? Probably a flower-shop thing. I would love to have my own flower shop.

BRIAN: What’s your go-to for some “me time?”

ALLIE: Being alone. I know that’s probably the definition of “me time” but some people like to go and be with other people. My go-to is to leave the house, go to the Super Target by our house. They have a Starbucks in there. Get a tea or coffee. Put music or podcasts in my ears with headphones. Walk through and veg out.

BRIAN: Remember when we were dating and you would go to the beach and walk the beach alone? You like that long, walk, quiet time.

ALLIE: Now it is too long of a drive, with the kids and stuff, but, yeah, second best.

BRIAN: Did you always want to homeschool? Or is it something you fell into later in life?

ALLIE: Fell into. I didn’t think about it that much when I was younger. It just happened and worked out for us.

BRIAN: What was your childhood like?

ALLIE: Good. Happy. Pretty normal. Growing up in a 90’s childhood. Lots of rollerblading until it got dark. Watching One Saturday Morning. I played softball pretty much my entire life. I did a lot of dance, ballet, jazz, and modern dance. I was really active and involved. It was good and very happy. I did good in school but I did have to work hard for it. I had my one best friend growing up the entire time. I had some friends in school, but Juliet was always my friend from when I was 7 all the way through, even though she didn’t go to my school.

BRIAN: What is one favorite event or memory from your childhood.

ALLIE: The first thing that popped into my head… My parents owned their own businesses. The work that they did was in a city called Anaheim, which is where Disneyland is. We lived, and live now, about 45 minutes from there. Because the work that they did was in Anaheim, they wanted their business address to also be in the same city so clients wouldn’t think “Oh I’m not going to hire this person because they live really far from me.” So, they had their PO Box in Anaheim, which meant that every few days my dad would have to drive down to check the mail. It was my favorite thing in the world when he would invite me to go with him. We would get in the green truck (remember the green truck that I drove when you initially loved me?) We would get in the green truck and get fast food, a Coke. We would listen to music. That’s when I first started to really love music and driving. We would just listen to music and talk. It was so fun. It was a really good thing that happened my entire childhood.

BRIAN: That’s pretty cool. That’s the last one.

ALLIE: Thanks for doing this with me, baby.

BRIAN: No problem.          

ALLIE: Thank you guys for asking your questions. This was a super fun birthday. Now I’m 31 too! Brian turns the same age as me, three weeks (or something like that) before me. So, now we’re both 31. Happy Birthday to me!

Thanks guys! I hope this was fun!

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Ep 026: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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It’s time for another Q+A! In this episode I am answering two questions I get asked a lot. “How I plan my week (with homeschool, work, house stuff, date night, etc.)?” And “How I teach my kids to develop a routine?” I love opening up the floor for you guys to ask questions! You always have such great questions + I want to be able to answer them for you. I hope you enjoy this months Q+A!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • What batch-style planning is and how it has helped her build a weekly rhythm for her business, family, and home.

  • How she has taught her kids to develop a routine.

  • The importance of consistency in creating a routine for your kids.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey guys! Welcome to The Purpose Show! This is our new monthly segment of Coffee & Questions.

I pick two or three frequently asked questions that I have either always gotten and want to clarify once and for all, or that I have recently been getting a lot. Sometimes I will post on Instagram and open the floor for new questions, which I did for this episode.

I want to know what you guys are needing help with, what you are hearing me talk about, or seeing me do in my own life. What is inspiring you but you are not really sure how to take action in your own life? I like to open up the floor to what you guys are needing. I think it’s really good. I don’t want to get in my own head and come up with content for the podcast just from my own self. I want to hear what you guys want to know.

This week, I have some great questions that I am excited to dive into. So, let’s just jump right in.

Question #1: The first question I received a bunch of times was centered around how I plan my week. A lot of people were asking, “How to do you plan your week with homeschooling, work, family time, home maintenance and errands, spending time with your kids? How does your week look?” That’s a really good question.

I have a lot going on. I don’t just work. I am CEO of our Incorporation, The Purpose Group. I have 9-10 different people working under us and for us. There is a lot of things to manage with that.

We are homeschooling older kids. Bella is in 3rd grade and that’s when it gets a bit more time consuming. The days are a bit longer because there is more ground to cover with her. There is definitely a lot going on.

But I do feel like we have finally struck a really good balance, and I am happy to share.

I don’t know if this is out there, or a lot of people talk about it, so forgive me if it is. But I have created this on my own for myself. There is this idea called “batching.” It is basically a productivity hack. When you are working on a type of task, for example, writing. If you are writing, you are in the “writing zone,” so you want to get all of your writing tasks done in a batch of time that is set aside for writing.

If I write ten pages of something, then I stop to check my email, have lunch, record a podcast, and then I try to come back to writing, my mind has exited “writing zone.” It has bopped around to different things. Studies show that you work much slower, and you are less productive. This idea of “batching” is tackling similar tasks in batches.

That worked really well for me when I was starting my business and doing everything. I was creating my own graphics, writing blog posts, recording audio lessons, creating courses, making videos. All of these different tasks.

Now I am the “face” and “creative brain” behind everything. I decide what we are going to do, what we are going to talk about, and where we are going to take the business. Then I physically do the things that have to be me – live streams, videos, course lessons.

On the backend, all of that stuff is now delegated to employees, which is awesome and frees me up so much. Batching helped me so much when I was in start-up mode. I have taken that idea and carried it into my week. I have this batch-style schedule for my week.

One of the reasons I hate talking about this is because it always sounds so perfect. “This is how I do my week and it is always like that.” And that is just not the case. I am a really mellow person. Our life is very flexible. It changes all of the time.

But, I do have this same “ideal day” or “ideal week” that I go off of. There are little tweaks and changes here and there as needed. I am going to share you what my “batch style” week looks like.

I have shared before on Instagram that there are different days set aside for different priorities. What I mean by that is I know that Monday is a heavier workday than other days of the week. Monday is a day where I am usually recording a podcast, if it is recording week.

I even have “batched” weeks. Every week of the month is set aside for a type of work. The first week of every month, I record the podcast and into the second week if necessary. The third week of every month is usually going over the next quarter or the next month. Looking ahead and planning. The last week of the month is always extra meetings, if they are needed. I even batch in terms of the month.

For the week, I know that Monday is a heavier workday so there are different priorities. Work, homeschooling, and home and life maintenance is how I categorize it. On Monday, work is the heavier priority. I know that I normally spend one to three (at the most) hours in my office in the morning. I definitely do block out three hours for work in the morning.

After breakfast and everyone is settled, I will go into the office and work. I check things out. I check my email only once a week. I catch up on things and take care of any tasks that are waiting for me. Asana is the platform that I use to manage work tasks.

On Monday, the heavier priority is work. That doesn’t mean that I don’t homeschool my kids on Mondays. That doesn’t mean that I don’t maintain my house and do my normal stuff on Mondays. It just means that work gets a little bit of a bigger time block on Mondays. It is my heavier priority on Mondays.

Tuesday is a heavier errands day. That’s the day I usually go to Costco. Or go get “filler” groceries, whatever we need for the week. I will usually go to Target and get house things that we need. Anything that I need to do. If I need to run to Sephora or something like that. I will probably plan that on Tuesday. It is very fluid, but typically Tuesday is a heavier errands day.

Friday is a really heavy meetings day. I always schedule all of my team and professional work meetings. When I need to have a meeting with our CFO. When I need to have a meeting with my Chief of Staff. When I need to have a meeting about press and upcoming speaking events with my PR girl. Those are always on Fridays. I plan for that. I gear up for that. It gets me in a frame of mind for each thing.

Wednesday and Thursday are definitely heavier homeschool days.

You can see how every day I am doing all of these things. Every day I homeschool. Every day I do a little work, at least think about my business and write an idea on my phone or something. I definitely don’t actually come into my office and work every day, but I am still a business owner and thinking about things all of the time. I still homeschool. I still take care of my house. I still run errands.

I do things every day, but there are certain days set aside and my week is very “batch style.”  Monday is very much a heavier work day and it’s “blocked out.”

Brian is home now. When he worked, it wasn’t able to be so simple. It was a “take it as it comes” lifestyle for me. Balancing the kids. Starting up my business. I didn’t have any employees yet, so I was doing everything.

Honestly, if you are in that season, my advice is to put your head down, focus, and take it as it comes. If there is a fire that needs to be put out with your kids, put work aside and focus on your kids. If it is a fire that needs to be put out with your business, have a higher tech day for the kids and focus on getting that business fire put out. That’s how it worked out at first.

Now that Brian and I are here together, he has some work tasks with his role in the business and I have mine. We both swap things out and share the load of schooling and home maintenance as needed. His heavier work day is different than my heavier work day.

We would never purposely plan our heavier work days to be the same day because then that is going to lead to arguing and stress. Who is watching the kids? Who is schooling them? We are both exhausted in the morning from working, now we both have to do homeschooling. We have it on opposite schedules so we are high-fiving and tag-teaming throughout the day. It works really well for us.

There are some weekly rhythms that I have in place to nurture my family, make sure I am feeling good, everyone is happy, we are close, and we don’t get “lost in the chaos.”  We have a weekly date night. We have a weekly family night where we will either watch something on Netflix together and order pizza or have popcorn. We have game night. Sometimes we do board games or sometimes we do video games. Sometimes we want to get out of the house.  We might take a nighttime walk, or a hike. Get out and go see a movie at the theatre.

I have things for each of my individual kids. I will usually grab one of them and take them on an errand with me, just to get that one-on-one time with each kid. If my daughter has been seeming extra emotional or in a bad mood, I will say, “Hey jump in the car. Let’s go get coffee and hot cocoa, walk around Target and get some things we need for the house.” And we can have a talk and I pour into her and give her extra attention.

If any of the kids needed that, I will pick one as I feel it’s needed and take them along with me.  Let them be with mom one-on-one. Brian does the same thing. They are getting some one-on-one time with us as we go through the week and as we live our lives, which is awesome.

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I do meal planning. I was doing that on Sunday night, but now it is more on Monday night and then Tuesday I go get the groceries. I am a once-a-week meal planner. We get some things in bulk at Costco to have some snacks and stuff, but I plan at least some general meals throughout the week. It is very fluid.

Some weeks it is totally different. If we are launching a new course that will add a bit of extra stress to our schedule. It’s “hunker down” time, where things are very abnormal. Brian will probably take on more work and more household maintenance tasks during launch week because I am overseeing and stressed. I am watching and making things are going well.

But to balance out, we always plan at least a 2-day get away as a family after I launch something new. Sometimes you have to hunker down, work extra and let other things fall away a little bit. But then you celebrate, take a break, and refresh yourself.

Sometimes work falls by the wayside and I let some tasks go. I actually just did that the last two weeks. I was supposed to be recording the podcast, catching up on tasks, writing for all these press article opportunities, and I just wasn’t feeling it. I felt like I wanted to be closer to my family. I just needed a break. I left everything. I let all of the deadlines come and go and didn’t do anything. The world didn’t end. Everything kept going because I have an awesome team behind me.

Now this week, I am super refreshed. My family is doing great. I am working a little bit more. I worked about two hours every day this week, when I normally only work 3-4 hours a week total. I feel good. I love being back here. I am more refreshed.

I have that batch-style schedule throughout the week, but it is very fluid. It changes as I need it to.

Question #2:  The next question I got quite a bit of was “How do you teach your kids to develop a routine?”

I am guessing this question was asked so much because this week I had shared on my Stories so much about the different rhythms that the kids are involved in.

Just to encourage you guys, this can totally happen for you. It’s not like I have some magic pill, or magical Unicorn kids who are special and listen really well and do whatever I want them to. I am not a crazy mean mom either, where they are scared to not obey the rules. It’s simply consistency.

I say this a lot but I am also really big on explaining to your kids what the deal is and why you want them to do something instead of just commanding they obey. I explain to them, “Things are a lot simpler when we do this. I really want you guys to wake up in the morning and make your beds. It makes our day way easier. You get to pick out what you wear. We can just jump right into breakfast.”

Knowing that helps motivate them and makes them understand, especially as they get older. Bella and Leland are 9 and 7, so they understand that logic. They want to know why we do things. If I don’t tell them, they will ask. I encourage that.  

I don’t want anyone to think that I have all these crazy rules and I am a Nazi Mom. “Do not come out of your room until 7 a.m. or you will be in trouble!” It’s not like that at all. It is understanding that this is the way our house works and it runs really smoothly. Everyone enjoys it when it runs smoothly. We are all a team working together to make that happen.

I definitely have to remind my kids and prod them for other routines. During the day, they get caught up in playing, get distracted, and they will forget to do their chores. They forget to pick up after they have played with something. I definitely have to remind them to come back and put their things away. Just normal mom stuff.

But especially with the morning routine, I don’t have to remind them very much.

This came about from being really consistent. The rule right now is 7 a.m. Bella has her own room and her own alarm clock. The boys share a room and have their own alarm clock. At 7 a.m. both of their alarm clocks will beep to let them know it’s time to get up and start the day. Usually they are already awake for a half hour or so.

They know to make their bed as best they can. Hudson’s always comes out like “did you even make it?” He is only 5 and he does his best. Leo helps make his. Bella makes hers really nice because she is 9, and a girl.

They get themselves dressed and come down for breakfast. Then they do their chores. They unload the dishwasher. They just get into their rhythm. I don’t really have to remind them or prod them for that, because it is the first thing of the day.

It really helped me to fit in the most important things that they do in the morning routine. It is the first thing they do. They are not distracted yet. They are not exhausted from the day. It is morning. They are excited to come out. They know if they hurry up, pick up their room, make their bed, get dressed and come down, then they can have breakfast and start the day. Then after breakfast, we rinse the dishes, unload the dishwasher from the night before.

It is a really great morning routine.

Put what you want your kids to help you with in their morning routine. Then just teach it to them really happily. Don’t make it a drag. Don’t make it a chore list. Don’t make it “you better do it, or else.”

It is a part of our routine. It is a part of our family and they are valued members of our family. We are a team and we all need to work together. Otherwise, things are just not going to work out.

It was consistency. Going along with them in the beginning. Showing them what to do. How to do it. Where the dishes go. How to be careful with the dishes. They know it is OK if they break something; I’m not going to freak out. They are not nervous, afraid, or dreading doing the dishes.

They know how to make their beds. They know that I can tell when they are being super lazy and not making their beds well. Then I will nicely tell them “please come back and take care of your bed. Let’s keep our things nice.”

I also know which ones are too little and can’t make the bed very well. And that’s OK. The older ones will help the younger ones make their bed, pick up, pick their outfit for the day. They know the whole routine and it’s awesome!

It was a little bit of consistency. You may need to wait for your kids to get a little older before this works really well for them.

I would say for the rest of the day, teach them routines. Then just remind them to do their routines. Instead of having to remind them to do every single individual thing in their routine.

For example, I will say, “Hey guys! Let’s do our after lunch pick up.” We have lunch and rinse the dishes (or throw them away if it’s paper plates). They know to go through the house and pick up any toys that are out. Pick up anything that needs to be put away. They pick up the back yard. Wherever they were playing, they check it out and make sure it is picked up. That’s pretty much it.

Emmett knows he needs to go and find (he calls it) his Guggle. He is saying “snuggle”, but it’s what he calls his blanket. He goes to my bed and is allowed to turn on Netflix, which he watches for two seconds before he takes his afternoon nap.

Then the other kids know it is time to play quietly. It is not a tech time; they know that. Bella will usually go by herself (she is an introvert) and have her alone time in her room to color, draw or read. The boys will usually go play Legos together. They just know that is our afternoon routine.

Yes, I am reminding them of something. But instead of reminding them “Hey, pick up the living room. Pick up the backyard. Pick up downstairs. Go pick up your room again. Go play quietly, it’s quiet time” I just say, “Hey guys, it’s time for afternoon stuff, or afternoon pick-up” and they just know what to do.

The same for after dinner and all of that. I remind them it is time for a routine instead of having to remind them to do each individual task.

I promise you, it comes with age and consistency from you. And they will get it!

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!

Ep 016: Coffee + Questions with Allie

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Have you ever wondered why we chose to have our kids so close in age or how we create boundaries with technology? If you said yes, then this is an episode you don’t want to miss! And even if you said no, I believe you will still enjoy this episode, as I sit down + answer some of the top questions I get asked all the time. So grab a cup of coffee + enjoy!

 
 

In This Episode, Allie Discusses:

  • The pros + cons to having kids close in age.

  • How she views technology + what boundaries she sets for her kids.

  • Tips for creating a morning routine that will work for you.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to.  I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days.  I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it.  Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and i know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood.  I’m Allie Casazza and this is the The Purpose Show.

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Hey ladies!  Welcome to an episode of The Purpose Show!

This episode is super fun and relaxed which I very much like.  I have been wanting to do Q & A for a while, just because I do get a lot of questions, emails, and Instagram messages.  Questions about my life and how I do things.  All the things that I teach on and inspire you to make changes with.  Sometimes you just have questions.

As my business has grown, I have had to become more and more removed from interacting with each individual comment and message. Sometimes when I get messages, by the masses, a lot of the same question again and again, it tells me that this is something that needs to be answered.

I try to take notice of that.  Every month I plan to have these episodes to just dive into 1, 2 or 3 questions that I get all of the time and just give answers.  I think even if you aren’t a person who asks these questions, you might find these answers helpful.  Kind of a free-for-all of inspiration.  That’s my goal for these episodes.

So let’s dive in!  Q & A with me…

QUESTION #1:  I am in the having-babies, family planning season of my motherhood and would love to know… what do you like and dislike about having your kids so close in age?

This is a super great question.

For those of you who don’t know, I have four kids.  My oldest, at the time of this recording, is 8.  She will turn 9 soon. Then I have a 7-year-old, 5-year-old, and a 3-year-old.  My oldest two kids are just under 2 years apart.  My two older boys are about 15 months apart.  Then Hudson is 5 and Emmett is three, so another 2 ½ years with them.  We had a miscarriage in between Hudson and Emmett, the last two.

Our kids are very close.  Brian and I definitely wanted our kids to be this close together.  We had multiple reasons that went into that.  But the main thing is we just really wanted to have a close-knit family. I think you can have that even if you have large age gaps between your kids.  I don’t think that necessarily means you will or won’t. We wanted our family to be close age-wise, and relationally close.

What I like about it is that it is very easy to remain closely knit.  The kids are all into the same things at the same time.  We don’t have to deal with our oldest rolling her eyes and being really irritated that we are at the park for her brother, who’s nine years younger than she is.  They have all kind of stayed into the same thing.

What this means is the youngest one will not linger in the baby phase very long.  That’s probably what I dislike about having them so close in age.  Well, it’s not that I dislike it.  I guess it’s just a bit sad, a con I guess.  There’s pros and cons to everything.

But Emmett didn’t really get into baby toys and baby stuff.  As soon as he could realize, “oh I want to go and do this with my siblings,”  he would want to go and play with what they were playing with.  He is into Ninjas, Legos, and all those kind of things way younger than the older kids were into those things, because they didn’t have someone pulling them forward.

It’s kind of a pro and a con.  I think it is mostly a pro.  I think it is awesome that my kids are very close in age. They are all into the same things at the same time and can play together really, really well.  I just really like my kids’ age gaps.

I think my favorite age gap is probably Leland and Hudson, who are 15 months apart.  It is basically like having twins.  They are very, very close. It has been a real positive for me. I have had no issues or complaints.  The pregnancy was hard because Leland was so little.  I also had Bella who was 2, when I was pregnant with Hudson.  That was hard, but once they were all here and their relationships started to form, and Hudson was a year old, it was very much worth the difficult pregnancy season.

I think it just depends on you as a mom.

QUESTION #2. How can I begin to limit my kid’s tech use.  I have no idea how to get started here.

I won’t go into the benefits of limiting your kids’ tech time.  I think it is easily findable online. There are lots of studies that are being done or have been done recently. I have talked about it a lot on my website and in webinars.

I think first, do a bit of research.  How it affects your kid’s brains.  Their attitudes.  Notice in your home how it affects your kids.  Get a ballpark idea of what amount of time you are okay with per day.

I used to be pretty rigid with 30 minutes per day and that was it.  Now it’s a little bit more fluid because we love technology and it is a big part of our lives.  It is my entire business.

For the kids, we have the Nintendo Switch.  We have a Vintage Super Nintendo the kids love to play with us.  We have Netflix.  We do all of that.  We have a normal home in terms of technology.

It is just such a normalcy for us to limit it. I don’t really feel the need to be super, super rigid and have a timer like I used to.  Because the kids will just naturally shut it down after that time.

Not always.  There are some days where it is raining, freezing, maybe someone is sick, and they will play all day if we let them.   Or they will switch between playing games and watching Netflix.   That’s fine. It’s a sick day, a bad weather day.  There are certain days throughout the year that are like that.  I don’t think that’s a big deal. It’s a rarity. It’s not the norm. I think that is the key.

Typically, it’s 30-45 minutes a day. There are definitely days where there is no technology at all. The kids don’t even think to ask about it.  It’s just not a part of our day.

I am really happy with the balance our family has struck with technology.

I think the first step in getting there yourself is researching, finding your ballpark timeframe during the day. Do you think it’s OK for your kids to spend two hours? 20 minutes?  It depends on you as a mother and what your gut tells you feels right.

I think that it is a great idea to take a break from technology altogether for 1-4 weeks or so if you want to.  It is sort of like a cleanse.

It will be awful at first. I am not going to lie to you.  Your kids will totally go through withdrawals.  They will be super whiny and bored. It will be really difficult.

But it is so amazing to see how their imaginations wake up from a deep slumber. They will start to use them again. Start to play again. Their relationships will get better with each other.  They will be playacting and having conversations. Coloring and playing outside. Making up games.  It might take a week or so, but they will get there.

I think it is really sad that technology has robbed our children of play in a lot of ways. I am very thankful for technology. Like I said it is a big part of our life. It’s in our home.  We use it all the time. It is part of most of our days, but I do think that it can take over and rob us of a lot of good, sweet memories.  Playing, that organic play that kids are made to be good at.  It makes them unable to do it, like they don’t even know how.  That’s not how I want my kids to grow up.

I would start there, by coming up with a timeframe.  Maybe consider doing a technology cleanse.

Some of you may have followed me way back in the day, but about two years ago we did a cleanse from technology.  We had found it was creeping back in and taking over again.  We were going to do 30 days of no TV. No Netflix. No Nintendo. Nothing.  We actually just removed the TV from the home to eliminate distractions.

Brian and I have had a TV in our room for a while, because watching Netflix together at the end of the day is one of our favorite things to do together.  So we left the TV in our room for us.  We didn’t really take a break.  It was mostly for the kids.

We felt like we were relying on it a lot as parents, so we did a 30-day no-TV thing.  We loved it so much.  We were so thrilled with the results of our kids’ relationships from that cleanse that it ended up lasting for over 6 months.

The only reason it returned is because football season came around and we love to host our friends and family for football games, so we brought it back.  After that, I feel like that was when we really hit our stride with technology being very balanced and not the main event in our house. It was a really cool time. We remember that season really fondly. We talk about it a lot. It was a neat time and started us off on a good foot with technology.

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Having said that, I think that you need to know in yourself what you want. Remember that you are the parent. Anything that you do for your kids in this area is meant for their well-being. You’re not being mean. You’re not being cruel or making things harder for them.  You’re trying to make a good decision. Raise them well.  Raise kids who know how to play, enjoy life, have conversations.  Kids that know how to interact with people. Kids that have the right priorities.  I think that is all a really good foundation.  I think that is the most important thing.

Consider a cleanse. Find your time limit.  Once you do, start setting those limits.

We have a timer in the kitchen.  We use Alexa. We will just say, “Alexa set a timer for 40 minutes.”  If someone is in the middle of a turn when the timer goes off, they are allowed to finish their turn, save it and then shut it down.  There is no complaining.  They know that’s the rule. There’s no freaking out, sighing, whining.  They know to stop and turn it off.  The way it got that way was just by us setting the timer ourselves, and saying, “Ok guys, let’s finish up this turn. It’s time to turn it off.”  And not giving any attention to their meltdowns or complaints.

There was a period of time where if they complained or threw a fit about the timer going off and it was time to shut it down, we would just calmly say, “Ok this shows me that technology messes up your attitude and you need a break, so we will take it away for three days.  Then you can have it back and we will try again.”  They learned that if they freak out and have a meltdown after the timer goes off, then they lose it for a few days.

You can find your parenting foundation in that.  What kind of a parent are you?  How strict are you normally?  Find a way to make this fit in with our parenting philosophy. What we do may not work for you. Or it may not sit well with you.  You might not want to do it that way.

I don’t like to get into parenting stuff because everyone is so different. It’s such a personal preference. Everyone comes from different backgrounds.  But those are some of the things that we have done that have really worked well for us. I feel really happy with and really proud of the place that technology has landed in our home.

That’s the journey we have been through.  The different things we have tried. The rules we have implemented.  At this point, it is just a house rule.  My kids know they are not entitled to tech time.  It is just not that way in our house.  I feel really peaceful about that. I really love where we are with that.  I hope that helps you guys.

Ok, we have time for one more question.

QUESTION #3:  I would love to develop a good morning routine, but I don’t know where to start.  How should I go about creating one that will work well for me?  How do I know what to do during my morning routine?  How do I know how early I need to wake up, etc.?  Thanks for any help.

Morning routine really comes down to you and your life, and what you need to accomplish.  I will use myself as an example, because there have been different seasons of morning routine for me.

A while back, a couple of years ago, I was in a place of starting my business.  Brian, at the time, worked for a big company.  He worked really crazy, long hours.  He was gone all day. We homeschooled the kids. I didn’t want to be working all day with headphones in while the kids were watching TV. I really wanted to do the bulk of my work early in the morning and be done, so I could be present with the kids and focus on homeschooling during the day. Then I could focus on the business during nap times, quiet times and after bedtime.

That meant that I had to get up super early.

This was huge.  God had really put this on our hearts. We couldn’t afford to quit Brian’s job yet.  I knew this was really going to go somewhere and I was very, very dedicated.

At this point, I knew that I had four hours of work to get done, before Brian left in the morning, for me to really grow my business and get it off the ground in the very tight timeline that I wanted.  I was getting up at four in the morning, dragging myself downstairs, pouring a cup of coffee, and getting to work on my laptop, almost every single morning except for Sundays.

That was incredibly difficult but also incredibly empowering and rewarded.  My business took off fairly quickly and what I wanted to happen, happened.  That was a season of my life where I knew what I needed to get done. I knew what time I needed to wake up to do that. That’s what I did.

There are other seasons where I woke up at 5:30 or 6:00 in the morning.  I would get a few things done, have some quiet time, exercise, enjoyed my coffee, and then started my day with the kids.

Now my season of life is very calm and mellow. I am not in a super crazy hustle season of my business. I have a large team that does a lot of the backend work for me (pretty much all of the backend work for me).  I am really focused on enjoying my life, my family, and my role in my business which is to lead you guys, put this show on, come up with new creative ideas, new topics and things like that.

Now my morning routine is very loose, simplified and enjoyable. I usually get up about 6:30 in the morning (a lot less early than I used to).  I read. I pray. I have some time of meditation and worship. I will read my Bible. Have my prayer time first. Then pour a cup of coffee, read a chapter of a current book.  I am always reading a book. Reading is very important to me.  Usually I do some Yoga or take a walk.  Then the kids come down for breakfast and we start our day.

My morning routine is a lot more relaxed.  I don’t need it to be rushed. My husband is home with me and running the business with me.  We are homeschooling our kids.  It doesn’t need to be so rigid and crazy.

Hopefully, that gives you a bit of an example that it can ebb and flow, shift as your life does.  Your morning routine should reflect where you are at in your life.

Having said that, where do you start?  Look at your life. Look at your schedule. What would help you to get done in the morning before your day really starts?  By that I mean, when your kids come out of the room and it’s time for breakfast, to get them ready for school, whatever your normal daily schedule is, what would be so helpful for you to have done?

Is it quiet alone time?  Is it reading and self-care?  Is it exercise?  Is it just waking up, taking a shower, getting dressed for the day? Having a cup of coffee in peace before the day really starts?  Is it getting up really early and knocking out a bunch of work tasks?

My biggest thing has always been, “what is the most important, key thing that I need to do today?”  I want to start the day out by getting that done first.  There is a saying that I read in a book once (I can never remember who said it), “If it has to get done in the day, then it needs to be done first.”  Otherwise life happens, interruptions take place, and you probably aren’t going to get it done.

Right now, in this season, that’s self-care.  I am in a place where my job is to serve other women.  I see a lot of unkind messages on a weekly basis. I am dealing with a lot of judgement from other people. I have to be “on” all of the time and I am an introvert.  That’s draining sometimes. My kids are at home all of the time and we are homeschooling.  That’s also an energy drainer.

Right now for me to be my best self, the most important thing is to have that time with the Lord, and take care of myself first.  Work can wait and start later.  But before, that was not my season and I really needed to make things happen, to hustle, to get where I am today.

Ask yourself where you are at?  What is the most important thing that needs to get done?  Would it help you greatly if you got a meal in the crockpot?  Got a load of laundry done? Got yourself dressed for the day before your kids woke up?  Would that be, “Oh my gosh, that would feel so good!”

Or is it something else. Start there. Once you have your answer (pair it down to 1-2 small things; be realistic) ask yourself how long each task will take you and that will give you your wake up time.

If you know that you will have to get 3 hours of work done before your day starts, and you serve your kids breakfast at 7:30 in the morning, then you know you need to wake up at 4:30.  See how that works?

Also a bit of a trick… if you are finding that it’s too much. If it’s an ungodly hour and you do not want to wake up that early to get those things done, see if you can fit something into your evening routine.

If your kids go down at 8 o’clock for bed, is there something you could do to “prep” and get it partially done?  Maybe you could lay your clothes out. Set the alarm. Choose the workout video for the in the morning. Make breakfast for everyone and have it in the fridge ready to reheat in the morning.  Maybe you could wake up a bit less early. Can you get your workout in at night?  Can you get 45 minutes of laptop work done before you go to bed?

Look at your schedule and routines from an aerial view if you can. Detach yourself emotionally from the stress of planning it all.  Look at the breakdown of what you need to get done each day? What does your morning routine look like?  What does your evening routine currently look like?  How can you find the cracks and fill them?  Arrange it in a way that really works for you and increases your productivity.

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This was an episode of The Purpose Show.  Thank you so much for tuning in.  If you are ready to uplevel and really take action on the things I talk about on my show, head to alliecasazza.com for free downloads, courses, classes and to learn more about what the next step might look like for you.  I am always rooting for you. See ya next time!