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Ep 196: Parenting, Discipline, and the Strong-Willed Child with Upbringing

Hannah and Kelty are twins, coaches and speakers behind the parenting movement Upbringing. They are certified in Simplicity Parenting and Positive Discipline and they empower parents in over a hundred countries to show up and grow up alongside their kids when it comes to daily discipline. I can’t wait for you to hear this episode. Let’s dive in! 

In This Episode  Allie, Brian, Hannah and Kelty discuss:

  • Allie’s and Brian’s backgrounds 

  • The problem with “Traditional” discipline 

  • RESIST approach

  • Disciplining strong-willed children

Mentioned in this Episode:


Courses (Use the code PURPOSESHOW for 10% off!)

The Purpose Show Facebook Community


The Resist Approach

Resist Approach & Freedoms Model PDF

Mini Phrase Guide- Strong Willed & Spirited Kids

Big Feelings Guide


Mom life. We’re surrounded by the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. We’re supposed to get through it. Survive. Cling on by the last little thread. And at the same time, Carpe Diem—enjoy every moment because it’s going to go by so fast. The typical mom culture that sends us all kinds of mixed, typically negative messages. We shouldn’t take care of ourselves; it’s selfish. The more ragged you run yourself, the bigger your badge of honor. But also, ditch your mom bod and work out. Don’t yell. Make more money. Show up. Be better, but not at the expense of time with your kids. I am putting a hard stop to all of this. While being a mom, running a business, and whatever else you might have going on is hard, it is a lot and there’s lots of giving of yourself, the idea that motherhood means living a joyless, nonstop-hustle-with-zero-balance kind of life, where you give and give and give and never take, needs to stop. 

I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime (at least most days). Stop the mom guilt and shame game. Stop cleaning up after your kids’ childhood and start being present for it. I want to help you thrive in work, home and life. I believe in John 10:10 that we are called to living an abundant life and I know moms are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, some business and life hacks, spirituality and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.

Hello friends! Welcome back to The Purpose Show podcast. Today I’m so excited to finally be able to share this conversation with you all!

I have Hannah and Kelty of Upbringing with me and I also pulled Brian into this conversation. I was talking with him about what this conversation is going to look like and how excited I am and he really wanted to be a part of it. 

I thought that would be a great idea so that we can have perspectives of both mom and dad, because this is a parenting conversation. This should make a great episode if you want to share it with your partner and have him listen, because Brian is a part of this too. 

Hannah and Kelty are twins. They are coaches and speakers and they’re certified in Simplicity Parenting and Positive Discipline. 

Guys, these ladies are incredible. They’re some of my favorites to follow on Instagram. 

Their work is really, really powerful. It really gets to the heart of parenting and helps you get to the heart of your kids. 

Hannah and Kelty empower parents in over a hundred countries to show up and grow up alongside their kids when it comes to daily discipline. Their research-informed work calls parents in and gives them permission to align their values with their discipline practices in the name of sanity and social change. 

Brian and I are super open and honest in this conversation about our own parenting, our backgrounds, and the pain that we’ve both worked through in ourselves as it relates to parenting. I’m hoping that this will really help you all connect, feel seen, understood, and “know better, do better” in your own parenting. So, please enjoy! 

ALLIE: Hi ladies! Thank you for being here with us. 

I want to jump right in and start with discipline in general. Brian and I were both raised in the traditional discipline style. Brian, you have stories. Give an example of discipline when you were growing up. 

BRIAN: Well, it’s also religious upbringing as well. My parents did a lot of spanking.

I remember my dad would save those paddle ball game things where the string is attached to the ball. Those would break all the time, but he would save them, put them on top of the refrigerator and use them when he need