You, my dear, are a whole universe wrapped up in a beautifully complex package. Fresh out of a whirlwind and stepping into the world of dating post-divorce, you might feel like you’re navigating a foreign land. I get it. It’s like you’re rediscovering parts of yourself that got tucked away amid the roles of partner and parent.

Here’s the thing—you are not damaged goods, nor are you just carrying baggage from one chapter of your life to another. Those laugh lines? They’re from every burst of joy you couldn’t contain. Those stretch marks or scars? They’re the map of the life you’ve nurtured into this world. They don’t make you less; they add depth to your story, making you all the more fascinating.

You’re not “just a mom” (as if being a mom is some minor detail). No, you’re a powerhouse, a force of nature. You’ve held it together when it felt like everything was falling apart, and you’ve done it with grace, even if it didn’t always feel like it. Remember that.

Being worthy of love isn’t about ticking boxes or fitting into some cookie-cutter ideal. It’s about being unabashedly you—quirks, strengths, vulnerabilities, and all. It’s about recognizing that you deserve someone who looks at you and thinks, “Wow, she’s a catch.”

And when it comes to love, to that spark, to finding someone who sees the galaxy within you—it’s not just about finding a partner. It’s about finding someone who adds to your happiness, not someone you depend on for happiness. You are already whole. Anyone worthy of you should recognize that and celebrate it.

So, as you step out into this new phase, remember: you’re embarking on an adventure. It’s about rediscovering yourself, your desires, and what makes you tick. It’s about finding joy, pleasure, and maybe, just maybe, a love that sees and appreciates the incredible person you are—beyond the titles, beyond the past.

For the full conversation and more on navigating the world of dating as a newly single mom, tune into Episode 356 of the Purpose Show podcast, where Mystery Man and I dive deep into all things dating and sex post-divorce.

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