In today’s episode my husband Brian is joining me and asking me a bunch of random questions about vitamins, art, the internet and more. If you want to get to know me better, be sure and listen!
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Mom life. We’re surrounded by the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. We’re supposed to get through it. Survive. Cling on by the last little thread. And at the same time, Carpe Diem—enjoy every moment because it’s going to go by so fast. The typical mom culture that sends us all kinds of mixed, typically negative messages. We shouldn’t take care of ourselves; it’s selfish. The more ragged you run yourself, the bigger your badge of honor. But also, ditch your mom bod and work out. Don’t yell. Make more money. Show up. Be better, but not at the expense of time with your kids. I am putting a hard stop to all of this. While being a mom, running a business, and whatever else you might have going on is hard, it is a lot and there’s lots of giving of yourself, the idea that motherhood means living a joyless, nonstop-hustle-with-zero-balance kind of life, where you give and give and give and never take, needs to stop.
I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime (at least most days). Stop the mom guilt and shame game. Stop cleaning up after your kids’ childhood and start being present for it. I want to help you thrive in work, home and life. I believe in John 10:10 that we are called to living an abundant life and I know moms are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, some business and life hacks, spirituality and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.
ALLIE: Okay, you’re leading this one.
BRIAN: I’m just going to ask you questions.
ALLIE: Go for it!
BRIAN: And you have to answer it.
ALLIE: Go for it.
BRIAN: If you could only do this one thing forever and the things are: you could either only cook or only clean, what would you pick?
ALLIE: This is misogynistic.
BRIAN: Oh, shoot. I’m literally looking at the kitchen right now..
ALLIE: It’s fine. I’m going to let it slide. You’re thinking of things that I don’t like to do? Then I will accept and receive this question.
I would pick cleaning, because I hate cooking that much. And I also think when you’re cleaning you’re making things better. You’re righting a wrong.
You can put your headphones in, listen to music, dance and move. It’s kind of like exercise. Vacuuming, dusting, and reaching for stuff is hard. You’re moving and making things better. I love the art of making things better. But I really don’t like cooking.
BRIAN: Okay. I would have picked the opposite.
ALLIE: I know. That’s why we are a good team, though.
BRIAN: If you could only have one book?
ALLIE: What’s the rest of the question, man?
BRIAN: That’s it. Forever.
ALLIE: What would I pick? To read for the rest of my life? Umm…So hard! I’m freaking out. Hold on.
BRIAN: I got a two-parter here. The second is what book/movie combo.
ALLIE: Book/movie combo is Sense and Sensibility. The one with Emma Thompson, Kate Winslet, Hugh Grant, and Alan Rickman. You know how much I love Alan Rickman in that movie -yummy! Colonel Brandon, come to mama!
BRIAN: I’m going to be Colonel Brandon for Halloween this year.
ALLIE: Please do. All my dreams will come true.
My book? Oh my gosh. Okay. This is rough for me because I don’t read novels.
I don’t read anything except self-help and improvement books. It’s just my favorite genre. Am I on an island or something or am I just being myself?
BRIAN: You’re just here and you only get one book in the house.
ALLIE: Honestly, I am going to be a millennial AF and say You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, because she’s hilarious and it doesn’t get old. And I feel like that applies to so many things. I would just constantly be up leveling myself and improving myself in her hilarity. There’s nothing better than that.
BRIAN: Well, now I feel like I have to go and reread that.
ALLIE: You’ve never read it.
BRIAN: Yes I have.
ALLIE: No you haven’t. You starting it is not reading it. Love you. Next question.
BRIAN: If you couldn’t live in the US and you had to pick to live somewhere else in the world, where would you go?
ALLIE: I think Italy. But, wait! I don’t think I would do well there because I have a garlic allergy and a dairy allergy.
BRIAN: Yeah. That would be pretty tough. And you don’t super like eating meat.
ALLIE: I don’t like eating meat, yeah.
France is dairy city. It’s cheese boards everywhere. You go to France and you ask for vegan cheese, they’re going to throw you in the sea.
BRIAN: Yeah, you just don’t ask for vegan cheese in France.
ALLIE: Okay, so what’s going to happen to my skin?
BRIAN: No, I’m saying you just don’t eat cheese.
ALLIE: So what do I eat?
ALLIE: Okay. Yes. France. You know what? I would go to France. I would, because they are the leaders in fashion.
BRIAN: I’m not saying that I would go to France.
ALLIE: So what? We’re going to be separate?
Honestly, Brian, I would go to the Cayman islands or my own Island, because I’m an introvert. I want to bring my own chef.
How much money do I have in this scenario?
Pick something. This is your world you’re creating. Just pick. This is terrible. Get to the point.
BRIAN: If money is unlimited, or you just have a regular job.
ALLIE: That is the opposite. OK, basically I have a teacher’s salary or I have unlimited money? Which one is it?
BRIAN: Both. No, what would you do for both?
ALLIE: So, you want me to give two answers? Okay, the way you communicate is chronically a problem. In our relationship and on the podcast.
Regular person salary, typical Joe Blow, under a $100K. I would move to France. Somehow. I would find a way. I would cut down on everything. I’m also assuming I have zero kids because obviously that’s not going to happen.
Then the other scenario, I would honestly move to my own island with my own chef and my own everything and have people make me garlic-less, dairy free vegan meals while I stare into the ocean abyss and have to talk to no one. It’s a Taurus introvert paradise. Next question.
BRIAN: What is your favorite plant?
ALLIE: You know what, I’m just going to say it’s the fiddly fig. I know that she’s a finicky B****, but it’s my spirit plant because she knows what she wants. She doesn’t settle. She’s a diva.
She likes things a certain way and she just doesn’t settle for less than that. And that’s me. She knows her worth. She’ll drop leaves if anything’s off. I am a fiddly fig.
BRIAN: I feel like a fiddly fig somehow has a middle finger to everyone else.
ALLIE: Yeah. It’s too loud; drop leaves. It’s too hot; drop leaves. Now it’s too cold; drop leaves. The music’s too loud; drop leaves. The water wasn’t watery enough; drop leaves.
BRIAN: That’s a good choice.
ALLIE: Yeah. Next one.
BRIAN: Who is your favorite animal we’ve ever had?
BRIAN: Yeah. Cats and dogs. I know you’re not going to say a dog obviously.
ALLIE: I really don’t like dogs. And the current dog that we have right now is technically not a dog, more of a wart hog.
BRIAN: More of a pig.
ALLIE: That’s what a wart hog is.
BRIAN: Not really.
ALLIE: You shouldn’t homeschool.
BRIAN: Wart hog? Oh, yeah. I was thinking of a hedgehog. Now I’m thinking, “Wart hog? Oh yeah that’s Timon.”
ALLIE: No that’s Pumba, you freak. Watch The Lion King and stop homeschooling.
BRIAN: I watched it and I had the soundtrack on cassette.
ALLIE: How old are you? The same age as me? Damnit.
OK, the favorite pet we’ve had? Why are you asking me this? People don’t know the pets we’ve had and they don’t care.
My favorite pet we’ve ever had is Pico because he’s hard to get and he’s kind of a douche and I just need him to love me. It’s my life’s work.
BRIAN: Yeah, that’s good.
ALLIE: Okay. Next question.
BRIAN: If you could live by the beach in a shack and be kind of broke, would you? The other option is living in the mountains with unlimited money? What would you rather choose?
ALLIE: Okay. First of all, I thought we lived by the beach right now. We’re like seven minutes away.
BRIAN: I was giving you a different scenario.
ALLIE: I was confused.
BRIAN: You either live by the beach in a shack and be broke. Or you live in the mountains where there’s snow, where you have to drive and get carsick?
ALLIE: Yeah, I’d take unlimited money and rent a beach house.
BRIAN: That doesn’t work.
ALLIE: Oh, it works! It works really well.
BRIAN: What the hell.
ALLIE: Okay, next question.
BRIAN: Who is your all-time favorite artist with art and drawings? I feel like we have art in the house, but there’s a lot of different artists and creators now.
ALLIE: I like abstract art. I really like digital art. Lisa Congden is my favorite. She will always be my favorite.
I want to meet her one day. I guess I could have her on the podcast. Sometimes, I’m like, “I really want to meet this person,” and then I have a means to meet them and talk to them and I don’t use it.
But I love her so much. She inspires me so much. Her art is all over the house and she’s inspired Bella. And I want to tell her that. I love her so much.
Okay. Next question.
BRIAN: If you were in the mountains tomorrow in the snow and you had to ski or snowboard, what would you do?
ALLIE: Ski. I think skiing is easier but snowboarding is more rewarding because once you get it, it’s so fulfilling. But skiing is just easier and I just would want to get down the mountain and go to the beach.
BRIAN: How many vitamins do you take a day?
ALLIE: I take so many vitamins. I take more vitamins than I take breaths.
Let’s count. Do math.
I take four Maca. I take four OS-IE. I take two Chlorophylls.
Why are you closing your eyes when you’re counting when you’re using your fingers? Just put two more fingers.
BRIAN: I’m going to run out of fingers with one more vitamin. Actually, I’ve already ran out of fingers.
ALLIE: Okay. So that’s 10. And then I take two adrenals, so 12. Then I take three bedtime vitamins, so 15.
Then I take the Omega 3 that’s from algae not fish. It’s like vegan omegas or whatever, so 16. And then the other ones are a probiotic, a multivitamin, a couple of few other ones that all come in a pack and there’s four more of those. So what’s that? 20?
20 vitamins a day. That’s why I’m telling you, I’m glowing. Oh, and that’s not counting my chewable hair vitamins. So that’s two more. That’s 22.
Why are you staring into the abyss?
BRIAN: That’s impressive, because I can’t even swallow one.
ALLIE: Okay, you guys. We’re all women here. You guys know what a birth control pill looks like. Brian couldn’t swallow that if his life depended on it. And it’s like the size of like…air.
BRIAN: I would rather have to chop a hand off than take a pill.
ALLIE: Would you? Would you, really? Really? You would rather take a knife and slice somebody’s hand off than swallow a birth control pill?
BRIAN: My body won’t let me swallow a pill.
ALLIE: It’s all a mind game. You’re freaking yourself out.
BRIAN: I choked on a vitamin when I was a kid.
ALLIE: Honestly, I would pay to see that. The experience where you choked on a vitamin as a kind and now as a 34-year-old man, that’s a father of a million, you can’t swallow a pill.
BRIAN: Hey, well, I’ve gotten this far without swallowing pills.
ALLIE: Yeah, but what were you just doing an hour ago? Pouring vitamin powder in your frigging broth and choking it down like a freak?
BRIAN: Okay. Um, let’s see. What do you feel like is the biggest problem on the internet?
ALLIE: The biggest problem on the internet?
BRIAN: This might be bad.
ALLIE: It could go real bad.
BRIAN: Oh shoot. Why did I ask this?
ALLIE: No, it’s fine. Okay. I have several answers though. Is that okay?
I think it’s the abuse of women. The misuse of women’s bodies and women being portrayed as purely for men’s servitude, if you catch my drift, which I think everyone does.
I think this ties together, but remember the other day when you mooned me in the hallway and I said that I was recording and I was going to put it on Instagram? I obviously wasn’t, but you freaked out and you were like, “No! They’re going to flag you. They’re going to take it down.”
And I said, “No, they won’t. Because the only nudity they take down is if you’re breastfeeding.” Breastfeeding nudity gets flagged but actual nudity does not. I think that says a lot and it’s true. That’s such a problem. Women’s bodies in general are just misused on the internet so bad.
I can’t pick between that and the other one, which is the fact that everybody wants to change how everybody else is on the internet. Things like, “Oh, you shouldn’t cuss. Oh, you should talk about this more. Oh, you shouldn’t talk about this as much.”
Everyone’s out to change everybody else on the internet instead of just standing grounded in who you are and accepting.
BRIAN: Instead of just letting them be.
ALLIE: Yeah. Let them be. What is it to you? It’s not your platform. Get out.
I feel like everyone’s trying to convince everybody else that they’re right.
BRIAN. Yeah, that’s annoying.
ALLIE: Yeah, it’s annoying. It’s pointless. It’s really dark, manipulative, and weird. And I’m super over it.
I think those two things are my answer.
BRIAN: Wow. That was a really serious one.
ALLIE: Let’s lighten it up. Let’s just do one more and lighten it up.
BRIAN: Okay. In the place that you’re at now, if you could only pick coffee or tea, what would you pick?
ALLIE: Because of my coffee allergy, the allergy thing that I got back?
BRIAN: Let’s say that didn’t exist. Obviously, you would choose tea.
ALLIE: I would choose coffee.
ALLIE: I don’t understand your communication. Guys, do you see the communication problems here? I don’t know what you’re saying.
BRIAN: You can only have one forever. Coffee or Tea?
But unfortunately I found out from my Microbiome Stomach Test, where you have to send in a sample of your own turds, that coffee was affecting my stomach the most. It was inflaming my stomach lining and messing me up. Coffee beans, not caffeine. So I switched to tea and it’s been good.
If you have to switch from coffee, Mud Water is really good. It’s not a thing. It’s a brand.
BRIAN: You keep saying brands. These are not plugs for brands at all.
ALLIE: My followers know that I don’t do plugs for brands.
And then what’s that tea? That Magic Hour Bohemian Breakfast Tea is also good. It helped me ditch coffee.
But if I didn’t have that, I love coffee. I love espresso. I love lattes. I miss it so much, but I feel a lot better.
ALLIE: Is that, is that all your questions?
BRIAN: I feel like I’m trying to think of more.
ALLIE: That’s fine. This is good. 20 minutes.
ALLIE: We’re good.
BRIAN: We’ll do this again.
ALLIE: Yeah, this was good. I love you.
BRIAN: I love you, too.
ALLIE: I wish your communication was better, but I love you.
BRIAN: Well, maybe this will help me practice.
ALLIE: I don’t think so, but I love you.
ALLIE: Okay. Bye.
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