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Ep 183: How to Level Up in Life Through Your Thinking

November 4, 2020

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Hi friend! Today I’m explaining what an abundance mentality is and how you can use it to level up in your life. The place that our thoughts come from is in our control, and that’s the core of this episode. Let’s dive in!




In This Episode Allie Discusses:

  • Abundance mentality 

  • Lack mentality 

  • Leveling up 

  • How she moved from a lack mentality to an abundance mentality 

  • Generosity 

  • Action steps to level up

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Mom life. We’re surrounded by the message that it’s the tired life. The no-time-for-myself life. The hard life. We’re supposed to get through it. Survive. Cling on by the last little thread. And at the same time, Carpe Diem—enjoy every moment because it’s going to go by so fast. The typical mom culture that sends us all kinds of mixed, typically negative messages. We shouldn’t take care of ourselves; it’s selfish. The more ragged you run yourself, the bigger your badge of honor. But also, ditch your mom bod and work out. Don’t yell. Make more money. Show up. Be better, but not at the expense of time with your kids. I am putting a hard stop to all of this. While being a mom, running a business, and whatever else you might have going on is hard, it is a lot and there’s lots of giving of yourself, the idea that motherhood means living a joyless, nonstop-hustle-with-zero-balance kind of life, where you give and give and give and never take, needs to stop. 

I’m on a mission to help you stop counting down the minutes till bedtime (at least most days). Stop the mom guilt and shame game. Stop cleaning up after your kids’ childhood and start being present for it. I want to help you thrive in work, home and life. I believe in John 10:10 that we are called to living an abundant life and I know moms are not excluded from that promise. Join me in conversations about simplicity, some business and life hacks, spirituality and lots of other good stuff that leads to a life of less for the sake of enjoying more in your motherhood. I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.

Hi babes! Welcome to The Purpose Show! We have a lot that I would like to cover today, so we’re going to jump right in. 

I want to talk to you today about how you can level up in your life through the way that you think. I’m going to expand on that, explain what that means, explain what leveling up means and all of that. 

The first place I’d like to start is talking about an abundance mindset, or an abundance mentality. This is something that you’ve probably heard me say before if you’ve been around for a minute. And you may have heard this out in the world. Mindset is everywhere right now, and it’s so good. 

I’ve seen Time magazine feature mindfulness and abundance mindset versus being in a place of scarcity. I’ve seen articles written about it. It’s so good that this is becoming mainstream.

We’ve known this for centuries, it’s just that other things in the modern world have gotten in the way, but we’re really starting to re-figure out that our minds are powerful and we’re not helpless. We weren’t created to be helpless. 

Our minds matter. What we think matters. And the place that our thoughts are coming from is in our control. That’s the core of this episode. And it’s huge!

So, what is an abundance mentality? What does that mean? 

This is my definition based on my own experience and coming out of my mouth; I’m not getting this from anywhere. An abundance mentality means that you’re coming from a place where there is always more than enough. Or as Michael Hyatt says, “There is always more where that came from.” 

I am not thinking in a way where there’s not enough to go around. There’s never going to be more money. There’s never going to be more opportunities, or this person got this opportunity so now it’s taken from me and now I don’t have it. It’s not thinking that way. That is a scarcity mentality. 

An abundance mentality is thinking from a place where there is always more than enough. There is no pie in the sky. We live in an abundant world, in an abundant universe, and there is always abundance.    

We are abundant. We have abundance available to us. But we can very easily choose to not live from that place. Having an abundance mindset means coming from that place and not coming from scarcity. 

It’s an energy that you carry of, “There is always more. I always have more opportunities. I always have more coming in” (of whatever it is that you’re feeling scarce about). 

You shift to an abundance mentality about it and decide that you’re going to trust that there’s always more where that came from. It really puts a positive spin on your life. It’s much more positive to live in an abundance mentality than it is to live in a scarcity mentality.

The opposite of abundance is scarcity. It’s lack. And lack mentality, unfortunately, is so incredibly prominent in our society. We’re going to get into a little bit more of what lack mentality sounds like, but it has to do with everything.

Somebody who is living from a place of lack, who has a scarcity or lack mentality, it will leak out of them, out of every pore in their body just like it does for someone who has an abundance mentality. Every word they say is rooted in either abundance mentality or lack mentality. You really can’t hide where your mind is because, as the Bible says, “out of the mouth, the heart speaks.” 

What you say is reflective of what’s going on inside of you. If somebody is rooted in abundance, you can tell right away. You can tell in the way they tip. You can tell in the way they speak. 

You can tell in the way that they come up with ideas and what they do with those ideas. You can tell in the way they interact with other people. And honestly you can tell even by the way they look. People have a lightness about them. They feel relaxed and at ease because they know that there’s always more. 

They are always supported. Everything is going to work out. They have that mentality. 

And just the same, you can spot a lack mindset person a mile away. Everything they say. The way that they tip. The way that they treat other people. The way that they act. The way they speak about their jobs. The way they speak about people is all coming from a lack mentality. 

This is such a huge foundational thing that we need to pay attention to, both in ourselves and in other people. Not from a place of judging others, but really being aware of the people who are in our inner circle, who are in our family, who we see often, who are in our friend circles, who we hang out with a lot.

If you are the sum of the five people you’re around the most (like that quote says which I reference all the time), then it’s important that if you want to be in an abundance mentality you surround yourself with people who are in that mentality as well. 

This doesn’t need to be physical people only. It can be a podcaster or a person of influence that you respect and admire. Surround yourself with their content, buy their course, listen to their podcast. That counts. 

It’s so important. It’s so cool. It’s someone you’re spending energy and time with. That person’s energy, the way they are, the way they do life is going to seep into you. 

It’s really cool that it doesn’t have to just be physical. That you don’t have to try to make friends in real life with somebody you really respect and admire who lives in a different part of the world than you do and is a person of influence.

So, what does leveling up have to do with this? Leveling up in your life is the action you take that was inspired by the fact that you are deliberately moving into an abundance mentality. 

“Out of the heart, the mouth speaks.” Your thoughts form your feelings, your words, and your actions. If you are changing the way you’re thinking and you’re choosing to step into a more abundant mentality and move away from this negative lack mindset, then the action you take out of that positive mental shift is going to add up to a leveling up in your life. 

What I mean by leveling up is you are living on a higher plane than the average person. Your whole being, your inner self, you as a person, you are living life on a different level. You are playing at a different tune. You’re vibrating at a higher frequency. 

You’re happier. You’re higher up. You’re lighter. You’re not so stuck in the details. You’re not stuck in the muck and the mire of day-to-day life that everyone else is so negative about and so overly concerned about. 

I’m speaking from experience in that I was personally in the most lack mindset. The most scarce lack mindset you could possibly have. Brian worked for a large company and there was a union there so Brian was protected by the union. The union leaders and the other men who worked there who were a part of the union would have these meetings and they were very, very negative. 

They were all about, “Screw the rich. Screw the CEO of this company. He makes $10,000 a day and what is he doing for us? There’s not enough for me. There’s never going to be enough for me. I’m going to blame this on somebody else.” 

And while there are certainly greedy people and I do not feel positively about the company that my husband used to work for because of the way that they ran the company and the way they treated their employees (there were a lot of layers of issues there), let’s take all of that out and just look at this from an aerial perspective. 

Why is there a union of people who are really being angry? And this is not unions in general. This was just our experience at this particular company, in this particular union, so please don’t be offended. This was just the experience that we saw and that Brian and I have had a lot of conversations about since those years of our lives.

They were saying all these things and getting these employees really riled up against the people—the men and women in this case—who had started this company, who were growing it, had taken risks, invested money, gone to school, and done all of these different things to get to where they are today. 

The union was really creating a lack mentality in the workers and using that to get everyone all riled up and angry at the rich—at the people who had started the company. 

That’s just one small example, but that’s where Brian and I are from—this blue collar mentality of, “This isn’t fair. We work so hard. We’re carrying the company on our backs and we should get paid more.” 

But really, the fact is that there were a lot of different things at play there. There were a lot of different things, choices that were made and cards that were dealt in life that we did not have control over. But that’s how life works. 

In this situation that I’m painting the example of our mentality was lack. Brian and I would have conversations when he would get home and we were very angry at the company, angry at the higher-ups, angry at the way things were played out and very much at their mercy. 

We were very much in a place of lack where we thought, “This is just not fair. Life always goes wrong. We’re always at the bottom of the barrel. No one’s coming to get us. No one’s helping us or saving us. This sucks, sucks, sucks, sucks, sucks, blah, blah, blah, blah.” There was always this lack/scarcity/misery. 

Now in that same situation what we could have done is had an abundance mentality. In that same situation it would’ve looked like not speaking negatively and not hating anyone for their successes. But rather seeing, “Look at these people who are really no different from me who have climbed the ladder and created wealth, invested in things, and started this company that employs literally tens of thousands of people all over the world. If they can do it, I can do it.”

“And what do I want? I know that I’m not going to get what I want by complaining, by filling my heart with hatred, misery, and despair that my life sucks.” 

Brian could have said, “I’m going to step aside from these other men at work. Not bring this home to my wife. Not sit in this bathtub of dirt and crap that I don’t even want to be in anymore. I’m going to decide that there’s always enough to go around. There’s more than enough for everybody. I’m going to be open to new ideas, willing to make a shift, willing to follow the internal leading that God gives me to do something different in my life. I’m going to start to pray for a new job. I’m really going to call that in, put it out there, and decide I’m ready for more. I don’t want to stay here.” 

That’s an abundance mentality in the same situation versus the lack mentality that we actually lived. The main thing that I’m trying to say here is that you get into a mental state where you are grateful, where even in the crappiest situation you find some good and you focus on that.

Where’s the positive in it? He had a job. We had money coming in regularly. Was it enough? No. But regardless, we had money coming in. 

It was a good job. It wasn’t abusive or crazy or like he’s doing something awful. It was a decent job, and there was regular money coming in. 

We live in the US. There’s privilege that we could use to do something different. We are healthy, smart, and young. We were so young. 

There was so much good to focus on. We had kids who were healthy. We had a really happy marriage, even in the midst of really being so broke. 

There was so much positive to be focused on that we didn’t focus on and so we missed out. We missed out on sweet moments and memories, and we chose to stay in the lack. 

If you shift into that mental place where you are grateful, where you are finding the good, the positive and you’re choosing to focus on that. You’re looking to give not to receive—this is the paradox of generosity. When you’re looking to give, even when you have nothing to give, and not to receive you are literally shifting yourself into an abundance mentality. 

This is so old. We’ve seen this over and over and over again from the world’s greatest historical leaders. In religions of all origins, including Jesus in scripture.

In Matthew: “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. If your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. So if the light within you is darkness, how deep is that darkness?”

Proverbs: “Generous hands are blessed hands because they give bread to the poor. A miser in a hurry to get rich doesn’t know that he’ll end up broke.”

There are all these things about pausing, focusing on the good, being grateful, being in the moment, being mindful. 

Outside of the Bible, so many religions, religions of all origins, historical leaders from all walks of faith in life are saying the same thing: To get more, be generous. Give more, get more. The great paradox of generosity. This is an abundance mentality. 

And here’s the thing: this is backed by science. The way that the world works is like a giant magnet. Like attracts like, just like with real magnets. If you are in an abundance mentality, even in a crappy situation you are going to attract more abundance. 

If you are in a scarcity mentality, you’re in a trap. A scarcity mentality is a trap and you’re going to attract more of what you don’t want. A scarcity mindset keeps you locked in fear, in comparison, in envy, in covetousness. 

A scarcity mentality tells you there is not enough. There is not enough and you better grab on tight to what you have. Nothing is good. Nothing is good enough. Therefore, we’re all basically in competition with one another for the little that there is. It becomes this dog-eat-dog world.

And that’s really just a perception. It’s not reality. You can choose to see things like that. And guess what? Because of the way our brains work, if you choose to see the world like that all you’re going to do is find proof that you’re right. 

If you close your eyes right now and you think, “pink, pink, pink, pink, pink” and you open your eyes, anything that’s pink or any shade near pink in the room is going to jump out at you, because what you focus on expands. It’s scientific law. 

So when you’re thinking, “Oh, it’s dog-eat-dog. No one’s coming to get me. It’s all competition. I have to fight tooth and nail to get what I want. There’s just never enough.” 

That’s like you closing your eyes, saying those words, thinking those thoughts over and over again and then opening your eyes. Guess what’s going to jump out at you? Proof that you’re right.

More competition, more dog-eat-dog, more envy, more comparison, more fear is going to jump out at you. And you’re going to be attracting all those things to you because you are a magnet.

This is often talked about with money. But it’s not just money, although I feel like that is where scarcity thinking is most obvious. It bleeds into the rest of your life too. 

Thoughts like, “There’s not enough love. Oh, this person has an amazing husband and I’m so jealous. She got him. What are the odds of me finding a guy like that?…There’s not enough recognition. She got the promotion and I’m never going to. That means there’s not enough for me.”

You don’t know. What if your company randomly created a new position and felt like you were perfect for it because there’s just something that they are drawn to about you? You’re so positive all the time. But if you’re not then things won’t happen like that. 

Another example of scarcity is, “There’s just not enough ability to succeed. I’m going to run out of money. I’m going to run out of opportunity. I’m going to run out of time. I’m going to run out.” 

It’s just scare, scare, scare, scare, scarcity. We live in this fear of running out of everything all the time. That means you’re in a lack mindset. 

That is how I used to live my life every day, day in and day out. And it was just pouring out of every pore in my body. Out my ears, my mouth, my face, my heart. Lack everywhere.

And so we were broke so we stayed in lack because we are magnets. This is the way that we were created. To reflect. To reflect back at ourselves. 

When you want something to change you have to make that change internally and start to reflect that. Then, you get it back. The truth is that we’ve been put on an abundant planet, in an abundant universe with an abundant God. 

And although we can sometimes create scarcity through faulty systems, fundamentally abundance is always there. Abundance is our birthright. Our basic setting is abundance so we can tap back into that anytime. Because the truth is there is enough. There is enough. 

Let me say that my life did not change until my mindset changed. 

I stood in that house, out in the driveway, broke as a joke. Literally not sure how I was going to stretch the cereal we had in the house to make enough for dinner for my kids that night, let alone what I was going to eat. It got so bad when we moved to Arkansas for Brian’s job. It got so bad. It was so dark. 

I stood there and I decided, “I’m abundant. I serve an abundant God. I’m created in abundance. Abundance is my birthright. I am abundant. I’m going to focus on the good. What is abundant here right now? I have abundant health. My family is abundant. My beautiful kids. My marriage is still abundant. My health is abundant. Oh my gosh, we just made $20 out of nowhere; that’s going to take care of dinner. Abundance. I’m grateful for that. I see it and what I focus on expands, so I’m going to focus on the fact that we were just provided exactly what we need at exactly the right time out of nowhere. Thank you!”

When you switch into that mentality, you get more of it. Again, because we’re magnets. 

The other thing that’s important and the other layer of abundance that I want to draw attention to is that we have to respond to poverty. There is a call for a response to poverty everywhere we look. 

There’s this book called The Paradox Of Generosity and it talks about how across all religions there are so many things that are different, but one thing is the same: generosity is key. All religions agree. Generosity is key. 

There is a call to respond to poverty with generosity, compassion, and sharing out of our own abundance. But that’s the key—we have to see it as abundance. We have to choose to live in it and we have to choose to give out of it. We have to choose to be full of light, not darkness; abundance, not scarcity and lack.

Literally, this is the truth: You have a responsibility to tap into your birthright of abundance. And if you don’t, not only are you making your own life harder and keeping yourself and your family in this place of lack, scarcity, difficulty and darkness, but also because you’re there you can’t give like you would if you were living in abundance.

Guys, my story does not make any sense. The fact that we were so broke. Brian quit his job so that I could go full on in the business before we were even making money in the business. This didn’t even make sense. Who does that? 

But we were feeling super pulled. It was insane. It was so insane. We didn’t even tell my parents or anybody because we just knew everyone was going to think we were absolutely insane.

Honestly, I was worried people were really going to be concerned. This could really not be good for us. We shouldn’t tell anyone. 

For three months it was so hard. Brian was home watching the kids while I was starting the business. He was building furniture and selling it on Facebook garage sale groups to try to make ends meet while I was doing webinars and trying to build my company. It was so hard.

But money always came right when we needed it. He would always sell a bench or something he had built right at the 11th hour. A webinar would go well and I’d get $99 for a couple of courses right when we needed it. 

It always worked out because we were switching from a lack mindset to an abundance mindset. It’s not anything to do with building benches or starting a business. It’s the mindset. You can have the most brilliant business idea in the world, but if you are in a lack mentality it’s not going to go well. 

I’m going to talk online business for a second. You could have a ton of holes in your email funnel and holes in your business ideas, but if you have an abundance mentality you’re going to be fine. Because the right resources, the right answers for how to tweak your business to make it work better and the money is going to just appear. Because you’re a magnet for abundance.

It’s really that simple. It’s not BS. It’s real. That’s the only difference in my life before and after— money, abundance, change, in the business and everything. 

In that abundance mentality, sometimes it was money, sometimes it was ideas. I had this idea of this viral post. It came to me when I was in a very abundant state of mind. I was literally practicing gratitude and this idea dropped in my head. 

I thought about it and thought, “That is a really good article idea. I bet that could do really well and draw attention to my business that I started.”

That night I found an article that I wasn’t looking for. It literally came into my inbox. It was about virality and studying what makes something go viral. Not like stupid virality and random video virality, but really authentic storytelling virality. 

I read the article and it launched me into researching more, learning more about virality and how to really tell a story in a way that resonates with people. Because that’s what I’m here to do—help people, use my story to resonate with them, and help them change into a more positive life.

Abundance sometimes comes in money. Sometimes it comes in ideas. That idea launched so much of my business. 

Before that I had the idea to go live every day for 30 days. I just had that idea. Within a couple of days I saw this guy that I follow online talking about Periscope (Periscope was the thing at the time, if you guys remember Periscope) and he was talking about, “I’m going to challenge you to go live every day for 30 days on Periscope and just see what happens.” 

I couldn’t believe it. I thought, “Oh my gosh, that’s the idea I had yesterday. This is amazing!” And so I tried it, and it really built my audience so that I had an audience to carry my article when I put it out and help me go viral later.

This is abundance. When I have an abundance mentality and I’m standing on the curb at my house when we’re broke as a joke and I don’t know how we’re going to eat and I’m saying, “God, You are the source of abundance. I am abundant because I am made in your image. This is an abundant world. There is more than enough to go around. There’s nothing special about those that are rich, except that they have an abundance mentality. So, I choose to be in abundance. I choose to live this way. I choose to think this way. All my lack thoughts that were just old programming coming in again, habitually, I take them captive. I put them away. I know what to do with them because they don’t serve me. They don’t get to take space in my life.” 

Because what you focus on expands. Lack thoughts will come in a lot, but they also come in as limiting beliefs. For example, I hear this a lot, “I would love to give, but I just don’t trust what the person’s going to do with the money I give them, so I better just not give.” 

Kahlil Gibran (I am hoping I’m not butchering this amazing man’s name) is the author of The Prophet. He has a quote that says, “You often say, “I would give, but only to the deserving.” The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pasture. They give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish.”

It’s not about seeing who is deserving of what you’re going to give. It’s not about controlling— “What are they going to do with what I give them? I need to make sure I have control over them after I am generous.” 

That’s not true generosity. It’s not up to you. What happens after you do the giving is not your responsibility. All that matters is that you took a step in abundance. And because you’re a magnet, you gave and so you will get back in one way or another. 

There’s been so many times where abundance has come to me in a different form than I gave it. I will give a chunk of money to an organization I believe in and then I will have the most amazing date night with my husband. We will go through a really long season of bliss. Everything is just extra good. That’s abundance. 

But without an abundance mentality, I wouldn’t notice that. I wouldn’t be thinking, “Oh, I’ve been giving. I gave money. I’m giving time. I did this scholarship program for my audience. I did this and look at all the good. My kids are so healthy. In the midst of Covid, we’re all so healthy. I see that. Thank you. I’m so grateful. Look at this amazing date night we had. I see that abundance coming back to me. Thank you.” You have to have eyes to see it. 

I’ve been in times where I had a really sick kid with a heart issue. I was terrified. I wasn’t getting any fricking sleep. I was exhausted. I didn’t have any money. I missed my husband, but my god, he was gone all the time trying to make ends meet. 

I’ve had the situation where I’m in the middle of a miscarriage and literally we can’t pay rent and I have to call the landlord and tell him that I need a few more days. I’m miscarrying a baby and this is all on me because Brian is away on a work trip trying to make overtime pay and he doesn’t have any cell service. 

I’ve been in these situations where the repo guy is banging on my door and I’m hiding in the laundry room with my kids telling them, “It’s okay. We’re just playing a game,” when I am about to have a panic attack. 

You don’t just come out of that. You have to decide. You have to shift a belief. You have to change your mind and go a different direction. And then the outer world will follow your mentality. 

I’m not saying that I caused all these awful things because of my mentality, but I certainly wasn’t helping. I was deep in lack. And if there is something you can do with just a mental shift that can get your life on a different track for free, don’t you want that? 

Another thing I hear a lot is people saying, “You know what? I can’t save everyone. I’m just one person. It’s not really going to help if I give money to this one orphan in Africa every month.” 

Mother Theresa said, “If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one.” If we all have that mentality, which I think a lot of us do, no one is helping. 

It’s like when you see a fire faraway on a hillside and you assume that someone else is calling 911, and then the someone else assumes that someone else is calling 911 and no one calls and the house burns down. 

Do something. You can help. You can help one person. It matters. It goes far. If we would all just help one person, what would the world be like?

Another thing that I hear a lot is, “I don’t have enough to give. I’m too busy to give. I don’t have enough time. I don’t know where to give.” 

Basically, giving is not a priority. This is tough love and the hard truth. I know it’s not a priority because you just listed excuses. Those are all excuses. They have validity to them, but they’re still excuses. 

When something is a priority, you fight tooth and nail. You do not stop until it’s done. There’s a quote from Seneca that says, “We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers.”

Also, I’m thinking of II Corinthians I think it is, “You reap what you sow.” 

Just do one small thing. Just give $5. Just give $5 to the person who is without a home that you see, that you cross paths with on the road. Who cares what they do with it? Just give.

When you get a donation email from an organization you believe in and they need to raise $50,000 don’t think that $5.00 isn’t going to do enough. What if everyone on their email list gave $5.00? You don’t know who’s giving $20. You don’t know who’s giving $2,000. Do your part. Do something. 

If you’re in an abundance mentality, your abundance breeds more abundance. When I shifted from lack into abundance the skies opened up and rained down goodness for me and my family. And do you know what that did?

Now we give more money. We give more time. We spread more hope and light. We’re happier. We’re better to be around. We give food to homeless people when we see them, because we can. 

Because I’m not where I was where my hands are clasped around the few coins I have in my pocket and I’ve got to figure out how to feed my kids. Where I’m focused on myself. Where I’m only focused on my family because we’re in such dire straits abd that’s all I can focus on. 

Poverty breeds more poverty. Lack breeds lack. Abundance breeds abundance. 

We have a responsibility to get ourselves into an abundance mentality because abundance breeds more abundance. If you are in abundance you have abundance and you can give more. Whether that is time, joy, love, money, whatever.

When you’re in an abundance mentality, you act differently. You are a better contributor to this world. And that’s the truth. 

I’m going to challenge you with a few very, very small action steps to do. Some things that I have done that really helped bring me to the next level in life, create abundance, and challenge my limiting beliefs. Challenge the fear that is a lack mindset.

This first one is small and funny, but it just is true. Buying the fancy pack of gum in the checkout line instead of the one that’s 60 cents. Just one small purchase that’s a little bit fancy to you, a little bit outside of what you would normally get. It just levels you up. 

The gum tastes better and lasts longer. It feels nice that you have fancy gum. It’s a little bit of a level up. It’s a little taste of abundance. 

All you need is a little taste. You don’t need to go and stay in a 5-star, $2,000 a night hotel and be like, “Well, I had to go into debt to do this because I had to level up.”

Just buy the fancy gum. Level up a bit. Experience abundance for yourself. Get yourself into that energy of abundance. 

When you do that, it spreads. You’re a magnet. Abundance breeds more abundance. Like attracts like. 

I know that sounds so dumb, so small and funny, but it’s true. That’s how I started. I bought the fancy pack of gum. 

Another huge one. Huge. This is my favorite thing. Tipping extra or tipping when a tip is not necessary. Just give. Physically hand someone cash. 

Brian and I have this practice where we tip a hundred percent a lot of the time. And when we first heard about this idea we were like, “Oh my God, that’s amazing but terrifying.” My first thought was, “What a waste of money.” 

But is it? Is it a waste of money to literally be the best part of someone’s day? You don’t know what that waiter’s going through, or waitress, a barista, whoever. You don’t know what they’re going through. If we just had a $60 meal and we tipped $60, that’s the last thing they were expecting. Do you know what that does to someone’s day? 

There was one time in particular when we had left a hundred percent tip for a waitress at Yardhouse. We left the restaurant and we were going to run an errand at a store that was across the street. And when I was in the store I looked out the window and I saw the waitress as she was coming back to our table. She picked up the tab and looked, and the look on this woman’s face is going make me cry even now. 

Oh my God, I did not expect that. She was beaming. She was just beaming. This extra money was nothing for us because of abundance, because there’s always more where that comes from and I don’t need to worry about losing that extra $50 bucks. 

It has nothing to do with wealth and everything to do with an abundance mentality because I started doing this when we were not okay financially. You can start to do things like this small and steady. That girl’s day was so changed from that small thing that was nothing to me. 

Obviously this is relative to where you’re at and what you want to do. But just as an example, give something to somebody. Change their day.

Do you know how up-leveled and abundant I felt that God gave me the gift of happening to look out the window right at that exact time and to see her experiencing that? This feeling of joy welled up in my whole being, in my spirit, and spilled over into everything and changed my life so much, I’m crying about it two years later. It was beautiful. When you are in that place it spreads. 

And if you’re in this lack place, and you’re miserly, greedy, stuck, scared, riddled by your situation and the fear it’s breeding, you can’t do good. You just can’t. 

What’s the challenge here? How can you uplevel a little bit? How can you experience more abundance today? How can you give more than is expected to somebody that you cross paths with or that’s in your life today?

Where will you admit that you’ve been in a lack mindset? Where has that been holding you back? What has it been doing for you? And what are you going to do to shift that? 

Because we have the birthright of abundance. It’s ours. Because you exist, abundance exists. 

You can choose to not take it. You can choose to stay in lack. But when you own your responsibility of an abundance mentality, you make that shift and you go there. Even when there’s no physical proof that abundance exists in your particular life because things are really bad off, things shift; things start to happen. 

When you focus on abundance you get more abundance. When you are living in abundance you get on a roll. When the money, the time, the love, and everything you’re experiencing is so abundant you begin to spread that to others and you help other people expand into abundance as well. 

Basically, that’s my job. That’s what I do in my business. I take my own abundance in motherhood and in money now because I’m teaching business now, in every way, and I spread it to other people. 

A lot of the time they don’t want it. They want to stay in lack. That’s their choice.

What’s your choice going to be today?

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I am always rooting for you, friend! See you next time! I’m Allie Casazza and this is The Purpose Show.

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