Hello, my loves. Welcome to the Purpose Show podcast. I kind of feel like this is the perfect time to do this episode. If you’re watching the video, I’m like fresh from the gym. I did like a Korean collagen mask before I went. So I’m like super shiny. It’s not sweat, it’s skincare, but probably mixed in with some sweat. So I’m gonna wash it off when I’m done. But I just was feeling this episode. I was kind of outlining it when I was on the treadmill and just feeling it. So we’re going to get into it. This is much requested. And before we get into this, I need to state the obvious. I am not a doctor. This is not medical advice. I am just a woman that has had PCOS her entire adult life. I got diagnosed when I was 17 years old. I am 37 now. And so there’s been quite a journey. I have worked with a lot of different doctors. I have worked with a lot of different doctors in terms of like Western medicine and homeopathic routes. Like I’ve just gone all different directions with this and done a lot of self-study and research. And I just wanna share what I have found and what’s worked for me and kind of get into like the mindset of it as well. Because like I always say, You’re not going to be able to change something for real if you do not work on the subconscious programming and like work on yourself at an identity level. So we’re going to get into that a little bit. But I am really going to get into the nitty gritty and I feel like I so rarely do that, especially with physical health. So if you are somebody that maybe struggles with like disordered eating or have a diagnosed eating disorder or anything like that, I’m just going to issue a trigger warning along with this disclaimer because I am going to be speaking very freely about how I have learned to be with my body when it comes to food and kind of like the boundaries I have with myself or like the rules I have with myself, which are not really rules. I hate that word, but you know what I mean. And so if that’s touchy for you or you’re healing in a way and it doesn’t feel like this will resonate right now, go ahead and skip ahead and just do your own independent research on losing weight with PCOS because there’s, There’s a lot of information out there. My goal with this episode is to really gather all of it in one place and share with you like everything I’ve learned over the past 20 years and then also like this past. 12 months has been like really, really huge for me with PCOS and endometriosis and losing weight specifically around the belly area and just that stubborn weight that comes from a hormonal imbalance for women. And then also like merging that with, like I said, kind of like the nitty gritty practical details of what works for me. So let’s begin with just a little bit of a brief overview. My weight journey has been interesting and kind of really just, I feel like in line with most women that have PCOS or a similar, something similar. So I was an athlete in my whole life. And in high school, I stopped playing sports in my junior year. And I just immediately felt like something was off. I wasn’t really moving. I wasn’t running around and playing anymore. Cause I was no longer like a kid. And then I wasn’t playing ball anymore either. And I was like, I got a job, like I was working. I would be sitting in class all day. I would be driving. A lot of the time. And then I was on my feet at work because I worked at subway. But it just I could feel a shift. And so right around that time, I was about 17 years old and I had had my period for a few years, but I just really noticed a shift when I stopped. being physically active. The other thing for me is that I really enjoyed playing softball. I played my whole life. My dad was my coach. And while that kind of like brought annoying issues into the sport for me, it also was like a huge gift and something that I did enjoy for the most part. And that brought a lot of joy, that brought a lot of enjoyable movement. And now like knowing what I know about like feeling good and play and just the energy of enjoying something specifically when it comes to movement and it comes to your body and exercise rather than just pushing yourself like that is very huge for PCOS. And so I didn’t know that I had it at that time, but that shift in my life and in my activity level really started to make all the PCOS symptoms flare up. So I got pretty bad off. My mom took me to a specialist, and I remember we went to San Diego to see him. And he did diagnose me and then recommended that I get on the pill, which is usually what will happen a lot of the time, unfortunately. Doctors will be very dismissive of you like self diagnosing a lot of women that are, you know, not 17 and look a bit older will do some research and kind of self diagnose themselves online because the symptoms are like very clear for PCOS. And so they’ll go to their doctor and they’ll express like their concerns. And like I said, it’s really unfortunate, but a lot of the time doctors will just be very dismissive and kind of be like, no, like you, you’re fine. This is all normal or recommend that you go on the birth control pill if you’re not already to like balance out everything. And that’s a fine choice if it feels good for you, of course, but there’s so much research and so many women having experiences where They feel very dismissed by the medical system, by doctors, both male and female doctors, but especially male doctors. And the pill is really just masking your symptoms. It’s not getting to the root of it. And so that was my experience. I actually don’t remember. I don’t think I went on the pill. I think my mom didn’t really want me to, but I don’t remember. Maybe I did. And so I just remember like suffering, struggling, having these awful periods and I started gaining some weight. Then I kind of just like landed at a certain weight. I wasn’t like super heavy or anything for my height and my body type, but I definitely felt a difference in my body. I lost like that tonedness. I started like not feeling as energized and I just like started feeling really shitty. And then I became a mom and everything just got worse. I am very grateful that I was able to very easily get pregnant because infertility is a huge thing with PCOS. That was not my experience. That and then a couple of other things like the really extreme hair growth and facial hair growth seem to be the only like symptoms that I don’t struggle with. So I’m super grateful. But Other than that, like, it was awful. And once I did have kids, it just got so much worse. And I would feel like pregnancy was really hard for me, but it was a relief from the PCOS, it felt like. And so I would, like, prefer that and actually, like, look forward to the break. And my periods were just like, they just felt fatal. Like they were so bad. So it was just really hard. So taking that and then also like, I do believe I have endometriosis. I have not been diagnosed with that, but I have like all the symptoms and endometriosis is like PCOS’s bitchy cousin. Like they go together often. And then I just, I had a lot of like body dysmorphia, because I would feel like I gained weight so easily and I would go through these kind of up and downs with my weight, and it just felt really out of control. I went through all the traditional things especially as like a young mom like. my body was changing and I also had this PCOS thing but there wasn’t a lot of research about it at that time so I didn’t know what to do and I didn’t understand it at all like I do now. I had no clue what was going on and I didn’t know how to create balance in my body and I really didn’t want to be on the birth control pill and mess with my hormones in that way, which is, that’s just how I see it, of course, but that’s, that’s how I see it. And I do remember there was a time where I did go on the pill in between having my kids and it made me so sick. I couldn’t stay on it. Um, some of them I’m imagining that I didn’t do it when I was 17. Cause I feel like I would remember like getting really sick from that. I, I’ve always been touchy with like hormonal birth control options. It makes me really sick. But anyway, I developed disordered eating. I would, like, binge and just, like, try to, like, make myself happy and get that dopamine hit from food, which I’ve talked about so many times on the show before. And then I would, like, get really strict and, like, go on a diet and go to the gym with my friend and just, like, get in these protocols and be really strict with myself and then go back to my old ways. And it was just this vicious cycle. And so, like, PCOS and weight gain, they go hand in hand for the most part. And it is so frustrating because a lot of the time it’s around the belly, which is just a really difficult spot to gain weight. And for me and my body type, I have kind of more like an hourglass shape and my tummy is just not typically where I would hold weight. I’m like a hips and thighs girl. And I’m like, I’m chesty, like I’ve got ass, like I’ve got it all. But my stomach was always like, my waist was always smaller. My stomach was always pretty flat. I didn’t really start gaining the belly weight until like in my thirties. And I noticed it, like, especially over the last few years. So in 2022, I’ve shared before that I went through some really big changes and had a couple of very traumatic events happen within about two months of each other, including a sexual assault that was really violent and extremely jarring and some like personal relationship stuff with like. a circle of women that I was around a lot and it was just like really bad, really traumatizing. I just felt so lost. I felt dropped. I felt hurt. I felt I was struggling and I had like actual trauma in my body from the assault and it was just like really bad. And so from there, What I believe happened is my cortisol spiked so much, like my stress was so bad that my body literally just started like packing on weight. And I started gaining weight in my tummy for the first time, like heavily in my tummy. And I just, it was such, I noticed it so much. It was just a very stark difference. My body felt different. I was holding the weight different. I could feel it. Like I didn’t know how to like carry myself or like dress because this just wasn’t like how I normally felt. It was really hard. And then it just was like so rapid. I rapidly gained like 50 pounds. And it was, and I was already like not super happy with my weight. Like I would have liked to be maybe, you know, 25 pounds lighter. So now like I was over 250 pounds, which for my height and my body type is extremely unhealthy. And the heaviest I’d ever been by far, including when I was like nine months pregnant with my 11 pound baby, like I just felt so out of place. And then not just that but like I was puffy like I was swollen, you can see if you go back because I’m never going to shy away from content like I’m always going to show up and do my job no matter what is going on with my body and my weight fluctuations and stuff. You can see if you go back to like older content from 2022, I’m so inflamed. So finally I got to the point where I was just like, I’ve shared about this before. This is when I started my becoming her journey. And I realized that if I wanted to become a new version of myself, I needed to understand the version of myself that I was in that at that time. And so I went and I worked with a doctor and I got blood work done. I got this really, oh my God, it was so expensive because entrepreneur insurance doesn’t really, help much. And I went and did this whole thing and I just was like investing in that and figured it out. And my inflammation was so high. The doctor let me know like all of the risks that come with that. You can, please like forgive me if this is incorrect, but from what I recall her saying to me, there’s just a really high risk of like autoimmune disease and heart problems and all these other issues like, that were very close to me because my inflammation was so high. And I had let her know how long I’d been feeling this way. And so she was like, well, assuming your inflammation has been high for that long and maybe even longer, this is really bad. We need to get this under control. And then just my cortisol levels, everything was just really high. Everything was spiked. My body was in a state of fight or flight. It was holding water weight. I was holding onto fat. I was… just very inflamed and I felt inflamed, engorged, puffy, swollen, tired, miserable. I did not even know how to dress. None of my clothes fit. I could only wear things that were like really like loose or stretchy and like shirts that were really, really oversized and could almost be like dresses on me were like fitting tight. Like I just, was so unhappy and sad and had to work through a lot of like guilt and shame and things like that. So the first thing that I want to say is like, know when you need to get help, like go get the blood work done, get a full panel, go to a doctor that will support you in doing that and testing that. If a doctor refuses to test you or hear you, you need to go find a different doctor and just continue to search until you find someone that’s going to respect you and trust your bodily intuition and at least like do the tests for you because that is a right that you have. It’s just really sad to me that There are so many stories that I hear in my DMs and even just from friends and from myself and my own experience of women just feeling so dismissed and disrespected and, you know, just not valued by doctors when it comes to something that they’re just like, I really, I’m struggling with these things. And they’re just like, oh, well, you’re a woman. It’s normal. It’s not normal. It’s not normal to feel imbalanced. It’s not normal to be gaining weight rapidly. It’s not normal to feel tired all the time. These things are not normal. It’s not normal to have awful periods. It’s not normal to have irregular periods. None of this is normal. So that is kind of my spiel on PCOS itself and kind of my journey with it. Now, I want to shift gears completely and talk about the weight loss. How have I lost weight? I’ve lost 56 pounds at this point. I’m recording this in August. I am slowly but surely continuing to release excess fat from my body and feeling so much better. I have lost 56 pounds so far. And I am measuring that on the scale as well as how I feel, how my clothes fit. The scale is really something that you can use to support you. And if it’s not supporting you, don’t use it. There have been plenty of times where I have been, you know, working on my health and didn’t use the scale to measure at all. I have no idea what I weighed. I have no idea how many pounds I lost. I’ve measured myself, and that actually triggers me much more, so I don’t do that anymore. I do check in with my weight. It tells me more than just like, oh, this number means something. I don’t make it mean anything. It helps me gauge like am I carrying is this water weight? How am I feeling? I notice how my weight fluctuates at different times of my cycle. But I’ve been able to do so much inner work and use EFT to free myself from. body dysmorphia, I really don’t feel like I have it at all anymore. I feel so confident. So stepping on the scale and checking in is something I’m very much able to do in a healthy way. And I’m just very detached from the number. It doesn’t make me have a good or bad day. It literally doesn’t mean anything about me anymore. And so if you can’t have that healthy relationship with it, don’t check in in that way. Just check in with how you feel. how you feel in your body, how you feel when you get dressed, how you feel when you’re moving, you’re at the gym or whatever. There’s plenty of other ways to check in, but that is what works for me right now. So how have I lost this weight and been able to keep it off? First of all, I can’t, I’m gonna get into like how to treat your PCOS naturally and balance your hormones. I’m gonna share everything I learned, but I also just like, I wanna get into mindset first. Actually, you know what? No, fuck that. Let’s switch this. Let’s get into treating PCOS naturally. I feel like that’s a better segue. Then we’ll get into the weight loss, the mindset and the activities and the like practices, okay? So, all right. Switching gears. How to naturally treat your PCOS and balance your hormones. There are nine things that I wanna cover. I’ll keep it super brief and allow you to do your own research and like talk to your doctor, figure it out for yourself, whatever floats your boat. But these are the things that like all of my research, all of the work I’ve done with different doctors, different types of doctors, some like more homeopathic, some more like just straight Western medicine, but like giving me a voice and testing me and working with me. but this is like a culmination of everything that I’ve learned. Number one, balanced blood sugar. There is so much that goes into this. You need to make sure that you are like, it’s almost like, there’s like similarities with like diabetes. Like you need to be really making sure you are eating and checking and keeping your blood sugar balanced. So go literally just go research, like how to keep your, make sure your blood sugar is balanced and like figure it out for yourself because it is a game changer. That is what’s going to keep you like balanced and stable and feeling good. Like all day, every day. So because insulin resistance is an issue for so many women with PCOS, that’s why the balanced blood sugar is like so essential. So the main things that you need to know, and again, do your own research, is eating a really balanced diet. So balancing protein, you know, carbs, healthy fats, and then like eating regularly. So don’t skip meals. If you skip meals, it’s gonna lead to blood sugar dips and cravings later, and it’s gonna mess with your blood sugar levels. So balancing your snacks and like making sure that you’re balancing all the like protein, like I said, protein, carbs, healthy fats, and then just not skipping, like keep yourself full. What I basically do is just graze. Like this morning, I had a meat stick for breakfast. Like I realized that’s not a very breakfast-y food. but I was running a little late and I had a really high protein, protein meat stick on my way to take my youngest to school. And then I went to the gym and I had my lemon water and then I had a protein bar in the car ready to go for when I got out of the gym. So I ate then and then I will, after this, I’m gonna, you know, make a, really big protein packed snack and then take a shower and do my day. So I’m just kind of grazing and snacking throughout the day. I keep snacks like in my car, in my bag, all around the house, like I keep at my desk, like I just am always having protein available to me. And then I also like staying hydrated for your blood sugar. Exercise is really good for your blood sugar. And then like a huge thing is omega-3 fatty acids and stress management. So really like watching your stress, watching those cortisol levels, knowing deep breathing exercises, utilizing EFT to like calm yourself down, doing things like legs up the wall to really lower your cortisol and bring yourself back to a state of peace. Like you need to stop stressing out. Number one, okay. Balanced blood sugar. Number two, add a source of protein, fat, and fiber. Like that balanced meal all the time. Protein, fat, fiber. Protein, fat, fiber. How can you get that into like everything all the time? And I actually have a water hack that I’m gonna share with you in a little bit that will help you with like your daily fiber, okay? Number three, fill up your plate with plants. So like, yes, have meat. If you’re a meat eater, that’s fine. Like lots of protein. That’s great. But you need to like load up with plants. This is something that I’m always working on. It’s just not like natural for me. I don’t love like eating leaves and plants. I like fruit. But like eating plants is tough for me. So I’m really working on whether I’m at home or going to a restaurant, like loading my plate with plants and then putting like the protein. in there as well. So kind of shifting what your plate looks like when you load it up. Number four, really limit sugar, caffeine, and high glycemic carbs. So alcohol, processed sugar, and caffeine. This is the main reason that I switched to matcha. I will have coffee sometimes, especially like I make protein coffee lattes sometimes. And I have like a PDF for you guys of that and what that looks like and recipes and stuff that I’ll share in this episode. But yeah, And actually, before I forget, you can just go to aliexpress.com slash TPS for the Purpose Show links. So aliexpress.com slash TPS links. Anyway. Um, the caffeine is going to spike your cortisol. So it’s going to increase the stress hormone just because it’s. Caffeine in a certain type of caffeine, the caffeine and matcha is a totally different ball game. And again, you can do your own research with that, but matcha is so much better for you. Um. I highly recommend you consider switching it. If you need help making your matcha taste better, do some research on that. But my favorite thing is just almond milk, matcha, and then I sweeten it with maple syrup, like a really good quality grade maple syrup. And it’s yummy. You can add some vanilla extract. You can add like almond extract. You can kind of play around with the recipes, but it’s good iced. It’s good hot. And it just takes a little practice to get it the way you want it to really switch to to having matcha instead of coffee. There are coffee replacements you can have, like mud water, but really limiting alcohol, limiting sugar, especially processed sugar, and switching to different type of caffeine. If you’re going to have coffee, then have it like after you’ve been awake for about 30 minutes to an hour and you’ve eaten protein. That’s when coffee is like gonna be okay for PCOS girlies, okay? Number five, supplements. I am going to put a list of PCOS supplements at that URL I gave you guys, the TPS links. I’m going to give you that in there. But there are things like Ovositol, I’m totally spacing out on the one that starts with a B, but there’s so much that I take that naturally curbs my appetite and boosts my metabolism and absolutely helps the weight loss. Oh, berberine, I believe is what it is. I’m gonna link everything. I have everything saved in Amazon. Like these are the high quality ones that my doctor told me are really good and don’t have like a bunch of added shit and are really good for you. So I will link to all of those. If you have PCOS, you really need to be taking supplements. It is just not enough for you to just be eating food and being busy and going throughout the day and not supplementing smartly. There are so many things that are affordable and really easy to take that you can put in like your supplement lineup. I just leave all mine out on the counter because out of sight, out of mind. And I’m taking all these things like and I’m just supporting myself. There are some natural things that I, like more natural things that I take, and there are some that are more like, not that they’re not natural, but they’re just more like, okay, like Ovacetol feels different than like having bee pollen. You know what I mean? So there’s kind of a blend of things that I do and it is a lot, but some of it I put in a smoothie for lunch or like a snack. And then other things are like actual like supplements that I’m taking, like a pill. So I’ll link to all of that at that alexazza.com slash TPS links link for you guys. Number six, strength training and low impact movement. Strength training is so good for PCOS. As long as you are not overwhelming your body with heavy weights, if you are doing like light weights strength training, it is so good for PCOS, so good for your body. You will tone up so easy, you will lose fat. And then low impact movement. So this is like avoiding things that are Like HIIT style workouts so like heart pumping cortisol spiking workouts you like CrossFit and where you’re just like really sweating and you’re doing burpees and jump squats and all these things like no low impact so. Yoga, Pilates, walking, Stairmaster. My go-to routine right now is I go into the gym. If I’m just being like mindless and I want to like work on my phone or listen to an audio book while I work out, my go-to is 20 minutes on the treadmill and I put it at a four incline on two and a half speed. And then I do 20 minute Pilates mat workout. And then I will sometimes get 10 minutes on the Sare Master at the end. You do that only a few times a week. The other days I’m done after my mat Pilates. You can go on chat GPT and ask for a 20 minute mat Pilates workout. You don’t need to pay for anything. You don’t need to think about it. You don’t need to know, understand Pilates. You can go online and search. You can go follow our YouTube video. You can join. The Robin Long’s Pilates Sisterhood is great. I’ve been a member of them for many years. I love their workouts. Like there are so many options, but you want to opt for low impact movement. So this is just a lot of walking, a lot of things that are like very soft on the body and soft on your hormones. Number seven, to lower your cortisol, you need to prioritize really high quality sleep. So high quality, like let me tell you, like I have invested in my freaking sleep at this point. OK, if you’re watching the video, you can see behind me there are. I think you can see it. Yeah, these lights here that are by my bed. These are remote. They’re like wireless remote controlled lights. I got them on Amazon. So they’re in my storefront and I’ll link to that for you guys as well at that link. the remote control and they change color so you can put it on like purple red like whatever so literally when I’m going to when I’m going to like wind down for the night so like pretty much after I finish eating dinner with the kids we switch into like peaceful night mode it is time to get ready to put ourselves to bed it is time to put the house to bed So all of the like brighter lights get turned off. I have these wireless lights like in the front, the main living room in my bedroom, and I turn them on like a low white light. Then after I do like my skincare and I’m ready to go to bed, I turn these lights on red. So it’s like relaxing, calming, like red light therapy vibes. It is so calming and relaxing. I sleep with like a silk eye mask, like I turn the TV off. I will listen to a guided meditation or a sleep track, which I provide those for you guys in the collectives to actually like rewire your subconscious mind and really put you in a state of um, hypnosis and deep relaxation so that you are, um, in a state of peace and you’re able, like your subconscious mind is able to work things out and literally like program for the life that you want and the physical changes that you want to make or whatever it is you’re working on. So if you’re a member, make sure you go check those out, but I’ll listen to things like that. And I just let myself unwind and go to sleep. Um, Falling asleep with the TV on, falling asleep with lights, falling asleep like after looking at your phone for a really long time is not good for you. It is very stimulating. It is spiking your cortisol. It is keeping you from a state of peace and it is reducing the quality of your sleep. So try to get seven to eight hours of high quality sleep every night. Number eight, reducing toxin exposure. So BPA, like I rarely, it’s so funny cause I’m like literally have a plastic water bottle right here today because I couldn’t find my jug this morning. But I really try not to drink out of plastics at all. Even if they say BPA free, like really just removing plastic wherever you can from your life, especially from things that you’re eating and drinking out of. getting like organic candles that are non-toxic, like non-toxic cleaning supplies. These are gonna really help balance your hormones. Those things that have chemicals in them and are not natural are messing with your hormones. This is the same thing for like the meat that you eat and the quality of the groceries you buy, like buy organic, buy clean. It’s better to eat less of something and have it be really high quality, really clean than to have it have like a bunch of toxins or antibiotics and like be fucking up your hormones. Okay. And then the ninth thing is practicing cycle syncing. So what this means is using an app, I use Flow, F-L-O, to track your cycle and just notice like when are you ovulating? When are you Um, menstruating, like what’s going, when are you in follicular? Like, what are your energy levels? Like, like I keep notes in my flow app of what’s going on and now I’ve got it down so well. Um, it’s pretty much like I can, I don’t even need to look anymore. I can just guess and not guess. I can know without guessing that where I’m at my cycle and what I need. So. I will kind of like increase protein when I’m menstruating. I tend to be hungrier when I’m ovulating so I’ll eat more. I only do certain workouts when I’m menstruating or I don’t go to the gym at all. I do certain workouts that are a bit like more energy energetic I guess when I’m like ovulating or in follicular phase so really just learning your body and learning your patterns but keeping track of it like it’s a sign of respect for your body and the more you like the more you know the more you know so just really learning to understand your body and pay attention and cycle sync with everything you guys know I cycle sync my entire business with my cycle and I sync my eating, I sync my exercise, I sync, I will literally try to sync everything I possibly can. And sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do, but it’s rarer and rarer and rarer. So I’m just feeling more and more aligned and in tune with my body and my body is thanking me. Like it is shifting, things are better, it’s definitely changing. Okay. Let’s get into the weight loss. Um, so understanding, treating PCOS naturally and balancing your hormones, like you’re already going to lose weight, period. Um, if you’re doing those things and balancing your food and paying attention to your cycle and prioritizing sleep, like that is how you lose weight with PCOS. That is the foundation. Now I’m just going to add to this with some things that for me, like specifics that have worked really well. Okay. Okay, so like I said, mindset is always number one. Here are some mindset perspectives, I guess, that I’ve learned the hard way and I’ve implemented that have been game changers for me. One time I saw somebody on TikTok, I wish I could remember who it was, I don’t feel like I’ve come across her since, but I saw this woman and she was like, treat your body like a country. Like, what are the laws of alley lands? Like, what are we just not doing? What do we just not fuck with? For us, for this land, this doesn’t fly. This just doesn’t work. For me, like, I am not going to do high impact workouts. I’m just not, I don’t, I don’t care if I’m getting competitive or if somebody thinks that I’m weak or it looks like I’m not doing much at the gym. I literally did high impact workouts for years. Not only did I not lose weight, I actually gained weight, particularly around my belly area. So it literally spikes my cortisol and makes my body hold on to weight. If not gain weight, I’m not going to do it. So in Alleyland, we don’t fuck with high impact. We don’t get competitive anymore and like try to push and try to go and try to prove something to ourselves or anyone else. We walk. We use the walking pad at home. We do low impact. We do Pilates. And sometimes we don’t go to the gym at all. That’s fine. The reason I truly, truly, the reason I go to the gym is because I love going and decompressing and getting those endorphins going before the start of my day. But there are plenty of days where I don’t go because I have like too much to do or whatever. And I want to make sure that I’m not stressing myself out and rushing. So instead I’ll stay home, I’ll do my morning ritual, and then I get into the workday and that’s fine. You do not need to go to the gym to lose weight with PCOS. You do not. So I’m only saying this information because if you are going to become a gym girlie or you are a gym girl, that is what you need to be doing at the gym, okay? Low impact. So what are the rules for your country? If you’re treating your body like a country, what are the laws? Another one for me is like, I do not fuck with straight whole milk. I am so allergic. I got a DNA test done, like where they actually test your DNA and give you like a full report of it. And I am one of like the rare 1% that’s actually fully like lactose intolerant. So I really shouldn’t be having it. It causes inflammation for me. So I’m very choosy with dairy period, but I definitely can’t handle like regular milk and anything. So I get malk almond milk. I stay away from oat milk because those also is an inflammatory food. So it’s almonds for me. And I get the one that’s really clean with like no additives or gums or anything like that. So what are like for you, what are your laws? Like for another one for me is if I’m at a party, I’m not pressured to eat what is out. I’m going to eat before I get there. And if I want to have something there and I really want to enjoy it, that’s fine. But I want to choose foods that feel good to have eaten. They don’t feel good to eat because that’s not enough. That’s not enough for me and my standards of Alleyland. They feel good after I ate them. And sometimes there’s exceptions for that. And that’s fine. But I’m very choosy with what those are. So I’m just I’m vibrating at a higher level and I’m not fucking around with food that’s not going to make me feel good. And that’s not good for me. So in Alleyland, we’ve moved beyond like, oh, well, it tastes good. And we’ve moved into it feels good to have eaten. And sometimes there are exceptions. And I can just intuitively feel when it’s an exception and when that’s going to be OK and when it’s actually going to feel good. So you have to know that for yourself. OK, so treat your body like a country. That’s like my favorite mental hack so far. Um, and really like living at a higher standard. I treat myself like a higher standard. I like learned so much through like my journey over the last few years and like dating and really treating myself like a high value woman. We are all high value women. But it’s just that some of us don’t treat ourselves as such. So really learning how to raise my standards of who I’m around and who I allow to take my energy and spend time with me. And then shifting that to food. How can I live at a higher standard with my food? How can I live at a higher standard with my weight and my body? There’s just certain things that I can’t do or won’t do because it doesn’t fit my standards of how I want to look, how I want to feel. It is okay to want to look a certain way. It is okay to want to be a certain size as long as it’s healthy for you. It is okay to be picky and to guard what you’re doing, what you’re putting in your body and what’s happening. Like that is fully okay and you need to know that. You get to live at a higher standard. You get to treat your body like a country and you get to decide what the laws are and you get to decide what the standards are. If you want to be healthy and you want to have a certain body, you want to have a certain weight, you want to have a certain lifestyle, then you’re going to have to make sacrifices and you’re going to have to make decisions about what that looks like for you. And that’s going to be your standard. And if you want something that is like good and healthy and feels different, looks different than it used to, feels different, looks different than other people’s, then you’re going to have to live at a higher standard than them. So your girlfriend’s going out for margaritas like every day after work is probably not going to fit this new goal, this new standard. So what are you going to do about that? How are you going to shift? How are you going to adjust? How are you going to treat your body? Are you going to just stay in the old patterns and like that’s your standard or are you going to go ahead and elevate to the new standard? Like you have to make that decision. Um, I think also, like, this is where the Becoming Her method really comes in. And, like, this was a huge part of my journey. Like, my Becoming Her journey really started from the physical because I was very much like, yes, I want to change my life. I want to manifest certain things. I want to, like, shift my business. I was really struggling with my old niche and my old content and wanting to, like, find like what my new thing was going to be. I could feel it, but I didn’t know what it was and all of that. But I was mostly just so unhappy with my physical self. I was so unhealthy. I felt miserable. I felt huge and puffy and miserable. So the the physical side of was like the main driver for my becoming her journey. And so when you’re when I talk about becoming her, it’s not just like setting a goal and slowly getting there. It’s Literally imagining and putting together and then connecting with the version of yourself that’s already healthy, that’s already at your goal weight, that’s already a gym girl, that’s already eating a certain way. She’s already got it. Tapping into her and connecting with her and then embodying her now. So in my inflamed state, in my 256-pound state, I was embodying the 160-pound version of me. I was embodying that version of me, and I was living like her. I was tapping into her. I was using her as a baseline for my decisions of whether or not I was going to have a drink that night or if I was going to go out to dinner. And if I did, what was I going to get? tapping into her and embodying this true version of me versus following a bunch of rules versus treating myself like I’m limiting everything. Like it was such a game changer and it makes such a difference in identity shifting. I became her now and the weight fell the fuck off. That’s what I’m saying. Like, if you guys are not familiar with my method, you need to go and you need to get the opt-in. I’ll link to it in that link I told you about, my website, slash TPS links. I’ll link to it. There’s a whole masterclass on explaining the method, how it works. There’s a daily ritual that takes like 25 minutes a day. Everything is laid out for you. I’ve got you. Like, this is what I do and this is why I do it. It’s huge, okay? And then the other thing with mindset, and this is the last thing, is you need to have support. This can be your man, your partner, a bestie. It can be from a person you know in real life, but it can also be, and this is, like, I think the most freeing news of all for those who struggle with, like, maybe just not having a true circle around them in person. Your partner and your support can also be someone you don’t know in real life. Find people online who are posting their workouts, who are posting their like cute gym outfits, who are posting their morning routine, who are posting a motivational content, who are walking the walk. Get and stay inspired by filling your feed with them and engaging with their content. Comment on their stuff and encourage them and then like take in their content and just remind yourself that there are people living at a higher standard and now you are too. and keep yourself accountable, engage with their content and visualize yourself as this kind of person, visualize being friends with them. And like, this is the kind of people that I hang out with now. This is the kind of people I vibe with now. This is who I am now. So, of course, like I’m going to keep taking that in. I’m going to keep staying inspired. I’m going to keep watching this content because it doesn’t serve me to just scroll mindlessly through whatever while I have my arm elbow deep in Doritos. OK. Um, also you can find supportive audio like podcasts about health and wellness. Um, anything that’s just shifting your internal environment to a higher state of being doesn’t even need to be about health and wellness. You can listen to this show. You can listen to anything that’s like calling you up to a higher level. You’re shifting your internal environment and that is always going to lead to real lasting change. Um, if you’re in becoming her collective, get yourself an accountability buddy posts in the community that she wants to connect and you want to keep each other accountable and, and text each other for workouts and stuff and like switch numbers and do that. There are women getting accountability for like so many things. So go in there and do that. Okay, this episode is getting pretty lengthy, so we’re gonna stop it here. Part two, I’m gonna talk to you about exactly what to eat to lose weight with PCOS. And even if you don’t have PCOS, this is a major way to lose weight. How to start the day off. We’re gonna talk about the calorie deficit thing. We’re gonna talk about more rules and laws that I have for AlliLand that you can borrow for yourself. We’re gonna talk about a couple of like just daily tips. Like we’re gonna make a shorter episode that is just like, here’s all the like daily tips, daily laws, daily like step-by-step practical stuff in part two. All right, I love you guys. Go to aliexpress.com slash TPS links. And I will just make this massive resource list of everything that I mentioned on the show. Love you guys.