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EP 060: Prayer + Soul Care as a Busy Mom with Valerie Woerner

August 6, 2018

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As moms, it is easy to make excuses when it comes to taking care of our soul. However, when we have little kids or are in a super busy season, that’s the time that we honestly need it the most. We are constantly pouring out and don’t realize that we need poured into. And the more we make excuses now, the harder it is going to be to get back to taking care of our souls. Val Woerner is the owner of ValMarie Paper, where she creates journals and tools that are really help “cut through the noise” of everyday life and find fullness of life in the presence of the Lord. Even if you’re busy, even if you’re a mom of little ones, no matter your season. And I want to encourage you by telling you that whatever you have to give now is more than enough.




In This Episode, Allie + Val Discuss:

  • Why you should put effort into your relationship with God, especially in the busy season of raising little ones.

  • Ways you can get quiet, connect with the Lord, and take care of your soul in your everyday life.

  • The importance of avoiding excuses when it comes to taking care of your soul.

  • What the word “renew” means and what the Bible says about it, so that you can fight everyday anxieties and battles.

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Mom life. We are surrounded with the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. And while it is hard and full of lots of servitude, the idea that motherhood means a joyless life is something I am passionate about putting a stop to. I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime, at least most days. I want you to stop cleaning up after your kid’s childhood and start being present for it. Start enjoying it. I believe in John 10:10 “that we are called to abundant life” and I know mothers are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, minimalism and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is                   The Purpose Show.


Hey beauties! Today I am introducing you to someone who’s become an Instagram friend, not just somebody that I follow and who follows me. Valerie Woerner, she is a beautiful soul. She really is. The more I follow her, the more I get to know her, the more we pass messages back and forth every now and again, the more I come to just love and admire her so much. She is just such a godly woman. I’m really inspired by her.

Val is the owner of ValMarie paper. ValMarie paper creates journals and tools that are really beautifully created to be practical tools that help you “cut through the noise” as Valerie puts it so beautifully, of everyday life and find fullness of life in the presence of the Lord. Even if you’re busy, even if you’re a mom of little ones, no matter your season.

She very pointedly speaks about that and speaks about how sometimes we moms, specifically, can use the busyness of our season and the out-of-our-control chaos that comes with having little ones, pregnancies and things like that, as sort of an excuse to skip out on the important stuff like prayer, journaling, reflection and that quiet soul care that we so desperately need. And she also speaks pointedly about how this is actually a time where we really need to be more on guard and diving more deeply into those types of soul care things.

So, I’m really excited to let you in on this chat with Val. I would encourage you as always to listen with an open mind and open heart and prayerfully consider taking action in some way on this in your life.

And so, without further ado, let’s dive in.

ALLIE: Hi Val, and thank you so much for joining us today.

VALERIE: Yeah, and thanks for having me. I’m excited to chat.

ALLIE: Yeah. Okay. So, why don’t you tell us a little bit about yourself and your family and your story.

VALERIE: I’m Valerie Woerner and I live in south Louisiana with my husband, Tyler. We have been married seven years. We were actually best friends for a few years beforehand and I swear I told God “I’m not marrying him. If I marry him, I’m going to be so upset.” But anyway, long story short, I fell for him. God knew better than I did. Crazy. We have two little girls, Vivi & Vana. They are 4 & 2. Just lots of fun and I run a business called ValMarie paper. We sell prayer journals and a couple other things. I have also written a book, but I’m working on another now on motherhood coming out next year.

ALLIE: Good. Yeah. Okay. So one thing that I love about you and really the reason that I wanted to have you on was because you speak very graciously but also pointedly about how mothers sometimes can use just the busyness of our season of raising kids, especially pregnancy, babies and not sleeping as much in this “in the thick of it” season as, I mean honestly, I think this word will upset some people, but as sort of an excuse to skip the important stuff, like the journaling, prayer, reflection, the soul care that we need. So, tell us about that, how you feel about that and how we can stop doing that.

VALERIE: Yes, I think it’s crazy because it is easy to become an excuse whenever we have little kids, but that’s the time that we honestly need it the most because we are being poured out so much that we have to be poured into. I believe that’s through Jesus and I know you do too. That’s where our strength is going to come from.

So, one thing that I think a lot about for prayer is that as we start to drift from our prayer time with Him, it becomes easier and easier to silence His call whenever it is time to pray. But whenever we just feel prompted to pray, it just becomes easier to shut that out and just feel like we have responsibilities, we have things to do.

So, I think for me, I just want to encourage moms that not only do you need it right now, that’s why we don’t want to make an excuse, but also the more we make it an excuse, the harder it’s going to be to get back. We’re not just gonna jump back when they go to school, suddenly have this deep relationship with God and be like, “Okay God, I’m back and let’s just get back to it.”

It’s going to take a lot of work to get back. And I always say it’s not that God has moved away from us, but it’s more like we’ve walked away. I don’t know if that makes sense, but I definitely feel like we need Him now more than ever in this season. And I would never want a mom to feel like it is a good enough excuse to say “no” to God for the sake of our kids.

ALLIE: Yeah, for sure. I’m out of that season as of now. Probably going to fling myself back into it later this year, but I think it’s just a lot. You’re not intentionally like, “Oh, I’ll just wait and when the kids go to school, I’ll be better at it.” It’s like a subconscious, almost feels like it has to happen that way, but it’s sad because then we’re teaching our little ones…they’re not seeing us do that. They’re not seeing us have that time. They’re not hearing us pray out loud. It’s just not a part of it.

And I think that is one lie of the enemy for sure that kind of sneakily gets us out of that flow and away from closeness with the Lord when we need it most.

But I love that you say that. I love that you say we need it the most during that time because it is a crazy time for sure.

Okay. I think the main thing about that time of little ones especially, and I think it can go, it can transfer over. Now I’m busy, more busy, but it’s a different and better kind of busy. It’s not like “chaos busy” with the kids. They’re just older and there’s baseball and homeschooling and horse lessons, more on the go, I guess, and I do fine with that. Rather than out of your control, the kids are going crazy, you’re pregnant and sick. That’s a different type of busyness, but I think in that season it can feel like it’s just total chaos.

It’s happening minute-by-minute and the kids are too little to really be expected to play quietly to give yourself space and pregnancy, you can’t always get up super early. So, in the thick of it, how do you get quiet and connect with the Lord and take care of your soul in that?

VALERIE:  Yes. Okay. So, this has been so on my heart. I know we know this. I know we know that it’s not about our quiet time. That we can experience God throughout our days, but my big goal lately has been to just live with a deep consciousness of God. So as I go through my days, I’m seeing Him everywhere. I’m seeing things to be grateful for. His presence is changing my actions and I think in that respect, I think it’s almost, I don’t want to say easier to do, because it’s not easier to do with the little kids, but how full our house is shouldn’t be changed by that.

And that should be encouraging. That’s not to be discouraging to mom’s like, “Hey, you should have it together,” but more that our goal is not like we have to have this hour-long thing in the morning. I still recommend, I mean I want to do that because I want that deep time with Him, but if we’re going through a short season where all we have is throughout the day, that is enough.

Whatever we have to give to God is enough. I wrote about this in a journal that’s going to be coming out with the book, but I can’t even think of the story, but whenever the widow gives two coins, just knowing that whatever you have to give, if you’re giving that to God, that’s all He wants.

If you only have 15 minutes and that’s what you’re giving, you should not feel bad about that. There’s people who have three hours in the morning and they give Him 15 minutes. And God probably wants more for that person. But I think knowing if you truly, truly do not have this extended time, whatever you have to give is going to be enough.

But like I said, I really think it’s like an all-day, just living in His presence and learning how to do that has been so rewarding. Even more than what I’ve learned in the last few years about prayer, learning how to live with Him every day the last six months has changed me so much and very unexpectedly.

ALLIE: Yeah, I love that. I think I totally agree. About, I don’t know, maybe 2-3 years ago, I wrote a blog post about what you’re saying. It was a realization for me and that’s where it was born out of, that you don’t have to have that “set aside” quiet time. I’m sitting on the couch with a hot cup of coffee and a journal and candles and all this stuff. I have that now. Now my season has changed.

But I remember trying to force that when I was in the baby-having season and I realized that God doesn’t want that perfect time. Of course, if you can get it, take it. Sometimes you just can’t in that space. I think realizing that you can talk to him while you’re doing the dishes, while you’re driving, and also praying out loud, letting my kids hear that. At first they’re like, “Mom, what are you doing?”

But just letting them see that mom has a relationship with the living God and I’m talking to Him because I’m a little stressed today. Or I feel like I yelled too much today and I’m sorry and we’re going to work it out. Being really raw with them. It was so huge. And just that realization that it doesn’t have to be perfect and pretty and Instagram- worthy. It’s just real. And just like you would with a friend or your husband, just talking it out as you go.

Then when they get a little older and they can kind of play, my youngest is 3 ½ so I can say, “Go be busy, go play outside” and I can get an hour in the morning or in the afternoon if I want. And it’s beautiful because I didn’t have it before. But you can’t just ditch it altogether.

VALERIE: Right. And also, just knowing when that season ends and not letting it stay longer than it has to be. Finding the grace but not wallowing in it also.

ALLIE: Right. And would you say that that kind of is where it becomes an excuse?

VALERIE: Yeah, yeah.

ALLIE:  Okay. So, through your company, ValMarie paper, which I love. I don’t know if you guys remember, if you’ve been around a while, but on Instagram a while ago, maybe last year, I shared your journals. Brian still uses the men’s. It’s really neat too. And I’ve always heard this about journaling and I’m a big journaler but I don’t go back and look. Ever. And it’s been really neat to really go back and look at what was happening and how big our prayers felt at that time and how now it’s like, “Oh yeah, I forgot that God even did that.” We’re not worried about that anymore. It’s neat.

So, you create, and I love the way you word this “practical tools that equip women to cut through the noise of everyday life and find fullness of life in the presence of the Lord.”

So, tell us what that looks like day-to-day, what kinds of journals you create, what does it look like to use them and how do you help women do that?

VALERIE: Yeah. Our main product is our six-month and our yearly now. We have a six-month journal that’s broken down into the months. So, you fill it out once at the beginning of the month, which is perfect for anybody in a busy season because sometimes it’s hard to commit to writing things every day. But you write it down once at the beginning of the month and then you just carry it with you and you can pray. I pray normally like one or two sections a day. I never pray the whole thing. It’s never the goal to go through all the sections in a day.

But the goal is just that you can do it while you’re doing dishes. I have mine on my passenger seat anytime I’m in the car. In our bathtub we can hang it up in the little spigots and pray while I’m taking my nightly Epsom salt bath.

All of the things that we do, even our free pdfs and different things like that, are designed to take these spiritual ideas that people can say like, “Okay, that sounds really good. Now how do I put that into my life?” And because our world is so noisy, we make it a little bit more accessible for people so that they’re not having to, I don’t know, get stuck somewhere. “Here, this is the format, go for it.” We pray that this is a tool that people will be able to use and really make their own. The stories that we hear…it’s crazy how people are using it and what they’re getting out of it.

ALLIE: Yeah, for sure. I love that. I was already following you and then I noticed that you did this anxiety, “challenge/study” and it was really amazing as somebody who does struggles with anxiety. My whole family actually. I really believe that this is a generational thing. I really think that that happens more often than people realize. All the women in my family just struggle with it. So, I really loved what you did there.

I know we’re not really talking about that, but you spoke to your experience with anxiety and how you combat that with prayer. I just admire you for that so much. And I know other women listening struggle with that.

VALERIE: Oh Gosh. Yes. Okay. So, I always say I was a worried, little child when I was young, so my mom actually prayed with me a lot. And that’s where I learned how to pray. She just instilled that in me. But as I got older, I was writing my first book, had just finished writing, and I have heard people talk about it a lot, whenever you’re writing a book there’s a lot of spiritual warfare. I wrote in there about a season where I had a lot of anxiety in high school and started feeling like something was wrong with my heart. And I woke up in the middle of the night, during the editing process of the book, and I thought I was dying.

Tyler was next to me and I said, “Go get Vivi, I need to say goodbye to her.” We called an ambulance. My mom lived down the street. She came over to stay with Vivi. She prayed. She came in the door and she prayed with me. And by the time the ambulance was standing in our doorway, my heart had stopped beating (that way). I thought for sure the only way my heart was going to stop beating the way it was, was for it to stop.

The ambulance came in. It was actually somebody I knew, a friend of a friend, and she was like, “I think that was a panic attack.” And I was like, “There’s no way that was a panic attack. It was so real.” I googled everything about it. I can be a judgmental person, telling people to buck up and everything like that, but experiencing that…

I finally shared it on Instagram and the people who responded and were just like, “I’ve been in the hospital for that” or “I’ve had a panic attack.” I had no idea how prevalent that was.

The Renew Challenge that we did was me looking up the word “mind” in the Bible and just knowing that I had to figure out how to control my mind, because it will take us places we don’t want to go. And even yesterday my daughter flipped out at the pool because there were wasps. And I’m having this spiritual conversation of, “Vivi, you have to get these thoughts out of your mind. The devil wants you to focus on the wasp.” I said, “Don’t think about the wasp. Think about me.” Taking our thoughts captive and not only taking them captive, but then filling them up with truth is the answer.

And so, the 14-day challenge is basically 14 days of just pounding that message in to where you really start to change your thoughts.

ALLIE: Yeah, absolutely.


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ALLIE: Okay. So that’s amazing. And I went through it and it was amazing. So, I know then it was email-based and you’re doing something new with it now. So, is that going to be still available or how can people get into that?

VALERIE: Um, yeah, we actually have it on our website about, but it’s going to be our Renew Ebook. We’ve had people say that they’ve gone through it and they wanted to go back to it. And I’ve even wanted to go back to it but not wanted to go back through all the emails. So, I think we’ll have both options just so if you want to take it slow, you can do that, and get the constant reminder for two weeks.

ALLIE: Yeah. I just loved the way you had it set up. It was so powerful. Just looking, like you said, at the word “mind” in the Bible. There’s so much out there about how powerful the mind is and I think people, especially in the Christian sphere, shy away from that because it seems “new age” and really a lot of it, not all of it, but a lot of it is biblical, right?

He is The Creator and He spoke the universe into existence. We’re made in His image. He gave us a working mind, working bodies. We have a lot of power. The things we speak and think, they do something to us. And so yeah, I think it’s really powerful to kind of stop being the victim and taking ownership of the power of our minds and getting the enemy out of there. He doesn’t belong there. And taking that back for ourselves. So that’s what I got out of what you said. And I loved it. So yeah, I just had to bring that up.

VALERIE: And it’s crazy. It’s empowering. I know I’ve already mentioned it once when we talk about not being a victim, that is empowering stuff. It is not to make us feel like we can’t have a pity party. That’s my whole book. We don’t want to have a pity party. We think we do, but we don’t. We want to live these full abundant lives.

ALLIE: Yeah, for sure. That translates to everything. Everything. Even just the other night I was having a conversation with a friend and we were both kind of just griping about “how good junk food is” and “it’s so hard to make good choices.” I just snapped out of it and was like, “we have a choice.” We’re so blessed. We have a choice with what we can eat. That’s a luxury that so many people don’t even have. And really? We want to whine and complain about how junk food is so good and health food sucks. How it sucks to have stay thin. No. Let’s choose abundant life here and fuel our bodies, love ourselves well and take care of our temples. Just switching that dialogue I think is so huge.

Like you said, the world is so noisy and it’s negative noise, mostly. It’s easy to get swept up in every area. Anxiety, prayer, motherhood, marriage, health, work, everything. It’s just easy to get swept up in the negative.  

VALERIE: Yeah, and if we start exercising that muscle that “I can control this thought” it’s going to get easier. We’re not going to be combating it every day like it’s this huge thing. It’s just going to be easier.

ALLIE: Yeah, for sure. It’s like a muscle that you flex and exercise and it gets stronger and easier. I love that. And that’s hope, because in the beginning this can be hard to figure out how to navigate this. Having a spiritual relationship with the Lord in the middle of the chaos of motherhood, that’s not easy. I mean it can be later, but yeah, it’s hard to start. It’s hard to remember. There’s so much going on. There’s so much pulling for our attention and I think if we can just remember, “this is the priority, though. This is where I need to live.”

I always say this and I just want to say it again, for anyone who hasn’t heard me say it. When you’re staying in the presence of God and you’re spending time with Him every day, all day, He will remind you of things and help you focus on the right things.

There is so much pulling for your attention, so much on your to do this. And He will be your guide when you’re just sitting with Him all day. You know, I’ve found that to be helpful. I’m more productive. I’m more energetic. I’m more loving and patient when I’m there.

And that’s what really matters. Not getting everything done on my list.

Do you have anything else that you want to say about this? That I’m forgetting to ask you? That you’re passionate about with this for these women?

VALERIE: I think we have to just keep reminding ourselves that prayer is actually productive. As silly as it sounds. I know my friend, Michelle Meyer says that a lot. We want to not feel like we always have to be productive but at the same time just know that prayer is really productive.

This month I do Powersheets and I’m pretty sure you know about them. Instead of the “five daily things;” I’ve not been doing well at those. So, instead of putting the actual things that I want to do, “pray about what I eat, pray about my sleep, don’t hit snooze,” now it’s “pray about sleep.” And this month I’m seeing a huge difference.

I don’t want to say I’m not actively doing anything but I’m starting with the prayer and that’s going to change my actions. But it’s also going to just change my heart because I’m giving it to God. I was thinking about this today, just remembering that once we pray about something, there is so much victory before we even know the answer because we know we have asked God for something that we want and if He has heard us and if He doesn’t deliver, it’s not because He’s trying to keep things from us. It’s because He has something better.

That makes me want to pray about everything. I want to pray about every single thing so that I know this has all been covered in prayer. Whatever God does now is going to be His best plan, and not like I’m leaving things on the table of missing out on blessings that He could have because I didn’t ask.

We have to know how to ask with a heart that’s aligned with Him, and that is through knowing the Word. I just feel like that’s something that if we could remember that as we’re trying to muster up this desire to pray, I think that’s helpful to know and will help motivate us.

ALLIE: Yeah, absolutely. I love that. Okay. So, I’m going to link to everything in show notes that you mentioned. Your website and all that, but where can our listeners find more of you? Like what social media platform are you most active on?

VALIERE: I love Instagram. Val Woerner is my handle. Then we have our business, ValMarie paper. It’s more focused on sharing hacks to use the journal and different tips that other people are doing. We blog. But if you go to our Instagram you’ll find everything there.

And I wanted to ask you a question. So, what do you feel like is the thing that you pray for the most? And this is not like a big like personal, but just whether it’s God’s peace, God’s blessing or something like that?

ALLIE: Yeah. That’s a really good question. I can think of a handful of things but I’d say maybe the thing I pray for most is wisdom in responding to things. I feel like that’s a really big part of my job and something that I’ve always felt like I’m too blunt. I feel like it’s a gift but also kind of a curse sometimes. I can say what I think and what needs to be said, what needs to be heard, but I want to do it in love. In my marriage, to my kids. I have one daughter and she’s just very sensitive. It’s not a natural thing for me to respond in a nice way. With the boys it’s like “Ah, whatever, just go do this.” And with her it’s like “I’m really hurt that you didn’t say…” She just is so sensitive.

And in my job, the messages that I get can be unkind, or really heavy, and I don’t know what to say. So, just that wisdom, “Do I even need to respond to this? “If I do, how can I be your light in this?” It’s hard and I often will send an apology and a corrective answer because I’m human. So, I think almost daily, like just wisdom and responding to different situations.

VALERIE: That’s awesome. My mom was probably similar to you. I don’t want to say she wasn’t compassionate. But she was compared to the other parent’s spectrum, we were like, “Why won’t you let us stay home if we have a cough?” We have to be throwing up or bleeding to stay home.

But I so appreciate how our mom (I’m saying this for me and my twin sister) parented us. She turned out two amazing daughters and an amazing son. So, there’s that.

ALLIE: It’s just my personality and also having all the boys, they will walk all over me. It’s hard to translate and switch over to my daughter. It’s something that I think the Lord is just using to stretch me.

VALERIE: And stretch her too, so that’s good.

ALLIE: Yeah, for sure. So, thank you so much. This was such a good interview. I’m so excited to share this! And thank you again for your time. I really appreciate it.

VALERIE: Of course! I’m so appreciative to be on!

ALLIE: Okay guys, we’ll link to everything in show notes and I will talk to you guys next time.


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